How Many Kids Do You Want?

hupp0013 · January 2017

I decided to try to make a poll. So how many kids do you want to have before you are done having kids?

bumpybump · January 2017

My thoughts on this totally changed after having our first. I'm curious if it'll change after we have the second.

hupp0013 · January 2017

@bumpybump I have always wanted 3. H only wanted 2. He changed his mind after our second DD was born. He is adamant about not wanting more that 3 though.

JDBtwinmama · January 2017

If we were millionaires I'd have ten kids....we are not, so I think 4 is our cap!

pbandjyummies · January 2017

minimum 2, currently pregnant with our second, max 3

SpotConlon · January 2017

I've always wanted 2, but we'll see if we make it through this first one

Lauradi1010 · January 2017

My husband and I wouldn't mind three, but I worry we may be too old to do it. My husband is in his 40's and I am 37.

themrs · January 2017

I'm thinking 3 and my husband is thinking 4.

lewliv · January 2017

I want 1 my husband wants more. I told him to pray for twins otherwise I win.

babyoakes · January 2017

2...maybe 3

strawberrytree · January 2017

This is my third. Dh wants a bus full of kids but we've agreed on 4. Subject to change if this is another awful pregnancy.
We would probably wait 2-3 years after #3 to have our fourth.

cltweed · January 2017

I'm pregnant with #4. I *think* we would like one more, spaced a bit from this baby, one final hoorah before we hang up our baby-making hats. Three has been really fun. I think four will feel really nice and "complete," and getting to do it one last time would be like a little gift. OR I'll have this baby and realize that four is totally our limit. I'll be 31 when this baby is born. If we had one more, I would like to shoot for 36 (I'd like to be under 40), but definitely would want some space between this baby and a fifth.

belmont1785 · January 2017

I want a big family (I'd have 6 if money/age weren't a factor)
Husband wants 2-3.

I think we will settle for 3...maybe 4 if I'm lucky

Mango517 · January 2017

Two seems to be our magic number right now. I doubt we'll have more unless the next pregnancy is multiples.

Kathryn0903 · January 2017

2-3. Definitely want at least 2. I was an only child and did not like it. DH wants 2, but says he can be convinced for a 3rd if we have 2 girls. I could be convinced for only 2 if both pregnancies are hard.

bumpybump · January 2017

Before having kids, I always wanted 4. After having our first, I want 2. Minds can change one way or the other.

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f · January 2017

@bumpybump I'm sure! DH and I always talked about 3, but I'm waiting to see how #1 goes first haha.

MatteaGabrielle · January 2017

I'd be happy with multiples. My husband would be happy with 1 but then agreed to the sibling thing. We're probably done with 2 but I wouldn't mind being suprised with twins just to get my 3rd.

taylormarie923 · January 2017

2 is good for me.

chayamosko · January 2017

I want a lot, don't even know yet, however many I can handle and God gives us... I come from a family of 6 and DH is from a family of 7. I have a feeling we will have around 5-6 if we can survive my extremely difficult pregnancies and if we can physically handle ask those kids!

LaurieD32 · January 2017

FTM here. It took me a long time to come around to being a mom at all, so right now it's one and done. That way DH and I can double team the little nugget and only shell out for one college education and wedding.

clrgrdfrk · January 2017

We always talked about two. Had the first one and barely made it the first year still married so we worked on our marriage and waited. And waited. and waited. I'd rather be happily married and have one kid then be divorced with more.

It's been 5 years and dh and I are in a good place, dd is great most days so that helps. I don't see us having more after this one.

PinkPrincessPiper · January 2017

I was a one-and-done 10 years ago, but ended up having another 5 years later, and another 4 years after that...and now I want two close together so baby #4 is on the way (who will be 23 months apart from my #3).

Edited to add: this is our 4th & last! Having a tubal at the same time as my c-section.

Leni410 · January 2017

This is our second and likely our last... but I'm reserving the option of a 3rd

dmbfan46835 · January 2017

Pregnant with number 2. DS is 16 mos. I'd like 3 I think. But I'm also 35 so that plays a big role in our decision. If all goes well with this baby we will probably shoot for #3 by the time I'm 37. I'm an only child and wouldn't wish that on anyone given all of my experiences.

But the thought of daycare for 3 makes me SICK. We will already be paying $1260 a month for two. Add a third and we will be paying almost twice our mortgage for just childcare. Why work?? But I have to as I'm the one that carries our benefits.

pbandjyummies · January 2017

@dmbfan46835 I'm paying 1,600 a month for just one!

dmbfan46835 · January 2017

pbandjyummies said:

@dmbfan46835 I'm paying 1,600 a month for just one!

Holy shit!!!!! Where do you live?! I'm in Indiana.

pbandjyummies · January 2017

@dmbfan46835 just north of Boston

the hubby and I are considering doing an au pair once the second one comes because it'll actually be cheaper

dmbfan46835 · January 2017

@pbandjyummies dayum! That cost of living difference is REAL! I always wondered how much childcare was in bigger metro areas and along the coasts. I will count our blessings here in the Midwest then!

britvahok · January 2017

I've always wanted 2 and DH wants 3, since having DS I now want 3 and DH would be fine only have 2. So I guess we'll see how things go after #2 and decide in a year or so if we want another....

bumpybump · January 2017

dmbfan46835 said:

@pbandjyummies dayum! That cost of living difference is REAL! I always wondered how much childcare was in bigger metro areas and along the coasts. I will count our blessings here in the Midwest then!

We are in Iowa and it was still $950/mo for one child. Not all of the Midwest is so reasonable. Obviously, ours is "cheap" compared to @pbandjyummies The range of childcare is all over the place as you move throughout the country. Typically, cost of living is adjusted as well.

dmbfan46835 · January 2017

@bumpybump ouch! That sucks! I imagine we'd be closer to that if we went full time? We pay $760 a month now but we are considered "part time" at just 4 days a week. MIL wanted to watch full time but I'm not havin that shit and needed something reliable so I compromised and let her watch him once a week. Daycare is insanely expensive! He doesn't even eat there. I pack all his meals and snacks but not like they give a discount

britvahok · January 2017

@pbandjyummies I live in VA. The cost for an infant here is about $1300 which is why DH only wants 2 now. There was an article in the newspaper comparing the price of daycare and college and the difference is very small...

pbandjyummies · January 2017

@dmbfan46835 totally! the struggle is real!

@britvahok I haven't seen that but it doesn't surprise me at all!

LeA2017! · January 2017

It took DH and I awhile to come to terms with having one. I always thought we would be one and done. But DH has recently said baby will need a sibling... So that is a discussion for later. Age will be a factor as I will be almost 36 at delivery time.

AdvoCyndi30 · January 2017

I've actually always wanted 4 but I had to BEG for this third one...so we're done after this!

Maybe ill get a 2 for 1 special! Haha! Sonogram on Friday...but I'm betting just one munchkin is in there!

SweetTooth126 · January 2017

Hubby wants 5. I want 3. I could probably be convinced to go to 4. We will see after this baby comes (#2) how our feelings change.

PeachyTeachy · January 2017

I'd like 4. However, DH is 31 and wants his last child to be born before he turns 36 (financial future reasons-we'd like to help our kids with college and have some time to pound savings into retirement). With that in mind, I'm living this pregnancy like it's my last.

and_peggy · January 2017

Before DD, I said 4 or 5. DH said 3. Now, I'm thinking 3. But who knows. We may be done after this one. Or we may decide we want several more. Time will tell

hupp0013 · January 2017

@PeachyTeachy H and I were just talking about the fact that we should start putting money aside for the kids for college. We aren't planning on paying for all of it, but we are planning on helping.

bumpybump · January 2017

Any good financial advisor would tell you to fund your retirement before funding your children's college fund. They can get loans for college and pay them back but if we need loans for retirement it's unlikely we'll ever get out of debt and then pass that debt onto our children. Something to think about/remember. @PeachyTeachy @hupp0013

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