Weekly Randoms anyone? 11/28

FSUNole31 · November 2016

Post your random thoughts, dear diaries, and comments here!

michaela0704 · November 2016

I'm just so sad this morning... got an email that someone I work closely with was in an accident over the weekend and is in stable but critical condition. They have 3 young children, just horrible news... I've been saying multiple prayers for them.

I've just been crying and can't share the information as it isn't my place to tell my office location... sometimes being on the leadership team is hard when you get information early but can't share.

FSUNole31 · November 2016

That is hard @michaela0704. Hoping for the best for them and for you to get through this day.

FSUNole31 · November 2016

I am back to work after a week off and my son started crying at drop off this morning. I guess a week off wasn't long enough for him either. It sucks starting off the day like that.

michaela0704 · November 2016

@FSUNole31 I hear ya with the kiddos... it doesn't matter that it was just 2 extra days off, they ditched their routine so fast and this morning was tough for everyone to get out the door and to their daycare center.

halfthetree · November 2016

@FSUNole31 I get that!! I took off 2 weeks over Christmas and I'm dreading that first day back to work and school.

halfthetree · November 2016

I'm getting really sick of "you're going to be so tired!" Or "you're going to have your hands full" when family finds out we are having twins. We've only told our immediate family and while everyone's being really great, those side comments are starting to get to me a bit.

michaela0704 · November 2016

@halfthetree I know the feeling... unfortunately it only gets worse with strangers. My midwives let me go as long as I could with mine, so I was still driving/grocery shopping/etc. when I was 38w+ with my twins... I had someone at a grocery store ask me 'how many are in your litter?' when I was ~ 37.5w... no, I'm not joking and people say the dumbest things to pregnant women in general... let alone the twin/multiples factor.

Get ready for 'are they natural?' like any twin could not be 'natural'... they're a human being!! I love it when they ask friends of mine that have B/G twin sets if they are identical... my friends always tell them 'yes', haha!!

Twins may seem harder, and the first 6 months is REALLY hard, but in general... they aren't harder, they're just different.

Assiram42 · November 2016

I'm am a glass case of emotions. Every commercial sets me off. Yesterday it was the Frankenstein character who sang at the tree lighting and looked so sad, then it was a mom and baby whale swimming, then it was the football player who got an interception and cried on the bench because he had just lost his father a few days prior.

It's getting out of hand.

michaela0704 · November 2016

@Assiram42 I am with you... I think my co-workers will know I'm pregnant from all the random episodes of crying before any other symptom!!

I wasn't a non-crier before, but I can only remember crying in the office one time in the past few years... when I got news of my uncle passing... otherwise, no crying out of me while at work.

halfthetree · November 2016

@michaela0704 Oh gross, who says that?!?
That's so awesome your midwives werent laying on the pressure! I wish I was able to have midwife care through this pregnancy, stupid health region.
Thank you for the pep talk though, I really appreciate it!! Im really trying to be positive and not let the "what the heck are we going to do!?" creep up too much.

FSUNole31 · November 2016

I am so hungry already and it is only 10:50. Thank goodness I have the earliest lunch at school.

Elyse1384 · November 2016

@halfthetree people are annoying. I just ignore the nonsense as much as I can and prove them wrong with my actions and attitude about raising kids. As DH and I went through 3 years of IF treatment before having our first, we were well "behind" my SIL in the baby department. She was trying for #4 by the time we had a BFP that stuck. Anytime we discussed how excited we were, all we got from my MIL and SIL was "Oh just you wait! It's no walk in the park! Get ready for life to change!". Well of course we knew parenting would be challenging and life changing, but let us be excited damnit! Then we got pregnant with #2 and all we heard from the two of them was "You've had it so easy with just 1! Just you wait until #2 gets here and you'll see it isn't as easy". Well #2 came and we LOVED it. Nothing really changed for us. Now we're pregnant with #3 and wouldn't you know it... at Thanksgiving last week those 2 picked right back up where they left off... "You have no idea how hard 3 is! Two is nothing. Now you're always outnumbered". Oh really MIL.. you only had 2! So how do you even know? From watching your daughter's undisciplined kids who are ill parented and problematic? No, I don't expect it to be easy. Yes, I do expect to love the shit out of it even in life's craziest and most exhausting moments. Yes, I do expect to continue with consistent discipline, love and attention when it comes to my kids.

halfthetree · November 2016

@Elyse1384 Gah I hate that negativity!! I have in laws like that. They drive me crazy sometimes. I love your logic... just do your thing and that will shut 'me up!
Im ecstatic to have twins, such a blessing! I realize I won't sleep for the first year, I don't need people reminding me of this lol

MotherofDragons · November 2016

@Elyse1384 in general people love sharing the worse side of everything. I make it a point to share the good. I can't stand people like your MIL.

meg2704 · November 2016

I mentioned to my mom and stepdad that one reason I'm apprehensive about sharing our good news with the rest of the world is that I don't want a lot of unsolicited advice. In the next five minutes, my stepdad gave me **SO MUCH** advice I just couldn't take it!! About everything! And I'm pretty sure he wasn't doing the bulk of the work when my stepbrothers were younger.

So yea. Super excited to share my news.

ChrisLipstick · November 2016

FSUNole31 said:

I am so hungry already and it is only 10:50. Thank goodness I have the earliest lunch at school.

I feel like I eat all day, every day at work. Seriously this is not good.

kfry22 · November 2016

I'm not even concerned about the unsolicited advice this time around. I'm just mentally preparing for the comments about how big I end up getting. I was huge with my son. I'm 5'1" and he was almost 9lbs and in the 90% percentile for height and head size when born. So he was big. I didn't have a whole lot of space for a baby that big as my torso is really short. I got all the comments under the sun: sure it's just one baby, you should be due any day now your so big, blah blah blah. A coworker who just found out I was pregnant on accident already told me I look "really big" and I'm not even showing yet.

FSUNole31 · November 2016

I have been reading all day about olives (Spains crop that was impacted during a drought) so of course I am home now eating green olives out of a jar.

Mtnmommy · November 2016

I want all the cookies!

This may qualify as a FFC, but I have decided that I will not be sharing the gender of my baby until it's born. My last pregnancy was about everyone but me since I had the first grandchild on both sides. I fully intend on keeping as much of this experience to myself this time.

tmrussell · November 2016

Anyone from Columbus or Ohio? We had an active shooter on OSU campus today. My anxiety was up all day. It saddens my heart. I graduated from there not to long ago. The good news to my knowledge no one died except the suspect.

On good note I heard my baby's heart beat today

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GoodWitchoftheNorth · November 2016

@Assiram42 Some days the emotions are just too much! Josh Groban's "Believe" came on the radio on my way to the grocery store the other day and I uncontrollably ugly cried. The man has the voice of an angel.

thatlauragirl · November 2016

I'm only 10w1d and I still couldn't stop myself from getting out the Doppler trying to find lo's heartbeat. Of course, nothing. So then I cried because crying is my jam lately.

Knottie42089123 · November 2016

So I need to get this off my chest because I'm pretty upset. We announced to DH's family last night as a Thanksgiving reveal. They were all very happy and surprised. We told them that the pregnancy is still a secret and only our immediate families know. Everyone seems to understand.
So, what happens today? My SIL posts "I have such a hard time keeping secrets eeeeek" on FB and tags my other SIL, who goes on to say "I know! It's so hard to keep to myself I keep biting my tongue!"
What do you think happened next? My DH's whole "big fat Greek wedding" type of extended family jumps into the conversation (including the ones he would rather see dead) speculating and guess what the prime guess is: BABY. "Who is having a baby? Is (DH) having a baby?"
After what seems like hours and messaging almost everyone in DH's immediate family the post finally came down and apologies ensued. But the damage is already done in my book. This was a treasure that DH and I held dear and very carefully revealed to our closest loved ones. And it was treated like the cover of National Enquirer.
I don't know what to do when baby comes. I don't trust them to respect my wishes and let me be the one to announce the birth of my own child. I had anxiety leading up to my wedding day where I was paranoid that they would start posting photos on social media before the ceremony. I had to drill my bridesmaids into making sure my two SILs didn't post anything. I don't think this type of worry is fair to me. But I feel burned by what happened and I feel like I need to put my guard up at all times now.
It's just not a good feeling. My SIL is friends with some of my very best friends on fb, and I have not told any of them because I have been trying to plan a nice Christmas surprise. I hope they did not see or suspect anything, because they would be pretty crushed.

Any thoughts or advice would be much appreciated.

CurlyMommy416 · November 2016

Is anyone else eating things they usually don't touch? Last night I ate probably a whole cups worth of jalapenos on my nachos. Really the nachos were just a vehicle for the jalapenos. (yes my heartburn made sure to let me know that was a stupid decision later on in the evening). I've also been craving olives and pepperoni, which I never eat. Baby, you are a weirdo.

halfthetree · November 2016

@Knottie42089123 Ugh that's terrible, I'm so sorry your news got basically blabbed for you!
I had that happen and it blows. My sister posted a picture and announcement of our daughters birth. She was there for our homebirth, and told the world 30 minutes after she was born. It sucks hard when you're special news isn't your "surprise" anymore.

jesselayne8 · November 2016

I'm at work. It's 5:30am. I'm bored. That is all.

awillis13 · November 2016

I have no motivation to get ready for work. And I'm in a bit of a down time at work right now and I have no motivation to get ahead of myself so I don't get overwhelmed after this little dip in business ends. It's going to be a long 4 weeks to Christmas.

awillis13 · November 2016

Ugh, I made myself an egg and cheese sandwich for breakfast. I'm currently sitting here staring at it because the smell is making me want to vomit. But I need to eat something....

Assiram42 · November 2016

@Knottie42089123, that's very unfair of them. I think the best thing is for you or DH to address them and be very direct with your desires once LO is born (regarding announcing), you also need to let them know that the FB thing was unacceptable. This isn't their news to share. I'm sorry you're dealing with that.

Wino0920 · November 2016

@Knottie42089123 I'm so sorry! That's not cool at all. I agree that you and DH need to have a serious talk about announcing the birth and anything else that comes up.

its easier said than done, but try to think that people still really don't know and a lot of people didn't see that post. You still have a great announcement ahead of you.

Im in the opposite boat. I had the great Christmas card announcement idea and my loud mouth keeps telling people. I was sitting here thinking that no one is going to be surprised when they get the dang card. Lol!

FSUNole31 · November 2016

@awillis13 send it my way haha it sounds delicious and I had to rush out so grabbed a breakfast bar this morning blah.

kfry22 · November 2016

@Knottie42089123 can you tell your DH family after the baby is born and after you have had a chance to post your own picture? We called my parents, DH parent, and my brother and told them my son had been born. They were not allowed to come see him for the first four hours of his life. This allowed us to have time to bond. Then, my husband posted on FB and family only was allowed.

beckij34 · November 2016

@tmrussell I live in Ohio too and I heard what happened yesterday. A lady I work with has a son there and he's ok but my heart aches for those who were hurt. That is just so sad.

silliegirlie143 · November 2016

@Knottie42089123 Yikes! That really sucks on their part. As pp's have said I would express my concerns in no uncertain terms. They have a track record of spilling the beans so I'd feel pretty confident that they will do it with the birth too unless you nip this in the bud.

My fave parenting advice column addresses overstepping family members ALL the time (Alpha Mom). You are definitely not alone.

@CurlyMommy416 With my DD I was all about ketchup which I normally loathe. This time I haven't really had any crazy cravings yet but in general I want all the spicy things. I'm waiting for the heartburn to start kicking my ass for that any day now. But now that you talk about olives, I want some

michaela0704 · November 2016

@CurlyMommy416 I didn't really have cravings with my twins... I just indulged in the big bite double doozie from the great american cookie company... ugh, those were the days... I couldn't gain weight at the rate I needed so I let myself indulge every now and then. Now this pregnancy... its crazy! I was researching how to make cannoli filling and seeing the debates between ricotta and mascarpone... I didn't make any because I wasn't sure which would make the kind that I actually like and didn't go out to buy one either, 3 days later I still can't shake the craving!! I don't know when the last time I had a cannoli was but apparently this baby LOVES Italian food... don't get me wrong, I like it, but it's never been my first choice in food.

EmeraldNC · November 2016

So, we just took my DD to the ENT yesterday... we are getting a second set of tubes next Tuesday. Nothing like a suprise shell out of $1000 right before Christmas! Eeeeeek!

CurlyMommy416 · November 2016

@michaela0704 Omg I want a cannoli. Right now.

anitamargarita_82 · November 2016

Is anyone having issues with their gums bleeding or had issues with their gums bleeding during pregnancy? I get my teeth cleaned every 6 months and brush with an electric toothbrush and floss daily. I've got an appointment set up for this Thursday at my dentist, I was just wondering if anyone else had this issue did you use a special mouthwash or anything like that to help? This is new to me, I've never had gum issues before!

kfry22 · November 2016

My one year old hates me. I'm the only one who enforces any sort of rules or discipline (just telling him no and redirecting). As soon as I do, he starts screaming and crawls away from me and cries and cries. I can't take it anymore. My husband has gotten him addicted to pacifiers on top of it all. They used to just be for sleeping. Now, as soon as he is around DH, he gets one popped in his mouth. He doesn't need it. I've had enough and hid two and cut the ends on the other two. My husband yelled at me about it last night and told me it was mean.

To top it all off, this morning he was happy and playing. He had a toy in his hand and was running across the kitchen floor. As he started to bring the toy up to his mouth, he lost his balance. His mouth hit the floor first. He bit through his lip and I just got the bleeding to stop after 25 minutes.

Im leaving for work tomorrow morning and won't be back until late Thursday. I feel bad for being relieved to get a two break day from being a mom. Ugh. Sorry for the rant I

mirdamae03 · November 2016

@Wearmi1 that's very common. Your gums will be much more prone to gingivitis/infections when you're pregnant. I just try to stay on top of it as best I can at home and keep regular cleanings every 6 months.

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