Most of us are at or past 24 weeks now. How is everyone feeling?
Do you count the milestones, the weeks? Do you feel you bonded with your baby well so far? Which one was your "bonding week"? For me, this last one was more emotionally bonding than any previously. Maybe to do with the week, or Christmas, or family, or all...
Did week 24 make a difference to you?
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier.
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April,
currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
Re: Viability week and bonding
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
However, I still think my loss is making it extremely difficult to bond. I may talk logically of her due date but I don't actually think I believe I'll get to meet her, so I don't want to bond with her. It's frustrating and I hope that changes soon. But viability does seem to make it more real and more likely. And that makes me feel better.
I do already feel bonded to baby but due to being a loss mama I subconsciously hold back fully until baby is born. I wish I didn't, but I do.
DD1 born 5/24/10.
Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.
DD2 born 5/14/13.
Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
I started pulling out DS'S old clothes and infant stuff today, so I think that has helped too...once we finally decide on a name I think it will really help with the bond.
It also took me a while to bond with DS after birth, but I know that I will get there. I tend to focus on the task at hand, and not focus too much on the future, so maybe it's a personality thing? But I do know that once she's here, I will come around. Quickly.
June- Femara 7.5mg + Trigger + IUI = BFN August- Lap & Hysteroscopy = Blocked & Partially Blocked Tubes
September- Femara 5mg = CX - No Response on Left = BFN October- 100mg Clomid + Trigger + TI = BFN
IVF # 1: Stims 11/30 ER 12/12/12! (10R, 10M, 8F, 2T, 6 F) :: Beta #1- 176 c/p @ 4w4d
FET #1 February 26th :: Lost 4 to Thaw, Transferred 2 = BFFN
IVF # 2 Stims 5/10 ER 5/21 (15R, 13M, 13F, 2T, 7F- 6d3 & 1d5) :: Beta # 1- 15 c/p @ 4w
FET #2.2 Scheduled for September 20th
2 Thawed, 2 Transferred! Beta #1- 96, Beta #2 906! :: EDD June 10th
2015- 2 failed FET. We are done
SURPRISE! BFP 8/8/16 EDD 4/1/17
1. BFP!
2. Holy crap, is this real?! A baby?
3. Yes, a baby. Amazing!/I just hope nothing happens to him/her...
4. It's a boy/girl/moving around like crazy...I'm falling in love!
5. Repeat step 2.
6. Hi baby! I'm your mama and I love you more than I thought possible....
I'm still on step 2.
I know obviously this is a mass generalization, but I am glad several others mentioned not feeling connected yet. I feel a bit guilty because I felt much more in tune with DD, but I just don't have the kind of time I did with her to reflect on being pregnant. I used to do about 1.5 hours of yoga every day and spend a lot of that moving meditation sending love to the baby....now, I just still can't believe we're doing it again and even question it all.
Everything in it's own time though.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
My twins were born at 29 weeks after preterm labour, and I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks last time as my appendix burst. I will breathe a little sigh of relief if I get to 24 weeks (I'm still at 22.5), and at 28 and 32 when statistically things improve for long-term outcomes, and at term. But really it's all speculative to me until the baby arrives, hopefully safely.
Movement always makes me very happy, but also lately I get a really weird scary feeling on, holy crap, this is real, I must give birth to him, I must take care of him, this is actually real - then I get scared about what if I do something wrong.
At the same time husband is bonding like crazy. He is softer and more enthusiastic every day, instead of the funky little name we have been calling my bump, he actually started calling him "my son", "my little boy" this kind of stuff. This somehow makes it even more real for me!
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
I was talking to a co-worker during my last pregnancy, and telling her that I was terrified I wasn't the "mom type". She told me not to worry, it will all work out. After he was born, the only way I can explain it is that there was a hole in my heart I didn't even know was there until he arrived in my world. Once he was in my life, he filled that gaping hole that never exist before.