Randoms - Week of November 7th

dragonfaerie · November 2016

Have any thoughts, questions, feelings, fears, etc.? Spill them here!

This is a good place to ask questions to a broader audience than the weekly check-ins, so ladies in other trimesters with experience may chime in and help you out!

tvh1982 · November 2016

Hello ladies, Ive got a random.

As some of you might know already.
My little girl was born on 1st October.
I had a fast, very intense labour (from zero to full on in 5 hours)

What I didn't know, which was probably due to living between countries and not having one midwife, was how a placenta gets out...
I thought it would just come out...well if you are lucky it does, if you are the miority you actually have to push this one out too.
Like I had noooo idea and was very confused as I honestly thought I was finished and didn't understand why I had to start pushing again and why someone was pushing full weight on my stomach.
For me it ended up being removed surgically as it was stuck (I didn't know that was even an option...only a tiny percentage has this, so not common thank god).

Most might know about the above, but as I didn't I wanted to give a little heads up that the placenta probably require a little (or a lot of) extra pushwork after your LO is born.

ultratomato · November 2016

@tvh1982 congrats again. Unfortunately I won't have to worry about pushing anything c section it is and should be setting date up at next OB appointment I hope. I'm praying they give me a date before Christmas not sure how it works since this is my first time.

dragonfaerie · November 2016

@tvh1982 Oh my! I don't know how I missed your news! Congratulations! And thanks for the heads up on the placenta. I have heard it is a little extra not-fun part of labor. Hugs and love for you both!

BornReady · November 2016

@tvh1982 Congrats on your baby girl! This is my second baby, so I know what you're talking about. With my first they had to push so hard on my abdomen to assist in the placenta delivery that I had these massive bruises on my stomach. The next day my husband went out to get food and nurses, a doctor and a social worker came in to question me about domestic violence because they had noticed the bruises when doing a check-up on how much I was bleeding etc. I was like, "No! Those are from my delivery nurse!". Obviously, nice that they would ask, but seriously that's how hard they were pushing on my abs.

tvh1982 · November 2016

That's hard indeed @bornready.
As mine was stuck I also almost got a whole hand in there, I can tell you I was not amused.

Lets cross our fingers for a before Xmas date @ultratomato!

Thank you @dragonfaerie. So many places to look for news on here

Ill stick around a wee bit as I want to see all the wee ones of you ladies.

mskeenan · November 2016

@tvh1982 ah I'm so sorry you were taken by surprise with having to push the placenta out . I feel like nobody ever talks about that .. I only heard about it recently and was like wtf I thought I was done after the baby was out ?!!!

Im loving the pics of little Pia , she is truly beautiful !!!

ZoeFer · November 2016

@tvh1982 I am sorry to hear that, I have read it in the book but did not know it would be a hard push. I have heard that they sometimes give pitocin to help the uterus push the placenta after you give birth. I think I would like that

ADRIANAC1982 · November 2016

Does anyone know if there is a benefit to having 2 medical insurances??

I have insurance through my employer, which I switched back to once my husband changed jobs, and now they have me on his work insurance as well. I was just wondering if there is any benefit to paying for both policies or should one do the trick?

tvh1982 · November 2016

I did get pitocin (or Seth like that) too @zoefer. In both my legs. Quite painful shots I must admit.
I just learned today that my umbilical cord had loosened from the placenta too when they tried to help me by pulling it out.

Again, mine was extreme unlucky and was stuck, but it does involve some extra work/pushes for most women.

Thank you @mskeenan, I'm so in love with my little pixie

AandDM2014 · November 2016

@ADRIANAC1982 Uh... I've never heard of anyone having two different insurances. That seems like a huge waste of money.

ADRIANAC1982 · November 2016

@AandDM2014 Yeah both our jobs offer coverage for a reasonable rate since they cover most of it, so we were toying with it BUT the more that I read the more of a pain it appears going through both. I think my bosses are going to kill me for switching over again, I just went on my work insurance a month ago but am going back onto my husbands because it has slightly better coverage

I know some people do it when coverage runs out on their own policies.

PNW12RN · November 2016

@ADRIANAC1982 Having two insurances (being 'double covered') is awesome if you can make it happen. What usually happens is that one is your primary insurance and pays for things, and the second one pays all the copays/out of pocket/deductibles that you would have had to pay if you just had the primary insurance. My sister was double covered when she had her kids and paid zero out of pocket. My husband and I were hoping to do this, but we both work for the state of WA and they have a rule preventing state workers from using double coverage. Talk with your insurance companies, but it can be a really great thing to be double covered.

ADRIANAC1982 · November 2016

@PNW12RN Hmmmmm, thank you, maybe ill keep my husband on mine as well than.

I wonder if it makes a difference because both our companies offer BCBS?? but mine is IL and his is MA
I will def have to call about this then. THANK YOU

ale9687 · November 2016

Agreed with pp it all depends on if you have copays vs a high deductible plan. Dh and I both have deductible plans where as individual you have to pay $1,500 before insurance kicks in or $3,000 if you are you plus family. So it doesn't make sense for him to go on my insurance since he never goes to the dr and I do. I rather have a lower deductible.

halips · November 2016

@ADRIANAC1982 I have 2 insurances. I was always covered under DH and declined mine, but he works for a national company, and they can choose any state to elect coverage from. So they chose BCBS of Alabama. We live in Illinois. BCBS of Alabama offers 8k in infertility coverage. So I elected to pick up BCBS of Illinois from work, for just me. I have not paid a copay or anything out of pocket since Oct. 2014. My primary pays the majority and his secondary covers any remaining balance. If your jobs offer both at reasonable rates, keep both! It's definitely a luxury not many people are afforded.

AandDM2014 · November 2016

Dang I'm jealous of you ladies who have multiple options for health coverage! DH doesn't get any at work as his company employs less than 15 people, so we're fully OOP on a plan that currently costs about $200 a month for me. I have copays and a deductible, and I thought they were semi reasonable, but not after seeing what y'all have! I guess that's what happens when you live in California. I'm assuming that I'll pay the full family deductible next year at birth time, but I have to call to see if me switching to a different, high plan is better.

ADRIANAC1982 · November 2016

@halips is that after deductible???

iloverocksalot · November 2016

Hi ladies! I'm lurking from the Trouble TTC boards. After 2.5 years of IF, three failed IUIs and three failed IVFs, I'm in the TWW of my first FET. We transferred 3 day-3 embryos 7 days ago and this evening I couldn't help myself and POAS. Here it is! It was visible within 5 mins, but this photo was at 8 minutes. Looks like a bfp, right?????

I figured the Trouble TTC board wasn't the right place to ask, but what do I do now?? We've never gotten this far! I was planning to test again tomorrow morning and if it's bfp again, to call my nurse to ask about a beta test. Does that sound right? Cautiously excited....

ADRIANAC1982 · November 2016

Awwwwwwwww congrats @iloverocksalot I would try to call your RE for an early blood draw! Or if you can wait it out, try to do so.

Each day it should get darker so if you have to wait POAS and ull see the line darkening

tvh1982 · November 2016

Love it when a line shows @iloverocksalot! Congratulations!
Follow the above advice, call your RE, they might do early blood draw!

And you'll probably end up like most of us, POAS a lot to see the line darkening

iloverocksalot · November 2016

Yay!! Thanks ladies!! I already did another one tonight with more diluted urine and it still showed a faint pink second line!! I'm over the moon. Still want to know what the beta will be! Eek! I'll keep you posted.

ADRIANAC1982 · November 2016

This made me giggle today!!! My office is so quiet today, that Im finding ways to entertain myself

Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/50/5105vpyoh3zq.jpg

Griffin5413 · November 2016

I love that meme... I've seen it with the grumpy cat before too.

MelD17011 · November 2016

I'm stopping shots this week.... finally (I can't wait!)..... but have to admit a little nervous. Did anyone experience a change in symptoms when they stopped them? just wondering what I can expect.

Also, speaking of random topics and symptoms, anyone NOT experience the need to pee more? I really don't notice a difference. and I'm drinking a lot. I think it's odd....

BornReady · November 2016

@MelD17011 I actually experienced an increase in nausea when I stopped Crinone, which I can't explain. As far as needing to pee more, I haven't experienced that either and didn't with my first pregnancy either until the very end.

dragonfaerie · November 2016

@MelD17011 I experienced a little bit more nausea for about a week after stopping meds, and then things balanced out. I also only recently have really started to need to go to the bathroom more.

ultratomato · November 2016

Ladies what's the most confusing thing is my leave paperwork and how you use this time for this and disability for that and all the paperwork. Nothing goes in order I'm totally confused and hope I don't mess it up ugh. Anyone confused about there leave paperwork or is it just me. I work for the state so I thought it would be easy

ale9687 · November 2016

@ultratomato mine is confusing too. I have an hr dept who will assist but they haven't given me any information on what happens if I'm taken out of work prior to delivery. All the info is for after.

mskeenan · November 2016

@meld17011 I actually felt better when I came off progesterone . My morning sickness was horrible while I was on it - I still had it after I went off but it wasn't as bad . Other than that really no change .

As for the peeing thing , I didn't really have the excessive urge to pee until second tri . I think it's because the weight of the baby started pressing on my bladder then .

ADRIANAC1982 · November 2016

Ladies drink drink drink water!

Came to the hospital this morning because this time it was not fluid I was full on bleeding and even passed something! So far we are in the clear and it may just be a bladder infection but I am also dehydrated.

i thought 2 litera a day was enough but apparently not! I literally thought I was losing the baby because of the blood and it gave me the scare of my life! I dont care if i have to carry a gallon of water around but im gonna do it...

Still here waiting for more test results but this was very scary!!!

mskeenan · November 2016

I'm so sorry you had such a scare @adrianac1982 !! Hope all your test results come in ok and that you and baby are well !

kelrauh · November 2016

I know I have seen it posted on here before but does anyone know anything that helps hip pain? Ob sent me to er today because my hip keeps popping and I have been in a lot of pain since yesterday when it did it getting into the car. They said they didn't think it was dislocated at the time but somethings wrong and its pregnancy related and will only get worse since I'm only 11 1/2 weeks. I see my ob tomorrow they mentioned physical therapy. Has anyone else had physical therapy for their hips?

vssbrm · November 2016

@ADRIANAC1982 how far along are you? At 19 weeks I had the same kind of scare, and been in hospital since for dehydration / possible UTI. I was told that I should try to get about 120 ounces of water a day that I have a more active day. It's sooo much water, but it def seems to work!

BornReady · November 2016

@ADRIANAC1982 Sorry, that sounds so stressful. I hope everything worked out OK. Keep us posted.

AandDM2014 · November 2016

@ADRIANAC1982 Oh no, I'm sorry you've had a bleeding scare. I agree that we ladies need to drink up!

@kelrauh Oh wow, that sounds bad! I hope your OB has a suggestion for you. I had asked about hip pain, but I haven't really found anything to help. I tried doing some stretches, but they were quite awkward and did nothing.

Griffin5413 · November 2016

@adrianac1982 - hoping all of your tests come back ok! So scary but glad everything seems to be ok with you & baby!
@kelrauh - I haven't had that type of hip pain but I know a lot of the ladies have had success with chiropractors and getting adjustments. I know when I'm having back pain and some point pain, sitting on a ball seems to help a little. It definitely takes off some of the pressure. Hoping you start to feel some relief soon!

ADRIANAC1982 · November 2016

Ladies I wish I had better news to share, ive been home for a while now but the babies prognosis is not good.

If you recall last week the doctors thought I had peed on myself or that the baby in fact kicked my bladder after hours of tests we found that was not true. It was my water that broke

flanners1 · November 2016

Oh @ADRIANAC1982 what is happening? I remember your story about the water/pee. What does it mean that your water broke? Thinking of you

AandDM2014 · November 2016

@ADRIANAC1982 Oh my gosh! Please elaborate!

ADRIANAC1982 · November 2016

It looks like my post got cut im sorry things may not be clear to you guys

yes my water broke so there is little to no fluid around the baby and he needs it to survive! But the drs are so quick to say terminate and were just hoping for a miracle. It broke a wk ago & they cant tl us how hes still alive.His heartbeat was strong, im not bleeding anymore and my cervix is closed so we cant give up on him things arent adding up we have to try to save him even though they tell us there really no chance

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