Come out lurkers

pshaortao

I sense we have quite a few lurkers that come on here and read what's going on without participating. Come out, say hello! I'm only starting this because I check on the inactive ladies on the spreadsheet and I see a few people will have logged in recently but have not said anything on any threads in over a month. I have removed quite a few people based on last log in and low activity level combined.

So.. say hi! We'd love to have you here!

RainyDays86

I will add that I barely posted and was a big-time lurker on my last BMB. I was too nervous to post until we were out of the first tri and then I felt like it was too late. I really regretted not feeling comfortable jumping into relevant conversations. So definitely jump in and say hi!

Jens_Hoes

@pshaortao love the name of this thread

kaley04

Hi. Lurker here. I'm very hesitant posting as I was on the J 14 board with the cat fishing. It was pretty crazy. I enjoy reading that people are going through the same things as me and enjoy the advice. I will say I found a small group of ladies and we still keep in touch with our littles so that is encouraging. 

I'm also still dealing with "morning" sickness that gets worse at night and throwing up doesn't start till evening. When I could post, I'm usually throwing up. 

SparkySunDevil

kaley04 said:

Hi. Lurker here. I'm very hesitant posting as I was on the J 14 board with the cat fishing. It was pretty crazy. I enjoy reading that people are going through the same things as me and enjoy the advice. I will say I found a small group of ladies and we still keep in touch with our littles so that is encouraging. 

I'm also still dealing with "morning" sickness that gets worse at night and throwing up doesn't start till evening. When I could post, I'm usually throwing up. 

I was in that group too. That catfish business was crazy 

pshaortao

I remember a bunch of us in s14 talking about it as it was going on. We were all like gif eating popcorn. Its crazy and one of the reasons why I don't want to join hogwash until much closer to may.

Anyways, welcome! I definitely hope we won't end up with a catfisher here. I havent heard of any others since?

KMD1106

@kaley04 I somehow didn't hear of that. Can you recap what happened?

@RainyDays86 I was like you, a lurker in my first bmb. I barely knew anyone until I joined the FB group at the end of our pregnancies. I very much with I had started participating earlier. I really encourage any lurkers to jump in! It's still a pretty new group and we're all getting to know each other! 

roper2617

Now I'm curious about this J14 cat fishing! Anyone able to appease my curiosity? 

mcvgal

SparkySunDevil said:

kaley04 said:

Hi. Lurker here. I'm very hesitant posting as I was on the J 14 board with the cat fishing. It was pretty crazy. I enjoy reading that people are going through the same things as me and enjoy the advice. I will say I found a small group of ladies and we still keep in touch with our littles so that is encouraging. 

I'm also still dealing with "morning" sickness that gets worse at night and throwing up doesn't start till evening. When I could post, I'm usually throwing up. 

I was in that group too. That catfish business was crazy 

I was in that group too

mcvgal

Someone linked the whole catfishing thread in the early days of this BMB, but a quick recap is that one of the most active members in J14 was totally made up. If I recall she ended up being a young girl with lots of time on her hands. The scary part was she posted pics of her kids and told stories like they were real. She had stolen someone else's picture and even stolen random kids pictures online. She also started GTKY threads that I'm hind sight revealed personal answers.

chickyclg

mcvgal said:

Someone linked the whole catfishing thread in the early days of this BMB, but a quick recap is that one of the most active members in J14 was totally made up. If I recall she ended up being a young girl with lots of time on her hands. The scary part was she posted pics of her kids and told stories like they were real. She had stolen someone else's picture and even stolen random kids pictures online. She also started GTKY threads that I'm hind sight revealed personal answers.

Weren't they stolen twin pictures and she had a whole story about their NICU stay?

KMD1106

Scary! We had some drama in S13. One lady ended up lying about some stuff, but at least she was a legitimate s13 mom! 

pshaortao

@marissy8 I saw your comment on the other thread, come say hi here

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot

@pshaortao It took me forever to figure out what you meant by "hogwash".  Ahahahahaha. Now imagine the Harry Potter theme slowly creeping into the background. Pregnancy brain has made me super slow. 

pshaortao

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot said:

@pshaortao It took me forever to figure out what you meant by "hogwash".  Ahahahahaha. Now imagine the Harry Potter theme slowly creeping into the background. Pregnancy brain has made me super slow. 

Omg hogwash damn autocorrect and I didn't even notice

CClark2014

I blame my lurkerness on my PGAL brain and heart.   Like I could talk myself into not being as attached if something went wrong.   Really bad logic I know.  But like @kaley04 being able to come on here and see others experiencing similar things gave me a lot of relief.  I keep saying I'm going to join in, but then I second guess myself thinking that it was too late.  

On on a positive note, we have passed our loss date and found out on thanksgiving day that we are having a baby girl.  Every day it seems more and more real. 

pshaortao

It's never too late to start participating. The more the merrier!

I lurked a lot earlier on in my last BMB because I didn't really feel like I had much to contribute as a FTM. Fortunately, I participated enough to be part of our amazing fb group thats going on strong and I can't imagine life without them now.

BeachMommy2B

I'm a lurker that recently came out of the woodwork, so you might have seen me on a couple posts. I posted s mini intro in the randoms. I'm actually due April 29th but feel like I'm going through things at the same time as a lot of you rather than the April board. And can related more to the posts here. 

livin541

I feel like I am a semi-lurker too, and similar to some of you ladies I very rarely posted on my last BMB. I'm not always able to check in for more than a minute or two, and by the time I get back the conversation has often moved on! Trying to post more though so I can feel more like part of the community this time around. I feel like we have very balanced group so far, although I personally wouldn't mind a little more snark Makes for fun reading!

edited because I also suck at typing on mobile and am anal about typos 

mrsmctaggart6

Kinda lurker, I post when it's relevant but when some of the posts hit 100+ before I get back to them I just don't have the attention span anymore, lol, not a catfish, promise, I don't have the energy for that crap

annhepp

Hello!!  17w, having a baby girl. My oldest is a boy and I have two girls, too. Having a harder, but not unbearable pregnancy. Part of it is chasing 3 odd 6 and under and part of it is being "older". I'll be 41 when DD arrives. This is a very special rainbow baby and we couldn't be more excited. 

KMD1106

BeachMommy2B said:

I'm a lurker that recently came out of the woodwork, so you might have seen me on a couple posts. I posted s mini intro in the randoms. I'm actually due April 29th but feel like I'm going through things at the same time as a lot of you rather than the April board. And can related more to the posts here. 

I posted in S13 with my daughter, and was due 8/30. She ended up being born 8/23, but I'm so so happy I stuck around the September group. Those ladies are honestly some of my closest friends now. I picked initially because I felt like I was going through the same things and stayed because I just liked the vibe in Sept better. 

SparkySunDevil

chickyclg said:

mcvgal said:

Someone linked the whole catfishing thread in the early days of this BMB, but a quick recap is that one of the most active members in J14 was totally made up. If I recall she ended up being a young girl with lots of time on her hands. The scary part was she posted pics of her kids and told stories like they were real. She had stolen someone else's picture and even stolen random kids pictures online. She also started GTKY threads that I'm hind sight revealed personal answers.

Weren't they stolen twin pictures and she had a whole story about their NICU stay?

No twins. The truth came out before we started having our babies. She was in a same sex marriage. I think I recall her wife cheating. Fuzzy on that detail. She was using pictures of some ladies kid and passing it off as her own. It was a whole thing. I created a whole new profile with this pregnancy. My old profile name had my last name in it (stupid of me). 

WombThereItIs

Oh I remember lurking back on the J14 drama! I was N14 with my first. It was a pretty good balance of bitchy and chill. Everyone kind of lost their minds though when we transitioned to Hogwarts and people split up into various houses. Kind of explains why I'm weary about accepting my letter too early. 

bgrant172

Hello! I am definitely a lurker, although I have posted a small handful of times. I really like seeing what's going on with everyone and knowing that I'm not going through most of this stuff on my own but when it comes to posting I have some kind of a mental block. I often think I have something worthwhile to contribute but end up putting it off and either forgetting or then feeling like it's too late. 
I also do have a 16 month old son and am still struggling with all day nausea so a lot of time when I plan to write a response I end of laying in bed doing absolutely nothing instead. I hope to be more active as time goes on but in the meantime I am glad to be a part (albeit a small one) of this group. 

chickyclg

SparkySunDevil said:

chickyclg said:

mcvgal said:

Someone linked the whole catfishing thread in the early days of this BMB, but a quick recap is that one of the most active members in J14 was totally made up. If I recall she ended up being a young girl with lots of time on her hands. The scary part was she posted pics of her kids and told stories like they were real. She had stolen someone else's picture and even stolen random kids pictures online. She also started GTKY threads that I'm hind sight revealed personal answers.

Weren't they stolen twin pictures and she had a whole story about their NICU stay?

No twins. The truth came out before we started having our babies. She was in a same sex marriage. I think I recall her wife cheating. Fuzzy on that detail. She was using pictures of some ladies kid and passing it off as her own. It was a whole thing. I created a whole new profile with this pregnancy. My old profile name had my last name in it (stupid of me). 

These are the reasons I have serious stranger danger about joining FB this soon.  I remember one about twins, and there was another one where people were donating money and the overseer stole it all.  There are just too many crazies these days.

roper2617

@mcvgal Oh yes, I remember this convo from the early days now. I'm blaming that forgetful moment on pregnancy brain lol 

sarah0985

BeachMommy2B said:

I'm a lurker that recently came out of the woodwork, so you might have seen me on a couple posts. I posted s mini intro in the randoms. I'm actually due April 29th but feel like I'm going through things at the same time as a lot of you rather than the April board. And can related more to the posts here. 

My due date is April 29 as well. I joined with an Edd of May 1 and when I found out I just didn't want to switch. You'll still be welcome here!

Megbot3300

Hello, lurker here. I'm 18+3 today and still can't believe this pregnancy is real. I've had 2 previous early losses and didn't make it past 9 weeks before. This pregnancy has been so easy with no symptoms except some minor cramping and back pain for a few days early on. I've been scared to get too invested in case this one doesn't make it either. I know my fears are unwarranted as every check up has been perfect thus far but I can't get the thought out of my head. I use my fetal doppler every few days to hear that perfect heartbeat but still haven't felt any movement which I know is normal for a FTM at this point but my fears still tell me something is wrong. Sometimes I think it helps to read what other moms are experiencing and sometimes it makes me feel like I'm not on track. Bottom line is I lurk because I'm scared and I don't want to jinx this by getting comfortable with posting. Maybe after my anatomy scan on Dec 9th I'll settle these bad feelings and join in more often.

nda_roxybabe

@Megbot3300 Hey! I'm sorry to hear about the previous losses, that would make it so hard to feel comfortable. Your scan is this week, exactly one week before mine! Woohoo! I bet it'll be perfect and I hope you'll join in more  

SparkySunDevil

chickyclg said:

SparkySunDevil said:

chickyclg said:

mcvgal said:

Someone linked the whole catfishing thread in the early days of this BMB, but a quick recap is that one of the most active members in J14 was totally made up. If I recall she ended up being a young girl with lots of time on her hands. The scary part was she posted pics of her kids and told stories like they were real. She had stolen someone else's picture and even stolen random kids pictures online. She also started GTKY threads that I'm hind sight revealed personal answers.

Weren't they stolen twin pictures and she had a whole story about their NICU stay?

No twins. The truth came out before we started having our babies. She was in a same sex marriage. I think I recall her wife cheating. Fuzzy on that detail. She was using pictures of some ladies kid and passing it off as her own. It was a whole thing. I created a whole new profile with this pregnancy. My old profile name had my last name in it (stupid of me). 

These are the reasons I have serious stranger danger about joining FB this soon.  I remember one about twins, and there was another one where people were donating money and the overseer stole it all.  There are just too many crazies these days.

Oh, I remember that one too!!! Crazy, crazy stuff. 

kaley04

I remember the cat fishing to be way more involved. She was a very active poster. Shared very intimate details about her "children and wife". She started many GTKY threads with information seeking questions. She was posting pictures in the HDBD that she stole from some one. The group that figured out she was a fake contacted the girl that she was stealing pictures from and let her know. I didn't think it was until after people partnered up for birthing buddies and shared actual phone numbers and address did people start to figure it out. I guess the give away was that her "wife" came on and started sharing but the bumpies figured out it was the same person because the language/style was the same as the original poster. People on the board started trying to remove their pictures and information but due to Bump rules it was too late. 

I will I'll say again that I found a small group of friends from here that I still talk to.  We became Facebook friends and share often. It is nice to have friends that have kids the same age so you can compare notes. 

mommachanner

Lurker here! I've got a 11 month old running around and I work full time. I had awful morning sickness that just recently ended. I login and start reading. Then get distracted and never finish reading threads or posts! 

newmamaro

Semi lurker here. I was also on the J14 board but as a total lurker. I've been mostly a lurker this time around just due to the fact that I'm not able to get on all the time. I try to at least post on the Friday thread, and am trying to get more active. I intro'd at the beginning in intro thread. For the sake of this thread though, I'm currently 18w2d with baby #2, due May 5. I previously had a MMC in May which probably has made me more apprehensive with posting a lot too early as well. DS was a J14 baby. I've had a SCH most of this pregnancy, hoping at the anatomy scan Tuesday that it's gone. I'm ready to get back to doing yoga and be off pelvic rest! 

MrsOry5

lol I've quit posting because all of my buttons to post or like or do anything were gone......so I had to read the posts, then there was non button to reply. I just figured out it was because I had accidentally  logged out!

lulubemadness

Bloop. I post when I'm able to. we can get -kickd out'  for not participating enough????

pshaortao

@lulubemadness Oh no, not at all! I know some mamas are busy, with full time jobs (and some with kids on top of that) and some may only post on weekends, which is totally understandable! No hard feelings there It's just that I saw quite a few names on the spreadsheet that have been logged in the last week, made the effort to put their names on the spreadsheet but have not said hi or barely participated. I posted this thread with the hope that maybe some will come out and say hi. Those who don't would however not get the opportunity to be in a private Hogwarts group later down the road just because we don't know who they are. 

lulubemadness

pshaortao said:

@lulubemadness Oh no, not at all! I know some mamas are busy, with full time jobs (and some with kids on top of that) and some may only post on weekends, which is totally understandable! No hard feelings there It's just that I saw quite a few names on the spreadsheet that have been logged in the last week, made the effort to put their names on the spreadsheet but have not said hi or barely participated. I posted this thread with the hope that maybe some will come out and say hi. Those who don't would however not get the opportunity to be in a private Hogwarts group later down the road just because we don't know who they are. 

Lol oh okay speaking of which our Barnes and nobles book store are having a Harry Potter inspired yule ball this month it's gonna be a magical masquerade ball in a book store!  I'm not a over the moon HP fan but I am SO  excited  I really wanna go!! 
I've been sick lately though (suks being sick while pregnos with a cold...)  I don't think it'd be very lovely hacking up a lung at a masquerade  ball.....

n&a0630

I'm back! I had to get busy with my two online classes and so that, combined with other the other things of life, kept me away from here (and sleep!). But I only have one week of classes left and I'm ready to be back! 
My baby is growing strong and every week I can't believe I've made it to another week! We are so excited. Our 19 week ultrasound is this Thursday. 

SWoodd2012

Guess I'd qualify as a lurker since I very rarely post. Sorry for that; not very social in general. plus all the acronyms really throw me off so I find myself googling more than anything. I've really enjoyed all the information and personal experiences. it helps to "hear" what others have gone through. this is my first pregnancy but I've got 2 lovely  monsters at home (plus hubby) so they keep me busy and on my toes.   

llenadevida900

I'm totally guilty of being a 100% lurker. Now 99%. I love enjoying the community but I guess I feel like I don't have much to say. Well, my bmb with DD was full of FTMs like me (so I really felt like I had nothing to say) this is full of seasoned pros. Hooray! FWIW i love the banter. Maybe I'll start participating more.