Shesh. I am constently being judged and made fun of for my parenting choices. I guess they are too 'perfect' and 'helicopter mom' ish. I'm sorry. I don't understand how every single decision I make should be judged? Why does everyone feel the need to comment on my choices?? I'm doing an flipping fantastic job, so why do you care so much?! I'm good at brushing it off but dang it gets old, fast! I get it from EVERYONE. My parents think I baby my baby too much because he cries and I comfort him. My friends make fun of me for 'caring too much' about things like sun protection and health. My sister thinks I'm 'weird' for not having the tv on 24/7(I limit screen time). And she thinks I 'entertain and play' with my baby too much and it will backfire. My LO is healthy, happy, well cared for, plays independently amazing, etc. Anyone else getting this crap? How do you deal with it? I bit my tounge and never get smart back because I truly dislike drama. I avoid. So, I haven't been seeing people as much. It sucks.
Re: The Mommy judger
I don't have much advice other than to say just keep doing what you are doing and keep following your awesome mommy instincts because no one knows your little man better than you do. One of my friends told me to say, "thank you for your advice, but I got this." She was very criticized for doing what felt right to her, which was attachment parenting and her girls are both pre-teen and thriving. The best advice I have ever heard was to parent the child you've been given, and you are obviously doing a great job of that.
I don't get it as much now that I have six, I get different comments.
I still get comments about car seats and extended rear facing, limiting sugar, etc. however, I'm doing the best for MY kids and I'm not judging them, not sure why they need to judge me.
You need to keep doing you and what's best for your kid! They are entitled to their opinions (and it's unfortunate they feel they have the right to tell you their opinions), but you have the right to listen or not listen to their advice. As hard as it is, try to brush it off and tell them thanks for the advice but you've found this works best for you.
I am with you on the limiting screen time, sun protection, comforting, etc., so don't feel like you're the only one! Stay strong, momma
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
Try: "I'm pretty sure you're just joking, but I'm starting to feel a little sensitive and targeted. Do you mind if we move on to a new subject?"
If it continues, try: "OMG, you HAVE to stop."
If it STILL continues, ditch them and make new (aka real) friends
What gets me is when people say "oh he isn't walking yet? " or things like that. He is just 14 months old, he cruises furniture, he stands on his own, he has taken steps. He just isn't ready. I am not worried, he will do it when he is ready,but Mama Bear gets defensive!
Also, @mrsmctaggart6 I feel you on the ipad issue. My mom is banned from buying any more electronics for my kids.
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