@kjd291 Maybe it's a little unconventional, but I don't see why people wouldn't just join later if they wanted to. I'm all for an "open enrollment" type of group which is respectful of all comfort levels. I hope no one feels pressured to leave, just as I hope anyone who is in FB doesn't feel unwelcome still being a part of this board.
IMO: By the time those of us who want to wait to join FB have march babies, we would feel like outsiders in a group that had already been formed and developing relationships for 6mo.
@kjd291 Maybe it's a little unconventional, but I don't see why people wouldn't just join later if they wanted to. I'm all for an "open enrollment" type of group which is respectful of all comfort levels. I hope no one feels pressured to leave, just as I hope anyone who is in FB doesn't feel unwelcome still being a part of this board.
IMO: By the time those of us who want to wait to join FB have march babies, we would feel like outsiders in a group that had already been formed and developing relationships for 6mo.
I posted a reply before I saw this. I get what you're saying, but for me, I wouldn't leave this group completely for FB as I'd go between both groups. I feel like we've already formed relationships on here and by the time some of you join later on, it's not like you'd be shunned, know what I mean? We already know who you all are and have gotten to know most of you and your stories from this group so I personally don't think it would be weird when people join later on. Maybe that's just me and my way of thinking though. I'm just afraid that if another group will be created then it would be like drawing a line in the sand.
I did not start this thread to cause a division and I really hope that doesn't happen. I don't want anyone to feel left out or an outsider. I'm really sorry if anyone is feeling this.
@kjd291 Maybe it's a little unconventional, but I don't see why people wouldn't just join later if they wanted to. I'm all for an "open enrollment" type of group which is respectful of all comfort levels. I hope no one feels pressured to leave, just as I hope anyone who is in FB doesn't feel unwelcome still being a part of this board.
IMO: By the time those of us who want to wait to join FB have march babies, we would feel like outsiders in a group that had already been formed and developing relationships for 6mo.
I posted a reply before I saw this. I get what you're saying, but for me, I wouldn't leave this group completely for FB as I'd go between both groups. I feel like we've already formed relationships on here and by the time some of you join later on, it's not like you'd be shunned, know what I mean? We already know who you all are and have gotten to know most of you and your stories from this group so I personally don't think it would be weird when people join later on. Maybe that's just me and my way of thinking though. I'm just afraid that if another group will be created then it would be like drawing a line in the sand.
I know we wouldn't be shunned. A lot of the people interested in Facebook now are the ones who don't bump as often - so it'll be a completely different group of ppl. And 6mo is longer than we've been a group here-so it's foolish to think someone waiting that long to join there wouldn't feel a bit left out. No matter what, starting a group now will exclude people in one way or another and cause cliques. We'll have FB only ppl, both ppl, and bump only ppl.
I did not start this thread to cause a division and I really hope that doesn't happen. I don't want anyone to feel left out or an outsider. I'm really sorry if anyone is feeling this.
I know that wasn't your intention! And I'm not trying to cause drama or force division either--I just personally really don't want a FB group now, and I know there are others that feel this way, so I'd rather speak freely about my feelings!
I'm easy. ill join both so we can all stay together. but ill post more here... cus i want us to all stay together as lonnnnnnng as possible. we have a sense of community here. i see all y'all ladies as friends. I share stuff here i would never ever share on Facebook with y'all. or really share in general.
This Group was one of the first people to know we were expecting!!! y'all have been here by my side for half way now!
I selfishly want to see everyone here stick it through together at least till we start delivering
which is why i prefer to do it later since really i see no point. but i don't mind it at all. If we start one, it should be open enrollment for all the ladies to go to when they want. But it'll be a little sad bc i hope we still have everyone participating here too.
@kjd291 Maybe it's a little unconventional, but I don't see why people wouldn't just join later if they wanted to. I'm all for an "open enrollment" type of group which is respectful of all comfort levels. I hope no one feels pressured to leave, just as I hope anyone who is in FB doesn't feel unwelcome still being a part of this board.
IMO: By the time those of us who want to wait to join FB have march babies, we would feel like outsiders in a group that had already been formed and developing relationships for 6mo.
I posted a reply before I saw this. I get what you're saying, but for me, I wouldn't leave this group completely for FB as I'd go between both groups. I feel like we've already formed relationships on here and by the time some of you join later on, it's not like you'd be shunned, know what I mean? We already know who you all are and have gotten to know most of you and your stories from this group so I personally don't think it would be weird when people join later on. Maybe that's just me and my way of thinking though. I'm just afraid that if another group will be created then it would be like drawing a line in the sand.
I know we wouldn't be shunned. A lot of the people interested in Facebook now are the ones who don't bump as often - so it'll be a completely different group of ppl. And 6mo is longer than we've been a group here-so it's foolish to think someone waiting that long to join there wouldn't feel a bit left out. No matter what, starting a group now will exclude people in one way or another and cause cliques. We'll have FB only ppl, both ppl, and bump only ppl.
Foolish? Ok. Agree to disagree I guess. I'm more in the it's not a big deal camp, but obviously others may feel differently. I don't feel strongly either way truthfully. People are going to do what they want to do. A FB group has already been created so we'll how this all goes. As I said, I'll go back and forth since I don't have a problem with the app so I plan to also stay a part of this group as well.
I hope that the FB group will welcome anyone from TB in the future and make them feel welcome regardless of when they join. The ladies in this group, even the ones who don't post often, have all been wonderful and welcoming at all stages.
I'm all for a FB group but I also would rather wait personally and stay on this since I like the format and the weekly threads, etc. I feel like there are already other Facebook groups out there as mentioned in prior threads on this topic, so if the people that are not "regulars" on here feel more comfortable with Facebook why can't they just join one of those groups that is already created? I'd definitely feel left out if most of the regulars joined on Facebook now & I didn't, so part of me feels pressured to join it even though I don't yet feel comfortable with it – I would not be opposed to a second group starting though after the babies are born for those who truly want to wait. I don't think that's necessarily a cliquey thing to do since people could even join both at that time. I do like that it sounds like it'll be pretty secure though, & hope that those who do join it now will still be active on here too!
I can see how one would think they would feel left out (not fitting in) joining the FB group later, BUT I don't want that to be the case. Anyone is welcome to join at anytime. We will welcome with open arms!
This is exactly how it started in my Sept 13 BMB, the division begins. Not the intention of course but it tends to happen. We ended up with 3 separate fb groups, like mentioned there will be a different experience in the fb group and it's not always as easy to just dive on in later after not having much interaction with those that will be participating mostly on fb vs diving into it with the ladies you've been keeping up with this entire time. I know I'm not a super huge poster on the bump but it's always sad to see the start of it, considering this is a very quiet BMB to begin with, it seems as though if one fb group is made earlier than everyone is comfortable, things will die down even quicker. (hopefully that's not the case, as I really do enjoy checking in here)
Again, make sure someone is taking care of a bump name/fb name list so everyone knows who everyone is.
@Burrberrymum - I agree we're pretty light with participation as it is. I'm not leaving the bump....it helps pass time at work But I also agree that the mobile app stinks, and sometimes it's hard to mobile access on the weekend. I'm gonna stick around here as long as I can We're all allowed our opinions, and I really do hope that once everyone is in the Facebook group that there isn't a division. I hope those that do go to FB now will continue to participate on here too! I'm going to be optimistic
I'm easy. ill join both so we can all stay together. but ill post more here... cus i want us to all stay together as lonnnnnnng as possible. we have a sense of community here. i see all y'all ladies as friends. I share stuff here i would never ever share on Facebook with y'all. or really share in general.
This Group was one of the first people to know we were expecting!!! y'all have been here by my side for half way now!
I selfishly want to see everyone here stick it through together at least till we start delivering
which is why i prefer to do it later since really i see no point. but i don't mind it at all. If we start one, it should be open enrollment for all the ladies to go to when they want. But it'll be a little sad bc i hope we still have everyone participating here too.
Feel free to continue to PM me if you want to be invited
ETA: please PM me your email address for the invite.
Just to reiterate, we are very open to you joining when you feel most comfortable and committed to continuing to use this community as well. Privacy and security are extremely important to everyone.
This doesn't have to be a one size fits all decision. People come from all different paths and one platform or the other may not suit them, which is why both the bump and FB can co exist. It is a personal decision to join FB, or not, to remain active on the bump or not, etc. I'm not sure why people are taking others decision so personal.
I was just about to look fit this meme when I saw you beat me to it!
I not going to join the fb group...for singe rain I the bump I like diversity but in mom group so prefer to keep it to just a couple that are kind of specific to situations with my family (clubfoot, etc). I'm glad to hear that people joining tree group still plan to post here because I'll be a sad panda whenthe group slows down.
I know I don't post on here much - I just have a very active life and on my down time I'm playing card games with family, or painting, playing with DS, etc. That being said I truly love our little group of people. I'm so happy we've come together and that other birth months seek us out because of how low drama we are. When the group moves to facebook I won't be able to see our community at all anymore because for professional/personal reasons I don't have a facebook. But I do understand it's appeal and I'm glad everyone has the desire to stay together!
I'm down for FB whenever. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks this app blows, but it's easier for me than firing up the laptop (lazy much?! Haha!)
I'all stay as active here as I can though. Not going anywhere just yet
Re: Facebook group now?
This Group was one of the first people to know we were expecting!!!
y'all have been here by my side for half way now!
I selfishly want to see everyone here stick it through together at least till we start delivering
which is why i prefer to do it later since really i see no point. but i don't mind it at all. If we start one, it should be open enrollment for all the ladies to go to when they want. But it'll be a little sad bc i hope we still have everyone participating here too.
SaveSaveby no means am i leaving this bmp till it dies out in cold wind.
SaveSaveI'd definitely feel left out if most of the regulars joined on Facebook now & I didn't, so part of me feels pressured to join it even though I don't yet feel comfortable with it – I would not be opposed to a second group starting though after the babies are born for those who truly want to wait. I don't think that's necessarily a cliquey thing to do since people could even join both at that time. I do like that it sounds like it'll be pretty secure though, & hope that those who do join it now will still be active on here too!
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
Again, make sure someone is taking care of a bump name/fb name list so everyone knows who everyone is.
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
ETA: please PM me your email address for the invite.
Just to reiterate, we are very open to you joining when you feel most comfortable and committed to continuing to use this community as well. Privacy and security are extremely important to everyone.
decision to join FB, or not, to remain active on the bump or not, etc. I'm not sure why people are taking others decision so personal.
I not going to join the fb group...for singe rain I the bump I like diversity but in mom group so prefer to keep it to just a couple that are kind of specific to situations with my family (clubfoot, etc). I'm glad to hear that people joining tree group still plan to post here because I'll be a sad panda whenthe group slows down.
Baby #2 - March 2017
I'all stay as active here as I can though. Not going anywhere just yet
@KellyT22
Married: 07/04/13
BFP #1: 8/14/14, Baby Girl born 4/16/15
BFP #2: 6/21/16, Baby Girl born 2/11/17
BFP #3: 1/26/19, EDD 10/8/19
Fur Babies: 2 Cavalier King Charles Spaniels (Piper and Mia)
baby #4 due March '17!
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