Just wanted to RANT!!!

Momofboys · December 2016

Im currently pregnant with baby #4. I have 3 boys and my co-workers are finding out im pregnant but it pisses me off when they say oh she just gonna have a house full of boys boys boys and im like what if i do.. I hope i get a girl so they can shut it and I can be like what happened to your little comment about all boys?? I know im just ranting over NOTHING i guess i can blame it on the hormones.. LOL

jennas312 · December 2016

Tell them to stfu

BellaO21 · December 2016

I get it! My MIL and DH whole side of the family wouldn't shut up about how I shouldn't get my hopes up for a girl because their whole family "only has boys"... you can imagine the joy I felt telling them that we are in fact having a girl! Lol

Assiram42 · December 2016

I think it's inevitable that people will make comments however inappropriate. People automatically assumed we were trying for a boy, so the comments when we found out we were having a boy were quite annoying, as if we wouldn't have been thrilled with a girl.

People also assume if you have one of each then you can be done, people just interject when they need not to.

Momofboys · December 2016

BellaO21 said:

I get it! My MIL and DH whole side of the family wouldn't shut up about how I shouldn't get my hopes up for a girl because their whole family "only has boys"... you can imagine the joy I felt telling them that we are in fact having a girl! Lol

I'm sure you shut them up!! BAAM!!! A GIRL... Thank you very much and congrats. I hope to give the same answer to them soon

Momofboys · December 2016

Assiram42 said:

I think it's inevitable that people will make comments however inappropriate. People automatically assumed we were trying for a boy, so the comments when we found out we were having a boy were quite annoying, as if we wouldn't have been thrilled with a girl.

People also assume if you have one of each then you can be done, people just interject when they need not to.

My answer to them is i love being a boy mom and girls are cute when they are little but drama drama when they grow up. I don't have that right now but I'm not gonna lie I would love to experience to have a girl but if we don't than that's that.

ellie111227 · December 2016

Momofboys said:
My answer to them is i love being a boy mom and girls are cute when they are little but drama drama when they grow up. I don't have that right now but I'm not gonna lie I would love to experience to have a girl but if we don't than that's that.

I totally get your annoyance with people's idiocy. That would piss me off, too. This comment, though, seems pretty destructive to me. Girls and women are not "drama drama" by nature, and saying that just reinforces it as a stereotype in our culture. There is so much gender essentialism our kids have to deal with already without us adding to it! Just something to think about.

WorkingOnMyNightCheese · December 2016

BellaO21 said:

I get it! My MIL and DH whole side of the family wouldn't shut up about how I shouldn't get my hopes up for a girl because their whole family "only has boys"... you can imagine the joy I felt telling them that we are in fact having a girl! Lol

This exactly. Supposedly my husband's for family only has boys and guess what… Girl here!

Assiram42 · December 2016

If I recall correctly, you have made several posts expressing your desire for a daughter, so I'm really confused by this post and some of your comments in it.

BellaO21 · December 2016

Momofboys said:

BellaO21 said:

I get it! My MIL and DH whole side of the family wouldn't shut up about how I shouldn't get my hopes up for a girl because their whole family "only has boys"... you can imagine the joy I felt telling them that we are in fact having a girl! Lol

I'm sure you shut them up!! BAAM!!! A GIRL... Thank you very much and congrats. I hope to give the same answer to them soon

Haha it was the best feeling... I told my husband that I felt like Monica from Friends because my initial reaction (after the excitement that she is healthy) was "TAKE THAT X!!!" No joke.. haha
congrats to you too!

Elyse1384 · December 2016

Assiram42 said:

If I recall correctly, you have made several posts expressing your desire for a daughter, so I'm really confused by this post and some of your comments in it.

Yeah this.

I'm getting kind of frustrated/confused. I've tried hard to bite my tongue. After 3 years of infertility treatment and trying for a baby of any sex, I just can't get my head around sex disappointment. And now we keep getting individual threads and the constant resurrection of this thought process by OP. It is wearing on me. I love team green. I simply don't care if I have a boy or girl. Just want a healthy baby. Le sigh.....

kfry22 · December 2016

Assiram42 said:

If I recall correctly, you have made several posts expressing your desire for a daughter, so I'm really confused by this post and some of your comments in it.

@Momofboys I think this is "I want a boy" "I want a girl" deal is getting just a little bit repetitive and redundant. I don't think we need multiple threads about this in a week.

Edited because the bump gods were against me creating a successful reply

delujm0 · December 2016

The weekly Randoms thread is intended for rants, and especially rants which have been covered at length in other posts as this one has.

I mean I'll never understand having another kid specifically bc you want one sex over the other, since that outcome will always only be a 50/50 shot and any kid is a blessing but whatever. Now that I know I'll have two girls I'm sure people will ask if I'll have a third to "try to get a boy." I'll have to come up with a good bitchy response so that they know how inappropriate that question is. People are assholes and as soon as you're obviously pregnant they'll say all sorts of insane things to you for some reason.

EmeraldNC · December 2016

kassyfry said:

Assiram42 said:

If I recall correctly, you have made several posts expressing your desire for a daughter, so I'm really confused by this post and some of your comments in it.

@Momofboys I think this is "I want a boy" "I want a girl" deal is getting just a little bit repetitive and redundant. I don't think we need multiple threads about this in a week.

Edited because the bump gods were against me creating a successful reply

My exact thoughts.

Momofboys · December 2016

EmeraldNC kassyfry I dont mean to sound rude but if you dont want to read it, you dont have too or even comment for that matter. I do hope for a girl but if i don't its not the end of the world. Just because I am on baby #4 doesnt mean that Ive constantly tried for a girl and thats how my co-workers comments coming across.

Wino0920 · December 2016

@Momofboys same to you. If you bring up a topic, people are going to respond with all different opinions. Nothing wrong with that. If you don't want to read opposing opinions, posting topics might not be for you.

Momofboys · December 2016

BellaO21 said:

Momofboys said:

BellaO21 said:

I get it! My MIL and DH whole side of the family wouldn't shut up about how I shouldn't get my hopes up for a girl because their whole family "only has boys"... you can imagine the joy I felt telling them that we are in fact having a girl! Lol

I'm sure you shut them up!! BAAM!!! A GIRL... Thank you very much and congrats. I hope to give the same answer to them soon

Haha it was the best feeling... I told my husband that I felt like Monica from Friends because my initial reaction (after the excitement that she is healthy) was "TAKE THAT X!!!" No joke.. haha
congrats to you too!

I can totally see you doing that!!! Once again congrattsssssssssss!!!

EmeraldNC · December 2016

@momofboys You are entitled to your opinion. I am entitled to mine as well. That is what TB is for... to give your thoughts/opinions on threads and interact with other posters. No where does it say "only post if you agree."

With that being said... you have talked about (I believe even started) 3 different threads on this subject. We get it... This is a major concern/topic for you. I'm just a grumpy, moody, hormonal pregnant woman who rolls my eyes when I see YET ANOTHER thread on this topic in one week.

Edit: PS - Like a PP already mentioned... We have a thread for this type of rant already on Weekly Rants. Check that out if you want to continue to "rant" about the subject.

delujm0 · December 2016

OP maybe you should consider doing NIPT if you can afford it (many tests are only $100-300 out of pocket if insurance won't cover). The sheer number of threads you have started on this topic suggest to me that the sex of the baby is basically all you can think about, so knowing the sex even a few weeks earlier might remove some of the stress from your life. If it's a girl, great, if it's a boy at least you have some extra time to accept it. I don't personally understand having such an intense preference, but it sounds really important to you, so it might make sense to just get rid of the suspense.

Elyse1384 · December 2016

Wino0920 said:

@Momofboys same to you. If you bring up a topic, people are going to respond with all different opinions. Nothing wrong with that. If you don't want to read opposing opinions, posting topics might not be for you.

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To add, I clicked on this thread because the title was vague. "Just wanted to rant". I didn't know I was about to get hit in the face with another round of "I hope I get a girl". As others have expressed, we have existing threads specifically for ranting (2 would have worked yesterday - WTF Wednesday or the weekly random thread) so I'm confused why this needed its own thread particularly when you had posted a similar sentiment a day prior.

FWIW @Momofboys there are forums on the web for women who want to discuss "gender disappointment". I know because my SIL joined one for her elective IVF procedures to try and have a girl. This particular forum has women from all walks of life with varying opinions and experiences on an endless array of topics. Naturally you're going to get women who feel differently than you on certain topics. If you put it out there in a public forum, people will comment. If you feel judged or frustrated by the responses received, that isn't the fault of the community. I just ask that you consider how some women here might feel when they read some of your threads about sex of the baby. As I said on the other thread you started about this topic, I struggled for 3 years of IF treatment to finally have a baby. It hurts my heart when I encounter women IRL or in a public forum who express any level of disappointment upon finding out the sex of their baby. I could have done without seeing it twice from you over the course of 24 hours, but alas this is the internet and I can't control that. AndPlusAlso, the other thread title was also not what I expected (hence my reading it and commenting). I thought "Oh I have a boy! I love it. What will this be about?". Andddd then the nope train started in my head.

Momofboys · December 2016

Elyse1384 said:

Wino0920 said:

@Momofboys same to you. If you bring up a topic, people are going to respond with all different opinions. Nothing wrong with that. If you don't want to read opposing opinions, posting topics might not be for you.

To add, I clicked on this thread because the title was vague. "Just wanted to rant". I didn't know I was about to get hit in the face with another round of "I hope I get a girl". As others have expressed, we have existing threads specifically for ranting (2 would have worked yesterday - WTF Wednesday or the weekly random thread) so I'm confused why this needed its own thread particularly when you had posted a similar sentiment a day prior.

FWIW @Momofboys there are forums on the web for women who want to discuss "gender disappointment". I know because my SIL joined one for her elective IVF procedures to try and have a girl. This particular forum has women from all walks of life with varying opinions and experiences on an endless array of topics. Naturally you're going to get women who feel differently than you on certain topics. If you put it out there in a public forum, people will comment. If you feel judged or frustrated by the responses received, that isn't the fault of the community. I just ask that you consider how some women here might feel when they read some of your threads about sex of the baby. As I said on the other thread you started about this topic, I struggled for 3 years of IF treatment to finally have a baby. It hurts my heart when I encounter women IRL or in a public forum who express any level of disappointment upon finding out the sex of their baby. I could have done without seeing it twice from you over the course of 24 hours, but alas this is the internet and I can't control that. AndPlusAlso, the other thread title was also not what I expected (hence my reading it and commenting). I thought "Oh I have a boy! I love it. What will this be about?". Andddd then the nope train started in my head.

--I am sorry you are right maybe ti didnt ever crossed my mine as to how many women are struggling to get pregnant and would love to just a baby regardless of the sex.

Momofboys · December 2016

delujm0 said:

OP maybe you should consider doing NIPT if you can afford it (many tests are only $100-300 out of pocket if insurance won't cover). The sheer number of threads you have started on this topic suggest to me that the sex of the baby is basically all you can think about, so knowing the sex even a few weeks earlier might remove some of the stress from your life. If it's a girl, great, if it's a boy at least you have some extra time to accept it. I don't personally understand having such an intense preference, but it sounds really important to you, so it might make sense to just get rid of the suspense.

Excuse me but who are you to tell me what I should do? If the sex of my baby is important to ME then that is my business and not yours. If i decide to find out sooner or later or not at all that is my decision. If you dont understand the personal preference of the sex than that is YOU!!! Not everyone thinks the same.

EmeraldNC · December 2016

@momofboys That was a bit of a strong reaction to @delujm0 's suggestion. She didn't TELL you to do anything, she said "maybe you should consider it"... she was offering a suggestion to alleviate your stress.

With such a STRONG reaction to her statement.... you pretty much just proved her point. (And many other PP's!)

ellie111227 · December 2016

Momofboys said:

delujm0 said:

OP maybe you should consider doing NIPT if you can afford it (many tests are only $100-300 out of pocket if insurance won't cover). The sheer number of threads you have started on this topic suggest to me that the sex of the baby is basically all you can think about, so knowing the sex even a few weeks earlier might remove some of the stress from your life. If it's a girl, great, if it's a boy at least you have some extra time to accept it. I don't personally understand having such an intense preference, but it sounds really important to you, so it might make sense to just get rid of the suspense.

Excuse me but who are you to tell me what I should do? If the sex of my baby is important to ME then that is my business and not yours. If i decide to find out sooner or later or not at all that is my decision. If you dont understand the personal preference of the sex than that is YOU!!! Not everyone thinks the same.

Um, ok. You have posted publicly about your angst on this minor issue many times now. @delujm0 was kindly suggesting a way you could resolve your feelings. If you view it as only your business and don't want opinions and suggestions, then maybe don't post about it.

Elyse1384 · December 2016

Assiram42 · December 2016

delujm0 said:

OP maybe you should consider doing NIPT if you can afford it (many tests are only $100-300 out of pocket if insurance won't cover). The sheer number of threads you have started on this topic suggest to me that the sex of the baby is basically all you can think about, so knowing the sex even a few weeks earlier might remove some of the stress from your life. If it's a girl, great, if it's a boy at least you have some extra time to accept it. I don't personally understand having such an intense preference, but it sounds really important to you, so it might make sense to just get rid of the suspense.

Have no fear, she did NIPT and started a post about that too.

EmeraldNC · December 2016

@Assiram42 You've GOT to be kidding me...

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EmeraldNC · December 2016

So... @Momofboys you have started 5 threads..... ALL which discuss you having/wanting a girl.

Morning sickness - Could it be a girl??
Heartbeat - Could it be a girl??
NIPT - Wonder if it is a girl??
Boy Mom - I want a girl
I need to rant - I want a girl

Enough already.

edit: correcting the FOURTH title. Too many to remember them all by heart - ha.

Assiram42 · December 2016

It's also really a matter of knowing your audience, you're naive to think you could come here to a forum of women facing all sorts of fertility/loss/etc. issues and incessantly post about your desire for a child of the female variety and think it would go over well.

halfthetree · December 2016

I'm calling troll or the very reason I don't do the Facebook groups.

Edit to add: Username checks out.

delujm0 · December 2016

Momofboys said:

delujm0 said:

OP maybe you should consider doing NIPT if you can afford it (many tests are only $100-300 out of pocket if insurance won't cover). The sheer number of threads you have started on this topic suggest to me that the sex of the baby is basically all you can think about, so knowing the sex even a few weeks earlier might remove some of the stress from your life. If it's a girl, great, if it's a boy at least you have some extra time to accept it. I don't personally understand having such an intense preference, but it sounds really important to you, so it might make sense to just get rid of the suspense.

Excuse me but who are you to tell me what I should do? If the sex of my baby is important to ME then that is my business and not yours. If i decide to find out sooner or later or not at all that is my decision. If you dont understand the personal preference of the sex than that is YOU!!! Not everyone thinks the same.

Yeah...aaaaaand conclusion: troll. I was actually trying to be kind and helpful with my suggestion. Even though I don't agree with the threads that were started, I really thought it would help your stress level if you got the information earlier, so I suggested a way to do that.

Now I'm just going to go back to judging the shit out of you though.

mkrel · December 2016

@delujm0 Love that gif.. AND getting the NIPT seemed like a reasonable sugestion to me!

I read this yesterday and thought the same thing, just didn't say anything. I'm glad to see that I'm not alone in my thinking. I get the fact that for some gender disappointment is a real concern...but every thread the OP has started is on some variation of the topic.. enough already.

BelhurstBride · December 2016

Momofboys said:
Excuse me but who are you to tell me what I should do? If the sex of my baby is important to ME then that is my business and not yours. If i decide to find out sooner or later or not at all that is my decision. If you dont understand the personal preference of the sex than that is YOU!!! Not everyone thinks the same.

You do realize that you're posting on a public message board, right? And therefore making this everyone's business?

Momofboys · December 2016

delujm0 said:

Momofboys said:

delujm0 said:

OP maybe you should consider doing NIPT if you can afford it (many tests are only $100-300 out of pocket if insurance won't cover). The sheer number of threads you have started on this topic suggest to me that the sex of the baby is basically all you can think about, so knowing the sex even a few weeks earlier might remove some of the stress from your life. If it's a girl, great, if it's a boy at least you have some extra time to accept it. I don't personally understand having such an intense preference, but it sounds really important to you, so it might make sense to just get rid of the suspense.

Excuse me but who are you to tell me what I should do? If the sex of my baby is important to ME then that is my business and not yours. If i decide to find out sooner or later or not at all that is my decision. If you dont understand the personal preference of the sex than that is YOU!!! Not everyone thinks the same.

Yeah...aaaaaand conclusion: troll. I was actually trying to be kind and helpful with my suggestion. Even though I don't agree with the threads that were started, I really thought it would help your stress level if you got the information earlier, so I suggested a way to do that.
Now I'm just going to go back to judging the shit out of you though.

LOL!!! Ok...... like i care if you judge.. Im might loose some sleep over that.

EmeraldNC · December 2016

^^^ I just can't.

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delujm0 · December 2016

I think the best, trolliest part of this thread is where I (helpfully!) suggested that OP get NIPT to ease her mind and she flew off the handle on me...I mean how dare I suggest that...and then I look at her post history and she posted her own question asking about the NIPT test that SHE HAS ALREADY HAD DONE like two days ago (fully ignoring the entire multi-page thread on NIPT that already existed at the time). Well played, troll. Well played. I mean I also had NIPT done. I don't understand why that is a horrible suggestion. Nor do I understand why your questions require their own threads when everyone else uses the previously existing ones. But as fun as it is to feed the troll, I'm gonna back away from this one until such time as it just becomes a straight up gif party.

mombod · December 2016

Ok after that outburst over a polite suggestion I cannot anymore. This is ridiculous.

When my SIL was having her baby and doing a reveal we told our 5 year old niece "you get what you get, and you dont get upset".
My niece got it. Did I mention she was 5?

michaela0704 · December 2016

ellie111227 · December 2016

mombod said:

Ok after that outburst over a polite suggestion I cannot anymore. This is ridiculous.

When my SIL was having her baby and doing a reveal we told our 5 year old niece "you get what you get, and you dont get upset".
My niece got it. Did I mention she was 5?

Perfect! I say this to kids so much, always about things like which color marker you get or what part you play in a skit. I love it in this context! Definitely something self-entitled whiny moms need to internalize, too!

swanbrooner · December 2016

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