@WinchesterGirl At 28 weeks, I was nowhere near prepared. I felt loads better after my shower, because people gave really helpful gifts, and I started to see how I was going to get it done. Don't forget I've got 5 weeks on you. You are an organizer through and through; by the time you hit 33 weeks, I'm sure you'll be golden.
I've seen your fluffbutt stash. You are going to be so prepared it's not even funny.
Thanks @poetryandoceans, you made me LOL at fluffbutt stash! I got it in my head last night that it was an absolute travesty that we were having a baby in 3 months and I have no place for him to sleep (we got the crib, but no mattress yet). This was really bugging me, so DH agreed that we'd wait until the first shower, then if no one bought it we'd go ahead and get the bassinet at least so I could calm down for awhile!
I haven't dug out any newborn stuff yet and I'm 28w3d. Except I did check my newborn cloth diaper covers elastics yesterday, since i was hoping to rationalize buying more on sale. (But nope, they're fine)! New babies don't really need much. I'm not in panic mode yet, but am starting to think about getting some things set up. (I have considered if my baby was suddenly born now, there would likely be lots of nicu time for me or at least my husband to get things washed up and ready).
I am almost at the 28 week mark and literally have done nothing. We have the nursery furniture but it's still in boxes. The shower isn't until January 8, so I won't be able to get any of the must have stuff before then, well I can, but you know why I mean. It's driving me insane!
I keep thinking I have plenty of time but then also freaking out a little thinking in 5 weeks my first was born and came home. We had to replace our infant car seat and finally ordered it with the Black Friday sales. Feeling much better now having that done.
At my appointment on thursday the baby is measuring on the big side & several weeks ahead. I started freaking out that she will arrive early and none of the stuff we have ordered is due to be delivered until the first week in january. So i phoned up today & changed the delivery for the car seat & base to 2 weeks time so that incase she decides to come early we at least have something to bring her home! Anything else we might need is easy to get but the car seat was worrying me.
@WinchesterGirl I just had a freak out this weekend too. I was feeling like we were making progress on everything but as of today there are holes in the nursery wall and ceiling since my husband is trying to install a ceiling light. He ran out of time when my dad was here so I have no idea now when it will get done
AW: Yeah, got back my lab results after the 3 hours GD testing and I passed! So happy, my husband is happy too because that last thing he said he wanted to hear me bitch about, since I bitch about not drinking my wine and soda is not having sugar on top of it.
I'm on team Ain't Done Shit. I'm using the excuse that baby boy will be sleeping in mom & dad's room for a few months to not do any of the stuff. I've got clothes & gear from my son still hanging around, and haven't even looked at it yet. Maybe I'll get my crap together after the holidays. I always expect Future Tentacular to be have her shit together so much more than Present Tentacular does. Present Tentacular is a walking disaster area with a really fat ass. Can't count on that one for anything.
@poetryandoceans Can I borrow some if your organizational skills pleasethankyou?
@WinchesterGirl +1 to being terrified! We hit 28 wks on Friday and I went "oh shit, we only have 12 wks left!"
Black Friday helped. We finished our diaper stash and bought a pack n play. Also my friend is planning my shower and I think she's buying our car seat/ stroller. If no, I feel confident we will be able to get it in Jan after our showers.
Now I just need to get this blood sugar under control and we'll be set!
Add me to the list of almost 28 weeks with nothing done. We're moving on Dec 9th and didn't want to buy any big stuff until we moved. Also our shower isn't until Jan 14th. It has me a bit worried it's so late but at the same time I keep trying to tell myself, if he's that early he'll prob have to stay in the NICU and with Amazon Prime we can get anything we need in 2 days. Or worst case DH or his parents will have to stop and pick up the necessities at like BRU so we can go home. We'll make it work no matter what. The baby won't care if his nursery doesn't get painted. But FX he stays in until his due date and we get everything done!
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@marriedhamstermom we close on our new house on December 9th too! High Five to being crazy women who decide 7 months preggo is the perfect time to move! lol
@WinchesterGirl we got pretty much everything at our shower last weekend, exceeeeept for the beloved crib mattress. Luckily BRU had a great sale this weekend though (And still on sale....) Sealy Mattress which was $130 and is now $65!
+1 28w with almost nothing done! I started clearing out the third bedroom which will be the nursery, at some point. I keep waiting for the sense of urgency to kick in...
+1 28w with almost nothing done! I started clearing out the third bedroom which will be the nursery, at some point. I keep waiting for the sense of urgency to kick in...
+1 to 28 weeks and anxiety setting in. Our kitchen and laundry are on level 1, as are our future master bed, nursery, living room and spare bedroom. We've been sleeping and "living" on level 2 for about a year now. We just finished putting up sheet rock everywhere on level 1 this weekend. We still need to mud/tape, paint, carpet, and move up here...Oh yeah, and set up the nursery.
Yet another at (almost) 28 weeks with nothing done. I have an empty room with like... a few decorations and a bag of clothes sitting on the floor. My stroller will arrive on Monday, but only because I bought it on a Black Friday sale. The person who has to place my furniture order is dragging ass, and I won't have much of anything until after my shower in mid-January. Everything with pregnancy feels very hurry-up-and-wait to me. I'm trying to keep myself focused on enjoying the last couple of weeks where I don't feel like I'm physically bursting at the seams 100% of the time (it's only about 80% of the time right now...), but I'm not doing a very good job at it
@tishb how did you fare now that the crazy rush is mostly over? I survived, but H had to be on foot-rub duty basically the whole time I was home between shifts. I knew what to expect, but OMG being pregnant makes a difference.
Can I express some rather selfish relief that so many moms to be here don't have a heck of a lot done? I thought I was kind of a weirdo for being so far behind so I'm glad to see it's rather normal. I will say I have a plan in my minds eye for how to pull everything together. Boxing Day in Canada is kind of like America's Black Friday so I plan to brave the crowds and snatch up things like bottles, wipes, baby monitor, and breast pump. I'm trying to keep it to things the baby will need immediately so I don't bog myself down. Luckily we've got the bassinet, some blankets, clothes, etc; hubby works for the warehouse of the grocery store I work for so we can get a bulk deal on diapers. It'll come together, I just have to try and not think about how overwhelming it can seem. One way or another baby will be well looked after.
I just wanted to say I'm sorry if I increased anyone's stress level or anxiety; I try and be really conscious of the fact I'm posting on a board where I'm minimum 3 weeks ahead of most everyone else, and I see now that my AW could totally be taken the wrong way.
Part of my concern with getting stuff done early-ish is the Christmas season. If I waited until 35/36 weeks to sort everything out, it would put me at trying to brave mall crowds in the 2nd week in December. And I'm fairly certain that would induce early labour because I hate that scene. If this kiddo weren't going to be considered full term by New Years, I wouldn't have been worrying about big shops this early.
I have been feeling the same way; how did I get this far without accomplishing anything? We finally ordered the crib and dresser/changing table today because they are 15% off on Target. Hoping that having them on the way will be enough of a kick in the butt to finish cleaning out/painting/decorating the nursery.
@poetryandoceans You are all good, no need to apologize on my behalf! I am a major planner and was already feeling the urge to get things done... the 3rd tri was what got me. I think it's something about that hitting, so I can no longer put it off and say, "I still have a whole trimester to work on that." Also you are very smart to avoid the stores in December.
29 weeks here and haven't done much of anything either. I have a feeling it won't hit me until after the Christmas buzz is over.
Since we are on number 3, we both feel it tacky and awkward to have another shower... back in augst my mom offered to throw us one but I declined her offer. Then my mil and aunt in law (?) Lol just made an offer too. I declined that as well but they kept bringing it up and have worked out the details for the most part. Basically it turned into me feeling rude for declining so I ended up agreeing as long as it's small and low key. But then I had to go back and tell my mom because I didn't want it to hurt her feelings if she found out. Now I feel like I'll look gift grabby and like we can't afford our newest baby and my head is going in circles. They all feel it's acceptable because our youngest will be a couple weeks shy of 8 when this one is born... and this one is a boy, our son is 10 so they think it's been long enough. Ugh it's awkward
I think I have everything but a pump? I haven't washed any clothing or swaddle things. I have 9 weeks to go and figured I'd sort through clothes in January.
I am waiting to buy my fancy girdle and hoping I get my compression leggings for Xmas.
I feel like I've been totally absent this week. Both kids had the stomach bug. Then we travelled for thanksgiving. Which was a poor decision on my part. I don't know if it's the stress of the week, the driving, sleeping in a different bed with ds or what- but I had a ton of Braxton hicks and now my back is just killing me. I kind of feel like I'm drowning in life right now. My house is a reck, my children both look unkempt, and they are definitely having lunchables for dinner because I just can't do anymore. I had a semi meltdown on the phone to my mom about how overwhelmed I'm feeling and how I feel inadequate at handling everything. She told me to think of something I want to do for myself- not buy things for the kids etc, but literally for myself. Massage, pedi, hair makeover. Whatever and that she will pay for it and that I have to do it this week. Of course that made me cry more. But I'm super grateful and definitely thinking I need a prenatal massage this week. Anyway. Sorry to kind of unload on you ladies. I feel like I haven't been a great support to everyone here because of it.
Awww @lct2008 I'm sorry you're going through a rough time. The craziness of the holidays plus having sick little ones at home must have wore you down. Draw yourself a nice bath tonight and relax!! I feel like this board is a great spinning door- we all try to be supportive and helpful but it's ok to have your turn getting support and encouragement too.
Hey @lct2008, what an awesome Mom you have there! Definitely go for the prenatal massage... For me, when they focus on my head/scalp, it is absolutely heavenly! Maybe get the prenatal massage and a haircut?
At the end of the day, you're doing your best. Your kids know that and they love you! Get the kids to sleep, take a bath, watch a movie, read a page of a book, or just get some comfy pajamas on a make a glass of tea/hot chocolate/apple cider, etc. and take in a good deep breath! We're all here to support each other whether we're having our best or worst days! Allow yourself the meltdown and know there is always another tomorrow to start over with, just around the corner!
@kswiger06@TeacherMom2517 Thanks for the support ladies And you're exactly right kswiger everything just kind of piled on into one overwhelming heap. I'm thinking a bath is much called for. And my mom is truly wonderful. She really is so supportive and would come out to visit again if she could but just can't right now. I just need to make it just a while longer and husband will be home and I think that will greatly relieve the stress and pressure of having to do it all myself for months. But thank you for the reminders that it's ok to hit a breaking point and that I need to take care of myself. And I loved that link/blog.
@lct2008 its ok to be overwhelmed, theres been a lot going on. Hopefully the next few weeks will be less hectic & you can get back to your usual way of going. But take time for yourself like everyone else has said, you need to look after yourself! Xxx
@lct2008 I recently had a melt down about the same shit. There is just so much going and so much of it falls on my lap. I'm sorry. I hope you time helps.
Hey @lct2008, what an awesome Mom you have there! Definitely go for the prenatal massage... For me, when they focus on my head/scalp, it is absolutely heavenly! Maybe get the prenatal massage and a haircut?
At the end of the day, you're doing your best. Your kids know that and they love you! Get the kids to sleep, take a bath, watch a movie, read a page of a book, or just get some comfy pajamas on a make a glass of tea/hot chocolate/apple cider, etc. and take in a good deep breath! We're all here to support each other whether we're having our best or worst days! Allow yourself the meltdown and know there is always another tomorrow to start over with, just around the corner!
My birthday was this month and for that and Christmas (because it's all I've asked for), I'm getting baby stuffs. Which is great because FFS is nesting for two expensive.
Buuuut today I ordered a Tula for my husband as one of his Christmas gifts. He will be stoked, I'm sure. To be fair, it's a map "navigator" print and not like covered in florals.
@kswiger06 I think it's totally acceptable with the age gap in your kids! It's when kids are like 2-3 years apart that drives me insane. People will be happy for you and happy you are adding after a big gap, I wouldn't worry about it!!
@kswiger06 I went through the same issue with my MIL, I turned her down a few times and now somehow it's happening. It's no one from my family or friends so I'm thinking of it as I'm doing this for her? It's weird.. I feel awkward about it too. I never had a shower but I do have a two year old so we have pretty much everything we need. It'll be an interesting day for sure.
@leslie1331 and @homemake I'm hoping the invited guests will not think I'm just out for gifts, but it still feels awkward. I did suggest making it a baby "celebration" party without gifts. Just a fun get together with food and cheesy games, but my mil is set on a registry or at least finding out what stores for gift cards. *sigh* I guess worse case scenario is people talking behind my back lol.
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I've seen your fluffbutt stash. You are going to be so prepared it's not even funny.
New babies don't really need much. I'm not in panic mode yet, but am starting to think about getting some things set up. (I have considered if my baby was suddenly born now, there would likely be lots of nicu time for me or at least my husband to get things washed up and ready).
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TTC#1: 01/2016
BFP: 06/18/2016 - EDD: 02/20/2017 - Born: 01/27/2017
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
@poetryandoceans Can I borrow some if your organizational skills pleasethankyou?
Black Friday helped. We finished our diaper stash and bought a pack n play. Also my friend is planning my shower and I think she's buying our car seat/ stroller. If no, I feel confident we will be able to get it in Jan after our showers.
Now I just need to get this blood sugar under control and we'll be set!
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
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We're having SO MUCH fun!!
I survived, but H had to be on foot-rub duty basically the whole time I was home between shifts. I knew what to expect, but OMG being pregnant makes a difference.
Part of my concern with getting stuff done early-ish is the Christmas season. If I waited until 35/36 weeks to sort everything out, it would put me at trying to brave mall crowds in the 2nd week in December. And I'm fairly certain that would induce early labour because I hate that scene. If this kiddo weren't going to be considered full term by New Years, I wouldn't have been worrying about big shops this early.
Since we are on number 3, we both feel it tacky and awkward to have another shower... back in augst my mom offered to throw us one but I declined her offer. Then my mil and aunt in law (?) Lol just made an offer too. I declined that as well but they kept bringing it up and have worked out the details for the most part. Basically it turned into me feeling rude for declining so I ended up agreeing as long as it's small and low key. But then I had to go back and tell my mom because I didn't want it to hurt her feelings if she found out. Now I feel like I'll look gift grabby and like we can't afford our newest baby and my head is going in circles. They all feel it's acceptable because our youngest will be a couple weeks shy of 8 when this one is born... and this one is a boy, our son is 10 so they think it's been long enough. Ugh it's awkward
I am waiting to buy my fancy girdle and hoping I get my compression leggings for Xmas.
I kind of feel like I'm drowning in life right now. My house is a reck, my children both look unkempt, and they are definitely having lunchables for dinner because I just can't do anymore. I had a semi meltdown on the phone to my mom about how overwhelmed I'm feeling and how I feel inadequate at handling everything. She told me to think of something I want to do for myself- not buy things for the kids etc, but literally for myself. Massage, pedi, hair makeover. Whatever and that she will pay for it and that I have to do it this week. Of course that made me cry more. But I'm super grateful and definitely thinking I need a prenatal massage this week. Anyway. Sorry to kind of unload on you ladies. I feel like I haven't been a great support to everyone here because of it.
At the end of the day, you're doing your best. Your kids know that and they love you! Get the kids to sleep, take a bath, watch a movie, read a page of a book, or just get some comfy pajamas on a make a glass of tea/hot chocolate/apple cider, etc. and take in a good deep breath! We're all here to support each other whether we're having our best or worst days! Allow yourself the meltdown and know there is always another tomorrow to start over with, just around the corner!
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Thanks for the support ladies
And you're exactly right kswiger everything just kind of piled on into one overwhelming heap. I'm thinking a bath is much called for.
And my mom is truly wonderful. She really is so supportive and would come out to visit again if she could but just can't right now. I just need to make it just a while longer and husband will be home and I think that will greatly relieve the stress and pressure of having to do it all myself for months.
But thank you for the reminders that it's ok to hit a breaking point and that I need to take care of myself.
And I loved that link/blog.
Buuuut today I ordered a Tula for my husband as one of his Christmas gifts. He will be stoked, I'm sure. To be fair, it's a map "navigator" print and not like covered in florals.
This made me chuckle. I normally hate these, but pregnancy has made like things I usually hate.