Here's my dumb question: when should I stop sleeping on my stomach/back? The past few nights I've been tossing and turning, or wake up on my stomach/back and then get worried that I was in that position for too long or something. I am 14w4d so I don't have much of a bump yet and I know baby is very protected in there. But I still get worried.
I was told "whenever it gets uncomfortable" and it was probably around 5 months?
Here's my dumb question: when should I stop sleeping on my stomach/back? The past few nights I've been tossing and turning, or wake up on my stomach/back and then get worried that I was in that position for too long or something. I am 14w4d so I don't have much of a bump yet and I know baby is very protected in there. But I still get worried.
I asked my doctor about this at my last appointment, and he said air flow concerns start around 18 weeks, but until then, don't worry too much about sleep positioning. I'll probably bust out my snoogle around then to keep me on my side.
Also just want to say that I don't think any of these questions are dumb! A mom can ask me pretty much anything except "is this my mucus plug" and id happily answer, lol.
I hope they send you this question in a PM. My last bmb had a thing for sharing pics of mucous plugs "just to check" the thought of it makes me gag.
Also just want to say that I don't think any of these questions are dumb! A mom can ask me pretty much anything except "is this my mucus plug" and id happily answer, lol.
I hope they send you this question in a PM. My last bmb had a thing for sharing pics of mucous plugs "just to check" the thought of it makes me gag.
EW. There was a girl who posted that on the 3rd tri board recently. Who wants to see that?! Thank god the admins removed the picture! I also don't understand how you're not sure...it was pretty obvious to me when I lost mine...
Is it weird that my OB and my MFM are using different dates for my pregnancy? By LMP my due date is 7/2, it also is how baby was measuring at an ultrasound at my MFM. However my OB is using 7/6 as due date because I had an earlier ultrasound with him and that is how baby measured.
I know it's only 4 days, but I thought they would be on the same page. Plus I know they are basing my c-section date off it, and every day counts to put weight on babe.
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@kat0607 with my first pregnancy my OB told me to sleep however as long as I was comfortable and they usually don't worry about it until you're much farther along.
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Also just want to say that I don't think any of these questions are dumb! A mom can ask me pretty much anything except "is this my mucus plug" and id happily answer, lol.
I hope they send you this question in a PM. My last bmb had a thing for sharing pics of mucous plugs "just to check" the thought of it makes me gag.
I said they can ask me anything EXCEPT that, ick! People definitely put them on the BMB's and it makes me want to hurl. No one wants to see that!
Also just want to say that I don't think any of these questions are dumb! A mom can ask me pretty much anything except "is this my mucus plug" and id happily answer, lol.
I hope they send you this question in a PM. My last bmb had a thing for sharing pics of mucous plugs "just to check" the thought of it makes me gag.
I said they can ask me anything EXCEPT that, ick! People definitely put them on the BMB's and it makes me want to hurl. No one wants to see that!
I will never understand the obsession with mucous plugs. PSA for all FTMs losing your mucous plug means absolutely nothing. They can regenerate multiple times. It doesn't mean you are in labour or going into labour or anything related to labour.
@leilac with the infant carrier seat we got 1 seat with 2 bases. This seat always came out of the car and DD was strapped in prior to leaving and getting in the car so we never forgot it in one car or another. Once she outgrew the infant seat we initially had 1 convertible seat. We ended up getting another cheaper one. It has been super helpful. A friend of mine only has one bad there have been many times one person left with it in their car stranding the other. I would put the more comfortable easier to use seat in the car of whomever has the baby the most. Also H likes having one in his car in case there is an emergency and he has to go get her all of a sudden.
@oheliza44 legally your work would have to provide a room. I pumped in your car as well. I taught and my schedule didn't really allow me to pump from lunch until 4:30. As long as you have consistent pump times your body should adjust. I saw a dip in supply but then it went back up. I always struggled with supply but I think it was cause I couldn't be consistent.
Also my biggest advice to first time moms is don't let the pressure to breastfeed/pump interfere with your ability to enjoy your little one. I became so discouraged, worried about how much she was getting, stressed, and frustrated with BF that I was allowing it to affect my bond with DD and my relationship with H. I tried everything possible (lactation consultants, hospital pump rental). I continued for 9 months depressed and anxiety ridden blaming myself for my low supply (which started in the hospital). DD also didn't sleep trough the night for 8 months because she wasn't getting enough. It wasn't until formula and solid foods that she slept. I wish someone had told me it's ok to stop. It's ok to only do the best you can.
@leilac another thing to consider with bassinet versus crib initially is if you're breastfeeding (or even if you're not all the middle of the night wake ups). The ease of getting baby out of bassinet versus crib. I had a c-section so a crib would of been out of the question. Instead of a bassinet we got a pack n play with the bassinet option and laid DD in the cradle/seat attachment similar to a rock n play seat on top (next to attached changing pad) in the beginning. Moved her to the bassinet option as she grew and eventually to the bottom of the PnP until she was ready to move to her crib. Then we used the PnP for containment in the living room and traveling after.
I'm on mobile so it's hard to tag, but just wanted to thank everyone for your responses!! I'm glad I don't have to worry about sleep position just yet.
Also just want to say that I don't think any of these questions are dumb! A mom can ask me pretty much anything except "is this my mucus plug" and id happily answer, lol.
I hope they send you this question in a PM. My last bmb had a thing for sharing pics of mucous plugs "just to check" the thought of it makes me gag.
I said they can ask me anything EXCEPT that, ick! People definitely put them on the BMB's and it makes me want to hurl. No one wants to see that!
Oh phew! I think I was just skimming a bit and that really concerned me because we had first time posters sharing their pics. Ew.
Also just want to say that I don't think any of these questions are dumb! A mom can ask me pretty much anything except "is this my mucus plug" and id happily answer, lol.
I hope they send you this question in a PM. My last bmb had a thing for sharing pics of mucous plugs "just to check" the thought of it makes me gag.
I said they can ask me anything EXCEPT that, ick! People definitely put them on the BMB's and it makes me want to hurl. No one wants to see that!
Oh phew! I think I was just skimming a bit and that really concerned me because we had first time posters sharing their pics. Ew.
I will NEVER understand the obsession with mucus plugs! It can come out weeks and weeks before labor. It can come out and regenerate. It can come out in pieces over time. The fact that people perseverate over it boggles my mind.
Please...please don't show me pictures of your vagina boogers when the time comes.
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I have a dumb concern/question. I've always had huge boobs (cup size G) and they're only getting bigger and I'm secretly afraid my boobs are gonna smother my baby (I'm really embarrassed to have just written that lol). How did you "well-endowed" STM+ fare?
Someone has probably already answered this for you, but I'm just catching up on this post so here's my input. I'm a GG and nursed my second daughter (my first refused, so I pumped for her) and I had the same fear. My MW reassured me that the baby will be fine. When my daughter nursed her nose would push into my boob, but her nostril was still clear so that she could breath.
I have a dumb concern/question. I've always had huge boobs (cup size G) and they're only getting bigger and I'm secretly afraid my boobs are gonna smother my baby (I'm really embarrassed to have just written that lol). How did you "well-endowed" STM+ fare?
Someone has probably already answered this for you, but I'm just catching up on this post so here's my input. I'm a GG and nursed my second daughter (my first refused, so I pumped for her) and I had the same fear. My MW reassured me that the baby will be fine. When my daughter nursed her nose would push into my boob, but her nostril was still clear so that she could breath.
My lactation consultant told me to put my hand flat against my mouth/nose and breathe. She said this is how babies breathe while nursing - I.e., they're ok and don't suffocate.
@lilac all 3 of our kids went right into their cribs. I had a c-section and didn't have an issue getting them out, our cribs are very basic and I picked them out bc I am short and knew I wanted children close together and would need to be able to get a child out with a bump. We used the pnp for naps and on the go all the time. Ours had an infant napper that was a life saver with our first son who got his first cold at 6 weeks. It was slightly elevated and let him breathe!!!
@kat0607 It's so strange how I've been waking up on my back too! I normally never sleep on my back! I've definitely noticed more discomfort the last few nights in general now that my tummy isn't soft anymore... So I guess I'm turning away from that feeling in my sleep?
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@mslynn2012 Hey girl, no advice here, just wanted to wish you luck. Even though I've never heard of such a thing as a huge uterus, I sure hope all goes smoothly with ultrasounds from here on out.
@theweevee My belly never popped as a FTM, seriously my 35 week maternity photos are a joke. No one ever asked if I was pregnant or how far along I was. It made me kinda sad. I gained weight, had a 7 lb baby. I just have a long torso so baby had lots of room to hide. Don't stress girl!
@akbride09 We have a small 2-bedroom. My 15 month old has her room, a queen bed that she knows how to climb on/off of etc. Baby will sleep in a cosleeper by me for awhile and then move into my daughter's room into a crib when I'm comfortable. If this one is a boy, we'll work out separate rooms later, they're sharing for the foreseeable future.
@megandchase The NT scan is an optional scan that anyone can do, not just high risk patients. This is pregnancy # 2 and both OBs that I have worked with explained the option and time window. They gave me packets with FAQ etc. Many women opt out, others just want another peek at baby. It's all about your preference.
@leilac Baby can go wherever they are safe and sleeping well. Bassinet, PNP, Crib, cosleeper. Whatever you're comfortable with. I coslept with # 1 and sure as hell won't be doing that again haha. Getting a cosleeper and then reusing our PNP until new baby is ready for the crib.
@kat0607 This might be an unpopular opinion (and you should ask your OB to be honest), but my OB says to sleep however I'm comfortable throughout pregnancy, including sleeping on my back. I don't sleep on my back usually because it's not comfortable, but if you wake up on your back, don't freak out. Just move to your side and get as comfortable as possible.
@mrscate88 - thanks girl, it's just the strangest thing I've ever heard. I can't believe I forgot to ask about it. I was just like, "cool there's a baby and my giant uterus is blocking it... guess that's no big deal"
@mrscate88 - thanks girl, it's just the strangest thing I've ever heard. I can't believe I forgot to ask about it. I was just like, "cool there's a baby and my giant uterus is blocking it... guess that's no big deal"
Haha, don't sweat it. Just write it down to ask next time.
mrscate88@kat0607 My doctor and midwife both told me that sleeping position doesn't matter until 3rd trimester. Some people get dizzy/uncomfortable earlier than that and if that happens don't sleep on your back but at this stage (I'm 14 weeks) baby is not heavy enough for it to matter either which way. But as always, if you are concerned check with your doctor as you may be a different size/carrying differently/have some other factor that makes a difference.
@kat0607I never sleep on my back either, but since about 10-11 weeks, I have been waking up on my back constantly. I've been freaking out about it, but I finally just gave up. I think it's because I'm not using to having a belly, and especially now, I'm laying on the side of my stomach, and it's not comfortable and I'm not used to it. I'm sure this feeling is only going to get worse. You can wedge something under your one side while you sleep on your back so you're not completely on your back and the baby doesn't lay on that nerve, but it's probably too early to matter at the moment.
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I have a question for STM's (or more) - how do you plan to handle your room(s) situation? We literally built a house based on the assumption we'd only be having one child. So it's 3 bedrooms - 1 for us, 1 for child, and a spare for guests/office. I hate to give up that spare, but I don't know about two girls 5.5 years apart sharing a room. Probably fine for awhile, but not in the later years.
Yikes. Tough call. I mean ... the spare is nice but I would feel bad having my kids share a room when there is one just sitting empty. Do you have basements where you are or no?
We just finished building a 3bdrm home as well although I designed it for kids. When the basement is finished it will have the 4th bedroom and my office will be beside it which can always be converted to a 5th if I really need to. We always planned on having an extra room and separate office downstairs. Once we hit 3 kids (I want at least 3, maybe 4 but let's not get ahead of ourselves I'm only preggo with #1 haha!) if the 1st isn't old enough to go downstairs yet then they will share a room until he/she is and the basement room will continue being a guest room. After that I'm screwed when it comes to guests haha! I would probably shuffle the kids together depending on how long people are staying.
Sorry. Got a little sidetracked there. So let's say first baby is a boy, second is a girl and 3rd is a boy. I'm not going to put the 1st boy and 1st girl together (personally) just because they are closer in age so I would put the 1st and 2nd boy together who are bound to be at least 5 years apart like yours. So like you said, I think it will be fine when they are little but the older one will eventually need her own space in which case you should most definitely give up the spare/office for her.
I have another big boob question: I'm dealing with a pre-pregnancy 36H and I'm scared my bump will always be smaller than my boobs and I'll never look really pregnant, just fat. Busty mamas, did you feel like that was true or did you eventually look legit preggo?
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Does the general "don't worry about back-sleep until later" advice also go for exercises on your back? For example, am I ok to still do ab work on my back, or yoga bridge/supported bridge?
I have another big boob question: I'm dealing with a pre-pregnancy 36H and I'm scared my bump will always be smaller than my boobs and I'll never look really pregnant, just fat. Busty mamas, did you feel like that was true or did you eventually look legit preggo?
I think the key to looking pregnant, not fat, for any body time is boob/bump separation. Buy tops with a belt or sash that you can tie just under your boobs. It screams "I'm pregnant" for anyone who was wondering if you just ate too much over the holidays, and looks cute and pregnant-y even if there's not much bump there.
Does the general "don't worry about back-sleep until later" advice also go for exercises on your back? For example, am I ok to still do ab work on my back, or yoga bridge/supported bridge?
Thank you for creating this thread! I actually did the same the other day then deleted it before I published. Sometimes I have so many random questions and I don't want to blow up the boards with each individual one!
Does the general "don't worry about back-sleep until later" advice also go for exercises on your back? For example, am I ok to still do ab work on my back, or yoga bridge/supported bridge?
I'm curious about this one, too
This is a tricky one so I'm interested to see what others say. My yoga instructor has us modify the poses starting in second trimester depending on the pose. For example, we did modified planks for shortened durations. Ab work on your back was okay going through 2nd trimester up until you had any sort of discomfort (and depending on the move. They (midwife/OB) always just say don't start anything new and don't overdo it. Do you have any of the pregnancy workout videos? They normally go over specific modifications depending on the pose. I can post some video recommendations in the resources thread if you like.
@leilac I think it's really personal preference. Some baby ads out there will tell you that you shouldn't put your infant in anything but a crib, but we all know bassinets are pretty popular. I have a cradle that was given to me so I'll be using that. I never thought of putting the crib in our room but I couldn't anyways. I mean it would fit IN the room but not beside my side of the bed which is where I would like the cradle to be.
I have another dumb - probably *super* dumb - question, this time about breastfeeding. Do all breastfeeding moms need to pump? From reading and random research, I feel like most moms who pump are away from baby most of the day (working, for example). If I am a SAHM, will I need to pump all the time? Or if my husband and I go out will I need to have breast milk ready? Of course this is all *assuming* that I am able to breastfeed. I am obviously a FTM ahahaha.
@kat0607 I know plenty of SAHMs who don't pump. You really only need to if you're planning on leaving baby for long enough they would need a bottle. I know people who don't leave baby at all when they're BFing so they've never pumped.
I started pumping day 1 so that I could work on building my stash for when I went back to work.
I have another big boob question: I'm dealing with a pre-pregnancy 36H and I'm scared my bump will always be smaller than my boobs and I'll never look really pregnant, just fat. Busty mamas, did you feel like that was true or did you eventually look legit preggo?
You will eventually look pregnant. I'm a 34GG and this was taken at 38 weeks pregnant with my second. I feel I started looking pregnant around 15 weeks last time (even though that was mostly fat) and around 17 weeks with my first.
I have another dumb - probably *super* dumb - question, this time about breastfeeding. Do all breastfeeding moms need to pump? From reading and random research, I feel like most moms who pump are away from baby most of the day (working, for example). If I am a SAHM, will I need to pump all the time? Or if my husband and I go out will I need to have breast milk ready? Of course this is all *assuming* that I am able to breastfeed. I am obviously a FTM ahahaha.
I'm a working mom, so I had to pump a lot, but one of my best friends is a SAHM and has never pumped with any of her 4 kids. It did mean that she didn't get to go out without the baby for a long time though.
I have another dumb - probably *super* dumb - question, this time about breastfeeding. Do all breastfeeding moms need to pump? From reading and random research, I feel like most moms who pump are away from baby most of the day (working, for example). If I am a SAHM, will I need to pump all the time? Or if my husband and I go out will I need to have breast milk ready? Of course this is all *assuming* that I am able to breastfeed. I am obviously a FTM ahahaha.
If you ever plan to be away from the baby for more than a few hours, you'll need to have something for the caregiver to feed the baby. So I'd probably try to pump once a day or every other day to have a freezer stash for the occasional outing or emergency. You could also just keep some formula on hand for that, but even if the caregiver uses formula, if you are away from baby for any significant amount of time, you'll probably want to pump for relief. You may not need a double electric pump. A little manual one would probably get the job done.
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I know it's only 4 days, but I thought they would be on the same page. Plus I know they are basing my c-section date off it, and every day counts to put weight on babe.
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Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
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EDD: 7/27/2017
Also my biggest advice to first time moms is don't let the pressure to breastfeed/pump interfere with your ability to enjoy your little one. I became so discouraged, worried about how much she was getting, stressed, and frustrated with BF that I was allowing it to affect my bond with DD and my relationship with H. I tried everything possible (lactation consultants, hospital pump rental). I continued for 9 months depressed and anxiety ridden blaming myself for my low supply (which started in the hospital). DD also didn't sleep trough the night for 8 months because she wasn't getting enough. It wasn't until formula and solid foods that she slept. I wish someone had told me it's ok to stop. It's ok to only do the best you can.
Please...please don't show me pictures of your vagina boogers when the time comes.
I've definitely noticed more discomfort the last few nights in general now that my tummy isn't soft anymore... So I guess I'm turning away from that feeling in my sleep?
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
@theweevee My belly never popped as a FTM, seriously my 35 week maternity photos are a joke. No one ever asked if I was pregnant or how far along I was. It made me kinda sad. I gained weight, had a 7 lb baby. I just have a long torso so baby had lots of room to hide. Don't stress girl!
@akbride09 We have a small 2-bedroom. My 15 month old has her room, a queen bed that she knows how to climb on/off of etc. Baby will sleep in a cosleeper by me for awhile and then move into my daughter's room into a crib when I'm comfortable. If this one is a boy, we'll work out separate rooms later, they're sharing for the foreseeable future.
@leilac Baby can go wherever they are safe and sleeping well. Bassinet, PNP, Crib, cosleeper. Whatever you're comfortable with. I coslept with # 1 and sure as hell won't be doing that again haha. Getting a cosleeper and then reusing our PNP until new baby is ready for the crib.
@kat0607 This might be an unpopular opinion (and you should ask your OB to be honest), but my OB says to sleep however I'm comfortable throughout pregnancy, including sleeping on my back. I don't sleep on my back usually because it's not comfortable, but if you wake up on your back, don't freak out. Just move to your side and get as comfortable as possible.
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But as always, if you are concerned check with your doctor as you may be a different size/carrying differently/have some other factor that makes a difference.
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We just finished building a 3bdrm home as well although I designed it for kids. When the basement is finished it will have the 4th bedroom and my office will be beside it which can always be converted to a 5th if I really need to. We always planned on having an extra room and separate office downstairs. Once we hit 3 kids (I want at least 3, maybe 4 but let's not get ahead of ourselves I'm only preggo with #1 haha!) if the 1st isn't old enough to go downstairs yet then they will share a room until he/she is and the basement room will continue being a guest room. After that I'm screwed when it comes to guests haha! I would probably shuffle the kids together depending on how long people are staying.
Sorry. Got a little sidetracked there. So let's say first baby is a boy, second is a girl and 3rd is a boy. I'm not going to put the 1st boy and 1st girl together (personally) just because they are closer in age so I would put the 1st and 2nd boy together who are bound to be at least 5 years apart like yours. So like you said, I think it will be fine when they are little but the older one will eventually need her own space in which case you should most definitely give up the spare/office for her.
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until you had any sort of discomfort (and depending on the move. They (midwife/OB) always just say don't start anything new and don't overdo it. Do you have any of the pregnancy workout videos? They normally go over specific modifications depending on the pose. I can post some video recommendations in the resources thread if you like.
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Of course this is all *assuming* that I am able to breastfeed.
I am obviously a FTM ahahaha.
I started pumping day 1 so that I could work on building my stash for when I went back to work.