Thanks for asking! I'm still here. Things look good overall, though I'm starting to struggle a tiny bit. I gave my husband my rings when I was admitted because the nurse said my hands would swell from the fluids they were giving me. Tonight he realized the wedding ring is gone. It's just a thing and replaceable, but I feel as though I've lost a lot over the past few weeks and this was another symbolic loss.
Then, the nurse came in and my temp was 99, and I just broke down. The thought that she could come anytime and that she'd be so small and sick just kills me. My temp came back down an hour later, so hopefully it stays low and isn't a sign of infection.
Tomorrow I will suck it up and regain my optimistic, but for tonight im giving myself permission to feel like this just sucks.
Definitely thinking of you, and sorry about your ring. Hopefully it will show up. My moms best friend had a baby at 24 weeks back in the 80's and he was tiny but totally healthy. Looking at him now, a strapping and intelligent man, you would never guess he was a preemie. I know it's easy for us to try to tell you to stay positive, but I really hope you can. And if you have moments of not feeling great, that's ok too. We are all here and rooting for you.
Thanks for the update @lemieuxk. Im glad baby is still cooking-- every little bit helps! Take the time to wallow tonight. You deserve it. We are rooting for you and baby! I hope your temp stays down and that baby stays in!
Have H look for your ring, it might just be misplaced. It is just a thing but I'd be upset too. You might have to tell him to keep stressful stuff away from you while you're in the hospital.
@lemieuxk, I'm so sorry you're feeling crappy and that happening with your ring doesn't help at all! It sucks that everything is so uncertain right now and you have no way of really knowing what will happen next and when. Please don't feel that you need to constantly be optimistic under the circumstances, but I really admire you for trying to have the positive attitude that you do about it.
Sorry about your ring @lemieuxk, but I'm glad the babe is still in there! Really, every single day helps!
Also - I feel like I've mentioned this in multiple posts lately, but my sister had her baby just shy of 26 weeks in August. She was in the NICU for a while, but now she's home, 9lbs with a double chin and fat rolls, and quite a set of lungs!! Sending positive vibes for your little one to keep cooking, but it's amazing what doctors can do these days to help preemies thrive. You and your babe are in good hands!
@lemieuxk youre doing great & every day is an extra day that your little one gets stronger & bigger & all you can do is take it one day at a time. It must be so overwhelming so no one would blame you for being a little down every now and again about, you want your baby to have the best possible chance & youre doing everything you possibly can but its hard! hang in there! Xxx
@lemieuxk I'm sorry to hear about your ring that's just the icing on the stress cake at this point I'm sure. We're all pulling for you so hard right now! If you need some distraction to help keep your mind off the fears we could start a lemieuxk thread for your own personal enjoyment
@jstringfellow19 both my legs drive me nutso for a few hours each night before I fall asleep. Like it's an internal itch or something and it only goes away when I move or kick them. Is that how it feels for you?
My 2nd belly piercing had to be taken out today. My belly button officially looks mangled and has me wondering if it'll always look that way now. I've had that piercing for 16 years and I feel awkward without it! I've gotten the bloody noses to stop though thanks to the constant hum of the humidifier next to my bed, no more kleenex carnage in the trashcan like I butchered a chipmunk every morning. Shortness of breath, butt cheek pain, and some mild nausea can all suck it currently.
@lemieuxk I'm so sorry about the ring and how you're feeling. I really hope it turns up but you have every right to vent as much as you want. Just think, every day she's getting stronger in there and you may have longer than you fear. Big hugs.
I just got teared up reading all of your responses, thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts! I'm feeling better this morning, three more temp readings have all been normal.
I know that she has an amazing chance of a good outcome even if she came today and stories of preemies who have gone on to thrive seem to be the rule more than the exception. I'm so grateful for that, while simultaneously somewhat mourning the loss of my dream to have a low intervention birth, immediate skin to skin, establishing a breastfeeding relationship right away, etc. But, as a FTM I have the feeling that nothing about parenting goes as you envision so maybe I'm just getting used to that sooner than most
@yogadevil I am with you on the bloody noses! I've never had them before but they suuuuuck.
@concreteangell I had kind of a funny hiccuping experience yesterday. I get hooked up to the fetal monitor three times a day for kind of a modified nst. Last night, she got the hiccups in the middle and not only were they super loud on the monitor, but they also prevented it from being able to pick up the HB accurately for about five minutes because they were so loud.
@lemieuxk I didn't get any of that with my NICU baby and we're best friends now! But I think "mourning" is an accurate word - I was sad about it for a while too and that's ok
@lemieuxk Keeping you and baby in my prayers!! And you are doing awesome, dont feel like you can't mourn the loss of your birth plan or be upset you are in the hospital, i can't imagine anyone not having the same feelings. Good luck!!
@yogadevil It usually only happens to my right leg, but I guess I wouldn't describe my feeling as an itch, but more of a tingle. It's hard to describe. Must DH thinks I'm crazy when i tell him, butt have to move I think or kick it or go walk to make It stop.
@lemieuxk I'm praying for you and baby! I hope your rings turn up. Fingers crossed that baby stay safe put for a while!
@lemieuxk Glad to hear you and baby girl are hanging in there! Hopefully your ring turns up too - you never know, they could still be in his pants pocket of whatever he was wearing that day.
Keep hanging in there, @lemieuxk, and definitely give yourself permission to feel any and all of your feelings! We'll keep sending you love and good vibes.
If another "good outcome" story helps--my cousin had twin boys at 28 weeks in May, and looking at them now, you would never even guess. I understand your grief about losing the birth experience you wanted, though, and I think it's fine and healthy to mourn that, even though we all know that a healthy mom and baby is the ultimate end goal. Hope the LO stays put a little longer!
Me: 34 Husband: 35 Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17 BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
@lemieuxk thinking of you and your baby girl! I'm so happy to hear that your temp has gone down! I'm sorry about your rings, it is completely understandable to feel sad about them especially as things are not going as you had envisioned. Another spot for your husband to check, could be the washing machine or dryer. If he did any laundry, maybe the rings were in his pocket and fell off in the wash... and it's a free cleaning! I hope you are doing well today!
Thinking of you @lemieuxk. It is completely okay to feel all those feelings. It is hard to imagine things going differently and sooner than you wanted. i hope you feel better physically and that baby girl keeps on cooking. Feel free to vent anytime! We are here!
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
Keep strong @lemieuxk I trust you are in very good hands. As has been said already allow yourself the grief you need, it's better not to suppress your emotions and certainly no one would think any less of you for feeling as such in this situation. I hope you and your baby girl are okay, and it's good to hear your temperature went down. Hopefully you can stay in a healthy state and your wee one can hang in a bit longer. We're all rooting for you.
Thank you all so much! I just updated over on my speshul snowflake thread (tldr: everything is boring. Boring is wonderful), but I'm blown away by everyone's support and good wishes!
Question about BH... I am trying to move large boxes from a couple rooms in the house. Normally they are NBD and I would just get it done. But my BH start acting up everytime I lift anything heavier than like 15 lbs... I have stopped moving them and the BH have stopped also. Would you guys just do a little work then take a break for a while, then start again? Or if they are coming because of moving the boxes just wait until my husband can move them? I really don't know if BH from moving stuff around is normal or kind of a big deal.
I don't know if it's normal, but I assume it's not good @kswiger06. I get that quite a bit too with moving shipment boxes at work or laundry baskets or my kids at home. DH says that means I shouldn't be doing it
Well, apparently the god awful stomach cramping and discomfort I was feeling all day and calling my midwife about (after worrying it was preterm labor since it felt so different from BH and was actually painful)... was in fact just horrible gas pain.
Lovely. Such ladylike. Much gas. Wow.
Previously PaukMeKiande
Surprise BFP/MC February 2011 BFP May 16th 2016
EDD January 25 2017 DD born January 30 2017 Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
I've totally been there @ChaoticWolf! There was been twice so far that I was legit concerned that stomach pain was preterm labor. Once was last night after the work holiday party since my boss made me a personal size vegetarian lasagna that was about 3x larger than I needed it to be.
@kswiger06 ughhhh but it's so much easier not to wait for him/do it myself. I'm in the same boat. If I do much of anything, they start up. And my toddler is 34 lbs
@lemieuxk I think you have an amazingly resilient attitude. You're awesome, and you're doing awesome.
My symptom: Pregnant-me doesn't exhale disgustedly when angry like non-pregnant me did. Pregnant me really wants to break shit. Or throw it. Maybe throw something heavy into something breakable. Blind rage is only on day 2 now... maybe it'll go away? FX.
@kswiger06 ughhhh but it's so much easier not to wait for him/do it myself. I'm in the same boat. If I do much of anything, they start up. And my toddler is 34 lbs
And I feel like I'm nagging. At the beginning of the pregnancy I was still buying all our animal foods (rabbits get 50 lb bags) and cat litter and stuff, now I feel like I'm just constantly saying I need help. Even though it's not really me, I just feel like a pampered baby or something.
We buy dog food 50 lbs at a time. DH cut me off... he has to go get the dog food now. It does stink not being able to do everything you normally do, but I get it. It'll be worse after my c-section, when I can't even lift a laundry basket.
We buy dog food 50 lbs at a time. DH cut me off... he has to go get the dog food now. It does stink not being able to do everything you normally do, but I get it. It'll be worse after my c-section, when I can't even lift a laundry basket.
Re: Symptoms 12-5-16
Then, the nurse came in and my temp was 99, and I just broke down. The thought that she could come anytime and that she'd be so small and sick just kills me. My temp came back down an hour later, so hopefully it stays low and isn't a sign of infection.
Tomorrow I will suck it up and regain my optimistic, but for tonight im giving myself permission to feel like this just sucks.
My moms best friend had a baby at 24 weeks back in the 80's and he was tiny but totally healthy. Looking at him now, a strapping and intelligent man, you would never guess he was a preemie.
I know it's easy for us to try to tell you to stay positive, but I really hope you can. And if you have moments of not feeling great, that's ok too.
We are all here and rooting for you.
Have H look for your ring, it might just be misplaced. It is just a thing but I'd be upset too. You might have to tell him to keep stressful stuff away from you while you're in the hospital.
Also - I feel like I've mentioned this in multiple posts lately, but my sister had her baby just shy of 26 weeks in August. She was in the NICU for a while, but now she's home, 9lbs with a double chin and fat rolls, and quite a set of lungs!! Sending positive vibes for your little one to keep cooking, but it's amazing what doctors can do these days to help preemies thrive. You and your babe are in good hands!
It must be so overwhelming so no one would blame you for being a little down every now and again about, you want your baby to have the best
possible chance & youre doing everything you possibly can but its hard!
hang in there! Xxx
@jstringfellow19 both my legs drive me nutso for a few hours each night before I fall asleep. Like it's an internal itch or something and it only goes away when I move or kick them. Is that how it feels for you?
My 2nd belly piercing had to be taken out today. My belly button officially looks mangled and has me wondering if it'll always look that way now. I've had that piercing for 16 years and I feel awkward without it! I've gotten the bloody noses to stop though thanks to the constant hum of the humidifier next to my bed, no more kleenex carnage in the trashcan like I butchered a chipmunk every morning. Shortness of breath, butt cheek pain, and some mild nausea can all suck it currently.
I know that she has an amazing chance of a good outcome even if she came today and stories of preemies who have gone on to thrive seem to be the rule more than the exception. I'm so grateful for that, while simultaneously somewhat mourning the loss of my dream to have a low intervention birth, immediate skin to skin, establishing a breastfeeding relationship right away, etc. But, as a FTM I have the feeling that nothing about parenting goes as you envision so maybe I'm just getting used to that sooner than most
@yogadevil I am with you on the bloody noses! I've never had them before but they suuuuuck.
@concreteangell I had kind of a funny hiccuping experience yesterday. I get hooked up to the fetal monitor three times a day for kind of a modified nst. Last night, she got the hiccups in the middle and not only were they super loud on the monitor, but they also prevented it from being able to pick up the HB accurately for about five minutes because they were so loud.
@lemieuxk I'm praying for you and baby! I hope your rings turn up. Fingers crossed that baby stay safe put for a while!
If another "good outcome" story helps--my cousin had twin boys at 28 weeks in May, and looking at them now, you would never even guess. I understand your grief about losing the birth experience you wanted, though, and I think it's fine and healthy to mourn that, even though we all know that a healthy mom and baby is the ultimate end goal. Hope the LO stays put a little longer!
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
Lovely. Such ladylike. Much gas. Wow.
BFP May 16th 2016
DD born January 30 2017
Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
My symptom:
Pregnant-me doesn't exhale disgustedly when angry like non-pregnant me did. Pregnant me really wants to break shit. Or throw it. Maybe throw something heavy into something breakable. Blind rage is only on day 2 now... maybe it'll go away? FX.
Married: 10/10
EDD: 8/27/16 MMC 1/16
Rainbow Boy: 2/04/17
TTC: 4/18 BFP: 1/2/19
EDD: 9/6/19