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April 2017 Moms
ladameperdue
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ladameperdue
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I know it's late...traveling for work!
I think the mid-century modern decor over-kill trend is ugly.
I think the mid-century modern decor over-kill trend is ugly.
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MMC @ 10w March 2016Cautiously expecting April 5, 2017
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I was like that for a while, until I met my husband! We always had fruit growing up, so that was our dessert after dinner. When I met my husband, he brought in his lady friend into the relationship...Little Debbie. I now feel the need to have cookies, cake, ice cream, etc.
My unpopular opinion is Justin Timberlake. Don't really care for his music or his acting.
DD1 born 3.2014
DD2 born 4.2017
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
Married: 12-04-06
Annabelle: 1-1-08
Patrick: 8-15-10
EDD: 4-20-17
Give me all the carbs....every once awhile I'll want sweet (randomly after an intense worki out..weird).
Though I've had sweet tooth during pregnancy...DQ Blizzards, Ice cream sandwiches, etc
Toootally different subject, and has nothing to do with pie, although I want pie now (chocolate please), I have to bash people who constantly take selfies.
My SIL is obsessed with taking selfies. People like that, IMO just want the attention and someone to tell them how pretty they are. Self esteem issues??
Don't get me wrong, I have taken selfies before, but hardly ever just me, it's usually with someone else in the pic and for a specific occasion. But people who just sit in their living room shooting pics away just have issues LOL
Yes I completely agree! I had taken my son to the children's museum about a year ago and a mom was sitting down trying to take a selfie. My son and I were walking into baby/toddler area and this kid walks out. I was trying to make sure my kid didn't pinch his fingers on the door and got in safely since he was only a year old. I then see the mom jump up, run to the door and tell me "You're just going to let my kid walk out the door!?" I just shook my head and walked away, but I was thinking "really? You're blaming me for not paying attention to your kid?" I hate that some parents pay more attention to their cell phones than their kids.
I really try not to let DD see photos of herself right away. She's still too little to care, but I notice even my 9 year old students beg me to take a picture again or offer up self deprecating comments almost immediately upon seeing photos. I'd rather get her in the habit now of not caring what she looks like and not feeling like she has to "check" each picture. I try to not react to my own photos in front of her either (how easy is that to accidentally do?!).
Anyway, yes, too many selfies = bad.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
I definitely agree though that self esteem is and will continue to be a major issue and I'd like to think that since I'm raising boys it won't be a major focus of their life, but who are we kidding here...boys want to look good too. I make a point to tell my boys that they are all beautiful (as well as compliment non-appearance related qualities). I've even started picking out special features that they might get teased for and tell them how much I love those features because they are unique to them (example, my 9 year old has big ears and he has already gotten some comments from kids at school).
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
@wagnerw I forget what age you teach...? I learned this summer while teaching middle schoolers that they play this awful game on FB. One kid will post a pic of two of their friends and then people vote which is better looking. Then it keeps going like a championship. They make the photos public so anyone can vote. I saw one and it had thousands of votes, not to mention people comment on them. I thought it was just awful. The kids kept trying to tell me it's just a game and no one gets their feelings hurt. I was like, you are most definitely lying...of course people would get their feelings hurts! Hope your kids don't play that (there was some name for it but I forget what).
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
DH tells me that I'm going to smother DS but he'll never be able to say that I didn't love him. Several of my family members comment on how much I'm spoiling him, but, FFS, you can't spoil a baby!
Like @cafedisco I love on my students, too. I teach in a low-income school in an otherwise rich area, and a lot of my kids don't have a ton of parental involvement and already feel like outsiders in their community. Love fixes a lot of things.
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
YES to this and all you moms who commented on this topic. I know I was loved but the worlds "I love you" were NEVER said in my home. My dad was very strict and I was afraid of him. Harsh words on the other hand were used a lot while I was growing up. I can't say that I wasn't hugged and kissed plenty though.
But I tell my daughter as often as I can that I love her, that she makes me happy, that I'm proud of her, that she's beautiful and smart. etc. And I give her a million kisses and hugs every day.
I certainly do yell at her, too and don't necessarily always do the right thing. But no matter what I make sure she gets the affection and hears those words.
*I hate the idea of calling my husband "daddy" or myself "mommy" and stuff , to anyone other than the kid!!
* hate it when people speak about their baby in plural. "we just had a wee wee" or "oooh we have a full nappy again". - no, *you* (hopefully) don't have a full nappy, the baby does!! I specifically asked my sister to tell me if I ever turn into this... hopefully never.
* hate it when people overshare on social media about their kid (or about anything really). I am soo not interested in their poop colour and consistency, other than if it is you lovely bumpies, where I specifically come for the TMI and the body related discussions! I don't want to see on facebook the gazillionth post about what the baby ate, when he cried, when he pooped, etc. Even one post a day is too much. Last time I posted something on FB was 3rd Nov. Come on people, you are not that interesting! *rant over*
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
oh my goodness, yes to the people posting about their kids constantly. I have one friend that I keep threatening to delete but don't and I don't know why. Before she had kids she was ALWAYS posting about how she didn't feel good, was so tired, was going to the bed with a "tummy ache" or something of that sort (I asked my husband, how can someone be sick literally every day?? She really wasn't, just a complainer/attention seeker) and now since she had a baby, I'm not joking, she posts basically every day about how she was 'up with the baby X amount of hours last night, hope I can get some sleep,' I just want to be like "hello! everyone who has had a newborn goes through this, you aren't the first one! we get it, she doesn't sleep for long periods of time at night, it's normal!!"
When I was pregnant with DS @HGRich I was of the same mindset, I made a private "group" on facebook for only family and a FEW close friends to post "baby updates" like belly pics or how I was doing etc. I only posted a few pics and a few updates total over the whole pregnancy. I never once put one on my actual feed and the only thing I've posted on FB about this one was our announcement pic a few weeks ago. I probably should re-open my group to post a few updates. It's mainly out of town family so they like knowing what's going on.
The worst offenders of this are my SILs...seriously, I could look at Facebook and see every detail of my nephew's lives on any given day. I don't log-in very much, but I did this morning because this post inspired me to, and I now know that:
Nephew 1 woke up at 3 AM throwing a temper tantrum
Nephew 2 had a blowout on the way to daycare
Nephew 3 pulled an ornament off of the Christmas tree this morning and it broke.
Nephew 1 + 3 have an Elf on the Shelf named Toby that Nephew 3 is afraid of
...and it's only 8:15, haha. I get it; you're proud of your kids, but no one else cares as much as you do. (I will say that my SILs engage in a fair amount of attention-whoring...one of them was the one I've mentioned before that invited over 100 people to her gender reveal and requested gifts, one of them had two weddings because she wanted to, the other one is fairly normal, haha).
In general, I take it a step further. I don't like many pictures of my girl on fabo. I or my husband may put a couple of pics up a year. Family and friends of course tag her in a few additional photos. I feel she cannot consent and things on the internet live forever. When she is 16+ she may resent having 16 years of her face in photos all over the place. Even with the highest privacy settings, an image can be grabbed or shared. We don't really know where social media is headed. The future generations may not be into it. I think some of the children in the blowout pics will not feel so great when a potential boss sees that during a social media screening in 20 years. Unpopular Opinion Over
I do know personally someone whose family photos on social media were stalked and used to scam and scare her grandmother into giving money and personal information to a stranger over the phone who appeared to know her grandkids and great grandkids. Creepy.
What I haven't figured out is a good way to share.
I had been emailing pics to a family only list, only to learn that those emails were getting forwarded to coworkers, friends, etc (even though we had asked many times for them NOT to be). My mom didn't get why it bothered me until I explained that it would be like someone 20 years ago going to Walgreens with a physical print you sent and making copies to hand out to their office. Weird.
We basically don't share pictures any more, even with close family. Our parents get very limited texts every now and then but that's it.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17