@Wearmi1 yea i'm big too. Doc said I should try to limit myself to an 11lbs weight gain for the whole pregnancy. I can imagine that is going to be tough! I was ok first trimester because I was so sick, so i was like No problem! But now i'm not sick anymore and the hunger is setting in!!!! Gotta find more healthy snacks and avoid the cheeseburgers and fries that i am craving... omg.
You ladies are not the only ones feeling fluffy. I have gained 10 lbs already. BUT, I'm trying not to worry about it much. With my first I gained 45+ lbs total and 9 months after giving birth I weighed less than pre-pregnancy. Breastfeeding is the best diet!!! Seriously tho, don't stress too much. My doctor never said a word about it the first time, and she hasn't yet this time either. If she's not worried, I'm not worried.
MC Sept 2010 BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012 TTC again since July 2014 First IUI 9/26/16: BFP! EDD 6/19/2017 It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
I only made it through the first few pages of the catfish but holllllly crap. I remember being suspicious of people in April '15 and eventually weeding out the trolls (before TB collapsed) but that's a whole new level of crazy. Who the F has time for that?
My weekly random, or maybe this should have gone in Monday bitchfest is that DS is still sick. He gets the most severe croup...debating whether or not to go back in for a breathing treatment...I loath making decisions that involve a trip to the ER. We're on day 4 of the croup, steroid was given in ER on Sunday and have had very little improvement (except fevers are gone). Any nurse mom's have some insight?
Exactly what I said would happen, happened. I took time off to care for DH and the girls and guess who is sick now. I have zero time (just started new job), so now it's all unpaid.
Oh and I was at his beck and call for the past few days, he had a free pass to lay in bed all day and I'm up today puking my brains out since 3 am and who's up with the kids? Me. Fucker.
I am wondering if my overwhelming constant hunger today means I might be moving past the constant nausea that has prevented me from eating a full meal since the beginning of this pregnancy....fingers crossed! I ate through 3/4 of my packed lunch by 10:15. So now I need to figure out what I'm going to do for my actual lunch.
@Elyse1384 i'm not even talking about Anger towards the liar, i am talking about to each other! Yelling at "newbs" telling them they aren't cool enough, telling each other they are annoying and obnoxious, telling each other to shut up and stop talking... i mean GEES!!!! have some common decency!
That's what I meant by "member relationships". I don't feel it is fair to walk in on a conversation between women who have been speaking with each other for upwards of a year and judge. We don't know the dynamics of their relationships nor what might have fueled certain responses. That's like walking in during the last 5 minutes of a movie and saying "well that guy didn't deserve that at all". How do you know? You didn't see the first 1hr45min. Maybe he was a complete asshat and deserved worse than he got.
As for the "newbs" comment in particular. I wouldn't feel comfortable with some random joining a private group. It seems the BMB regs indicated new members should start their own group. Keep in mind this thread happened AFTER the babies were born and as will happen on BMBs, so women only join post delivery. I see nothing wrong in their commentary that they weren't letting unknowns join their private FB group. Especially given their catfish experience. Hello stranger danger.
I don't know. Maybe I'm just a lot less bothered by the dynamics between other BMB members.
I've been feeling a little spacey recently, on and off. On Saturday, I dished out ice cream after dinner. On Sunday morning, my DH found the ice cream in the refrigerator. Luckily it refroze decently enough but I have no memory of putting the ice cream away. Im loosing it! Lol.
God I remember when that catfishing thread originally happened, I was pregnant with DD at the time and active on a few boards. It was amazing. It is also why there's no way I'd join a FB group before weeding out the crazies first, and also that FB group would have to be private. It is also why I don't post pictures here. According to the TOU, once you post a pic on TB, it becomes TBs property or whatever...so I don't participate in HDBD or anything like that. I think I posted a picture of DD one time shortly after she was born, and that was it. I do post pics on FB but I have a private profile so only my friends/family can see it. Doesn't guarantee that one of them isn't stealing it and using it to catfish people on an online community, but I feel like it lessens the probability of that happening since I at least know the people that can see it.
My mom got DD a Kindle Fire tablet for Christmas and I set it up yesterday (the entire purpose of this is that we have to fly home for the holidays and she has been a complete beast on her last few flights - she doesn't like to be contained for long periods of time). It's pretty sweet. I have a few Disney movies downloaded on there and I'm hoping that will get us through. I let her watch the first 20 minutes of Finding Nemo on there yesterday and she was delighted. We are saying that we'll only give her the tablet when we're on an airplane or a long car ride, but I bet as soon as #2 comes out she'll be seeing that thing a lot more often. If only I could download Sesame Street for free in some way, I'd be all set.
We started out with the Kindle for travel for DS1. Now he gets it during DS2's nap time too. DS2 sleeps; DS1 plays quietly in his bed; H and I get a little time to get stuff done. (Or do nothing).
Use your Kindle to give yourself the gift of sanity once #2 comes along. No guilt.
Random question - are your partners going to all of your appointments with you? My husband has come to the 3 we've had so far, but each has included an ultrasound so it's been fun. As they get more frequent, I'm assuming there won't be a need for him to go to everything.
@tjvan my husband originally didn't plan to come to any. But I asked him to come to the first US for support incase the worst, and now he want's to come to the next! I think too as they get more frequent, there won't be a need. But it's nice to have the company for now
@tjvan my husband only went/goes to the dating ultra sound and the anatomy scan. I really don't see the need otherwise. I go in, answer some questions, listen to the HB and go home. My appts aren't very long.
@tjvan my DH is planning on going to them all since this is our first. I'm not sure if he will actually do that the entire time or not. Especially when they are every other week then every week. I'm hoping he can make it to most of them!
@tjvan When I was expecting DD the Mr only came to a handful of the appointments. Once I was being seen weekly, there was no way he could come along. This time he's come to all 4 so far.
I make the appointments at a time that works for me and invite him. I think he likes coming along because it helps him to feel involved.
It must be easy for them to feel a little left out since everything happens to us.
@tjvan. My H came to most of the appointments for the first 2 pregnancies and several for the others. Now that our boys are more active it will be difficult for us to go together without getting a sitter so I think I'll likely go solo more.
My OB back home (and my MFM) did an US at every appointment, so I think that made it more exciting for him.
tjvan I am high risk so I see my regular OB once a month and my high risk doctor once a month. He went to all my high risk and none of my regular with my first. All of my high risk involve an ultrasound. This is my second so if he comes, that means DD has to come too. We are going to test her out on my first high risk next week and then decide from there.
DH is planning on coming to as many appointments as he can, but definitely the big ones (nt scan, anatomy scan, etc). My ex was not involved at all (only came to minimal appointments, and was less than present after DS was actually here) and he wants to make a point to be the opposite.
@tjvan DH came to all of my appointments with DD, even the ones that were stupid and where the appointment was shorter than the amount of time we were in the waiting room (the ones where they take your blood pressure, measure fundal height, doppler the HB, and send you on your way). I told him he only really needed to come to the ultrasounds and the last few (in case something was wrong and they wanted to induce me immediately), but he was happy to be at all of them...i wound up getting a few unplanned ultrasounds (weird fundal height at 26 weeks, position check at 36 weeks, slightly elevated blood pressure at 38 weeks) and he was happy he was there for them. he plans to do the same this time, but he has a very understanding and flexible workplace, so it's not a big deal.
@Assiram42, How are you today, dear? Most women are just programmed differently as caregivers I think...It's not fair to you. I'm sorry. There's this funny (not so funny because it's all too real) commercial about a husband with the man flu. The wife is sick too, but nobody cares... Here's the link. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VbmbMSrsZVQ
@tjvan my DH has gone to all of my appointments so far and went to all of them with DD. Once I started going weekly with DD I tried to talk him out of going, but I'm glad he didn't listen. At my 39 week check up the doctor told me I had to go straight to the hospital for an emergency c-section (something that had never, ever been discussed as a possibility). I was a total blubbering mess and it was really nice having him there, not to mention to drive to the hospital. My experience is the exception though, I'm sure.
Yall... I need HELP, for real. I am SO irrationally annoyed by anything and everything. It seems like everything just pisses me off. I am typically not like this AT ALL (it takes A LOT to get under my skin).
At my job... the kids sneezing, coughing, asking random questions that make no sense, bumping me when they go by, not listening, repeating myself over and over and over, breathing hard.........
When I go to the store... Every. One. I seriously should not be allowed in a grocery store or retail store until after this baby is out... because I am going to snap for no reason and light into some poor innocent soul.
At home... my husband not doing anything right (and that is just me being moody, I know... he definitely does things different than I do but not necessarily wrong)
I KNOW I am being irrational, but I honestly can NOT help it. I stopped and cried in the middle of Walmart the other day with my husband because I was so annoyed by him for literally nothing. I apologized for being so moody, and he was really nice about it, but I know I am getting on his nerves. I am getting on my own nerves.
@EmeraldNC I definitely don't think you are alone but I will say, at least you recognize it. And respect others as well.
It's completely normal to be moody, emotional, whatever during pregnancy. What gets me is women being completely bat shit crazy to others and then walking around like it's ok because she is pregnant. It's never ok to be obnoxious to others.
When I am loosing it or about to, I shut up, step back and take myself out of a situation for a moment. I also think a good cry (even if it's silly or not at the right place) helps so much!!
@LAMCH1980, I am much better today. Fortunately, the bug only seems to last 24 hours, today my oldest is the lucky one. He did end up helping me out and letting me nap, but he's a stubborn turd sometimes.
@emeraldnc my husband annoys for me no good reason as well. His general laziness around the house just irks me even more now that I'm pregnant. It's not until he see's me about to become satan and rip his head off before he does anything to help me. I just try and let things go that make me angry and re-visit the thought a bit later to make sure it's still a valid gripe or if it was just hormones.
was just lurking around in other BMB's... head on over to August 2017 and check out there HDBD, the drama over their FB group and they're also already making registries!
was just lurking around in other BMB's... head on over to August 2017 and check out there HDBD, the drama over their FB group and they're also already making registries!
I have to lol at their HDBD already when they're 2.5 seconds pregnant. July hasn't even started theirs yet.
Not only do you get completion coupons, but some places give gifts for registering. And target gives coupons for the whole first year when you hit six months and then a year. Score!
Not only do you get completion coupons, but some places give gifts for registering. And target gives coupons for the whole first year when you hit six months and then a year. Score!
S/O gifts for registering: Amazon has a welcome box for registering with them.
Maybe it's just me, I feel a little weird reigstering for this one but people keep asking me about it.
I keep my lists private, it's literally just a shopping list for me, so I can purchase things here and there until birth. I don't have one because I expect to share it with anyone or because I expect anyone to buy me anything. It's just nice to throw things on a list that you know you'll want or use and then keep tallies on what you still need.
We will buy everything for the baby, no shower, nor will my parents purchase anything.
@Assiram42 I'm the same way, just had to delete my old registry with Amazon first to create the new one... I won't be sharing it, it really is more of a shopping list for me.
Ok, this is random, but I'm so frustrated today due to the obligation of Christmas gifts that my DH's family puts on me. We literally have the entire tree surrounded by boxes that have arrived from them from out of town... mostly for DS1 and DS2 but some for DH and I as well. And to top it off, my BIL, SILs, and DH want to pool what feels like an insane amount of money to purchase ADULT gifts for their parents, aunt and uncle. For my family, we don't do adult gifts... well we do small things if we see something the other person might like but not all adults get gifts and that is totally fine (e.g., my mom gets her father a box of cordial cherries from the grocery store as he has a sweet tooth and LOVES those things or my mom gives a Hallmark ornament to commemorate a life event from that calendar year, but she keeps it for her tree... haha!). In the past all the money pooled is used on these huge giftcards too, which to me is so lame, if they need help or you want to give them money... just give them money but instead DH gets on a group text with his siblings and next thing I know I'm writing a check for $100's to send to his SIL for ADULT gifts... it makes me not like the holiday which makes me bitter about the situation for tarnishing one of my favorite holidays. Don't get me wrong, DH's family is amazing so I bite my tongue and deal, but it really irks me on the inside.
@Mother0fDragons I feel a little weird too but I'm in the mindset now of @Assiram42...it helps keep a running list of what my essential needs are for babe 2. Mine is private and really just for my own sanity as I am a planner. My anxieties from DS pregnancy make me feel like I need to ready by 20 weeks!
@michaela0704 that would drive me bonkers. We do an adult "nice" white elephant gift exchange ($50 or less). Everyone has been satisfied with that.
edit- WORDS. Does anyone else bumping via their phone find that TB has a lag and will change words? It's SO FRUSTRATING.
@tjvan, DH *maybe* came to my very first appointment with DD1.
He definitely came to the NT and Anatomy scans for both girls.
He hasn't been to a single appointment for this one. Because I have a SCH I'm in for u/s every two weeks; DH stays with DD2 during that time. If we can find childcare he'll come to the Anatomy scan, if not he'll stay with DD2.
@EmeraldNC, I go through a phase every winter where I can't stand DH. I don't know if it's the being cooped up inside, or that I work through the winter and he can never seem to get his shit together without me home to run anything or what. I try to keep my mouth shut and not flip on him because I'm *pretty* sure he isn't intentionally being a dips hit.
Re: Weekly Randoms 12/12
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
My weekly random, or maybe this should have gone in Monday bitchfest is that DS is still sick. He gets the most severe croup...debating whether or not to go back in for a breathing treatment...I loath making decisions that involve a trip to the ER. We're on day 4 of the croup, steroid was given in ER on Sunday and have had very little improvement (except fevers are gone). Any nurse mom's have some insight?
DH: 29
DS: 18 months 4/2/2015
Baby #2 EDD: 6/1/2017
Oh and I was at his beck and call for the past few days, he had a free pass to lay in bed all day and I'm up today puking my brains out since 3 am and who's up with the kids? Me. Fucker.
As for the "newbs" comment in particular. I wouldn't feel comfortable with some random joining a private group. It seems the BMB regs indicated new members should start their own group. Keep in mind this thread happened AFTER the babies were born and as will happen on BMBs, so women only join post delivery. I see nothing wrong in their commentary that they weren't letting unknowns join their private FB group. Especially given their catfish experience. Hello stranger danger.
I don't know. Maybe I'm just a lot less bothered by the dynamics between other BMB members.
MC 4/15
BFP 10/10/16
Use your Kindle to give yourself the gift of sanity once #2 comes along. No guilt.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
I make the appointments at a time that works for me and invite him. I think he likes coming along because it helps him to feel involved.
It must be easy for them to feel a little left out since everything happens to us.
My OB back home (and my MFM) did an US at every appointment, so I think that made it more exciting for him.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
BFP #1 9/1999. DD Born 6/7/2000
BFP #2 10/2011. EDD 7/11/12. MMC discovered 11/2/11. D&C 11/4/11.
DX PCOS 10/2012.
BFP#3 1/11/13. DS Born 9/17/2013
BFP#4 9/30/17. Grow baby grow!
~Everyone Welcome~
At my job... the kids sneezing, coughing, asking random questions that make no sense, bumping me when they go by, not listening, repeating myself over and over and over, breathing hard.........
When I go to the store... Every. One. I seriously should not be allowed in a grocery store or retail store until after this baby is out... because I am going to snap for no reason and light into some poor innocent soul.
At home... my husband not doing anything right (and that is just me being moody, I know... he definitely does things different than I do but not necessarily wrong)
I KNOW I am being irrational, but I honestly can NOT help it. I stopped and cried in the middle of Walmart the other day with my husband because I was so annoyed by him for literally nothing. I apologized for being so moody, and he was really nice about it, but I know I am getting on his nerves. I am getting on my own nerves.
Am I alone in this?!
It's completely normal to be moody, emotional, whatever during pregnancy. What gets me is women being completely bat shit crazy to others and then walking around like it's ok because she is pregnant. It's never ok to be obnoxious to others.
When I am loosing it or about to, I shut up, step back and take myself out of a situation for a moment. I also think a good cry (even if it's silly or not at the right place) helps so much!!
I also said said I miss Monster energy drinks! I could have used them during finals.
thanks for checking on me!
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
but I'm a nanny so I already knew what I wanted/needed before I got pregnant! Plus grandparents want to buy stuff for Christmas.
We will buy everything for the baby, no shower, nor will my parents purchase anything.
Ok, this is random, but I'm so frustrated today due to the obligation of Christmas gifts that my DH's family puts on me. We literally have the entire tree surrounded by boxes that have arrived from them from out of town... mostly for DS1 and DS2 but some for DH and I as well. And to top it off, my BIL, SILs, and DH want to pool what feels like an insane amount of money to purchase ADULT gifts for their parents, aunt and uncle. For my family, we don't do adult gifts... well we do small things if we see something the other person might like but not all adults get gifts and that is totally fine (e.g., my mom gets her father a box of cordial cherries from the grocery store as he has a sweet tooth and LOVES those things or my mom gives a Hallmark ornament to commemorate a life event from that calendar year, but she keeps it for her tree... haha!). In the past all the money pooled is used on these huge giftcards too, which to me is so lame, if they need help or you want to give them money... just give them money but instead DH gets on a group text with his siblings and next thing I know I'm writing a check for $100's to send to his SIL for ADULT gifts... it makes me not like the holiday which makes me bitter about the situation for tarnishing one of my favorite holidays. Don't get me wrong, DH's family is amazing so I bite my tongue and deal, but it really irks me on the inside.
@michaela0704 that would drive me bonkers. We do an adult "nice" white elephant gift exchange ($50 or less). Everyone has been satisfied with that.
edit- WORDS. Does anyone else bumping via their phone find that TB has a lag and will change words? It's SO FRUSTRATING.
DH: 29
DS: 18 months 4/2/2015
Baby #2 EDD: 6/1/2017
He definitely came to the NT and Anatomy scans for both girls.
He hasn't been to a single appointment for this one. Because I have a SCH I'm in for u/s every two weeks; DH stays with DD2 during that time. If we can find childcare he'll come to the Anatomy scan, if not he'll stay with DD2.
@EmeraldNC, I go through a phase every winter where I can't stand DH. I don't know if it's the being cooped up inside, or that I work through the winter and he can never seem to get his shit together without me home to run anything or what. I try to keep my mouth shut and not flip on him because I'm *pretty* sure he isn't intentionally being a dips hit.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18