I actually came to this thread to post the same thing! I was just scrolling thru the pregnancy chatter for this week and i think it would be be better if people just posted their questions or comments as a new thread. It gets confusing catching up on all the comments and I feel like many people end up going with their questions unanswered. It's also nice to open the forum and see the topics people are posting about in the subject line. I remember in N15 the repeat questions bothered some but most people still answered politely.
I think I'm with you ladies now who are saying we should post questions in new threads. I have an unanswered question in the pregnancy chatter thread, which is probably because it has easily been overlooked
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Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
I am not against specific questions bring asked in their own threads, as long as we don't wind up with multiple threads about the same thing. That's really the problem...when we wind up with multiple morning sickness threads clogging up the front page for example. I think specific one off threads are acceptable, as long as everyone is using the search function before posting to make sure that their question hasn't already been asked.
Maybe because I came from the TTGP board, but the sheer amount of threads on this board overwhelms me. I like the weekly chatter because it's one place I can go to, instead of sorting through all the other threads. I'm just really used to like three new threads a day. But that's just mho.
I'm not sure how or if we can even go about making this sort of change since the rules were set very early on. I know I don't come on this board much because it's hard to navigate a 100+ post thread. But I totally understand if people want to keep it that way!
Married 7/11/09 TTC #1 Since 05/10 BFP #1 09/20/10 Natural m/c 10/05/10 BFP! #2 04/21/11... Beta 16 DPO: 437, 18 DPO:1446 Ultrasound 6w6d TWINS! Annabel & Sophia Born 11/28/11 at 34w6d BFP #3 10/4/16... Beta 13 DPO: 145, 15 DPO: 367 12/1/16 It's a GIRL!
I'm not sure how or if we can even go about making this sort of change since the rules were set very early on. I know I don't come on this board much because it's hard to navigate a 100+ post thread. But I totally understand if people want to keep it that way!
The rules are not set by the bump, lol they're completely arbitrary. As far as I'm concerned, everyone can post when or how they want and I'll decide for myself if I want to click on it.
I'm not really sure how a poll will resolve this, someone will lose either way. I really see both sides and waiver back and forth a lot. Honestly, the dynamic will work itself out. It always does on BMBs, now other boards maintain either free for all posts or rigidity and that's fine, but BMBs are just kind of up in the air until the dynamic works itself out.
I've also been on TB since 2010, and none of my BMBs have been as organized as TTGP and such, it's just always been a free for all.
like @thankfully, I'll just read what I want and scroll past what I don't want to read.
I'm not really sure how a poll will resolve this, someone will lose either way. I really see both sides and waiver back and forth a lot. Honestly, the dynamic will work itself out. It always does on BMBs, now other boards maintain either free for all posts or rigidity and that's fine, but BMBs are just kind of up in the air until the dynamic works itself out.
I've also been on TB since 2010, and none of my BMBs have been as organized as TTGP and such, it's just always been a free for all.
like @thankfully, I'll just read what I want and scroll past what I don't want to read.
yeah good point, I'll do the same. I was in the N15 board and I don't remember it having so many rules and such about this! haha
I'm not really sure how a poll will resolve this, someone will lose either way. I really see both sides and waiver back and forth a lot. Honestly, the dynamic will work itself out. It always does on BMBs, now other boards maintain either free for all posts or rigidity and that's fine, but BMBs are just kind of up in the air until the dynamic works itself out.
I've also been on TB since 2010, and none of my BMBs have been as organized as TTGP and such, it's just always been a free for all.
like @thankfully, I'll just read what I want and scroll past what I don't want to read.
yeah good point, I'll do the same. I was in the N15 board and I don't remember it having so many rules and such about this! haha
I'm not sure how or if we can even go about making this sort of change since the rules were set very early on. I know I don't come on this board much because it's hard to navigate a 100+ post thread. But I totally understand if people want to keep it that way!
No need for a rule change, the "rules" were set by individuals on this board and aren't part of TOS. I'm admittedly old school and dislike the 7 page posts, but I understand that some like it because they're used to it from their old board. I say to each their own. If I have something that pops up that I want to talk about, I'm going to post. I think things will organically slide into place as time goes on.
Me: 38 l DH: 41 Gavin - 8/27/10 *TW* Gabriel - 2nd tri loss 5/17/16 Trisomy 18 & 21 Hope - 2nd tri loss 12/7/16 complications from pneumonia
They are just guidelines that have worked for many other BMBs, not rules. Anyone is free to start any thread they want, but a lot of ladies prefer that they pertain to the entire group and are conversation started and are not "Dear Diary" threads or questions that could be easily be posted somewhere else. That's what the guidelines even suggest before the suggested threads.
The only one I don't love is the pregnancy chatter one. It gets way too long and to expect a newbie to read through 6 pages (or more, by the end of the week) before posting their question isn't very cool to me. I like the more specific weekly threads like "symptoms", "weekly appointments", "weekly randoms", and one weekly GTKY thread. We have had too many GTKY too early on, IMO. I want to sorta kinda recognize names before I learn what they do for a living, etc.
Me: 36; DH: 38 DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17! **TW** MMC & D&C Aug 2016
The only one I don't love is the pregnancy chatter one. It gets way too long and to expect a newbie to read through 6 pages (or more, by the end of the week) before posting their question isn't very cool to me. I like the more specific weekly threads like "symptoms", "weekly appointments", "weekly randoms", and one weekly GTKY thread. We have had too many GTKY too early on, IMO. I want to sorta kinda recognize names before I learn what they do for a living, etc.
Yes! I cant keep up with that disorganized thread. I'd love to be able to just post questions.
Married 7/11/09 TTC #1 Since 05/10 BFP #1 09/20/10 Natural m/c 10/05/10 BFP! #2 04/21/11... Beta 16 DPO: 437, 18 DPO:1446 Ultrasound 6w6d TWINS! Annabel & Sophia Born 11/28/11 at 34w6d BFP #3 10/4/16... Beta 13 DPO: 145, 15 DPO: 367 12/1/16 It's a GIRL!
I'm just going to reiterate what has already been said, which is that more specific threads can be cool, as long as there aren't 4 on the same topic within a couple days of each other. There just really doesn't need to be a separate thread for each person that's experiencing morning sickness or fatigue because many of us are feeling it at this point. If there's a ton of threads on the exact same topics, I don't see how that's any more beneficial than one longer thread just because there aren't as many pages. I was introduced to the Bump through TTGP, which has a level of structure that perhaps others are uncomfortable with, but I think there's a healthy middle ground for both points of view. Ultimately it's the internet and of course folks will do what they want but I imagine this conversation is happening in part because we care about building a community that we can enjoy and benefit from, which will take compromise.
I'm just going to reiterate what has already been said, which is that more specific threads can be cool, as long as there aren't 4 on the same topic within a couple days of each other. There just really doesn't need to be a separate thread for each person that's experiencing morning sickness or fatigue because many of us are feeling it at this point. If there's a ton of threads on the exact same topics, I don't see how that's any more beneficial than one longer thread just because there aren't as many pages.
This! I was on TB 4 years ago with my son so it was the old format and there were always SO many posts about the same thing! If I want to find something similar to what I am looking for, I would much rather wade through a couple page post that is generically set up for that topic (e.g., "Symptoms") than wade through pages of posts and click on every one that has a title that *might* be what I am looking for and *might* have a few responses. It seemed like on the old boards, the responses you saw were more like, "Hey dumbass, why don't you look a couple posts down and see someone just asked the same question?". Yeah, that's not really what I want to spend my time doing.
The one thing I wish TB would do is make it so when you click "Reply" that it threw the name of the person you were responding to into the comment box. Seems like a no-brainer.
Me: 36; DH: 38 DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17! **TW** MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Quick question, not sure of this is the right place to ask and this is the first online community I've joined- so please excuse my ignorance. Can someone please tell me what the bubbles indicate next to our usernames? I though that they were the number of comments and likes we've given, but mine are stuck at 2 and I've posted way more than that. It's no big deal, but I'm just curious!
@kcrocetto27 They're achievement badges. You get them when you've hit certain milestones. The 2 comment circle means you've made 10 comments. The 2 heart circle means you've gotten 25 love-its. If you hover over them on a desktop, the meanings appear.
Re: **Please Read FIRST*** Daily Threads/Board Organization
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Married 7/11/09 TTC #1 Since 05/10
BFP #1 09/20/10 Natural m/c 10/05/10
BFP! #2 04/21/11... Beta 16 DPO: 437, 18 DPO:1446 Ultrasound 6w6d TWINS!
Annabel & Sophia Born 11/28/11 at 34w6d
BFP #3 10/4/16... Beta 13 DPO: 145, 15 DPO: 367 12/1/16 It's a GIRL!
I've also been on TB since 2010, and none of my BMBs have been as organized as TTGP and such, it's just always been a free for all.
like @thankfully, I'll just read what I want and scroll past what I don't want to read.
Gavin - 8/27/10
*TW*
Gabriel - 2nd tri loss 5/17/16 Trisomy 18 & 21
Hope - 2nd tri loss 12/7/16 complications from pneumonia
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Married 7/11/09 TTC #1 Since 05/10
BFP #1 09/20/10 Natural m/c 10/05/10
BFP! #2 04/21/11... Beta 16 DPO: 437, 18 DPO:1446 Ultrasound 6w6d TWINS!
Annabel & Sophia Born 11/28/11 at 34w6d
BFP #3 10/4/16... Beta 13 DPO: 145, 15 DPO: 367 12/1/16 It's a GIRL!
The one thing I wish TB would do is make it so when you click "Reply" that it threw the name of the person you were responding to into the comment box. Seems like a no-brainer.
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015