So I've started stressing about what I'm going to do with DD when I go to the hospital to have this kid. My parents live across the country from me. They plan to come whenever I tell them to, but I don't want to them waiting around for a kid to be born. I have a few friends and some family in town but they all have their own kids and/or jobs. DD was induced at almost 41wks. I'm trying to decide if I should just have my family come down shortly after my due date and hope the timing works out, or if i should have DD go to a combo of friends' houses and daycare w/ DH having to leave the hospital to transport her around town. Any 3+ moms who've BTDT have any ideas?
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot My mom is planning to book a few flights via southwest since she can cancel them without being charged. She just gets the credit that's good for a year and she visits every other month anyways. But I have noooo idea how we're going to handle the time between I go into labor and the time she can make it. I have an okay friend who lives nearby that would probably be willing to drop everything and come watch DD. I just don't know if her job is flexible enough to do that
sorry I've been MIA for a few weeks. So much going on!
i just got a call from my OB, and she was looking at my anatomy scan more in detail and noticed that my little guy has a dilated ureter on the right side and urine blockage backing up to the right kidney. She's referring me to a high risk specialist for more ultrasounds to measure it closer, and said sometimes it resolves on its own before the baby is born, sometimes it resolves when they pee for the first time, and sometimes can require surgery. I'm trying not to turn into a complete basket case yet but this was super unexpected. Anyone have any knowledge or experience? After a quick google search, looks like it's technically called hydronephrosis.... please tell me someone's been there and it's been fine?!
@CherylE418 Oh no! I'm not familiar, but it sounds like it very well may resolve itself and I'd try not to worry too much. I know, easier said than done. Baby boy will be A-ok I am sure!
@CherylE418 a friends son had this same finding except I want to say they found it at birth maybe? It could be that was just the first I heard of it. He saw a urologist a few times and was cleared at 1.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot This will be our second baby away from home. Lucky for me, my mom works from home and can kind of be on stand by. I planned for her to be there at 39wks but kind of played it by ear depending on how progressed I was at each appointment and what the OB thought. She came after my 39wk appointment when it was pretty clear I would be induced at 40+1. She also books Southwest as her tickets can change without a fee or she can save the credit. I do have a neighbor who will be our back up in case something happens before my mom can get here. It's a 3 hour flight but DD1s labor was 8 hours and DD2 was 4 hours so I'm a little nervous!
I'm trying to figure out the logistics of a Base access pass for her since we will be delivering at the Base hospital... she has to be in person to get a pass, so if I was already in labor when she got here I guess DH would have to leave to check her in...
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
*TW?* I'm having a random day of anxiety about baby girl. I have been kind of crampy and have had dreams the last two nights about Dr appointments going badly. I also feel like I'm small and still haven't gained back hardly any of the 15 lbs I lost in first tri. I still can't feel her move yet so I hate these days! I decided to buy a fetal Doppler but won't have it until tomorrow so hopefully I can put this behind me! I hate waiting 4 weeks between appointments. Realistically I know things are probably fine but I need her to get some good ninja kicking going on in there!
@ShadeofGreen816 I posted something very similar in my ticket change yesterday. My next appointment isn't until 1/10 and I haven't gained much weight and haven't felt baby move and this is #2. I'm keep telling myself everything is ok and I can wait until 1/10, but it's so hard. I have heightened anxiety at this point too because this is the point where my mom lost her second baby.
T&P's that you can get some peace of mind with your doppler tomorrow.
Okay, this is awesome randomly creepy and I have to share.
You remember from the name thread someone suggested the adorable nn "Lemon" if baby is a girl? We have not told anyone IRL our names or potential nn's. Not a peep.
Well, SIL just sent me a photo of our 2.5 y/o niece playing with a toy we got her for Christmas and "talking to her friend 'Lemon'". What?! So I'm like oh, who is "Lemon". She said no idea, must be an imaginary friend. Guys, if this baby is a girl and we name her what we're planning to, how crazy would that be?
@ShadeofGreen816 Aww, I am sorrry If it helps, several weeks back (maybe around 18 weeks) I was having some dreams that freaked me out and was really nervous. Dr. appointment went great though!
Thenon Christmas Eve and one thing that was really bugging me was I wasn't feeling baby move, and I typically do. I was kind of freaking myself out and getting really cranky. Well, the next day and every day since baby has been so active. Almost as if they're like Mom, calm down. I'm good! See? *kick kick*".
@CherylE418 DD had this on her anatomy scan and we ended up having to meet with a urologist after we left the hospital. She ended up having a duplicated system on the right side - so 3 total kidneys in there. She's on a daily prophylactic antibiotic but is doing fine. Once she is successfully potty trained antibiotics stop and it's just yearly Ultrasounds to check for any abnormalities.
Fingers crossed for your follow ups. They can be nerve racking.
I'm feeling major mom guilt right now. DD has some blood in her stool, and now we are being referred to a specialist. I have ulcerative colitis and that could be what she has.
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Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10 DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI) BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
And @ShadeofGreen816 I am sorry you are feeling that way; I go through periods like that too. This is my second and I still rarely feel movement. I have a Doppler though, and I will say it helps to ease my mind when I'm freaking myself out. There's nothing like that steady little heartbeat.
This is so NBR but I finally got a day to go to the beach by myself yesterday! I feel like it's been years and I only live like 5 miles inland! I needed that! Sending warm thoughts north!
@ShadeofGreen816 I had a prior mmc right before this pregnancy and for me to wait 4 weeks between appointments is so hard. We got a Doppler early on and I pull it out frequently (still do even with some movement) just to get some reassurance. I hope when you get yours it helps reassure you and makes you feel better in-between appointments.
My question as a FTM is that I'm looking at crib bedding and they all have bumpers. I don't know anything about it but I thought I read somewhere that bumpers weren't safe to use? So do you use them or not? Is there a time limit and then you do? I'm confused and hoping STM have some input.
We never used bumpers for DD. They are not recommended for infants due to the suffocation hazard. And by the time they grow out of that, a kid could use them to climb out of the crib. I think bedding sets are one of the most useless baby products. You don't need the bumpers or the quilt. You'll likely be gifted a metric ton of blankets for floor use anyway. We just bought single crib sheets.
@SWE2 we never used a crib set. We were gifted one and I'm pretty sure it's still in the closet. There are so many useless pieces in it. We registered for a few single crib sheets and just used those until she was old enough to sleep with a blanket (we probably waited until she was 15 months). We received sooo many blankets as gifts.
I noticed today and yesterday one of my stools was white/grayish looking. I consulted dr. Google and it mentioned cholestasis. I was itchy a few weeks ago to the point where I made myself bleed I scratched so hard, but I've been lotioning a lot more and I've felt much better, so I figured it was dry skin/winter. I have an appt next Friday for my anatomy scan, and I can wait till then but will I be posing any risk to the baby if I wait til then to have things figured out?
@ShadeofGreen816 I'm sorry you're having anxiety right now. Just remember, lots of moms here haven't felt the baby yet, so that's not unusual. I completely understand the worry, but I just keep this in mind - if something were to happen at this stage, there's likely not a darn thing you could have done anyways. So why stress about it? If something clearly feels wrong, you'd check with your doctor about it. But in the absence of bad symptoms, it's just our anxiety taking over. So easier said than done, but try to relax! I hope the doppler helps you feel better.
Okay just got my results from my anatomy scan yesterday (by email)... and I'm freaking out just a little even though I replied to the OB to call me to discuss and she did within 10 minutes (super awesome btw).
Minor finding: I have a bilobed placenta. Apparently it's a normal variant that has no affect on baby or pregnancy. It'll just look different when delivered.
Freaking out finding: "An echogenic intracardiac focus was found. This is a tiny bright white spot. By itself, it does not mean anything and has no impact on the function or structure of the heart. The high risk OB doctors do not recommend anything or a follow up for it. It is not anything to worry about, but I like to let patients know." I did a quick google search while awaiting her call. Incidence of an EIF is about 30% in Asian mothers. I'm Asian. It's considered normal when other risk factors are ruled out. All of my bloodwork (NIPT and Quad markers) have come back negative. My OB calls and I ask her about getting a second ultrasound with more sensitive equipment. She explains it's unnecessary and it would still most likely be there. She said the techs follow protocols once a "soft" marker is found, i.e. this EIF. They will go back and check for other soft markers: bright white spots in the bowel (which is a worse finding) and abnormalities in the hands, feet and bridge of nose. The tech did not see any other soft markers. Then I asked if we could do a follow up scan in the third trimester to see if it has self resolved (another thing I read in my quick google search) and that was quickly shot down as my risk factors are low, insurance won't allow it, and evidence based practice shows it still wouldn't change pregnancy management.
So after all of that, I should feel better but I'm still freaking out a bit. Of course I reassured MH that it's all considered normal... but looks like I still need some reassurance.
sorry I've been MIA for a few weeks. So much going on!
i just got a call from my OB, and she was looking at my anatomy scan more in detail and noticed that my little guy has a dilated ureter on the right side and urine blockage backing up to the right kidney. She's referring me to a high risk specialist for more ultrasounds to measure it closer, and said sometimes it resolves on its own before the baby is born, sometimes it resolves when they pee for the first time, and sometimes can require surgery. I'm trying not to turn into a complete basket case yet but this was super unexpected. Anyone have any knowledge or experience? After a quick google search, looks like it's technically called hydronephrosis.... please tell me someone's been there and it's been fine?!
@CherylE418 DD has Grade 3 Hydronephosis, she also was diagnosed with kidney reflux (which causes frequent UTIs). Besides UTIs we haven't had any issues, and she stays on a daily antibiotic to prevent them. I was told that it generally resolves on its own which is looking like what will be the case for us. Her initial ultrasound was at 4 months with grade 4 and 6 months ago she was down graded to a grade 3.
ETA: We see a urologist twice a year unless we suspect a UTI. That could be because of the reflux though.
@mrsrep123 Understandable to be stressed out about a finding on the anatomy scan - glad to hear you at least got to discuss it with your provider. My understanding is that isolated soft markers have an incredibly small chance (I don't have a number % for you - apologies) of being a true abnormality. Not to say that it will end up that way, but the chances are good (as I think the OB was trying to convey) that the heart will turn out to be completely normal. Perhaps the existence of congenital heart disease screening (in many/most birthing hospitals these days, using pulse oximetry - not invasive) will also serve to ease your mind. I know I'd be stressed out though, so not to discount what you're feeling at all.
Looking at the the overall picture (baby's growth is normal, bloodwork for abnormalities all negative, and no other soft markers for abnormalities), I should take a big breath and relax. But, every time MH walks in the room, I get all teary eyed. Ugh!
My app is being buggy so no tags but thanks for the reassurance everyone! I know logically that everything is most likely just fine. I feel silly for how worried I make myself for no reason! I'm ready for her to be big enough to feel - I keep thinking I am and then I think it's probably gas. I'm sure one or two were her though.
@mrsrep123 sorry you've been going through all that! So stressful. Surely everything is probably fine but we always have to worry about everything. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you and babe
@CherryBananas@ShadeofGreen816 thanks ladies. I've decided I need to let go and not stress as I have no control over it. Ironically, MH is the worrier during pregnancy/over kiddos and he isn't at this point. I'm going to stay on the path that this pregnancy has been normal up until now, although my OB is still saying it is normal and that any other OB would have just told me it was a normal scan (she claims she told me in the event I would've read the official report that I would've been upset she didn't reveal the findings). So with all of that said, thank you for letting me vent and for your kind responses.
@mrsrep123 big hugs. We're kinda in the same boat with the slightly-terrifying-but-no-one-else-is-worried news. I totally get it even if it's not the same situation.
@ShadeofGreen816, we have the same due date, and I can't say anything that I've felt so far has *definitely* been baby or if it's been gas. I like to think sometimes it's the baby, but I honestly don't know. Everything has been good so far and we hear the heartbeat on the home doppler, but I'm SO ready for my anatomy scan on Tuesday. I think I'll be able to breathe a big sigh of relief after that.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@SWE2, my biggest nursery regret was matching the whole style of DD's nursery to a crib set. She ended up NEVER using the comforter part of it, too big and bulky for my comfort level. This time around I'm picking colors and designs I like and will find a medium weight blanket and sheets to match it. Those sets are so spendy, plus, I agree, no bumpers, so that part isn't worth it.
May Siggy Challenge: Labor Memes
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10 DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI) BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
@ShadeofGreen816 , @kns1988 , and @rkstro2 I'm due May 21st and have the A/S Tuesday as well and a FTM! I've been in the same boat as you ladies regarding movements. I was never sure if it was baby or not, but in the last day or 2 I'm pretty sure it was baby and not gas! I swear I had a decent kick last night and tried to have H feel it, but baby stopped lol nothing too crazy consistent yet, but hoping it starts soon! I usually feel more after I've eaten or had a glass of cold milk
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
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May17 Siggy Challenge
Labor
sorry I've been MIA for a few weeks. So much going on!
i just got a call from my OB, and she was looking at my anatomy scan more in detail and noticed that my little guy has a dilated ureter on the right side and urine blockage backing up to the right kidney. She's referring me to a high risk specialist for more ultrasounds to measure it closer, and said sometimes it resolves on its own before the baby is born, sometimes it resolves when they pee for the first time, and sometimes can require surgery. I'm trying not to turn into a complete basket case yet but this was super unexpected. Anyone have any knowledge or experience? After a quick google search, looks like it's technically called hydronephrosis.... please tell me someone's been there and it's been fine?!
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
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I'm trying to figure out the logistics of a Base access pass for her since we will be delivering at the Base hospital... she has to be in person to get a pass, so if I was already in labor when she got here I guess DH would have to leave to check her in...
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
T&P's that you can get some peace of mind with your doppler tomorrow.
You remember from the name thread someone suggested the adorable nn "Lemon" if baby is a girl? We have not told anyone IRL our names or potential nn's. Not a peep.
Well, SIL just sent me a photo of our 2.5 y/o niece playing with a toy we got her for Christmas and "talking to her friend 'Lemon'". What?! So I'm like oh, who is "Lemon". She said no idea, must be an imaginary friend. Guys, if this baby is a girl and we name her what we're planning to, how crazy would that be?
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Thenon Christmas Eve and one thing that was really bugging me was I wasn't feeling baby move, and I typically do. I was kind of freaking myself out and getting really cranky. Well, the next day and every day since baby has been so active. Almost as if they're like Mom, calm down. I'm good! See? *kick kick*".
I'm hoping you'll get some similar reassurance.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Fingers crossed for your follow ups. They can be nerve racking.
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10
DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI)
BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
And @ShadeofGreen816 I am sorry you are feeling that way; I go through periods like that too. This is my second and I still rarely feel movement. I have a Doppler though, and I will say it helps to ease my mind when I'm freaking myself out. There's nothing like that steady little heartbeat.
My question as a FTM is that I'm looking at crib bedding and they all have bumpers. I don't know anything about it but I thought I read somewhere that bumpers weren't safe to use? So do you use them or not? Is there a time limit and then you do? I'm confused and hoping STM have some input.
We never used bumpers for DD. They are not recommended for infants due to the suffocation hazard. And by the time they grow out of that, a kid could use them to climb out of the crib. I think bedding sets are one of the most useless baby products. You don't need the bumpers or the quilt. You'll likely be gifted a metric ton of blankets for floor use anyway. We just bought single crib sheets.
May17 Siggy Challenge
Labor
I noticed today and yesterday one of my stools was white/grayish looking. I consulted dr. Google and it mentioned cholestasis. I was itchy a few weeks ago to the point where I made myself bleed I scratched so hard, but I've been lotioning a lot more and I've felt much better, so I figured it was dry skin/winter. I have an appt next Friday for my anatomy scan, and I can wait till then but will I be posing any risk to the baby if I wait til then to have things figured out?
Minor finding: I have a bilobed placenta. Apparently it's a normal variant that has no affect on baby or pregnancy. It'll just look different when delivered.
Freaking out finding: "An echogenic intracardiac focus was found. This is a tiny bright white spot. By itself, it does not mean anything and has no impact on the function or structure of the heart. The high risk OB doctors do not recommend anything or a follow up for it. It is not anything to worry about, but I like to let patients know." I did a quick google search while awaiting her call. Incidence of an EIF is about 30% in Asian mothers. I'm Asian. It's considered normal when other risk factors are ruled out. All of my bloodwork (NIPT and Quad markers) have come back negative. My OB calls and I ask her about getting a second ultrasound with more sensitive equipment. She explains it's unnecessary and it would still most likely be there. She said the techs follow protocols once a "soft" marker is found, i.e. this EIF. They will go back and check for other soft markers: bright white spots in the bowel (which is a worse finding) and abnormalities in the hands, feet and bridge of nose. The tech did not see any other soft markers. Then I asked if we could do a follow up scan in the third trimester to see if it has self resolved (another thing I read in my quick google search) and that was quickly shot down as my risk factors are low, insurance won't allow it, and evidence based practice shows it still wouldn't change pregnancy management.
So after all of that, I should feel better but I'm still freaking out a bit. Of course I reassured MH that it's all considered normal... but looks like I still need some reassurance.
Anyone here have any experience in this arena?
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
ETA: We see a urologist twice a year unless we suspect a UTI. That could be because of the reflux though.
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
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Looking at the the overall picture (baby's growth is normal, bloodwork for abnormalities all negative, and no other soft markers for abnormalities), I should take a big breath and relax. But, every time MH walks in the room, I get all teary eyed. Ugh!
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
So with all of that said, thank you for letting me vent and for your kind responses.
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10
DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI)
BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*