Seriously, I hate it when stupid sh*t gets under my skin, but my hormones control everything right now. So, share your stupid rants with me and let's kick Christmas weekend off right, haha!
In the US, dietitian is spelled with a "t", not a "c". It makes me livid.
I just want to rant about the stupid fact that I fell down the stupid stairs and have spent the first two days of my Christmas week off hobbling around exhausted and in pain. All I can take is tylenol for the foot I broke in two places. Trying to get ready for Christmas. When we initially got to the ER they said we had to go to labor and delivery first even though L&D said to go to ER first and we got shuffled around and I was tired and pregnant and DH was upset about having to leave work because he's super busy right now. So he's cranky and ignoring me in the ER and I'm sitting there after three hours with no pain meds or ice, hungry, sleepy, and with a full bladder. Today I couldn't even get DH's gift wrapped and my parents came by to come get my dog and take her for me so I don't have to worry about her traveling with us four hours away to the in laws, which was nice, but they kinda rushed my house and wanted to talk and feel my belly and while my mom helped me pack they didn't leave until an hour after we wanted to hit the road to the in laws so we're going to get there super late. Meanwhile I'm still in pain and having to keep my foot elevated and iced and I just don't know how to do anything this week. Ugh.
Haha it was nice to rant. But let me finish by saying that I'm grateful to my parents for dogsitting. And I'm grateful this foot break and fall happened in the second trimester rather than the first or third. But what a huge nuisance when I have to do all this traveling and be around family and do activities with them, and I'm just cranky about it all. Like you said @beckyf321 it's all about the hormones right now. I could definitely punch somebody in the face right now.
My rant is super petty. I know. But I HATE that DH brings a new cup of water up to bed with him every night but then doesn't take them back down to the kitchen. Guess who has mastered the skill of balancing 5 different shaped cups (some glass, some plastic) while going down stairs??
I also hate that he always brings a new box of soap into the shower (he uses bar soap) but never takes the soggy, empty boxes out?
@KirstinH88 I totally get what you are going through with the water glasses! I occasionally find empty beer bottles in the morning that need to be put in the recycle bin too. I feel like I am not drinking the beer (or water) so why am I cleaning it up?!
I also find that I am cleaning out DHs car every time that I need to take it for some reason. I really don't know how it's so difficult to keep the car free of trash. Yesterday I found a bag of defrosted "frozen" spinach that never made it's way into the house from the car. Gross!
I will start by saying I have been at my job for 3 years. In that 3 years I have had 4 different branch managers. The latest just came to us about a month ago. He is also the manger of another branch in town and has been there for some time. So when the talk of our holiday outing started we assumed we would be going out with the other branch. Previously we were clustered with a different branch and whenever we had an outing we always did it together. So when I got a text message from my coworker two weeks ago that the other branch and our new manager was out at the breakout games I was a little upset. We then asked him about our outing and he told us to get together and decide what we wanted to do. We only get $15 each so we decided to go to the hibachi last Monday. We told him and he said he would be out of town but since the decline for him to get the expense report done was Wednesday he would give one of us the corporate card and we could go without him. The Friday before comes and he never gives anyone the card even after we bring up the fact that we are bummed he can't go (we didn't want to out right ask for the card so we kept dropping hints). So we are all pissed at this point not only that we don't get our holiday outing but also that he seemed not to care at all. So Tuesday we say hey you never gave us the card the deadline is tomorrow what's up. He told use just to go out on our own when ever pay for it ourselves and then do an expense report and he'd sign off on it. We went out last Thursday and put in our reports on Friday. I get an email saying he had approved it and everything is fine. This morning I get an email telling me that he approved it but spending has rejected it so I don't get my money back. LIVID! Yes it's only $15 and it's not that big a deal but it's not about the money. It's about the fact that he went out with his "real" branch and had a good time with them then treated us like redheaded stepchildren and didn't even bother to attempt to get together with us then screwed us out of $15. When our last manager started she took us all out to eat on her dime to get to know us and build a relationship. I'm not asking him to go out of his way like she did just show us enough respect to give us a holiday party and pretend you like us for one night.
Every night after we eat DH wants to relax on the couch "just for 5-10 minutes, then I'll help clean". And he NEVER gets up unless I make a huge deal out of it. It's so frustrating. Just take 10 minutes to clean as soon as we are done eating and we don't have to deal with it!
DH said to me last night "why can't you wipe down the counter after you use the salt? you get it on the counter" I said "oh didn't realize that I did that but why can't you just wipe it down if you see that it's a mess" his response was "because I didn't make the mess, why would I clean it up" WELL BRO....let me tell you why. You are about to have a daughter that makes messes that I will not be cleaning up by myself all the time. Also, I know I'm not the only one that drops crumbs, losses hair, makes a mess on the floor but I'm the only one that vacuums. I'm not the only one that eats, but I'm the only one that cooks, and I'm not the only one that uses dishes but I'm the only one that does them. F*ck the F*ck off and wipe down the damn counter if it bothers you that much.
My in-laws came over the day after I washed all the floors in preparation for Christmas and gave the dog a messy bone treat he got all over the hard wood and then let him run around the whole house wet after taking him for a walk in the rain/snow. Then proceeded to feed DS (15 months old) flavoured puffs, "healthy" rice crispie squares and fruit strips non stop. After repeatedly telling them he should always be offered real food first because he refuses to eat other food if he thinks there are those snacks around and has tantrums (they got him hooked).
I'm so grateful they come over and help out but I'm suuuper irritable right now.
My ILs said we're "anti-grandparent" and "weird" because we have requested (quite kindly, I might add) that we have no visitors for about 6 weeks after our due date. Looks like they are trying not to budge, but they are about to have the wrath of a cranky, pregnant elementary teacher come down upon their lofty heads if they don't check themselves soon.
DH submitted a proposal to attend a week-long conference in Vegas. Next September. Right around when I should be returning to work. WIthout asking me.
Christmas is in less than 2 days. I've been to the hardware store twice already today frantically trying to get DH's gift done. I may give up (see above).
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
Drive to my parents house tonight for the holidays. I was telling my parents about my rude experiences so far with people making comments about me lifting up my shirt to show them my maternity jeans/stomach and daily comments about a bump or not.
And they had no sympathy. "that's just the way things go, you're pregnant. Get over it". Just because that's the way things go does NOT mean it's okay to say these things. I just kept repeating to them that pregnant women are not zoo animals. Pregnancy is not an excuse to make constant comments, ask rude questions, etc. They are trying to make me think I'm crazy for being upset and I should just deal with it.
^mine too. If he would just do do it right away, it would take no time and be done so he can relax! He usually tells me that he'll clean up before he goes to bed, I usually go to bed first--but I'll wake up at 3am to use the bathroom and see him passed out on the couch with a snack or the computer resting somewhere near him since he usually falls asleep the moment he sits down.
@chelle087 DH does the same with his car--I tell him that it's exactly why he drives the old car and not our newer one bc he doesn't know how to clean up after himself whatsoever. I can't stand it.
My SIL is my rant today. I really hope this isn't offensive to anyone, and it's long. SIL and her H separated, and after she slept with someone else much younger. She ended up pregnant- after years of infertility. She is AMA, and has many heart and weigh issues, so this was not a healthy pregnancy. To top it all off, she lost her job as a financial consultant, and because she was pregnant did not want to get a new one. Baby was born premature (28 weeks) this summer, and other than being small and issues that come from that, is a healthy, happy baby. So now, SIL lives with baby daddy and his parents- she doesn't have a job and he works p/t- he is very immature, and has no interest in getting a f/t job.
She was fortunate to be able to stay home when her 2 older kids were young, but now insists she must stay home with new baby, because baby was a preemie. She has no money, and no job. It is so frustrating, because she had a great career! But now, she is always asking family for money. MIL is doing everything she can to supply money into SIL's bank account, but she doesn't make much herself! I feel like now that baby is healthy, she needs to go get a job! It is so frustrating to me that she is making zero effort, and asking us to pick up her pieces. I asked DH how much money he has given her so far, and it is a lot more than I thought. Guess what sister, it's time to go get a job!!! Unfortunately, no one in her family will tell her this because they all feel bad for her.
My rant is my MIL. Before Christmas she kept asking what to get DS. We kept telling her, small things like shirts, a watch, some headphones. Well she kept insisting on getting him this tent type chair that you screw in on the covered patio. We kept saying "no, it'll just get ruined with the weather...its not a good investment". Well then she was like "what about a trampoline? they have one that you can fold up and store" And we kept telling her no, we don't have the room especially with another one on the way. She got all pissy and said "fine, whatever yall want." So then she ended up buying him some Spider Man shirts (that he absolutely loved) and a light up watch. She said "well I hope you like what I got him, since I have to go through yall with everything!".
Its like duh!!!! We are the parents, we know what he likes/dislikes and what works in our home. she just really really irritates me sometimes.
@rachelmiller03 That sounds like it really sucks, especially since your DH is picking up some of the pieces! It's hard when people complain about their life circumstances and don't seem to be working to change them.
My rant is about people who are constantly telling me, "just wait until the baby comes...xyz will happen or you don't be able to do abc..." My mom does it all the time. I actually think I'm going to tell her to stop the next time she does it. It's just annoying.
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
@mylittleirvz@wagnerw my husband is the same.. he drives me crazy with similar stuff, for example the dirty dishes. He brings them in the kitchen and puts it next to the sink. Not inside. Not in the dishwasher.. NEXT to it. Why? What is the logic?? Why not at least IN the sink? Drives me craaaaazzzzy!!
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier. My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever. Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!! Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
@smallanimal my husband does the same! And he also puts glass jars he's rinsed next to the sink, and soda cans. We have a separate receptacle for recyclables. Basically he's setting them there to clutter the counter for a week until he takes them to the bin later. There's no point, but he still does it even though I've pointed out the lack of logic.
@shaunessa we have similar gift battles with MIL...super frustrating. We have explicitly asked her to give far less gifts because we're just drowning in...crap. She also out-gives us for every holiday and it just is frustrating. Her solution this year was to gift more things to DD by saying they were for us.
So, yeah, thanks for the set of blocks you gave me MIL. Just what I wanted at 31 years old.
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
My FIL does everything last minute. So he announces on Christmas he is coming to town with his family on 12/28 and only staying for about 24 hours and dictates our plans. It drives me crazy because we have to work 12/28 and 12/29 so now my evening is spent at his beck and call.
The other thing is my own fault, but I couldn't think of a big gift for my MIL to give me for Christmas....so I got a $250 pumpkin crock (yes, I love cooking and pumpkins, but I can think of so much else I would spend $250 on).
My stupid rant is I hate my boss she is a incompetent bitch and with her stupidity and bullshit she is stressing me out ! So I will be going on stress leave before my mat leave starts . and I was really looking forward to working till the end of Feb at least to have some money saved . But my family and SO all say it's not worth the risk stressing about it all and to just leave . Pretty sure the way she is running the place there won't be a place to go back to work to when I am done my mat leave anyway. But still. It just sucks.
You guys I don't know what thread this should go in but I literally am about to go crazy with my SIL and her two kids here for 4 days. She is a know it all, has a comment for everything and thinks she is the normal one in my DHs very dysfunctional family. She is by far the most dysfunctional. I don't know how I'm going to make it til Tuesday and they've only been here 4 hours!!
I caught a cold and slept for like 2 hours last night, interrupted. I can hardly breathe, my head is full and i kept my husband up too because our house is full of guests and i couldnt even move to another room. I hate this stupid cold :( hate hate hate it. I could kill for a nasal decongestant :( - rant over.
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier. My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever. Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!! Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
I can't stand the dead bedroom situation. Twice in December, three times in November. I'm going insane! We started this as high libido, even after three years together; 3+ times per week and now it's once every other week. I can't stand it. I crave intimacy, affection.
Pregnancy # 6 4 missed chances 2 loving children 1 on the way
Not feeling very beautiful on some days... just feeling blah and kinda puffy all over. Sucks b/c I love working out and eating good, but then look at pics of me and am like whoa...
I also am not excited about my maternity leave at my work.. the US sucks when it comes to taking care of moms. It's so important to be cared for and be with the baby for new moms, but the government doesn't care! Some companies pay more than others, and mine is not good - we've been saving like crazy, so hopefully I don't have to go back to work too fast..ugh!
DH's sister basically asked me to host NYE this year. I said ok. I wasn't really wanting to, but whatever. We were supposed to go to the local NBA game today so I said we would do something simple for dinner like nachos. Went yesterday and spent $100+ on food. Cleaned my house (it's cleaner than its been in a long time). Prepared a double batch of my chili. 6 sodas, 3 martinellis, NYE gear. Everything. And guess what?!? Everyone FUCKING bailed!!! I'm pissed! Livid! I'm never hosting another thing for his family again!
FYI - we didn't even go to the NBA game because we couldn't find a sitter. DH went with the neighbor but didn't even stay for tip off because he wasn't feeling well.
I'm over this day. It's only 6pm, but is it too early to go to bed?!
@NurseLaLa@HGRich I haven't had any since I've gotten pregnant. I went from feeling crappy, to pelvic rest, to getting off pelvic rest and feeling crappy again, and then after that was sick for about a month. In the moments I was up for it my body just did not want to work with me. The sad thing is I think about it all the time! I am depressed about the idea of actually having sex as this huge pregnant woman and not my normal self. ugh rant over
@aboxofchocolates yikes. That sucks. But I get that. I was sick in first tri and also nervous about doing it then anyway, second trimester it really hurt a lot (sorry tmi), and now I'm feeling better but the pelvic pain is bad and the broken foot is getting in the way. It's almost ridiculous. it's been like three times total in the last four months and I'm convinced there won't be much else from here on out. Because of the libido thing and the getting larger and the heartburn and the shortness of breath. Yaaaay pregnancy. Lol.
False alarm everyone! Everyone ended up coming. My night has been a roller coaster ride! I didn't prep anything because I thought no one was coming so I had to hurry and throw everything together.
@KirstinH88 : smiley: hope you had a good night in the end.
to everyone who mentioned libido... I am with you. once in two weeks tops. And not necessarily my thing - DH seems to be revering my bump and does not want to poke anything. I miss feeling all sexy and desirable, but I know this will pass after baby is born and I slim down (it's my thing - he never says anything about my looks but I do look and feel fat). I guess seeing all your comments, this is just the story of pregnancy - and getting a cuddle is also lovely
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier. My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever. Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!! Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
I am with you all dealing with low libido too. I definitely wasn't like this when I was pregnant with DS, so DH is probably wondering what is going on, but oh well. I am almost too tired to care.
Re: Stupid rants
Haha it was nice to rant. But let me finish by saying that I'm grateful to my parents for dogsitting. And I'm grateful this foot break and fall happened in the second trimester rather than the first or third. But what a huge nuisance when I have to do all this traveling and be around family and do activities with them, and I'm just cranky about it all. Like you said @beckyf321 it's all about the hormones right now. I could definitely punch somebody in the face right now.
ETA spelling.
I also hate that he always brings a new box of soap into the shower (he uses bar soap) but never takes the soggy, empty boxes out?
I could rant about DHs dirty habits forever....
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
I also find that I am cleaning out DHs car every time that I need to take it for some reason. I really don't know how it's so difficult to keep the car free of trash. Yesterday I found a bag of defrosted "frozen" spinach that never made it's way into the house from the car. Gross!
DH said to me last night "why can't you wipe down the counter after you use the salt? you get it on the counter" I said "oh didn't realize that I did that but why can't you just wipe it down if you see that it's a mess" his response was "because I didn't make the mess, why would I clean it up" WELL BRO....let me tell you why. You are about to have a daughter that makes messes that I will not be cleaning up by myself all the time. Also, I know I'm not the only one that drops crumbs, losses hair, makes a mess on the floor but I'm the only one that vacuums. I'm not the only one that eats, but I'm the only one that cooks, and I'm not the only one that uses dishes but I'm the only one that does them. F*ck the F*ck off and wipe down the damn counter if it bothers you that much.
I'm so grateful they come over and help out but I'm suuuper irritable right now.
DH submitted a proposal to attend a week-long conference in Vegas. Next September. Right around when I should be returning to work. WIthout asking me.
Christmas is in less than 2 days. I've been to the hardware store twice already today frantically trying to get DH's gift done. I may give up (see above).
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
And they had no sympathy. "that's just the way things go, you're pregnant. Get over it". Just because that's the way things go does NOT mean it's okay to say these things. I just kept repeating to them that pregnant women are not zoo animals. Pregnancy is not an excuse to make constant comments, ask rude questions, etc. They are trying to make me think I'm crazy for being upset and I should just deal with it.
@chelle087 DH does the same with his car--I tell him that it's exactly why he drives the old car and not our newer one bc he doesn't know how to clean up after himself whatsoever. I can't stand it.
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
She was fortunate to be able to stay home when her 2 older kids were young, but now insists she must stay home with new baby, because baby was a preemie. She has no money, and no job. It is so frustrating, because she had a great career! But now, she is always asking family for money. MIL is doing everything she can to supply money into SIL's bank account, but she doesn't make much herself! I feel like now that baby is healthy, she needs to go get a job! It is so frustrating to me that she is making zero effort, and asking us to pick up her pieces. I asked DH how much money he has given her so far, and it is a lot more than I thought. Guess what sister, it's time to go get a job!!! Unfortunately, no one in her family will tell her this because they all feel bad for her.
Its like duh!!!! We are the parents, we know what he likes/dislikes and what works in our home. she just really really irritates me sometimes.
My rant is about people who are constantly telling me, "just wait until the baby comes...xyz will happen or you don't be able to do abc..." My mom does it all the time. I actually think I'm going to tell her to stop the next time she does it. It's just annoying.
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
So, yeah, thanks for the set of blocks you gave me MIL. Just what I wanted at 31 years old.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
Pregnancy # 6
4 missed chances
2 loving children
1 on the way
I also am not excited about my maternity leave at my work.. the US sucks when it comes to taking care of moms. It's so important to be cared for and be with the baby for new moms, but the government doesn't care! Some companies pay more than others, and mine is not good - we've been saving like crazy, so hopefully I don't have to go back to work too fast..ugh!
FYI - we didn't even go to the NBA game because we couldn't find a sitter. DH went with the neighbor but didn't even stay for tip off because he wasn't feeling well.
I'm over this day. It's only 6pm, but is it too early to go to bed?!
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
to everyone who mentioned libido... I am with you. once in two weeks tops. And not necessarily my thing - DH seems to be revering my bump and does not want to poke anything. I miss feeling all sexy and desirable, but I know this will pass after baby is born and I slim down (it's my thing - he never says anything about my looks but I do look and feel fat). I guess seeing all your comments, this is just the story of pregnancy - and getting a cuddle is also lovely
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby