@KLake42 i won't be on meds until Jan, but I've struggled with what to focus on since we decided to do IVF. I know the odds for a live birth, first time IVF at my age are 35-52%. Those numbers just seemed so low to throw so much money at them....but now that we are doing it I decided to be completely positive about the whole thing. I am treating this whole process as if it will work and we will get a baby out of it first try. I figure if it doesn't work what's the difference? I will be devastated either way, might as well have some happiness before hand
Me: 39 SO: 36
Dx: low progesterone, possible DOR - officially "unexplained"
TTC#1 since November 2015 9/16/2016 IUI#1 - BFN 10/12/2016 IUI#2 - BFN 1/21/2017 Clomid/IUI#3 - BFN March 2017 IVF: BFP! (beta#1 191, beta#2 378!) - it's a boy! DS born 12/6/2017
TTC #2 since July 2018 May 2019 IVF #2: BFP! (beta#1 346, beta#2 646) - vanishing twin at 8 weeks. Baby B still going strong - due 2/8/20!
My husband and I are expected to start stim drugs for IVF/ICSI on cd1 in mid-late January. This our first round, and have been struggling with infertility for 3 years. We are from Ontario, and so happy and fortunate that the government just passed a new bill to cover the cost of IVF. I've been so nervous and emotional lately (and not even on any drugs!!). I thought I would be super excited and overwhelmed with happiness when we found out about our IVF date, but I've been overwhelmed with nerves. I am really working on calming myself down so I can stay positive and create a safe place inside me for a little one! I've found that reading through some of your questions and answers has helped me see that were not alone.
@laurenray91 I find the fertility yoga vids on YogaGlo are super calming and help me connect to my purpose in this whole crazy ride. They are very gentle and pretty easy to do
Well ladies, the RE wants to do a testing cycle before agreeing to IVF and because our clinic only does IVF every other month we are relegated to clomid + IUI till MARCH, ugh
good luck to everyone in January! I will be lurking with jealousy
Me: 39 SO: 36
Dx: low progesterone, possible DOR - officially "unexplained"
TTC#1 since November 2015 9/16/2016 IUI#1 - BFN 10/12/2016 IUI#2 - BFN 1/21/2017 Clomid/IUI#3 - BFN March 2017 IVF: BFP! (beta#1 191, beta#2 378!) - it's a boy! DS born 12/6/2017
TTC #2 since July 2018 May 2019 IVF #2: BFP! (beta#1 346, beta#2 646) - vanishing twin at 8 weeks. Baby B still going strong - due 2/8/20!
Hi ladies! Looks like I will be starting the IVF process in January/February... We just had our consult this morning, (aka the "we'll go ahead and take ALL your money" talk, you know along with the other stuff about protocol and meds). As soon as AF shows up I'll go on BCP for suppression and then start with the meds. Depending on when AF shows up I guess I could start the "fun" part of this in Feb. Dr. wants to do an antagonist protocol and no fresh transfer since I'm at a risk for OHSS (thanks PCOS). I can't believe after almost 2 years of this we're finally at this point, even sitting at the consult this morning didn't feel quite real.....
Hi all! Nice to be a part of this group. I just had my mock transfer and sonohysterogram today - things are looking good. Our nurse consult is weds to learn about the road map and meds. This is my first IVF cycle, we will be starting in early Jan. I'm excited and scared. We had unexplained infertility for a while but just recently dx with endometriosis. We've been TTC for 3 yrs. Wishing everyone good luck!!
CP #1- due April 2017 lost 5.5 weeks cp #2- due May 2017 lost at 4.5 weeks iUI #1- BFN IUI #2-BFN IVF#1- transfer 2- BFP! Due October 2017 c/p#3 lost at 3.5 weeks
Sucks @PoeMasque but very possibly the IUI will work and you won't need to start this whole big painful process. Fx for your IUI!!!
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CP #1- due April 2017 lost 5.5 weeks cp #2- due May 2017 lost at 4.5 weeks iUI #1- BFN IUI #2-BFN IVF#1- transfer 2- BFP! Due October 2017 c/p#3 lost at 3.5 weeks
@rainbowwishes5 thanks for the positivity, I would have also been optimistic about the IUI cycle if we hadn't already done two (BFNs) and he hadn't told us that the odds are only 8% for couples with unexplained IF (we could do IUI with gonadotropins for an 18% chance, but then we would have to wait until May for IVF).
Me: 39 SO: 36
Dx: low progesterone, possible DOR - officially "unexplained"
TTC#1 since November 2015 9/16/2016 IUI#1 - BFN 10/12/2016 IUI#2 - BFN 1/21/2017 Clomid/IUI#3 - BFN March 2017 IVF: BFP! (beta#1 191, beta#2 378!) - it's a boy! DS born 12/6/2017
TTC #2 since July 2018 May 2019 IVF #2: BFP! (beta#1 346, beta#2 646) - vanishing twin at 8 weeks. Baby B still going strong - due 2/8/20!
@PoeMasque we did 2 w gonal-f and they were bfn that's why I moved on. But I do wonder if we just gave it that third try.....
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CP #1- due April 2017 lost 5.5 weeks cp #2- due May 2017 lost at 4.5 weeks iUI #1- BFN IUI #2-BFN IVF#1- transfer 2- BFP! Due October 2017 c/p#3 lost at 3.5 weeks
I'm planning IVF #2 in January but I don't have my calendar or protocol yet - waiting on AF which is very late at this point. I'm at the Navy clinic and I'm very lucky to get a 2nd try. RE told me to call once I get my period and the he'll decide what to do. Trying to focus on the holidays and spending time with family instead of IVF since it's a real downer!
Me: 37 / Hubs: 42 TTC: April 2013 DOR: AMH .3 - 1.31 (it varies); FSH: 5.1 Clinic NMCSD IUI #1 July/Aug 2016 IVF #1 Sep/Oct Microdose Lupron Protocol - IVF cancelled only 1 follicle IVF #2 Feb/Mar Antagonist protocol w/estrogen priming - 0 eggs retrieved (empty follicle syndrome) Donor Egg Cycle as soon as we find a match
Hey All! I'm on BCP now and have my baseline ultrasound on Friday. If all goes well, I will start stims on 12/29! This will be our first IVF cycle and we will do ICSI! I'm looking forward to seeing lots and lots of BFPs from this group!
About me: TTC#1: October 2015 dx: PCOS & MFI IUI #1 w/Femara + Ovidrel June 2016 ~ BFP July 2016: Blighted Ovum IUI #2 w/Femara + Ovidrel September 2016 ~BFN IUI #3 w/Femara + Ovidrel October 2016 ~BFN IUI #4 w/Femara + Ovidrel November 2016 ~BFN IVF with ICSI January 2017 ~BFN FET February 2017 ~BFN IVF with ICSI March 2017 ~BFP--Twins Due 12/8/17 Team Blue X 2!
Hey all! I also will be starting stim meds sometime in January! I am 28 and my husband is 27. I had a tumor at the age of 17 and had my uterus removed. We will be using a gestational carrier, my mother in law! ( lol I have a very close relationship with my MIL! haha) I have another lab draw on the 29th, hopefully I will be where I need to be in my cycle to start my process. This will be our first IVF.
I will begin estrogen priming Jan 10th with estimated retrieval Feb 2. AF came today, called the clinic and they want me to start estrogen after I ovulate. They don't want me on BCP because it suppresses ovaries and I need as many follicles as I can get!
Me: 37 / Hubs: 42 TTC: April 2013 DOR: AMH .3 - 1.31 (it varies); FSH: 5.1 Clinic NMCSD IUI #1 July/Aug 2016 IVF #1 Sep/Oct Microdose Lupron Protocol - IVF cancelled only 1 follicle IVF #2 Feb/Mar Antagonist protocol w/estrogen priming - 0 eggs retrieved (empty follicle syndrome) Donor Egg Cycle as soon as we find a match
Do you guys tell many people what you're going through? I've told close friends and some family, my husband doesn't want to tell his brothers but I know my SIL will ask me as they're visiting over the new year (she knew we were testing and on clomid over the summer). Anyway I enjoy reading everyone's posts my clinic takes things one step at a time to avoid getting overwhelmed but I think I'm just anxious to get started!
@PolythenePam - we've told select few, like some of our best friends who *TW* knew we had been pregnant last year before miscarrying. We eventually told our parents that we have to do ivf, and the basic info, but we're not telling them *when* we will be doing it...i wanted to keep some of the surprise alive if/when telling them that we are expecting!
edited to add-- not so much a trigger warning, but maybe a TMI warning....
Ugh, I've been recuperating from the worst stomach bug, but fortunately it seems to have hit hard and gone away. When someone asks if you want to hold their baby, soon after their baby has recovered from a bug that hit all the babies at daycare, maybe think twice, even when the baby is cute. It will jam its slobbery germ-filled hand into your mouth with no warning. Then you'll wake up with your body emptying out every which way it can. Not fun. Not pretty. Fortunately, the doctor doesn't think this will impact our IVF schedule.
@PoeMasque, I'm sorry to hear about the delay, but it sounds like your doctor is on top of things.
@PolythenePam, we've told just about everyone (except employers) that we are undergoing fertility treatment, but only close friends and family know that we have a January IVF cycle. I'll probably post a vague "give us your good energy and prayers!" post on social media when things are about to happen, and folks will know what I'm talking about. I just really wanted community support.
Me- 39 (turning 40 in April), TTC for the first time ever (since Jan 2015), low ovarian reserve
Married 3/14/14 to my wonderful wife, but her sperm count is rather low
TTC with frozen donor sperm and science
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs. 2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs. Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire. Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus! fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP! Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)
Hi all! I'm starting IVF round #2 in January. Currently on BCP and scheduled to start stims on 01/07 with a retrieval and day 3 fresh transfer sometime the week of 01/16. Hoping for a better result this time around!
we have a 3 year old so her entire stretch of being 2 we were asked when we're giving her a sibling. My husband once drunkenly replied that we were going to go home and try but most people know we are struggling by now as I've been saying "hopefully soon!!" for over 18 months. I've only told close friends and family about IVF though. We're doing single embryo and setting ourselves up that it may take awhile still so I don't want constant questions about if it's worked yet. Everyone who knows is good about giving us distance but support
@PolythenePam I've been pretty open with my good friends and immediate family (namely my mom) about what we've been going through. DH just told his parents a month or so ago where we are in the process and that we'd likely be doing IVF this year. I've found its helpful to have my close friends know what's going on, if only so they understand why I have been getting down at certain times etc.
Hi all, I hope it's ok to hop in and join you all. I will be starting IVF#2 in January, with an estimated retrieval date of February 12. Our first IVF ended horribly, with all 17 of our embryos arresting before day 5, so we ended up with nothing. There was also no reason given to us as to why that happened, other than possible egg or sperm quality issue. We tried antagonist protocol last time, but will be switching it up and trying long lupron this time around. The hope is that my ovaries will be more suppressed, and produce less eggs, thus hopefully better quality this time around. (They retrieved 30 eggs last time and I was borderline OHSS) I am supposed to start AF any day now, and will start bcp on day 2. January 11, I go in for my "Pre-lupron" ultrasound appointment, and then start injections shortly after.
And to add to the conversation about telling friends and family about what we are going through, DH and I have chosen to be extremely open about our journey thus far. It was easier for us, rather than getting the constant questions and opinions. We were ttc for a year without telling anyone, but once I *tw* had an ectopic pregnancy and had to have my tube removed, the cat was out of the bag. Since then, we have pretty much told our family everything about our infertility struggles.
Good luck to all you ladies who have already started or about to start a new cycle!
*TW, Child and loss mentioned*
Me: 28, DH: 28 Married February 2011 DS born October 2012 TTC #2 since April 2014 BFP February 2015, ectopic/ruptured, right tube removed RE consult January 2016 Secondary infertility, Severe MFI(double varicocele, low count, 0% morph) IUI- March 2016, BFN IVF #1- July/Aug 2016(Antagonist protocol), 30 eggs retrieved, 21 mature, 17 fertilized via ICSI, but 0 made it to blast IVF #2 in January/February 2017(Long lupron protocol)
@PolythenePam My husband and I at first were going to let people know about our IVF date, but once we got the call telling us the date, we wanted to be able to share our "surprise" with people once it was safe to. Sometimes I feel jeopardized by this whole process in a way that doesn't allow me to "enjoy" conception and finding out like many people are able to. So I'd like to savour the surprise part of it all when the time comes! Recently though, we decided to tell my Mom; I think I will need at least one other person close to me who I can rely on if I need support. And she has promised not to tell anyone
On the topic of telling people, we started small, with my mother, my close friends, his parents, and it spiraled a bit from there. It's hard to keep this all a secret. I had to tell one person from work so they knew why I had to leave early on failed cycle days. I swear it helps to talk about it. By not talking about it I didn't realize my close friend also had IVF and now we have one another to chat with about the day to days
Re: telling people: I found out (after the fact) that my husband had "warned" certain family members before thanksgiving to not ask me about when we were going to have a kid, giving the vague "it's taking longer than expected; it'll happen when it happens." and without going into too much detail. (still didn't stop his aunts from cornering me and "demanding" a "reason to have a baby naming or a bris before next thanksgiving!"...ugh...)
also, like @kangastein, you find out that so many people have fertility issues. I didn't know that a very close college friend had done many many cycles of ivf with donor eggs, before getting pregnant. It is nice to have someone who actually understands rather than just sympathizes.
@lady_grey thank you! I have such a wonderful mother in law! Will be a journey! haha
@polythenepam I choice to share our story. Some people would rather keep to themselves, but I find it therapeutic for me to talk about it. I have recently created a blog on facebook, creating baby jones. It really helps me to express my feelings by writing.
I told a select few close friends besides my mom and sister. My DH told his parents as well which I'm totally okay with. I've been ttc along with another friend who is trying for her 2nd. She struggled with the first so it was nice to have someone to share things with. My other friend was trying the same time as us and is almost 9 mos along. I told some other close friends in our group one night while we were out drinking- (it kind of slipped) but I might tell them we are delaying it until spring. If this doesn't work, I don't really want people asking me questions or knowing if it does work that I'm pregnant so early.
@patricej55 I was thinking the same thing about fudging the timeline for other people. In our case this cycle will just be egg retrieval and then a frozen transfer later. (I'm apparently a prime candidate for OHSS and we decided to be aggressive w the protocol to try and get as many eggs as possible, so a fresh transfer would be risky). I don't think I'm going to tell anyone when we do the transfer for the same reasons, I don't want the questions right off the bat about if it worked or not.
@JuliaGoolia719 I am in the same boat as you with the possibility of OHSS. Did you have a high AMH level? I have a feeling we'll end up having to do a freeze all with a later transfer. At first I was disappointed because like everyone here we want to be pregnant as soon as possible but since I have been pretty vocal about our struggles and IF treatment with friends and family I think it will be nice to have the timeline be up in the air a bit. The last thing I want is to have to tell people over and over again that it didn't work if our first transfer is a bust. FX that January goes well for both of us! Enjoy the holiday weekend!
Me: 29 DH: 44 DX: PCOS IUI #1, Nov 2016 - BFN IUI #2, Jan 2017 - BFN IVF #1, Feb 2017 - 22 eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, 14 Day-5 blasts to freeze FET #1, Feb 2018 -
So i got a little early christmas present and my biological mother's test results came back 2 weeks early! So i forwarded them to the genetics lab, and hopefully they're not closed all week next week. this may have just pushed my estimated timeline for ivf up by a couple weeks...woo-hoo!
Hi ladies! Mh and I are 31 and have been TTCIF just shy of two years. I was diagnosed with endometriosis at age 20 through a laparoscopy. We have been seeing a re for almost a year. We have done an HSG, 2 rounds of femera+timed intercourse+Ovidreil (wasn't successful). I then had another laparoscopy and hysteroscopy. We switched to gonal-f+low dose hcg+ovidriel+iui for three months with no success. We have taken the last two months off of medications but my cycles have been all wonky. Mh and I have been extremely fortunate to receive a grant for us to proceed with ivf treatment. We can't believe we are able to do this and that we are here.
I sound similar to @mandasand in that I have an appt on Jan 9th for cd19 bloodwork and starting estrogen, should be able to start stims around Jan 20 but I have a feeling that will be pushed back as I most likely will not have ovulated by the time they will expect me to. It doesn't sound like I will be on bcp either. I'm a little worried about hyperstiming as my last iui round I had 6 follicles and was in a good amount of discomfort for days following.
I have been a part of the bump community for the past two years but I have mostly been secluded to a private group with other ladies I met TTC at the same time as me. Hopefully you'll let me join you here as I travel down this unfamiliar road.
@PolythenePam As far as telling people.... I've been keeping it pretty much under wraps as much as possible. My husband and my mom know (my mom only because she lived with me) and my older sister. Other than that, I'd rather not have my friends and acquaintances know... there's already so much pressure during these cycles, I don't want the added stresses of people I work with or socialize with asking me how it's going (especially if it isn't going well!). That said, I kinda hit a wall last cycle.... I hadn't been active on any boards through this process or looking at any you tube vids, but one day, I came home and just started posting about my journey on a you tube channel.... I already have a channel with my sis for a hair growth journey, so maybe it's not so weird. Anyway, i find that pretty therapeutic..... i haven't promoted it or told any of my friends or family.... it's just for any seekers who stumble across it. so a bunch of strangers know but no one I know! Lol! of course y'all can see it if you want.... obviously you guys know I'm doing this! Lol
@Mando15 My AMH is 7, so pretty high (?). I have to admit I was actually pretty ok with not doing a fresh transfer, we booked a vacation with my best friends from HS for Spring Break and it will be nice to be able to go and relax with them and then start prepping for our frozen transfer after that. @caseyw8784 that's awesome news! I hope the lab is able to process the results quickly for you! @brela11 welcome! I'm new to this process too, I was really hoping something would change and we'd suddenly find our selves pregnant right before we started this process....but we're here and we have a plan and that's comforting too, at least for me! @dragonette505 ha! thank you! I admit I was nervous when I logged into the bump for the first time, I couldn't remember what my knot log in was 7 years ago!
@JuliaGoolia719 yeah I'm right there with you. Mine is currently 11, eek. I'm on Metformin now before I start stimming next month to hopefully help. We'll see. A vacation before FET sounds amazing. I wanted to do the same but since everything is OOP for us, there definitely isn't extra money for a vacation. I'm just anxious for AF to come so I can start BCP and get the ball rolling! So much waiting!
Me: 29 DH: 44 DX: PCOS IUI #1, Nov 2016 - BFN IUI #2, Jan 2017 - BFN IVF #1, Feb 2017 - 22 eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, 14 Day-5 blasts to freeze FET #1, Feb 2018 -
ER today- 8 eggs. Hopefully at least 1 will make it to blast and pass genetic screening. Anyone have a lower # like this?
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CP #1- due April 2017 lost 5.5 weeks cp #2- due May 2017 lost at 4.5 weeks iUI #1- BFN IUI #2-BFN IVF#1- transfer 2- BFP! Due October 2017 c/p#3 lost at 3.5 weeks
7 fertilized. I hope they make it to day 5 fx fx fx
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CP #1- due April 2017 lost 5.5 weeks cp #2- due May 2017 lost at 4.5 weeks iUI #1- BFN IUI #2-BFN IVF#1- transfer 2- BFP! Due October 2017 c/p#3 lost at 3.5 weeks
Re: January IVF
TTC#1 since November 2015
9/16/2016 IUI#1 - BFN
10/12/2016 IUI#2 - BFN
1/21/2017 Clomid/IUI#3 - BFN
March 2017 IVF: BFP! (beta#1 191, beta#2 378!) - it's a boy! DS born 12/6/2017
TTC #2 since July 2018
May 2019 IVF #2: BFP! (beta#1 346, beta#2 646) - vanishing twin at 8 weeks. Baby B still going strong - due 2/8/20!
good luck to everyone in January! I will be lurking with jealousy
TTC#1 since November 2015
9/16/2016 IUI#1 - BFN
10/12/2016 IUI#2 - BFN
1/21/2017 Clomid/IUI#3 - BFN
March 2017 IVF: BFP! (beta#1 191, beta#2 378!) - it's a boy! DS born 12/6/2017
TTC #2 since July 2018
May 2019 IVF #2: BFP! (beta#1 346, beta#2 646) - vanishing twin at 8 weeks. Baby B still going strong - due 2/8/20!
Hi ladies! Looks like I will be starting the IVF process in January/February... We just had our consult this morning, (aka the "we'll go ahead and take ALL your money" talk, you know along with the other stuff about protocol and meds). As soon as AF shows up I'll go on BCP for suppression and then start with the meds. Depending on when AF shows up I guess I could start the "fun" part of this in Feb. Dr. wants to do an antagonist protocol and no fresh transfer since I'm at a risk for OHSS (thanks PCOS). I can't believe after almost 2 years of this we're finally at this point, even sitting at the consult this morning didn't feel quite real.....
Together Let Us Seek the Heights
CP #1- due April 2017 lost 5.5 weeks
cp #2- due May 2017 lost at 4.5 weeks
iUI #1- BFN
IUI #2-BFN
IVF#1- transfer 2- BFP! Due October 2017 c/p#3 lost at 3.5 weeks
CP #1- due April 2017 lost 5.5 weeks
cp #2- due May 2017 lost at 4.5 weeks
iUI #1- BFN
IUI #2-BFN
IVF#1- transfer 2- BFP! Due October 2017 c/p#3 lost at 3.5 weeks
TTC#1 since November 2015
9/16/2016 IUI#1 - BFN
10/12/2016 IUI#2 - BFN
1/21/2017 Clomid/IUI#3 - BFN
March 2017 IVF: BFP! (beta#1 191, beta#2 378!) - it's a boy! DS born 12/6/2017
TTC #2 since July 2018
May 2019 IVF #2: BFP! (beta#1 346, beta#2 646) - vanishing twin at 8 weeks. Baby B still going strong - due 2/8/20!
CP #1- due April 2017 lost 5.5 weeks
cp #2- due May 2017 lost at 4.5 weeks
iUI #1- BFN
IUI #2-BFN
IVF#1- transfer 2- BFP! Due October 2017 c/p#3 lost at 3.5 weeks
@dragonette505 Thanks! I'll have to give that a try.
TTC: April 2013
DOR: AMH .3 - 1.31 (it varies); FSH: 5.1
Clinic NMCSD
IUI #1 July/Aug 2016
IVF #1 Sep/Oct Microdose Lupron Protocol - IVF cancelled only 1 follicle
IVF #2 Feb/Mar Antagonist protocol w/estrogen priming - 0 eggs retrieved (empty follicle syndrome)
Donor Egg Cycle as soon as we find a match
TTC#1: October 2015
dx: PCOS & MFI
IUI #1 w/Femara + Ovidrel June 2016 ~ BFP
July 2016: Blighted Ovum
IUI #2 w/Femara + Ovidrel September 2016 ~BFN
IUI #3 w/Femara + Ovidrel October 2016 ~BFN
IUI #4 w/Femara + Ovidrel November 2016 ~BFN
IVF with ICSI January 2017 ~BFN
FET February 2017 ~BFN
IVF with ICSI March 2017 ~BFP--Twins Due 12/8/17
Team Blue X 2!
Hey all! I also will be starting stim meds sometime in January! I am 28 and my husband is 27. I had a tumor at the age of 17 and had my uterus removed. We will be using a gestational carrier, my mother in law! ( lol I have a very close relationship with my MIL! haha) I have another lab draw on the 29th, hopefully I will be where I need to be in my cycle to start my process. This will be our first IVF.
TTC: April 2013
DOR: AMH .3 - 1.31 (it varies); FSH: 5.1
Clinic NMCSD
IUI #1 July/Aug 2016
IVF #1 Sep/Oct Microdose Lupron Protocol - IVF cancelled only 1 follicle
IVF #2 Feb/Mar Antagonist protocol w/estrogen priming - 0 eggs retrieved (empty follicle syndrome)
Donor Egg Cycle as soon as we find a match
Ugh, I've been recuperating from the worst stomach bug, but fortunately it seems to have hit hard and gone away. When someone asks if you want to hold their baby, soon after their baby has recovered from a bug that hit all the babies at daycare, maybe think twice, even when the baby is cute. It will jam its slobbery germ-filled hand into your mouth with no warning. Then you'll wake up with your body emptying out every which way it can. Not fun. Not pretty. Fortunately, the doctor doesn't think this will impact our IVF schedule.
@PoeMasque, I'm sorry to hear about the delay, but it sounds like your doctor is on top of things.
@PolythenePam, we've told just about everyone (except employers) that we are undergoing fertility treatment, but only close friends and family know that we have a January IVF cycle. I'll probably post a vague "give us your good energy and prayers!" post on social media when things are about to happen, and folks will know what I'm talking about. I just really wanted community support.
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs.
2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs.
Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire.
Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus!
fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP!
Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)
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TW **
we have a 3 year old so her entire stretch of being 2 we were asked when we're giving her a sibling. My husband once drunkenly replied that we were going to go home and try
@PolythenePam I've been pretty open with my good friends and immediate family (namely my mom) about what we've been going through. DH just told his parents a month or so ago where we are in the process and that we'd likely be doing IVF this year. I've found its helpful to have my close friends know what's going on, if only so they understand why I have been getting down at certain times etc.
Together Let Us Seek the Heights
I will be starting IVF#2 in January, with an estimated retrieval date of February 12.
Our first IVF ended horribly, with all 17 of our embryos arresting before day 5, so we ended up with nothing. There was also no reason given to us as to why that happened, other than possible egg or sperm quality issue.
We tried antagonist protocol last time, but will be switching it up and trying long lupron this time around. The hope is that my ovaries will be more suppressed, and produce less eggs, thus hopefully better quality this time around. (They retrieved 30 eggs last time and I was borderline OHSS)
I am supposed to start AF any day now, and will start bcp on day 2. January 11, I go in for my "Pre-lupron" ultrasound appointment, and then start injections shortly after.
And to add to the conversation about telling friends and family about what we are going through, DH and I have chosen to be extremely open about our journey thus far. It was easier for us, rather than getting the constant questions and opinions. We were ttc for a year without telling anyone, but once I *tw* had an ectopic pregnancy and had to have my tube removed, the cat was out of the bag. Since then, we have pretty much told our family everything about our infertility struggles.
Good luck to all you ladies who have already started or about to start a new cycle!
Me: 28, DH: 28
Married February 2011
DS born October 2012
TTC #2 since April 2014
BFP February 2015, ectopic/ruptured, right tube removed
RE consult January 2016
Secondary infertility, Severe MFI(double varicocele, low count, 0% morph)
IUI- March 2016, BFN
IVF #1- July/Aug 2016(Antagonist protocol), 30 eggs retrieved, 21 mature,
17 fertilized via ICSI, but 0 made it to blast
IVF #2 in January/February 2017(Long lupron protocol)
@PolythenePam My husband and I at first were going to let people know about our IVF date, but once we got the call telling us the date, we wanted to be able to share our "surprise" with people once it was safe to. Sometimes I feel jeopardized by this whole process in a way that doesn't allow me to "enjoy" conception and finding out like many people are able to. So I'd like to savour the surprise part of it all when the time comes! Recently though, we decided to tell my Mom; I think I will need at least one other person close to me who I can rely on if I need support. And she has promised not to tell anyone
also, like @kangastein, you find out that so many people have fertility issues. I didn't know that a very close college friend had done many many cycles of ivf with donor eggs, before getting pregnant. It is nice to have someone who actually understands rather than just sympathizes.
@lady_grey thank you! I have such a wonderful mother in law! Will be a journey! haha
@polythenepam I choice to share our story. Some people would rather keep to themselves, but I find it therapeutic for me to talk about it. I have recently created a blog on facebook, creating baby jones. It really helps me to express my feelings by writing.
Together Let Us Seek the Heights
FX that January goes well for both of us! Enjoy the holiday weekend!
DX: PCOS
IUI #1, Nov 2016 - BFN
IUI #2, Jan 2017 - BFN
IVF #1, Feb 2017 - 22 eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, 14 Day-5 blasts to freeze
FET #1, Feb 2018 -
I sound similar to @mandasand in that I have an appt on Jan 9th for cd19 bloodwork and starting estrogen, should be able to start stims around Jan 20 but I have a feeling that will be pushed back as I most likely will not have ovulated by the time they will expect me to. It doesn't sound like I will be on bcp either. I'm a little worried about hyperstiming as my last iui round I had 6 follicles and was in a good amount of discomfort for days following.
I have been a part of the bump community for the past two years but I have mostly been secluded to a private group with other ladies I met TTC at the same time as me. Hopefully you'll let me join you here as I travel down this unfamiliar road.
so a bunch of strangers know but no one I know! Lol!
of course y'all can see it if you want.... obviously you guys know I'm doing this! Lol
@caseyw8784 that's awesome news! I hope the lab is able to process the results quickly for you!
@brela11 welcome! I'm new to this process too, I was really hoping something would change and we'd suddenly find our selves pregnant right before we started this process....but we're here and we have a plan and that's comforting too, at least for me!
@dragonette505 ha! thank you! I admit I was nervous when I logged into the bump for the first time, I couldn't remember what my knot log in was 7 years ago!
Together Let Us Seek the Heights
DX: PCOS
IUI #1, Nov 2016 - BFN
IUI #2, Jan 2017 - BFN
IVF #1, Feb 2017 - 22 eggs retrieved, 18 fertilized, 14 Day-5 blasts to freeze
FET #1, Feb 2018 -
CP #1- due April 2017 lost 5.5 weeks
cp #2- due May 2017 lost at 4.5 weeks
iUI #1- BFN
IUI #2-BFN
IVF#1- transfer 2- BFP! Due October 2017 c/p#3 lost at 3.5 weeks
CP #1- due April 2017 lost 5.5 weeks
cp #2- due May 2017 lost at 4.5 weeks
iUI #1- BFN
IUI #2-BFN
IVF#1- transfer 2- BFP! Due October 2017 c/p#3 lost at 3.5 weeks