Monday bf 12/11

ajstevenson · December 2016

Late to the BF party. I'm sorry you're all struggling with pooing and fevers and boobs. Mine is just frustration with SO. He does many many things well and for the most part is incredibly supportive. And then there are times when I want to slap him upside the head for stupidity. Like today.

Monday afternoon my boss sent me home (tried to get me to go to the hospital but I insisted that I wanted to be home as long as I can when laboring). She didn't want me to drive myself because my contractions were about 3 1/2 - 4 minutes apart and getting pretty strong. I didn't think they were the real deal yet any ways, but I couldn't not focus any longer and was freaking out my peers so home I went. SO had Monday and today off work. So when I asked him to drive me in to the office today (less than a 20 minute drive) he said no. I thought he was kidding.

So far I've heard the following excuses: I don't know how to get there, what if I get lost? I had a bad dream that I got into a car accident on my way to Canada, I'm freaking out about driving right now. I'm worried that my car can't handle the snow (from Sunday, the roads have been clear for 24 hours mind you). I don't think you should work any more this pregnancy, it's giving you contractions. DD has a game tonight after school.

How the eff does any one of those things inhibit you from driving me to work? If I feel comfortable going into the office for a few hours today then damn it I'm going to go.

So I had to text my coworker at 630 this morning to see if he'll come pick me up.

Christinaruth74 · December 2016

Wow I'm late to catching up.
Thanns guys for letting me vent a bit. Overall H is really helpful and picks up the slack like whoa, but I'm just not a morning person in general on top of not sleeping through the night while he's sawing logs *eye rolls 4 dayz*. What was awesome though was that yesterday morning while I had DD in bed with me, he came up stairs before work. He was talking to DD about how she needs to stay in bed until it's light out and yadda yadda (you know, just reasoning with a 2 year old little woman) and she looks at him and says, "No daddy. You go downstairs now." I nearly died. It was amazing. This is our routine and it works and if you don't like it, get outta here!

@ajstevenson ummmm is he for real??

ajstevenson · December 2016

@Christinaruth74 your DD cracks me up!

Yes, he was totally serious. I get the idea that he is worried about me driving myself around and going into labor at work, but the way he responds to things sometimes is dumbfounding. I did speak with my boss this morning about the rest of this pregnancy and work and she's agreed to let me work half days from home or come and go as I need to at this point. I think it's a fair compromise.

LinziLoo09 · December 2016

So one of my frustrations over the past week has been UPS. Not only did one of their careless drivers cut me off and cause all of my Godiva chocolates to spill onto the floor, but they've been stockpiling our packages (including some postpartum supplies for me), claiming that our address doesn't exist. Their drivers just aren't typing in the SW on our address, and they end up on the wrong side of the road where our house doesn't exist. Us calling them to explain their errors hasn't helped a bit. So after over a dozen completely unhelpful calls with them, I emailed three of their major executives (Chairman/CEO, President of American Operations, and an EVP of something). You'd be surprised at how easy their emails are to find if you know a few tricks. Anyways, emailing the top leads to some quick resolutions. Not only did we get all of our packages asap, but they delivered a bouquet of flowers today with an apology note and congratulations on the baby. I have a 100% success rate with angry customer letters so far...And don't cross me when my hormones are extra feisty.

ETA: So this is no longer a BF but a BF resolution. Yay!

PensiveCrayon · December 2016

@LinziLoo09 Dude! Mad props to you on that! I'll have to remember that strategy in the future.

temmetime · December 2016

@Linziloo09 That's an awesome idea to email a high up! I admit to being a total squealer when it comes to frustrations with companies - I email, chat or call all the time if there's something that is wrong or that I'm not happy with. I've gotten free overnight shipping, extended amazon prime membership, more money back etc... but never flowers! +1 for your sharp thinking to email a chairman/ceo/important person)

LinziLoo09 · December 2016

Oh definitely go for the top @PensiveCrayon and @temmetime ! I imagine they loathe getting my lowly complaint emails. Their people will be on it fast. And you often get other perks (usually gift cards...flowers is a first) as well.

ea301 · December 2016

@LinziLoo09

Christinaruth74 · December 2016

@LinziLoo09 that's impressive! I'm trying to think of any companies that may have pissed me off recently so I can squeeze some flowers out of them......

AbriannaO · December 2016

Tuesday's BF is at myself for not reading very well. At my appointment yesterday I mentioned that I was having some unsuccessful BMs, so I was told to get a stool softener. I grabbed the stool softener that is also a laxative in error. I discovered this too late. Waiting to hear back from Dr about whether this is a mistake that needs attention, or if I just get to be miserable until it's out of my system.

LinziLoo09 · December 2016

Well a tip on getting exec contact information ladies...try googling the executive's name along with @(company domain) and see if anything comes up. Usually you can at least get an email format from that and go from there. And don't be afraid to get hormonal. I write my best complaint letters when I'm fueled with estrogen and rage.

ava.vaudine · December 2016

slartybartfast said:

phoenix870509 said:

I have to work today because I did not go into labor over the weekend. I don't wanna go to work this week! Thursday seems so far away...

I took off today (rest of the week) and I did not go into labor. Feels a bit like a wasted leave day

also my little guy is sick. I feel so bad for him. And am worried about getting sick myself and dh and the newborn. Bad timing...

Ugh, this happened to me. Massive head cold the day before my water broke. Had to mouth breath through labor and blew my nose every few minutes. Of course they didn't have any Vaseline, so I was applying nipple cream to my nose since I was turning to Rudolph. I was so hot haha.

cgss11 · December 2016

My BF for the week. I got notice for jury duty. No big deal, I'll get excused because of the baby. Go through all the stuff online and receive a reply that I cannot be excused because I do typically work out of the home, I can only postpone my date to March/April. I wrote them back explaining I'll still be using a breast pump then and I need excused. Haven't heard back yet. There will be hell to pay though...

ajstevenson · December 2016

@yellingbanana how are you feeling lady?

phoenix870509 · December 2016

@LinziLoo09 that's exactly how my mom and I got free cell phones after I got locked out of my phone years ago. The higher you go, the more they want to help.

I have a Tuesday bitch fest. If you've been following my family drama, my 21 year old cousin just announced today she is pregnant with baby number 2. At least this time we know who the father is, but still. She just moved back in with her mom and she's trying to get her life together and now she's going to have 2 under 2. This is the oldest daughter of the cousin who is going back and forth on divorcing her husband of 7 months (who, btw, she is divorcing on Friday).

Christinaruth74 · December 2016

@cgss11 good luck! I recently had to go through this but maybe they excused me because I'm already a SAHM and said I wouldn't have childcare. Calling and speaking with someone might work more in your favor. But I had brought up the BFing/pumping thing and they told me they have designated spaces for moms to pump... but it doesn't sound too tempting to walk around in a room full of strangers toting my pump and bottles.
But ya, talking with someone directly might get you more favorable results

yellingbanana · December 2016

ajstevenson said:

@yellingbanana how are you feeling lady?

I'm home! It's definitely mastitis, but my Ob was worried about my swollen, painful lymph node in my armpit. We will be doing follow up appointments.

My appointment today was actually with a different Ob at the practice because her schedule was full. But when she saw me and I told her that, she was all "oh hell naw", she made time for me. I pretty much broke down on the spot, told her I thought I was losing it because I felt feverish for 3 days before the fever was technically a fever. And that my staples were killing me, they couldn't get me in for an appointment to get them removed until Thursday- 8 days pp, and she was so mad on my behalf at the scheduling people. So she removed my staples, it hurt so bad because they'd been in too long. Now my scar is starting to get infected. Overall, I cried like a blubbering idiot through the majority of the appointment, but she was amazing, and said she was going to have words with people. I'm on antibiotics, (sigh, I hate antibiotics), and taking the right steps to getting better. I'm so glad I called and went in. Just wish I had called sooner, when I felt like I had a fever but didn't.

karmba · December 2016

@yellingbanana dang that's a lot to deal with! I'm glad you're set up with meds, hopefully you start to feel better soon!

jennbaylor12 · December 2016

@yellingbanana - solidarity sister!! I'm so sorry

I also didn't have "all the signs" of mastitis so I totally understand. And the antibiotic regimen is brutal, especially when timing with breastfeeding/pumping. I hope you feel better soon!!!

yellingbanana · December 2016

Thanks guys

the craziest thing is that my boob never really hurt until a couple hours before the appointment. I don't get it.

SaraRose83 · December 2016

@cgss11 I got a notice for jury duty, too. My baby will probably be about 2 weeks old so...I'm hoping they excuse me on disability alone.

ajstevenson · December 2016

Aw man @yellingbanana I'm sorry to hear you've had such tough luck! I'm glad she saw you though and you're on the path to healing.

Christinaruth74 · December 2016

Ugh @yellingbanana that sounds brutal. I hope the meds kick in soon and you're feeling well again in no time ❤️

SmashJam · December 2016

@yellingbanana hope you feel better soon !

yellingbanana · December 2016

Thanks guys

I at least don't feel feverish anymore! Score! But last night I started getting hives from the antibiotics

DH is out picking up my new Rx now. I'm still a hot mess, but I plucked my eyebrows today so at least I'm looking reasonable... in my pjs.

Lisa3379 · December 2016

@yellingbanana haha I felt like a new person when I plucked mine, too

PensiveCrayon · December 2016

I have a BF resolution story!

So I'm on Tricare, which is great when it comes to covering breast pumps and feeding supplies. Theoretically. I got my prescription from the OB, bought the pump and the Kiinde bottle system off Amazon, filed my claim as instructed. A month later, I got a notice that they'd rejected my claim. WTAF.

I called Tricare (West region) and asked them what was going on. The woman told me that the code was incorrect, and when I asked her what code needed to be used, she said, "We don't give out that information." Again. WTAF. So you want me to go back to the OB for a new prescription and have her guess at the problem?

I drag my feet for a couple days and eventually find my prescription in my scanned documents so I can take it back up to the on-base OB (a half hour away, mind you!) and what do you know? The code is right, according to a Tricare manual I've discovered online. And, AND, it doesn't match the filed code on the claim rejection notice.

So I call Tricare back and it turns out the problem is on their end! Their system isn't filing my claim correctly, and is changing the code. They're rejecting me for something that's not even my fault! Thank goodness I was persistent and didn't just give up when I saw the rejection, which is exactly what I wanted to do.

All this is to say, they re-filed my claim and I just got my check in the mail today. Yasssss. And I did all this without crying! I'm starting to turn into an adult!

SmashJam · December 2016

Good for you @PensiveCrayon! Looking up the manual that was seriously good thinking, but super annoying they made you work that hard!

sourlemon · December 2016

@PensiveCrayon I would have cried just calling tricare! They can be great. Or horrendous!

penelope4612 · December 2016

@PensiveCrayon - I'm glad you got it sorted out. Our insurance denied a claim for lab tests almost 2 years ago and we *just* got it sorted out a few weeks ago. Ugh.

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