I know there are a few of us left hanging on to being Team Green. I figured it'd be fun to check in and see how it's going. Not much time left before the big reveals!
Is this your first time being team green? Would you do it again?
Do you feel like you are/were able to prepare while not knowing?
Any rants/raves/comments?
Re: Team Green check-in
This is the second time. We liked it so much the first time we did it again. These are our last kids but we would do it again if we had more.
Absolutely. Having already been team green, we have lots of stuff that will work for these two. We've just had to supplement the extra stuff for an additional baby.
I get so tired of the comments of "how can you prepare?", "wow, that's so brave of you to not find out with twins" (um WTF? how is that brave? I've gotten this comment numerous times), etc etc. I also really don't like when people ask if we're hoping for girls since we already have a boy. Nope, we would love two boys or two girls exactly the same, their sex makes no difference to us and to assume it does really annoys me.
Is this your first time being team green? Would you do it again? Yep, first time for it all!! I think we would likely do it again, but I'm not sure. I've read a lot of comments about how busy life is with a LO that in order to connect with the pregnancy the person wanted to know. I'll be honest, while I love and want this baby so much, I don't know how 'connected' I feel. Feeling the baby kick or move is good and I'm happy about it, but it doesn't make it feel any more real that I'll be a parent of a baby soon. It's possible that this is simply because I'm a FTM and don't know what's coming. Which would make the next time easier? Really long invovled answer that probably isn't what you were going for... ha. Sorry
Do you feel like you are/were able to prepare while not knowing? Yes. It's still a baby and will still need the same things. People had no idea about sex for thousands and millions of years. I'm pretty sure this one kid will be just fine.
Any rants/raves/comments? Like @ashanne88 I've gotten a lot of comments about "how can you prepare?" Or they tell me they're too much of a '"planner" not to know. I'm a huge planner... so that doesn't work. I just don't want to plan my kid, I'd rather they grow up and be themselves. Who knows. Plus I think it's cool that having all Team Green stuff will work for the next one without issue.
Is this your first time being team green? Would you do it again?
FTM, so yes! We have enjoyed it for sure. I'm not sure if I would again. Not because I didn't like it, but it might be fun to do a gender reveal (not a party type situation - but something between H and me and this baby on the way!) Might just be nice to have a different perspective in the next pregnancy and change it up. My husband would probably do green again in a second - he loves not knowing.
Do you feel like you are/were able to prepare while not knowing?
Yes, for sure. My only annoyance is the name issue. We are struggling with boy names and it would be nice to not have to think about it if baby is a girl. But that's not the end of the world! We are set on our girl name
Any rants/raves/comments?
We had a growth scan this weekend while I was in the hospital and almost every nurse or doctor was like, "Oh a SURPRISE baby!!!!!" And were loving that we didn't know. And everyone I saw would make a guess. One of the L&D nurses said just last week they had a delivery of a baby that mom and dad thought was a boy, and it was a girl!!! I've always heard of those stories, but never IRL.
I hate the comments about preparation too, @ashanne88. Some people have also said to me, "oh, we went through so much to get here, how could I not know everything about this baby? I just need to know!" The comment itself doesn't bother me really, because, to each their own. It's more the implication that somehow I haven't gone through a lot and so I don't care as much to know the sex of my baby??? We've had 2 losses and months of REI appointments and surgeries to get where we are today. I think we've been through a lot, but I don't see what that has to do with the sex of my baby. Maybe I'm reading into it too much and taking it personally, but it always makes me pause.
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Since we were team green with our first, it made preparing for this one super easy. Like literally the only thing we'll need is new clothes if it's a boy. I'm a huge planner too @Mylitta and found no problem preparing and buying everything needed while not knowing whether baby was a boy or girl. For what it's worth, I didn't connect with my first until after she was born. I don't think it had anything to do with not knowing the sex. Some moms connect before the pee stick dries, some not until days after delivery. It's all normal.
Luckily, since were team green with our first, I didn't get as many comments this time around about how crazy we were and how could we ever prepare. However, it HAS brought on the unsolicited "I bet you're hoping for a boy this time" comments. Oh, and another favorite "If this ones a boy, then you can be done!" Well, thanks for your permission but, nope, pretty sure I don't give a shit and definitely sure this is our last no matter what. Since when does a perfect family consist of one boy/one girl? Solidarity on that @ashanne88.
Has anyone else had close calls with ultrasound techs almost spilling the beans? I've had so many extra scans with this pregnancy that I'm so paranoid every time that their gonna slip and ruin it. Some claim that they call all babies s/he and refuse to say "it" so not to take stock in what they say. I just find it hard to ignore and then wonder if they really slipped or not.
YAY for the check in! Thank you @LastMango!
FTM, so first time being team green. I've always wanted to be team green. The anticipation is so much fun! I would do it again. I can see finding out the second time around as well, but it just doesn't seem as much fun.
Preparing hasn't been hard at all. I find that soooooo many things are easily neutral that it really doesn't make a difference. Besides, I would hate to have everything in pinks and purples or blues and sports themed. I never was a girly girl myself and neither DH nor I are sporty. The only draw back is seeing everyone with their cute take home outfits. I'd love to have something fun and frilly, but that can wait for baby dedication time.
I'm with everyone on the "how can you prepare?" comments. I'm all like, you go to the store, pick out a neutral colored item needed, and voila! You're prepared! My spare room was painted a pale green 3 years ago and I wanted to have brown accents, so it translated easily into gender neutral nursery. And I'd rather have animal themes than girly/boyish themes any day! The thing that absolutely drives me crazy are the people who just know the sex. My midwife doesn't even know the sex, how do you?? And then there's the, "which do you want," questions and before I can answer, they say, "and don't say a healthy baby!" Um, well, yes, actually I do want a healthy baby, and I want to have at least one of each, so it doesn't really matter. I would prefer a girl first, but I'm not hell bent on it.
No close calls with the US techs, thankfully! We did do a 3D/4D/HD ultrasound at 28 weeks and the tech told us when to look away; however, my MIL didn't look away until my mom mentioned it and my FIL was recording it with his phone the whole time just saying, "Hello Baby! Hurry up so we can meet you!" He had no idea he was supposed to look away, he was so caught up in the moment. It was more sweet and funny than annoying. The tech said he didn't even see what the sex was since we were very adamant about not knowing, so I doubt the ILs were able to see either. I was very impressed with the tech.
Me: 33 DH: 38 Married: 1/10/15
1st Pregnancy EDD: 1/1/17 Born 1/10/17 Team Green turned Blue!
2nd Pregnancy EDD: 11/6/18 Born 11/09/18 Baby Boy!
3rd Pregnancy EDD: 12/?/21
Children are like casseroles; it takes a lot to mess them up.
Me: 33 DH: 38 Married: 1/10/15
1st Pregnancy EDD: 1/1/17 Born 1/10/17 Team Green turned Blue!
2nd Pregnancy EDD: 11/6/18 Born 11/09/18 Baby Boy!
3rd Pregnancy EDD: 12/?/21
Children are like casseroles; it takes a lot to mess them up.
@PMForbie I've had people tell me I'm all belly and carrying straight out so they're boys. Most of the old wives tales point to boys for me too but who really knows. My gut says boys but I don't know. I was convinced DS was a boy so maybe I'm just thinking these two are boys. Also my dad "knows" they're boys, which I find amusing.
FTM, so 1st time being team green. I was adamant even before getting pregnant that I didn't want to find out the sex until birth, but almost caved at the anatomy scan. I think we'd probably do it again but I'm not 100% set on it.
I've had all ultrasounds done with MFM, and no one has come close to letting it slip there. And my MWs don't even know the sex, so unless they send me for a growth scan in the next few weeks, we really have no risk of the surprise being blown.
I also don't get why people say they need to know so they can prepare. Especially with the first kid, I'd want to get most of the big items in neutral colors regardless. And the nursery will probably stay the nursery for baby #2 so it makes sense to keep the decor neutral there too.
The only thing I'm struggling with at this point is the clothes. I'm surprised at how limited the unisex clothing options are now. I've been buying stuff here and there when I see something cute, but now I'm worried about having too much random "neutral" clothing, especially because I have a feeling we will get lots of clothes gifts once the baby is born.
@PMForbie As to the boy or girl preference question, I haven't gotten it a ton, bUT I found this shirt and bought it for that reason.
It's in green though and I'm still waiting to receive it. I'm very excited about it
@LoneStar21416 I agree about not wanting to have too much neutral stuff. Partially because I'm kind of over seeing babies in all gray - I find it a little drab TBH. I haven't seen a whole lot of green options either. I've bought 2 or 3 things in 3-6 months just because they were really cute, but I have mostly 0-3 mos and a few newborn pieces (expecting this baby to be at least 8 lbs). I have no idea what to expect as far as gifts!
Me: 33 DH: 38 Married: 1/10/15
1st Pregnancy EDD: 1/1/17 Born 1/10/17 Team Green turned Blue!
2nd Pregnancy EDD: 11/6/18 Born 11/09/18 Baby Boy!
3rd Pregnancy EDD: 12/?/21
Children are like casseroles; it takes a lot to mess them up.
It's so funny how some people just don't get how we could be team green. And then I always find myself over compensating on the response to them. But the truth is that I just want a happy healthy baby.
Like who really cares about the sex you know? Just let them be happy, healthy, grateful and presently conscious.
People always act like it takes SUCH willpower not to know.. but we don't want to know.. sOK there's no will power needed..
@lastmango @ashanne88 @lonestar21416 @KRB22 @knottie1443924966 @mylitta
How's team green doing? Most of us are in the last month! How are you holding out? I am so anxious to meet Baby and finally know who baby is! I think I'm the most anxious now than I've been the entire pregnancy! At this point, I'm debating if I'd do team green again lol!
Me: 33 DH: 38 Married: 1/10/15
1st Pregnancy EDD: 1/1/17 Born 1/10/17 Team Green turned Blue!
2nd Pregnancy EDD: 11/6/18 Born 11/09/18 Baby Boy!
3rd Pregnancy EDD: 12/?/21
Children are like casseroles; it takes a lot to mess them up.
Plus I'm ready to either wash and put up all of DD's clothes OR goooo shopping!!!!
Not gonna lie, if it's a boy, I'm gonna freak out a bit. I don't know the first thing about boys!
Almost everyone that sees me guesses that I'm having a boy, so we'll see if that's accurate. My husband and I are slightly leaning toward girl though -- no reason why, in particular.
That and I think the Dr let something slip. I'm trying to convince myself she wasn't saying anything specific, but I can't quite get there. Sigh. It's a little ridiculous that you have to WORK to NOT know. It should be the other way around in my opinion.
Its seriously annoying. Can I I please just get my damn surprise?!
most people are guessing boy (they've had dreams and visions) and my husband is SURE it's a girl.... with all these opinions I've lost all sense of direction.
Early on I was calling it him and the tech repeated him/he back to me a couple times (after she'd confirmed the gender)... I set her up a bit but still makes me thinks it's a he.
i like the colors and things we've chosen (tons of greys, some whites and tans, yellows, mints) and will be happy the aesthetic is something we like regardless of sex. I actually prefer having the nursery designed this way. If we'd known it would have been impossible to stay neutral, instead it's just things we like which is cool!
good luck not finding out in the coming weeks, hope your surprises are timed right!
Me: 33 DH: 38 Married: 1/10/15
1st Pregnancy EDD: 1/1/17 Born 1/10/17 Team Green turned Blue!
2nd Pregnancy EDD: 11/6/18 Born 11/09/18 Baby Boy!
3rd Pregnancy EDD: 12/?/21
Children are like casseroles; it takes a lot to mess them up.