Thanks for the tips. I'll probably move him to his room soon. I feel like I'm doing a disservice to him, my husband and the sitter when I continually nurse to bed when it's probably not needed at this point. He'd probably be happier if he learned how to put himself to sleep. And the few times that I don't go in immediately to nurse back to sleep, he can fuss and fall asleep in ten or so minutes. I think he's ready so I'll need to make myself ready!!!!
Ugh we finally got back on track with good/decent sleep...then the holidays and cutting her first 2 teeth on Christmas...a few days of iffy sleep after that. She slept great on NYE (surprisingly)...then all hell broke loose The past 2 nights have been horrible. She has no idea how to calm herself down. Tried to let her cry...got to 20 minutes and I feel like it made it worse. She just got even more worked up which made it that much harder for her to calm down. Feeling defeated.
- As I'm doing some reading...there is some info out there saying that many babies regress after learning a new motor skill like rolling, sitting, crawling, etc. She figured out crawling AND getting into a sitting position from all 4s this weekend. Maybe that is it?? Has anyone else noticed this correlation?
I definitely had to re sleep train with DD1 many times! After she learned how to stand, crawl and every time she got new teeth. We would have a rough week or so and then start over once she felt better. Thankfully, sleep training was always much quicker than the initial time.
@holly142 That is good to know...I feel like the sleep training we did do was semi half-assed but it worked...at least well enough. I may have to get "hardcore" with it this time because I can't keep up at this pace. I tried to let her cry it out a bit the past few nights but it only seemed to make her more hysterical.
Realistically...in the past week she has gotten 2 teeth, pulled herself up to a sitting position, and crawled...I guess I shouldn't be too surprised but momma needs some zzzs
@kmurdock925 YES. We noticed a regression right before she started sitting independently, and then just got out of one before she started creeping/scooting, just about crawling.
@schaze that makes me feel better and makes me think that the issue we had a few weeks ago was the pre-independent sitting regression and now the crawling/pulling herself up to sitting regression. I'm glad i'm not the only one but holy moly this is rough.
@kmurdock925 it is so rough, but hang in there! We've had such a tough couple months with the regressions and teething (I think those buggers are going to cut soon!) but the last few nights have been much better. She's still getting up between 3 and 5 times a night, but at least she isn't screaming herself to sleep for 2+ hrs anymore!
Tonight is the night! We are starting sleep training...using the Ferber method. Currently 2 hours into this and C is still screaming away and breaking my heart. I am just telling myself to stand firm and this will get easier...
@jjtruffles you can do it!!! The first week is so hard. But it improves their mood and yours when you can both sleep! You are strong!! I recommend stocking up on chocolate. I ate a lot of peanut butter cups while sitting outside her room.
@jjtruffles how did it go? Stick with it! Sleep training is HARD, but it does get better. And if it doesn't get better, try a different method. Ferber is awesome, but didn't work for us. AJ would just get more and more worked up. We now use a good bedtime routine and regular CIO. 2+ weeks in and it only took 3 days for the fussing to last under 10min. Good luck!
@jjtruffles Stick with it! I know how hard it can be, but Baby J has been sleeping 10-12 hours straight the past 2 weeks. So worth it. It does get better. Half the time, she cries for like 30 secs and passes out now.
Last night was better...not one of her superstar sleep nights...but tolerable and she settled down faster. @FTM53 ... I think our situation may be like yours when you say the ferber method seemed to work your lo up more...our bedtime routine is solid and super routine...she gets so excited for it (maybe too excited...). When you started the regular CIO how long did it last?
Thanks for the encouragement ladies! It's exactly what I needed this morning because man am I feeling defeated! I caved and brought C into my room at 2:30 in the morning after 5 1/2 hours of crying. He is one strong willed little guy. I thought for sure he was going to finally pass out between 1 & 2...during that time his crying quieted down to whining and he actually went silent a handful of times, but then from 2-2:30 he was just inconsolable and I cracked. We will try again tonight. If Ferber doesn't show any promising signs over the next week or so we will move on to something else.
It was rough! He'd seem to be calming down and I'd think to myself 'ok this is it, he's going to sleep now' and then the cycle would start all over. And as the hours passed I kept thinking 'he can't possibly cry much longer...' We won't go past 2 1/2 hours tonight...mama's gotta work tomorrow.
@kmurdock925 First night was 45 minutes. 2nd was 30ish, 3rd was 9 minutes. He's had a couple of 20-30minute nights since then, but that's usually when he's so tired that he fell asleep during his bedtime routine. If the routine is completed, 9 minutes has been the max he's fussed for.
I am at a total loss with nap time. She sleeps in her bouncer for a half hour each morning, which she's almost outgrown, and then will only take a nap on me or DH for any other naps. I have tried again and again with the crib, and it doesn't take. She screams so long, and even if she falls asleep in her crib she's only out for 10-15 minutes. We just made the switch to her own room/crib from her p&p last week, so I'm hoping this can maybe help out with naps, but I hate being tied to the couch for 1-2 hours every day.
@schaze I posted this on my BMB the other day. My LO would only take naps with me holding her also but this has been working. Granted her naps are only about 30 mins but they are at least hands free for me.
2 days ago I decided I was going to swaddle LO for naps and give her a pacifier. I wasn't giving her a paci before but she definitely is a comfort sucker so I gave in. I did those 2 things with white noise and have been getting 30-45 min naps in the pack n play. Such an improvement! I don't even have to rock her to sleep. She basically starts closing her eyes as soon as I bring her in the room and I lay her down. Her wake time Is around an hour and I just watch to see when she yawns and rubs her eyes and start the "nap routine". She has been consistent with it.
@mnkenned ha.. We had her sleep trained at 4 months old, and she could get herself to sleep within 10 minutes every night, up only once or twice. Since Thanksgiving, bedtime is pretty crappy. It used to take her 1-2 hours to cry herself to sleep in her p&p but since the transition to the crib a week ago, it takes anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour, and even then she's up quite a bit (4-6 times a night).
L goes to bed around 7-7:30 each night, like clockwork. She wakes around 11-11:30 then again around 2:30....then usually again around 5-5:30. I honestly think that's as good as it's going to get...until who knows when. I've come to accept it and I manage. Naps are anywhere from as bad as 30 min 3x a day to sometimes a couple hours a couple times a day. Inconsistent overall. HOWEVER today was like her "best" day ever...with nap lengths and general happiness. If only every day could be like today...
@schaze you know, L can't really roll back over (and sometimes she does this booty tooted up in the air pose lol) but she makes an adjustment so she can breathe! And it has taught her to roll back over. She almost has the hang of it; she just kinda rolls onto her side instead lol
@KASG AJ can't roll from belly to back yet, either. Buts he's able to move to breathe. He actually moves all around his crib. But he wakes up on his tummy stuck and angry about it. It's kinda funny.
@Ladybug2821 Not in my case. I've had a random 1.5 hr nap here and there, but it usually just the 30 minute naps. Being able to set her down to fall asleep on her own gives me more time though to do chores.
@ladybug2821 - it did for me, but she was having trouble even just falling asleep for naps before. Now that she can fall asleep, she will usually nap during the day for a good stretch
@Ladybug2821 Not in my case. I've had a random 1.5 hr nap here and there, but it usually just the 30 minute naps. Being able to set her down to fall asleep on her own gives me more time though to do chores.
With LO only taking 30 min naps, how often are you putting her down? I feel like I'm constantly putting her down for naps all day.
@Ladybug2821 She takes about 4-5 naps a day. I only keep her awake for 2 hours at most. Sometimes she'll get really fussy and she'll go down earlier. I feel the same way. My friends with kids say she naps too many time, but I remind she only naps for 30 minutes.
So I took the leap and put P to bed in the crib on his own room last night for the first time. It went surprisingly well considering how terribly he's been sleeping the last couple weeks and the fact that he's probably taken two total naps in his crib his whole life! I had the video monitor on my bedside table and I probably got up about 3 or 4 times to either rock him back to sleep or feed him, but that was way better than I expected. Yesterday I was a zombie after how terribly he slept the night before. He even took a decent nap in the crib this morning. Things might be looking up in the sleep department over here, at least I hope!
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Does anyone do the dream feed and does it help them sleep longer? I have avoided doing it but he has been wanting to eat around 12-1 and then 3-4. was wondering if a dream feed would help him stay full longer.
@john5111 I tried it a few times, but DS is too sound of a sleeper. He wouldn't even stir when I tried shoving my leaking boob in his mouth, it just got the boppie wet!
@Ladybug2821 sleep training did help us with naps. LO sleeps 730pm-730 am without waking 95% of the time. She takes two 1.5-2 hr naps during the day and usually a short catnap before dinner. It seems counterintuitive but the sleep consultant I spoke to said sleep begets sleep. If she is overtired put her to bed early. I literally put her to bed at 5:30 pm and she slept all night long two days later. It was crazy. So my trick is timing waketime perfectly and that is ever evolving. I usually only increase by 5 mins at a time (once she wakes up after 30-45 mins I know I didn't time waketime right/either too long or too short). I joined a Facebook group and I swear that s*** is magic. I have never had to CIO more than 10-20 mins and put her down awake all the time. Hopefully this helps. Feel free to pm me if you would like.
I, too, am a believer of sleep begets sleep. Tonight DS seemed extra cranky around 7:30 (normally doesn't go down until 8:30). I started his routine, put him down wide awake and he cried maybe 5 minutes before lights out a sleep like the little baby he is. DH doesn't get it, but it completely works. DS also takes a 30 min nap sometime between 5-7. Has never affected his sleep (unless he doesn't get it).
LO fell asleep on her own for two naps today AND bedtime. This is huge because she used to refuse to nap...ever. Now if I could just get her to STTN...
Does anyone else feel like the struggle to have an early (even early-ish) bedtime is sometimes impossible after work. I feel like by the time I get home from work, get food together, heaven forbid I have to go to the store or run any type of errand even having an 8pm bath time is a challenge. The struggle is real.
@kmurdock925 YES! If I don't go right home from work it seems to skew the whole night off.
The last few nights S has not wanted to go to bed until a little before 10 - talk about exhausting! I'm not sure what is up with the shift, her naptimes at daycare are the same. Anyone else?
Re: Sleep Regressions/Sleep Help
- As I'm doing some reading...there is some info out there saying that many babies regress after learning a new motor skill like rolling, sitting, crawling, etc. She figured out crawling AND getting into a sitting position from all 4s this weekend. Maybe that is it?? Has anyone else noticed this correlation?
Realistically...in the past week she has gotten 2 teeth, pulled herself up to a sitting position, and crawled...I guess I shouldn't be too surprised but momma needs some zzzs
2 days ago I decided I was going to swaddle LO for naps and give her a pacifier. I wasn't giving her a paci before but she definitely is a comfort sucker so I gave in. I did those 2 things with white noise and have been getting 30-45 min naps in the pack n play. Such an improvement! I don't even have to rock her to sleep. She basically starts closing her eyes as soon as I bring her in the room and I lay her down. Her wake time Is around an hour and I just watch to see when she yawns and rubs her eyes and start the "nap routine". She has been consistent with it.
@kmurdock925 YES! If I don't go right home from work it seems to skew the whole night off.
The last few nights S has not wanted to go to bed until a little before 10 - talk about exhausting! I'm not sure what is up with the shift, her naptimes at daycare are the same. Anyone else?