Come out lurkers

CherryBananas · December 2016

Hey all

I posted quite a bit when we first started up but once I passed my previous loss date I started to disengage. I didn't feel like I could handle getting too involved if I lost this pregnancy as well.

Fortunately, this baby is still doing amazing and I'm feeling more confident now! Will you take me back?!

MelThu · December 2016

Lurker here. Sorry!!! My life is just crazy with an 19-month old, full time job, and crazy-busy life. Just trying to keep my head above water. Most days I just pop on and then get busy/distracted and have to jump off before I can finish reading. Sorry!!! I'm still here though.

pshaortao · December 2016

Okay I'm doing a second round now of bringing out some lurkers if possible because we would love to have you here! If you already responded to this thread then I sincerely apologize! I just did a sweep through the spreadsheet because I am incredibly bored during DD's nap time, am all caught up on TV, need to avoid online shopping and whatnot.

So with that said.. I will tag a bunch of ladies that seem to be around but rarely or not participating? My only intention from this is just to get a hi from you, that's it! How are you doing these days? Is life too busy to keep up at the moment or is something else holding you back? I know some ladies are more cautious to join in. If you really don't feel comfortable to respond (if you do see this), then don't worry about it! Or if you really want me to remove your name from here, just send me a private message and I will honor your request.

Here we go...
@Frostfair
@blueberry312
@EmaMc
@misslennon
@RacheleLynn12
@FlyChick
@lageorgiapaperie
@alicia7139
@slam1110
@lizzyfroggy
@gingerengr
@mamasmurf12
@awoo22
@amh369
@awebsteWed218778
@Shopaholic
@SKZW
@NewbySweet
@semisobin
@lilly91613
@Kelrauh
@ann_jeremiah
@dinagee
@MelThu

slevenst · December 2016

Guilty! I'm not on the spreadsheet...but will post to be added. I did finally post today, somewhat encouraged by this post

I see how interactive everyone is on here and know I can't keep up. But I'm here! And I'm reading! And I do have some questions that I just may be brave enough to ask now!

lildropofheavn23 · December 2016

I'm totally guilty of being a lurker! I just love reading everyone's comments. By the time, I get to respond, the conversation is over or moved onto something new. I'm a STM with a 21month old DD. We have our anatmoy scan on Wednesday so I cannot wait for that. I feel like doing this the 2nd time, I'm not as aware this time around. By that, I mean, i'm too busy to remember I'm pregnant with a toddler running around LOL - I think finding out boys or girl and thinking of names will make it more real for me so I can say, "wow, I'm having another baby!"

redheeler · December 2016

Jumping in to say Hi! I started a few threads when the board started, since then I've only been posting in private groups and rarely remember to check here! I should come back but I always forget! Plus I'm on the other side of the world so most of you are going to bed by the time I get here to check in.

pshaortao · December 2016

@PartiallyDomesticated hi! I had wondered about you since your profile shows a lot of lovetits and comments but I can't see the history. Its so weird! We have a mama in Singapore in my other group so it can be tough to keep up but she does check in every now and then. I hope you will continue to stick around

redheeler · December 2016

@pshaortao Yeah the private groups show history really strangely, but thats why

I do lurk around on here a little to try and keep up with the few people I recognise from the early weeks and especially those I recognise from TTGP, I will try harder to jump in and post more often now though!

sarah0985 · December 2016

To those that are afraid of not participating enough, I'm like @partiallydomesticated (Hiiiii!!!!) and on the other side of the world. I'm 10 hours ahead of central time and my work week is Sunday-Thursday. I generally jump in Wednesday-Saturday and no one gets on me for not being here constantly. Even if you. Can only get on a few times, no one is going to chastise you

KMD1106 · December 2016

@JonesBaby0624 hasn't posted in a few days. Did I miss something from her? Hope all is well!

sls · December 2016

pshaortao said:

lovetits

Heh. Heheh. Heheheheh.

HLD3194 · December 2016

Was kind of active at first and backed off...I think after getting a clear a/s I'm more comfortable participating - So Hi everyone!

mcvgal · December 2016

KMD1106 said:

@JonesBaby0624 hasn't posted in a few days. Did I miss something from her? Hope all is well!

I was wondering about her too.

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot · December 2016

mcvgal said:

KMD1106 said:

@JonesBaby0624 hasn't posted in a few days. Did I miss something from her? Hope all is well!

I was wondering about her too.

She's in the FB group. Maybe @Jen_Shoes has seen her around there?

slam1110 · December 2016

Hi Ladies! Thanks for the tag, I am still here! Like a lot of the others, I posted more in the beginning. I only bump at work and now that work is getting busy again, I don't have much time to respond and to participate in the convos. But I will definitely make more of an effort again! All is well here with baby #3. We have our anatomy scan this Friday, looking forward to that!

JonesBaby0624 · December 2016

@KMD1106, @mcvgal, & @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot I have had a lot going on and I have been distant.

The end of the semester is always really busy.

I have been working a second job for a couple months and just found out my 10 year hasn't been dealing with it well and it has really impacted his grades, which are highly important in our household. So, I am having to quit that. I feel like I really let me son down.

The June 2016 FB group I have been a part of for a year, split because of the election. Many of us had gotten very close and met IRL. I haven't lost any friends in the situation, because I kept my mouth shut, but many friendships have been fractured and lost. It has been emotionally draining. I just haven't had a lot of support to give lately! I hope that makes sense. I did make some comments in the name post and Wednesday ticker change last week.

I just didn't want to be here sucking out support without any to give back. I have been a lurker lately!

I've just kind of been an emotional mess lately! I will try to participate more!

pshaortao · December 2016

@JonesBaby0624 I'm glad you're doing okay! You can vent here all you want, we're here for you

I hope your kiddo is adjusting somehow and that it gets better for him. And so sorry to hear about the split in your group. Mine went through a split as well and it was hard since I didn't know what the hell was happening. A 2nd group ended up being formed and it's awkward because some of us that are in both forget what got posted in which group. Hopefully y'all find a good new normal and can stay in touch.

pshaortao · December 2016

@JonesBaby0624 I'm glad you're doing okay! You can vent here all you want, we're here for you

I hope your kiddo is adjusting somehow and that it gets better for him. And so sorry to hear about the split in your group. Mine went through a split as well and it was hard since I didn't know what the hell was happening. A 2nd group ended up being formed and it's awkward because some of us that are in both forget what got posted in which group. Hopefully y'all find a good new normal and can stay in touch.

mrsrep123 · December 2016

@JonesBaby0624 that does sound like a lot on your plate. Hope it all resolves soon. No I don't think you let your son down as you're trying to make it all work and as you learned of his grades, you took action and let go of the 2nd job. You also seem like a very conscientious person and please don't be distant when you need support... yes, this is a give and take situation... but you've given a lot!

JonesBaby0624 · December 2016

@pshaortao thank you! I am one of those people that draws inward when things get tough. I appreciate your support though!!

My son is feeling better since Heath came home from RI this weekend. I think he was feeling very alone and he is very close to his future step dad. I think the next couple weeks, Heath will be here for 3 weeks, will be very therapeutic for all of us.

JonesBaby0624 · December 2016

Thank you @mrsrep123! He wasn't telling anyone how he was feeling. I was driving to work when I talked to one of his teachers. I walked in and quit that night. He is my priority and I will not let him falter because of my actions.

Thank you for your kind comment. I think I needed a soft place to fall and Heath was that, when he got here Saturday. I sobbed for almost an hour.

kelrauh · December 2016

I am guilty of lurking on this board and not posting too much. I am a May 2017 mom but I have been posting a lot in the pregnant after infertility board. I am sure as things progress I will be more active on this board.

jayandaplus · December 2016

Hello! I'm not quite a lurker, since I've posted a couple times, but I definitely started out just lurking and read far more than I post. At first it was hard navigating which board to be part of (trimester 2, pregnant after infertility, etc.) but I am loving this group! I'm trying to be more active and no longer lurk! I'm happy to have found you all.

geoffandjen728 · December 2016

Hi! I'm in and out, sometimes posting, sometimes lurking, sometimes too busy to remember to check in. It's a whole different world with #3! I can't even remember how many weeks along I am most days

I even dropped the ball on Christmas cards this year! Ay yay yay

WxM941 · December 2016

Personally I stay more inside the "lurker" box because I generally don't like sharing too much personal information. I had to start a new account after being stalked on my last one. But I very much enjoy following along with different groups.

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot · December 2016

WxM941 said:

Personally I stay more inside the "lurker" box because I generally don't like sharing too much personal information. I had to start a new account after being stalked on my last one. But I very much enjoy following along with different groups.

Stalked?!?! Do tell. We love a good bump drama.

blueberry312 · December 2016

I'm in this same boat. FTM and just feeling like I'm more curious about what others are going through rather than having something valuable to share. Also, I've never participated in a board like this before so I get nervous about whether I am "doing it wrong."

But I've enjoyed lurking and occasionally commenting so far and I'm very excited about my pregnancy. We got our BFP on our first month trying so that was definitely a shock. Now I'm almost 21w. The pregnancy is going well although I got scolded at my last checkup for gaining too much weight in the last month (9 lb)--soo embarrassing! But I swear it was all water retention from eating a sodium fest at Chick Fil A the night before. Of course 2 days later, when my dr wasn't looking, I was back down 4 lb! :P

WxM941 · December 2016

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot said:

WxM941 said:

Personally I stay more inside the "lurker" box because I generally don't like sharing too much personal information. I had to start a new account after being stalked on my last one. But I very much enjoy following along with different groups.

Stalked?!?! Do tell. We love a good bump drama.

Another member was sending almost 50 private messages a day, some with screenshots from various FB profiles asking if it was me because they would find me eventually. Reporting posts and comments all the time. Even started several different accounts to keep it up after the initial one was deactivated. Thankfully I knew enough before that started to keep information super general to begin with to avoid a real life stalker.

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot · December 2016

WxM941 said:

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot said:

WxM941 said:

Personally I stay more inside the "lurker" box because I generally don't like sharing too much personal information. I had to start a new account after being stalked on my last one. But I very much enjoy following along with different groups.

Stalked?!?! Do tell. We love a good bump drama.

Another member was sending almost 50 private messages a day, some with screenshots from various FB profiles asking if it was me because they would find me eventually. Reporting posts and comments all the time. Even started several different accounts to keep it up after the initial one was deactivated. Thankfully I knew enough before that started to keep information super general to begin with to avoid a real life stalker.

Holy cow. That's nuts! I'm sorry you experienced that. It sounds like a pain.

rschroe8 · December 2016

MelThu said:

Lurker here. Sorry!!! My life is just crazy with an 19-month old, full time job, and crazy-busy life. Just trying to keep my head above water. Most days I just pop on and then get busy/distracted and have to jump off before I can finish reading. Sorry!!! I'm still here though.

Same here! I feel for you, I barely have time to join in discussions on here, which apparently resulted in me being deleted from the master spreadsheet. Sorry, I have a life beyond the internet!

pshaortao · December 2016

@rschroe8 sorry about that! We had quite a few people that just added themselves without participating and several more that got added early on but haven't logged on or participated for a couple months. So I pretty much removed all those people. I'd be happy to add you back if you'd like.

megmont89 · December 2016

Hello all. I am a non lurker I just remembered I could joint the discussion. I had to wait the 72 hr period and then never came back. Im glad I accidentally clicked the forum page tonight!

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