Are you team green?

supermom83 · December 2016

I'm being bold and starting a thread I think will be fun.

Are you team green or are you dying to find out if you're having a little boy or girl? Do you have a "hunch" it's a certain sex?

I so very want to be team green, but I have zero will power. I tried with DS2, and asked the ultrasound tec to write it down and give us a sealed envelope with the news. Yeah....DH and I made it to the parking lot before we tore into that and found out we were having another boy! lol

My doctor told me that since I'm a high risk pregnancy, I'm going to be getting that new Materni21 test that will let us know the sex as early as 12 weeks (94% accuracy though). That's crazy to me! I'm so used to waiting till 20 weeks. But I'm excited to find out. I have a hunch it's a girl this time, but I've only ever made penises so far, so who knows! lol

spk112 · December 2016

Yes! As of right now, we're team green. I'm pretty confident that I won't change my mind, but I wouldn't be surprised if H waffled and wanted to know. Our plan is only to find out the sex if we discover that I'm pregnant with multiples, or if any diagnostic testing shows that our baby may have a sex-linked disorder.

Most of my friends who have already had babies were also team green, now that I think about it.

oramirez1106 · December 2016

We found out with our first DS, really only because it never really occurred to me not to! With DS2, we stayed team green because we were just totally good as to whether it was another boy and they'd be close in age...etc, or if it was a girl which would have been great too. I will say, being team green was WAY more fun than I thought it would be. This time, I want to stay team green, but DH really wants to find out. So we'll see where this ends up...!

OperaSingerMommy · December 2016

I LOVE when my friends are team green because I think finding out at the birth is really fun. But... I'm too much of a planner, ha I could never do it! We will likely find out at the 20 wk anatomy scan unless the little stinker is covering up the goods. I think it felt more real to me last time when we knew the sex and the name.

flipflopped · December 2016

We were team green with #1 and will be with this one. I was shocked at how many friends and family were upset and actually mad about it. It was so cool to hear it from the doctor at delivery.

Edit - it made names harder as we wanted to have options so we ended up with a short list of 3 boy and 3 girl. That was the hardest part for me!!

hqinmd · December 2016

We will find out. We have with our other two and I'm glad. When DD1 was born, she wasn't breathing so the baby's sex, if we hadn't known it in advance, would have been the farthest thing from our minds. I'm glad we got to have that initial "it's a girl!" moment.

There is enough happening at the birth for me. I'm happy to find out the sex halfway through pregnancy and be able to stop calling baby "it."

longhairdntcare · December 2016

You know - this question would be better suited in the 'pregnancy chatter' thread.

JUST KIDDING! haha

I can't be team green. I am way too much of a planner and I hate surprises. I need all the info!!! Plus I want to be able to make the nursery gender specific (I know, I know). We will probably do some sort of super small gender reveal party (just family and super close friends)

Poppyseed72017 · December 2016

Team green here too. Unless like @spk112 we find out we are having multiples then we may cave and find out the sexes. We are also high risk and want to focus on me being healthy throughout the process. I'm hoping we will stick to it. It will just make the process that much more exciting.

dancegurl1118 · December 2016

Definitely team green, unless there is an issue along the way and we need much more testing etc. it was easy to be Team Green for DD because we had one ultrasound where they were able to tell. If we have to get many more bc of an issue with baby I think it would be hard for me to stay strong. One of my greatest moments in life was her delivery and finding out her sex at that split second.

I didnt want a girl at the time and couldnt imagine anything different now. Makes me scared for a boy this time because of the same feelings but all I want is a healthy baby to take home.

MaMinette13 · December 2016

I thought about being Team Green this time around, but when I brought it up to DH he immediately shot me down. He keeps talking about how he is a "planner", but I think he just needs the extra time to get used to little he or she.

No hunches last time, and really none this time either!

plumpous · December 2016

There's something so special about finding out at birth! Plus if it's your first and you get everything unisex it's really useful.

However, I can't wait another minute to know. If I can know right now it won't be soon enough. I have zero patience and I want to start picking names.

I hope it's a girl. Because I have everything. And they'll always be able to share closets and enjoy the same toys (maybe). Lastly, I don't want to deal with circumcision (Jewish).

abjm0325 · December 2016

I think we'll be finding out. I will have enough surprises with having a baby and becoming a mom that I don't think I'll miss that one!

virginiaunicorn11 · December 2016

We were Team Green with our first, and it was torturous and awesome! Totally what got me over the finish line during labor.

This time, DH wants to find out. He thinks it will help us prepare our son better. My take is the kid is 1.5 (he will just be turning 2), so isn't going to have the first clue what's going on, whether or not we know if he's having a brother or sister. It's also kind of family tradition to go Team Green, so I am feeling hesitant to find out - I like the tradition!

Any STMs+ who went Green the first round? Would love your stories and opinions. I can see pros/cons both ways.

LimeKrazy · December 2016

I'm definitely team finding out! Like others have said I'm way too much of a planner to not know ahead of time. I'd like to have another girl. Mostly because I have an attic full of girl clothes. j/k but only kinda

But in my head whenever I think of this baby it's "him". Not sure if it's intuition or just DH somehow willing his wish into my mind.

glitterfish-2 · December 2016

NO WAY!
I am dying to find out ASAP!
I go in for my NT scan and NIPT on 12/14, and I'm hoping hoping hoping we can find out by Christmas!
(Very much hoping for a girl, I really don't know what I would do with a boy! I can't picture it at all!)

virginiaunicorn11 · December 2016

LimeKrazy said:

I'm definitely team finding out! Like others have said I'm way too much of a planner to not know ahead of time. I'd like to have another girl. Mostly because I have an attic full of girl clothes. j/k but only kinda :) But in my head whenever I think of this baby it's "him". Not sure if it's intuition or just DH somehow willing his wish into my mind.

This is why I kind of want another boy. Would be so nice to just have almost everything already

pink flamingo · December 2016

I am team green !!! I am a STM and also was team green for our first. It was my husbands idea the first time and I initially was not on board until after I went online a researched gender neutral rooms and liked them. I kind of liked the neutral room idea after a while because it made you think outside of the box for a baby room and made it more interesting or different then your usual baby room looks.

To this day sometimes I try to buy gender neutral stuff because I was always thinking about the next child. Mostly when it came to toy stuff. For instance I bought my daughter a basketball hoop. They had a hot pink option or the option that looked like the traditional hoop. I went traditional.

Anyways as for finding out when she came out ....... I was in shock! I was shaking, crying and kind of out of it. I went from max pain to nothing in a second and then less than a minute later they held her up like the lion king and said " ITS A GIRL!!". At that moment when they told me I really didn't care lol lol. So your probably wondering why we are still team green? I think because I know what is coming I'll be more prepared. I just think knowing more will make that moment more enjoyable this time around.

mslynn2012 · December 2016

Yes, we are team green. With my first I knew he was a boy before the tech told me, and same with my 2nd (girl). This time I'm feeling like it's a boy again, but for no particular reason. Since we have one of each, and all their gear still, and this will be our last, and we get to pick the birthdate (repeat csection), we figured it would be fun to wait to find out. I'm a bit nervous as my dr does a US at every appointment and will offer to check for us, and I'm not sure I'll be able to stay strong. FX I can.

Oh, and since I'll be 35, I get the blood test on 12/13, at which time they can tell me the sex. Ahhhh!!! The temptation is killing me!!!

ThePecks · December 2016

This is fun!

I want to be team green, but I know that we'll probably end up finding out though I haven't really talked about it much with DH yet. HOWEVER, I'm thinking about keeping that info just to ourselves so we don't get a ton of pink/blue crap only. We like variety and it actually makes me so angry that there are already such divided gender roles starting at/before birth!! (Found that out when I was shopping for my nephew last year!)

BoTor091314 · December 2016

I'm so on the fence about this! I think it will be a "surprise" either way - just a matter of when you want the surprise. I definitely want to know that baby is healthy - regardless.

I think our plan is to keep things really "gender neutral" in general - or I guess not put too much emphasis on gender roles and gender appropriate toys.

DH is the eldest of 2 boys - and his mom still dressed them in little dresses when they were small (and I have photographic evidence). Also my bff dressed her daughter in cute little boy outfits (omg, the sailor suit was too adorable).

All that said, I know some are dying at the chance to go all out on nursery themes/items. And I think it is super cute - just not for me.

oheliza44 · December 2016

I am a FTM and definitely team green (unless like a few others said it is multiples in which case that is enough of a surprise.) My sister did not find out the gender with either of her kids and the memory of my BIL coming into the waiting room to tell us they had a son is something I cherish; I want that experience too!

I am a huge planner so this will probably kill me but I am committed to not knowing until he/she is born. My parents will be here for the birth so I'll probably buy two bags of baby clothes and have my mom wash the apporpriate stuff and bring it to the hospital after the birth. Other things can be returned.

Also I am just shocked that some people were posting that their friends/family would be mad about them not finding out the gender! So ridiculous.

morgarita · December 2016

We are definitely finding out. We found out with the first but didn't tell anyone so we got lots of gender neutral stuff so I don't need to buy anything until the baby is a year atleast. If it's a girl this time I'll buy a couple cute girl outfits for fun. I don't feel obligated to buy baby a whole new wardrobe which I would feel like I have to buy it now.

Im surprised how many people are waiting. I think it would be really exciting for the big reveal when they were born but I just can't wait.

torichantel2005 · December 2016

Definitely want to find out. Our nursery is going to be pretty neutral, but I don't want a bunch of gender neutral outfits. Plus I just want to know!!

As for a hunch... I keep having this thought that it's twins. But could just be wishful thinking. Yesterday I had my first "oh it's definitely a boy." I'll probably end up being wrong on all accounts. lol

chiquita928 · December 2016

Rae. said:

You know - this question would be better suited in the 'pregnancy chatter' thread.

JUST KIDDING! haha

Omg I just ugly snort-laughed at this!

@hqinmd One of the best things about finding out is that we get to stop saying 'it.'

I loved finding out with DS. We started to refer to him by name, I could really start imagining life with a little boy, and there were so many great personalized items that we got and were given. It was such a peaceful, special moment to find out together without everything else that is happening at delivery time. I loved it, so we will definitely try to find out again. To each her own.

PP mentioned people getting angry at them for not finding out. My friend was team green, and caught a lot of flack from people. People would get snarky with me saying, "I can't believe you don't want to be surprised!" and I would reply, "I was surprised! At 20 weeks!"

bel194 · December 2016

So far DH really wants to be team green and I am on the fence about it. With DD they could never tell for sure at any of the scans because of the positions she was in so we were team green, but not by choice. (TW?) I feel like I had a hard bonding while I was pregnant with not knowing the sex. I didn't buy anything except a car seat and a crib and we didn't have any names picked out. I was only 18 though and I really wanted to know so I feel like that played a big role in my mental health at that time.

I know that DH really wants a boy this time around and I want him to get one but deep down I really want another girl! I wouldn't know what to do with a boy and this baby and DD will be 4 years apart so I feel like they will have a closer bond if they are both girls. Who knows though.

MrsN092714 · December 2016

I sooooo want to be team green. We were with my son and it was torture but I loved it. I told everyone that had I had a third tri scan it would have been hard to not find out (i later wished I had a third trimester scan as he was surprise breech). I promised my husband we would find out this time and quickly went back on that and he is okay with not finding out BUT we are high risk and are doing the T21 testing and can find out in a few weeks, and are looking at no less than monthly scans and I just don't know if I will have the will power to hold out for so many ultrasounds.

We have a boy and I would love a girl. My gut says it's a girl, this pregnancy has been so much different already but I know that doesn't mean much. I would be just as thrilled with another boy, a little brother for my baby and I have a retarded amount of boys clothes put away just in case!

I dont know what to do! Do I wait until I can't stand it anymore or do I just give in early?! Can I make it through so many scans without knowing or having someone slip up and say?

So yea, I don't know. I want to be but I don't know if I will be...

michelle04us · December 2016

We are finding out. We actually have a good reason to. We have 4 kids now. 3 boys and a girl. We will be buying our first house this march/april. We will only be getting a 4 bedroom. So if this baby is a boy our 4 year old will be sharing a room with his 10yo brother while 3yo will be sharing with baby. If its a girl 2 youngest boys will share and big sister will be sharing with baby. Would like to have who is sleeping where figured out before moving in so no rearranging when Im recuperating from surgery(repeat section).

Also, I really want a girl. The 3 boys are mine while the girl is my husbands. I came into her life at 8 so didnt have the little girl stage. I told my husband Im 99.9% sure Im having a boy though because I only have boys.

star_beagle · December 2016

I want to be Team Green, but DH really wants to know. And, to be honest, I don't think I'd make it all the way. LOL.

I actually kind of have a hunch it's a little girl, but I would be more than happy with either gender.

Rotu101 · December 2016

I was team green for my first and I initially I was not on board but my husband really wanted to find out when the baby was delivered, so I went along with it. Now for this one, I think I'm leaning towards team green again.

Mrs.EmmaLouise · December 2016

I found out with my daughter. We will find out again.

My sister did team green for her first (drove me crazy), but found out with her second. Like PP said, it was easier for her to talk to her daughter about the new baby.

I have zero hunches on gender for this pregnancy. I also had no hunches for my daughter. I'm fine with either gender, but I think sisters would be nice.

StacyH0507 · December 2016

I can't wait to find out what this baby is! I applaud all you ladies with the patience to wait until the end!

LoveLee85 · December 2016

We will find out at 20 weeks. I mean it's a true, genuine surprise either way!!! I get annoyed when people think it's so much better to wait. Lol. Either way you are finding out a massive surprise! No team green here.

Cynth0104 · December 2016

I am team green, my husband wants to find out. I gave in finding out with my son so I think I'm going to stand my ground.

i have a feeling this one is a girl

satsumasandlemons · December 2016

@virginiaunicorn11 we were team Green with our first and there's no way we're doing that again! The anxiety was too much! I used to roll my eyes at "I'm too much of a planner" ... it isn't the gear or clothes I need to plan for, it's that i hope it'll help me be able to imagine what life after birth will be like. Brace yourselves, tw for some UO mamas: I suspect it'll help me bond more with baby.

I suffered from post partum anxiety and am generally a very anxious person, so I feel like having as much control as I can and preparing as much as possible will help me manage the anxiety.

While I'm hoping this one is a girl for very practical reasons, I would be thrilled at the possibility of having a boy and using our name finally and having a little mini-DH. I can totally see him in my mind's eye. (I would absolutely love sisters though) so bottom line, either would be the best!!

cssme13 · December 2016

I kind of want to be team green but DH is definitely all for finding out so that's probably what we will do.

As far as a hunch goes, I'm thinking boy but maybe that's just because DH and I both want a boy. With DS we were certain he was a girl and then with DD we were certain she was a boy so we are going 0-2 with our guesses.

mars8k · December 2016

Team green ladies you are superstars! I could never wait lol with my first i got a "probably a girl" around week 12-13 and she indeed was a girl. I can't wait find out!

i keep thinking it's another girl but it could be just a force of habbit aince my first was a girl

eith my first i desperately wanted a girl, my brother said it was mother's intuition telling me i was having a girl, this time i'm super excited about both!

lala123321567789 · December 2016

Definitely team green! DH and I both want to be surprised and would rather get gender neutral clothes/acessories than all pink/blue.

Two other girls at my work are pregnant and due in June and both told everyone pretty much as soon as they found out, and both are finding out the sex. I'm waiting till at least 12 weeks to tell anyone (other than parents) and hoping to hide my pregnancy fron work for longer than that. so I think part of the reason we want it to be a surprise is because we are just enjoying this journey and trying to keep low-key, neither of us are social butterflies and we don't use social media much so it's not hard to keep low-key.

virginiaunicorn11 · December 2016

@MrsN092714 - I had monthly scans last time (when we were Team Green), and it got tougher every month! At month 6 or 7, DH and I stopped reminding the doctor that we didn't want to know, and secretly hoped he'd slip up - but he never did.

Someone posted about their husband really wanting a boy (sorry, can't find who now, to tag). Last time we went Team Green because a) DH really wanted a boy, and we felt gender (sex) disappointment would be less likely with a baby in our arms, and b) I did not want a house full of pink. My mother still decided it was a girl and bought a lot of pink blankets, but our son doesn't mind, lol

This is such a tough decision! I agree I had a really hard time picturing life with a baby as Team Green FTM. I felt like I was dealing with a pregnancy rather than preparing for a baby. I don't think it interfered with actual bonding, though. This time around, I do already feel more prepared and connected to the baby.

I will just tell DH that I strongly prefer to stay Team Green, but if it really matters to him, we can find out.

I am not bothered by anyone's comments or choices whatsoever, but the "I'm a planner" sentiment just falls flat with me, personally. To each her own!

Ahhh, this is a part of pregnancy that is so exciting!!

chiquita928 · December 2016

mars8k said:
i keep thinking it's another girl but it could be just a force of habbit aince my first was a girl

Same thing here! I keep referring to this one as a boy, I think it's just because I already have a boy, and that's what I'm used to saying.

Cynth0104 · December 2016

@chiquita928, that's funny! I already have a boy, yet keep referring to this one as she. It may be because my son really wants a sister and keeps saying she!

awillis13 · December 2016

We have been battling about this. I am set on not finding out (I didn't with my first), but DH is adamant that we find out. I think I finally won though, when we told his family and they all were on my side.

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