Late but +1 to a boring sex life lately. After getting lots of painful contractions the last time we did it, H is scared to touch me. He's convinced he's going to hurt the baby no matter what I say. Someone bring him an educational brochure or something.
So we went over to my SILs house tonight to pick up our dog. We knock on the door and no one comes even though someone was home. So we opened the gate and got him. We're in the car and notice that he's acting funny. We had to stop for gas and actually got to look at him and he's really skinny! Her dog is a bully and I really think sil just put food out and didn't watch them and her dog didn't let him eat. We're so pissed! H texted her about it and she got all snippy about him being annoying and we didn't thank her. If he was acting bad it's probably because he was so hungry!
Awww @becbec28 that's sad!! How long did she have your poor doggy? That sounds infuriating she keeps saying that he's annoying. I'm feeling angry for you! It's sad you can't trust family. I'd be afraid of her ever babysitting the baby. I hope your dog can recover from his stay there without any problems.
We dropped him off on Tuesday before we went out of town. It really pisses me off because if Hs aunt had taken care of him like we originally planned this wouldn't have happened. But sil just *had* to take our other dog so Deeks would've been all alone. So she's complaining about keeping him when she messed up the plan to begin with. She thinks her dog is just a perfect angel but she's a 5 month old rottweiler that's not trained. Deeks is a Chihuahua! And she tried to say that she just hadn't fed the dogs yet today. @kswinger06 H said something about her not babysitting too lol
@becbec28 Your poor dog! I hate leaving my dogs with new people, you just never know how it's going to go. I cannot imagine how much worse it's going to be with my actual baby.
@blondepeanut - so what did he want? I would love to know what in his mind is so urgent that it requires waking you up, and then hanging around to argue with you when he's asked to leave. That blows my mind.
Poor pup. If she actually admitted to not feeding them yet today, maybe she really just didn't feed him well the whole time. Obviously one day of not eating wouldnt make a noticeable difference in his physical appearance. It's hard to imagine a tiny chihuahua being that much of an inconvenience. I'm sorry about your dog being mistreated @becbec28 I send my kisses snuggles to him!
@ohstars - brace yourself.....we have big dogs and one is a german shepherd, so we have beware of dog signs hung on our fence for insurance reasons.....he "needed" to talk to me b/c he though the way our signs were hanging around the fence looked trashy like a junk yard. b/c he is a total moron and needs to worry about his own space and respect people's boundaries and stay in his own house. and the most ridiculous part is it started this epic whirlwind with my family where my grandfather is now declaring that Dh and I drove a wedge in the family and I am turning my back on my family by being confrontational and cursing, and allowing my husband to curse at my uncle. I can't even. Sometimes family sucks big time
My uncle has always been an issue, and my grandfather helps the family alot in different ways BUT he has a shitty attitude and thinks he can be a jerk and say anything he wants and everyone else should just deal with it and respect him as the elder of the family. I don't agree with that....yes respect elders but I am not going to allow someone to treat me like garbage and put my uncle's cry baby BS before my sleep and personal space. Granted Dh and I totally blew up and swore at him, but he had no right to repeatedly wake me up and then come to my door basically demanding to talk about something that isn't his business
Wow. @BlondePeanut sorry you have to deal with that. Sounds like this is a good time to decide who you want around your new LO because your uncle sounds like a lunatic.
You are so right @ohstars We are even considering moving to get away from him. My grandfather bought both our properties about 10 years ago to my uncle and my mom b/c they lost their 2 family home. originally my mom lived in our house and then she moved to a condo and asked DH and I to take over for her, so my grandfather basically feels entitled to overstep his boundary because he bought the houses, and if he now thinks he can force us to let my uncle behave that way and give us no space....I would rather move and say good riddens to it all....as much as looking for our own house at almost 28 weeks pregnant would suck ass. and I do love my nursery, I put alot of effort into it. But I sure don't want this family drama around baby girl....no freaking way
@fourPsinapod I'm slightly more confrontational now than I am non-pregnant but you can totally go in for me and give em hell lol aren't you an ohian too or am I mixing people up? Haha
I am! Road trip!!!! Hahahaha. I am always down to get people what they rightfully deserve!
@kswiger06 oh for sure call them! They've been so annoying about the whole process, and you should at least get your car back in the condition you gave it to them in.
@becbec28 that whole situation is maddening, especially since t could've been prevented by your dog staying where it was supposed to. I hope your pup is ok!
My BF is kind of petty- we ordered kind of a pricey changer pad about 10 weeks ago, they said expected delivery about 6-8 weeks. When I called at 8 weeks they said it would be delivered in a few days, but nada. Thanksgiving passes so I call again yesterday (10 weeks) and she said it would for sure be delivered this Wednesday. This morning I get an email saying they're having production problems and shipments are delayed another 3 weeks, and to call them if I want a refund. They're also offering 15% a future purchase "for my troubles." Wtf, I just want the changer pad my husband insisted on splurging on 2.5 months ago, and is complaining about constantly because I swear he thinks it's the highlight of the nursery. I don't want to cancel the damn thing but it's definitely annoying!
@becbec28 I would have lost it. My dog is my first child. If someone treated her like that, I would become an awful person.... I can't understand people that can treat an animal like that
@BlondePeanut Sometimes with family, the only way to get along with them is to not associate, as sad as that can be. I am Godmother of all 3 of my sisters kids, yet I haven't spoken with her or them in 6 years. Neither has my mother. Some people make so much drama you just have to cut them off.
My B**** for the week... my MIL is seriously one of the most ridiculous people I know about the dumbest things!!!! MY best friend, mom, and SIL were asking for months about the baby shower. We got together last week to plan. My MIL couldn't make it because "her schedule is so busy and difficult to work around". She works 20 hours a week and is done by 9 AM. My mom works more hours than her, with rotating shifts (MIL is done at 9 AM and works m-f) and works from home full time as well, my bestie works full time, my SIL works full time and has two little kids but none of them had a problem!!! She wants me to just tell her what to bring. So on the invites she isn't going to be listed as a host. Bring it on. She pulled the same crap for our wedding and then had the nerve to complain about "not being included in the fun stuff". Hellooooo? I tried and tried and TRIED. She wouldn't even go with dress shopping because she is soooo busy.
Then, on Tahnksgiving, she was acting all pissy because I have bought almost all of our expensive stuff. I paid for it all. I am the worlds cheapest person- I have been watching for deals since we got pregnant. Then she was like oh, well, if me and SIL buy this $80 gift and split it, its not that bad. Because they wanted to buy something "big" that will get used. So you are pissed that I bought all the expensive stuff and now you can't, but you choose not to buy one of the bigger things we DO have on our registry because those things are apparently too expensive even if you split it? I can't win...
Oh and @kswiger06 --- my husband would be exactly the same! He is no longer allowed to handle certain things because he is literally just too nice. I, on the other hand, won't let crap like that fly! Cars are a big deal- they should most definitely be taking care of any damage they caused! At least get them to detail it and buff to try to get the scratches out!
@CarsAndLove whuf, she sounds like a peach! Sorry to everyone with family drama--serves as a reminder to me that the grass isn't always greener. I hope your relatives all tone it down and start respecting boundaries. I wouldn't be able to take any of it!
As my DH says, blood may be thick, but sometimes it is too thick and forms a clot which is toxic. I don't need toxic people around me or my daughter. True family stands by you and doesn't only support you if you do what they say, or try to ruin your marriage when you are happy and starting a family b/c they think only blood relation constitutes real family. BS 100%
@CarsAndLove what's weird is that my husband is actually quite rough around the edges. Usually he would have taken it right back as soon as he saw any damage, and had some words for them. I don't understand why he's so laid back about it. He thinks that the paperwork probably included a thing saying he looked it over and was happy with it, and of course it was like an inch thick so he just initiated where the guy said so we don't know what all the fine details were.
Today however, our neighbor who has been mad at us since we moved in decided to knock on our door for the first time. She told me that she trespassed and removed something off our property that is hers. I honestly don't know what she was talking about and told her I'd let my husband know. This lady called the fire department, the police, and complained about our lawn numerous times in less than 2 years since we moved in. We've never done anything to her and I only talked to her once when we first moved in. She claims I told her we don't socialize and that's what got her mad at us. It was a misunderstanding so I tried to explain that to her. She then started walking away and asked if I had anything to say, so I calmly told her that we've caught her trespassing which she then admitted to opening and looking in our garage. She also claimed to be looking around for one of our rabbits and didnt care anymore about our rabbits or dogs if they go out in the street. Our dogs are indoor dogs, that we walk out everytime they need out. Its imposdible the way our house is set up for them to accidently get out. I have no clue why she even said that. She did "congratulate" me on our "newest edition" so I said well thank you, I'm due in February. She said "I was talking about your new dog" and she had a major attitude waving her hands around the entire time. She was cussing at me too!! it was the weirdest conversation I've ever had. When my husband woke up, I told him what happened and he was so angry that she started stuff with his pregnant wife. She let her 4 (yes she has 4) dogs out so he went outside and they went at it for about 45 minutes!! Lol it was nuts! I have no clue how the coming days will go but I'm hoping they got it settled because I'm not really all that confrontational. I mean I'm a bit feisty lately but I don't really want to be out there all the time having to get into it with her. She's actually known as the neighborhood bitch and I'm lucky enough to have her directly next door.
@BlondePeanut I guess! A few doors down we heard them neighbors going at it a few days ago. Don't people usually blame it on the moon?? Is that what it is? Lol
@kswiger06 she sounds SO much like the crappy neighbor we have. Except ours won't get off her porch and just screams at me until I go inside. Then she'll scream at my house for 20 or so minutes. No clue what her deal is, but I get really tired of avoiding my own front yard to keep the peace. She does this to her other neighbor as well. Also, this is the same lady whose dogs attacked a pedestrian in MY yard and bark constantly at everyone from their porch. When they get off the porch they corner anyone who may be outside, attack other dogs, etc. I've already filed two complaints because I just can't take it anymore. People are stupid.
@MrsLittleMac it's too bad we can't put all the crappy neighbors in their own neighborhood so the rest of us can have some peace and enjoy our own yard. It's sad, if our kids want to play outside I have to peek outside first to make sure her or her dogs aren't out there, or take them to the park. Her dogs are fenced in, but she has at least one dog out every 20 minutes from 6:30 am to about 10 pm. And the dogs bark the entire time, even when no one is out for them to see. Her back screen door is propped open all day so I think she must have a mudroom or something with a doggy door and they just go in and out on their own.
That would be amazing! No one here is allowed to have fences or I would just put one up and it would be okay. When I have my kid I have a feeling we'll have to spend most of our outside time at the park. And I have no qualms calling animal control if the dogs get aggressive again.
@kswiger06 and @MrsLittleMac Ya'lls neighbors sound cray cray! I'm sorry you have to deal with that ish. It would suck not being able to just do something in your own house or property
@MrsLittleMac it's too bad we can't put all the crappy neighbors in their own neighborhood so the rest of us can have some peace and enjoy our own yard. It's sad, if our kids want to play outside I have to peek outside first to make sure her or her dogs aren't out there, or take them to the park. Her dogs are fenced in, but she has at least one dog out every 20 minutes from 6:30 am to about 10 pm. And the dogs bark the entire time, even when no one is out for them to see. Her back screen door is propped open all day so I think she must have a mudroom or something with a doggy door and they just go in and out on their own.
I love this idea, can I add my neighbors too. They have some where between 7 to 9 chihuahuas, I have never hated dogs till they moved in. They were leaving them out all the time, they would bark all the time, and they were so small they could find places in the fence to escape and attack other dogs. Our dog stop wanting to go outside when they are out, which was all the time, so we had trouble getting him to go the bathroom. We ended up calling our HOA, I never thought I be one of those people.... that tattle tailed to the HOA, but when my dog stops wanting to go the bathroom we have issues. After the complaint, the HOA did take action and now the owners do not leave them out all the time, yeah! But when they are out they are still a pain and they covered the holes in the fence so the dogs to not escape anymore. It seems to depend who is home and if they care that the dogs are barking or not, when the mom is home the dogs are taken in the moment they start barking, but when it is the dad and I think grandpa, they just do not care and let them bark. So it has gotten better but still damn annoying depending who is home. Good news our dog now goes the bathroom and he even pees on the dogs when they come barking at the fence now that he realizes they cannot get to him. I praise him everytime he pees on those dogs.
I just do not understand why have that many dogs when all you want to do is leave them outside and not take care of them.
Oh geez! @skiingstark that sounds frustrating too. I'm all about gathering everyone's crappy neighbors together lol.
Update on the car... my husband ended up leaving a nasty review/survey and encouraged a call back about it. (Which is why he didn't want me to call) I asked if he got them good enough to satisfy my feelings. He said "yeah, you'd be happy with it." And told br the basics of it. That's good enough for me, and hopefully they compensate us somehow for the damage by either fixing it, or giving us shop credit.
@skiingstark - dam that is alot of chihuahuas! yikes...and they YAP YAP YAP. My neighbor up the road has 4, but luckily she doesn't leave them out much, which I assume is due to the mean ass rottweiler that lives next to her. that dog is a guard dog so he doesn't like anyone or anything other than his owners....which includes my dogs when he walks by my fence and my big dogs in turn hate him back. my hound will bay her longest howl ever when she sees him. DH and I will either stand outside with them, or keep an eye and ear out from inside and if they start barking at anything/anyone they are taken right inside. I have to say they behave really well for the most part, and use the yard like a playground which is evident by the tattered chew toys that keep emerging no matter how many times we clean the pieces up lol
Re: Monday B*fest 11/28
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
EDD: 1/30/2017 *IT'S A GIRL!!!!*
Kirsten Grace 1/20/17
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
EDD: 1/30/2017 *IT'S A GIRL!!!!*
Kirsten Grace 1/20/17
We are even considering moving to get away from him. My grandfather bought both our properties about 10 years ago to my uncle and my mom b/c they lost their 2 family home. originally my mom lived in our house and then she moved to a condo and asked DH and I to take over for her, so my grandfather basically feels entitled to overstep his boundary because he bought the houses, and if he now thinks he can force us to let my uncle behave that way and give us no space....I would rather move and say good riddens to it all....as much as looking for our own house at almost 28 weeks pregnant would suck ass. and I do love my nursery, I put alot of effort into it. But I sure don't want this family drama around baby girl....no freaking way
+1 to her not being a babysitter!
@BlondePeanut Oh hell no. I would've flipped!!
@becbec28 that whole situation is maddening, especially since t could've been prevented by your dog staying where it was supposed to. I hope your pup is ok!
My BF is kind of petty- we ordered kind of a pricey changer pad about 10 weeks ago, they said expected delivery about 6-8 weeks. When I called at 8 weeks they said it would be delivered in a few days, but nada. Thanksgiving passes so I call again yesterday (10 weeks) and she said it would for sure be delivered this Wednesday. This morning I get an email saying they're having production problems and shipments are delayed another 3 weeks, and to call them if I want a refund. They're also offering 15% a future purchase "for my troubles." Wtf, I just want the changer pad my husband insisted on splurging on 2.5 months ago, and is complaining about constantly because I swear he thinks it's the highlight of the nursery. I don't want to cancel the damn thing but it's definitely annoying!
@BlondePeanut Sometimes with family, the only way to get along with them is to not associate, as sad as that can be. I am Godmother of all 3 of my sisters kids, yet I haven't spoken with her or them in 6 years. Neither has my mother. Some people make so much drama you just have to cut them off.
My B**** for the week... my MIL is seriously one of the most ridiculous people I know about the dumbest things!!!! MY best friend, mom, and SIL were asking for months about the baby shower. We got together last week to plan. My MIL couldn't make it because "her schedule is so busy and difficult to work around". She works 20 hours a week and is done by 9 AM. My mom works more hours than her, with rotating shifts (MIL is done at 9 AM and works m-f) and works from home full time as well, my bestie works full time, my SIL works full time and has two little kids but none of them had a problem!!! She wants me to just tell her what to bring. So on the invites she isn't going to be listed as a host. Bring it on. She pulled the same crap for our wedding and then had the nerve to complain about "not being included in the fun stuff". Hellooooo? I tried and tried and TRIED. She wouldn't even go with dress shopping because she is soooo busy.
Then, on Tahnksgiving, she was acting all pissy because I have bought almost all of our expensive stuff. I paid for it all. I am the worlds cheapest person- I have been watching for deals since we got pregnant. Then she was like oh, well, if me and SIL buy this $80 gift and split it, its not that bad. Because they wanted to buy something "big" that will get used. So you are pissed that I bought all the expensive stuff and now you can't, but you choose not to buy one of the bigger things we DO have on our registry because those things are apparently too expensive even if you split it? I can't win...
Today however, our neighbor who has been mad at us since we moved in decided to knock on our door for the first time. She told me that she trespassed and removed something off our property that is hers. I honestly don't know what she was talking about and told her I'd let my husband know. This lady called the fire department, the police, and complained about our lawn numerous times in less than 2 years since we moved in. We've never done anything to her and I only talked to her once when we first moved in. She claims I told her we don't socialize and that's what got her mad at us. It was a misunderstanding so I tried to explain that to her. She then started walking away and asked if I had anything to say, so I calmly told her that we've caught her trespassing which she then admitted to opening and looking in our garage. She also claimed to be looking around for one of our rabbits and didnt care anymore about our rabbits or dogs if they go out in the street. Our dogs are indoor dogs, that we walk out everytime they need out. Its imposdible the way our house is set up for them to accidently get out. I have no clue why she even said that. She did "congratulate" me on our "newest edition" so I said well thank you, I'm due in February. She said "I was talking about your new dog" and she had a major attitude waving her hands around the entire time. She was cussing at me too!! it was the weirdest conversation I've ever had. When my husband woke up, I told him what happened and he was so angry that she started stuff with his pregnant wife. She let her 4 (yes she has 4) dogs out so he went outside and they went at it for about 45 minutes!! Lol it was nuts! I have no clue how the coming days will go but I'm hoping they got it settled because I'm not really all that confrontational. I mean I'm a bit feisty lately but I don't really want to be out there all the time having to get into it with her. She's actually known as the neighborhood bitch and I'm lucky enough to have her directly next door.
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
EDD: 1/30/2017 *IT'S A GIRL!!!!*
Kirsten Grace 1/20/17
I just do not understand why have that many dogs when all you want to do is leave them outside and not take care of them.
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
Update on the car... my husband ended up leaving a nasty review/survey and encouraged a call back about it. (Which is why he didn't want me to call) I asked if he got them good enough to satisfy my feelings. He said "yeah, you'd be happy with it." And told br the basics of it. That's good enough for me, and hopefully they compensate us somehow for the damage by either fixing it, or giving us shop credit.