Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: *TW* Walgreens HPT trustworthiness question
ETA if it's negative, please join us in the daily threads. This board and its members have a wealth of information that will help you while TTC and are a great support system if you join the community.
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
To be clear, I don't expect, nor did I ask anyone on an Internet forum to tell me if I am pregnant LOL!!
I just want to know if this is a common error with Walgreens tests so I know not to use them again or if it was freak lighting!
Good luck to you
If you didn't get your period I'd get a new type of test and do what the meme says^^^
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
@eggplantface the walgreens tests are blue dye tests, which brings me back to my original question...are those not accurate? (again, not evap lines, just straight up 2 minutes after peeing on the stick blue line). I will check out those other tests - the price of drugstore even generic adds up so fast!!
Good luck! If you end up sticking around, read the newbie guide and tell us about yourself in the weekly intro post! ☺
I am going to get the ones off Amazon!
People dirty-delete posts like yours all the time. It's totally standard for a qfp. Hot tip, maybe don't come into an established community, claim you lurked but post something that you wouldn't have if you had actually lurked, and criticize a regular? We're happy to have new people but not at the expense of regulars.
Together 2003, Married 2011
DD: July 2005
BFP: 4/10/16, MC: 5/20/16
BFP: 1/10/17, DD2: Sep 2017
TTGP Dec '16 siggy challenge winner!
If old timers @adirat @cheframsay and @heatherdubrow cared to use their apparent long-time status here to point me in the direction of some board I missed in several days of going through various threads and general Google searches and key word searches here, including searching terms like "Walgreens" I will be happy to follow you all leading the way!
If for now you just get off on roasting newbs without actually addressing their questions, well, you lovelies do you. Ain't nobody got time for internet bullies at our age! LOL
After learning that the Walgreens tests apparently can actually be faulty, I filed a complaint with them and know to never use those tests again! And obviously I don't recommend them for anyone else!
Good luck to you all!!
What we are big on is snarky gifs.
I'm seriously laughing at being called out.
Together 2003, Married 2011
DD: July 2005
BFP: 4/10/16, MC: 5/20/16
BFP: 1/10/17, DD2: Sep 2017
TTGP Dec '16 siggy challenge winner!
1. Your question was answered -- comprehensively, in my opinion. I don't have more to add than PPs already did.
2. I actually had no problem until you criticized someone for QFPing. If you had lurked, you would know that this happens in most posts because of how often dirty deletes happen. It's just the nature of the beast. And like I said, I had no problem -- but I do have a problem with new posters criticizing my friends on here.
3. If you had lurked, you would have known that your post both needed a TW and that it isn't kind or socially graceful to put a BFP in the title of your post when you are posting here. I give you credit for hearing those responses and changing your post title. But the fact remains that I doubt you lurked by the way you titled this post originally.
4. Like I said in my first post, we are happy to have new people. I welcome anyone here in good faith. But based on your responses now, I don't really think that you are.
and:
EDD: March 24, 2018 - angel baby at 21 weeks
Thank you!!!
OP no one roasted you, actually they were super tame considering your ignoring board culture despite insisting you lurked well enough to know it. You were the one who was rude calling out a valued member of this group for quoting you, which again if you had actually lurked you would know is done regularly here and does not denote any animosity.
Give an honest apology and join the weekly threads. You'll learn a ton from these amazing women.
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@haylsbayls Ahhhhh VPR, my favorite CD1 "My life isn't a shitshow compared to these loons" show! Good call.
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
and then:
and now:
but really:
ETA: Thanks Vanderpump for summing up my feelings
EDD: March 24, 2018 - angel baby at 21 weeks
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Together 2003, Married 2011
DD: July 2005
BFP: 4/10/16, MC: 5/20/16
BFP: 1/10/17, DD2: Sep 2017
TTGP Dec '16 siggy challenge winner!
For real?!
Ok then. For that kind of attitude I wish they had actually roasted you. Have fun not having any friends! BYEEEEEEEEE
DD born: 3/31/19
You're normal until you're not. If spotting isn't common for you and you're not KTFU, you should probably go to the dr for an sti screening. https://www.girlshealth.gov/body/sti/symptoms.html Ooh look I did the googling for you!
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
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