@cafedisco Everyone in my family has some sort of iphone/ipad, so we do photo sharing through albums on icloud. That way, we dont have to e-mail or put what we dont want out on social media, but my family still receives pics.
@cafedisco We have a shared Google Drive with our parents that we upload most photos to. I had to have a very serious talk with my mom because she knows that my FB privacy settings are pretty strict (and I'm only friends with people I actually know, so roughly 100 people) so she would just save my pictures (either from FB or the Google Drive) to her computer and upload them on her own account. I about lost my Jesus on her for it. I agree that a lot of the older generation (who tend to be the ones that overshare on FB, in my experience) are the ones that don't get the impact of a digital footprint for a kiddo who can't consent for themselves.
@cafedisco I have a flickr account that works well. All my pics are set to private/family only, and people need an email invitation from me to access the albums. Those pictures can be downloaded off the site if they have access, but so far I haven't had any issue with people downloading and sharing things on their own.
We live very far away from all of our family, so it's great to have a place to share lots of pictures securely. I only share the occasional pic on facebook, and my privacy settings are tight there, too. Plus, DH's aunts, uncles, and grandparents aren't on facebook, so they don't get to see the few I share there, anyway, but they do check the flickr account pretty regularly.
Also hate the over posters on FB. I really only go on fabo for a few private groups that I need to keep up with. Ok, maybe I stalk people from high school...every now and then...maybe I look up someone I just met... :P
In general, I take it a step further. I don't like many pictures of my girl on fabo. I or my husband may put a couple of pics up a year. Family and friends of course tag her in a few additional photos. I feel she cannot consent and things on the internet live forever. When she is 16+ she may resent having 16 years of her face in photos all over the place. Even with the highest privacy settings, an image can be grabbed or shared. We don't really know where social media is headed. The future generations may not be into it. I think some of the children in the blowout pics will not feel so great when a potential boss sees that during a social media screening in 20 years. Unpopular Opinion Over
This exactly. I post pictures of my kid on FB and IG bc I have close family living out of town but I am still careful about who is viewing them and who I'm friends with. My younger sisters (20 and 18) have a really hard respecting this. My sister tweeted a funny picture of DS like 6 months ago and I flipped out on her because her twitter isn't private and like 3 people shared it (none of whom I knew). This is something we told them when DS was born since we knew their Twitters and IG's weren't private, so they can't be that surprised when I see it and get mad.
I also made my twin sister (who has a kid so you'd think she'd get it a little bit) remove a picture of DS from her work's office bulletin board. I went to their company outing in October and my sister took some pretty funny pictures of him. One of her bosses printed it from my sister's page and hung it on their wall in a collage. If I worked there, I'd probably be more willing to let it happen, but this was the first time I met these people and they have no right to do that imo. My sister was being weird about it like it wasn't a big deal until I threatened to go to the office myself and demand the picture being taken down. It really made DH and I mad because I didn't consent to it--they just took it from my sister's page, and this is why we get more and more careful about what we share with people ourselves and with tagging.
End rant haha. It just really irritates me when people don't respect things like that with parents.
@ashleym112 I'd be mad too. My ILs have sent out their Christmas letter with a pic of them and DD every year since she was born. Never a picture we'd seen before (or that we are in, just the human we created, but whatever). I brought it up to them. The response? They stopped sending us the letters and we see them or hear about it in another way. Absolutely infuriating.
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
@cafedisco My mom and I almost went to WAR last Christmas because she wanted to take a picture of just DS and send it out to everyone she knew as her Christmas card, and I said no. I didn't want a 'solo' picture of DS but if she wanted to do a family photo I would help them with that. Then she got pissy pants because my MIL had a family picture of her, her husband, and their FOUR grandbabies (including DS) for her Christmas card (and I took the picture, so I knew about it and consented to it). My mom threw a serious tantrum and I was like...wtf? MIL literally took the option that I gave you and DH and I were totally fine with. So, this year my mom went and did it behind my back and told me that she'd already sent the cards after the fact. Guess I'll see what she did in a few days. She said something that made me think she included this baby's ultrasound photo (and I do NOT share US photos, period), so if that happened I will be completely livid.
@cafedisco@SnarkasaurusRex my MIL did the same thing when DS was born. They live in another state so when we were finally able to bring him to see the rest of DH's family (he was about 5months old), we found out that MIL had sent out invitations with him on it for people to come see him--everyone she ever met basically. It was madness, there were so many people there besides family it drove me nuts. DS at the time was still freaked out by crowds of people (there were like 30 people crammed into their house) and just cried the whole time, would only let me and DH hold him.
I just don't get it tbh. Family pictures I can see, but just taking any old picture, especially without the parent's knowledge, is really disrespectful. And @SnarkasaurusRex I would be livid too if they took an u/s picture. like, wtf?!
BTW, I heard on the news last night that the serial kidnapper near the city we live by was finally captured. They said police believe he was using social media to find the kids. They featured him on national news because he was taking kids from their bedrooms, not just as they were walking to school or whatever. Scary scary world we live in.
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We live very far away from all of our family, so it's great to have a place to share lots of pictures securely. I only share the occasional pic on facebook, and my privacy settings are tight there, too. Plus, DH's aunts, uncles, and grandparents aren't on facebook, so they don't get to see the few I share there, anyway, but they do check the flickr account pretty regularly.
DD1 born 3.2014
DD2 born 4.2017
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
I also made my twin sister (who has a kid so you'd think she'd get it a little bit) remove a picture of DS from her work's office bulletin board. I went to their company outing in October and my sister took some pretty funny pictures of him. One of her bosses printed it from my sister's page and hung it on their wall in a collage. If I worked there, I'd probably be more willing to let it happen, but this was the first time I met these people and they have no right to do that imo. My sister was being weird about it like it wasn't a big deal until I threatened to go to the office myself and demand the picture being taken down. It really made DH and I mad because I didn't consent to it--they just took it from my sister's page, and this is why we get more and more careful about what we share with people ourselves and with tagging.
End rant haha. It just really irritates me when people don't respect things like that with parents.
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
I just don't get it tbh. Family pictures I can see, but just taking any old picture, especially without the parent's knowledge, is really disrespectful. And @SnarkasaurusRex I would be livid too if they took an u/s picture. like, wtf?!
BTW, I heard on the news last night that the serial kidnapper near the city we live by was finally captured. They said police believe he was using social media to find the kids. They featured him on national news because he was taking kids from their bedrooms, not just as they were walking to school or whatever. Scary scary world we live in.
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
Seriously, these grandmothers sometimes. I'm writing my book.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17