Late Term and Child Loss
Deepoet
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Time Flies
Deepoet
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It is very hard to believe that almost a year has past since I first found out I was pregnant with my Hope. I was only 4 weeks when I took that first test and then basically took one a week for a while! It was an exciting and stressful time and I was so sick and tired!
As we are preparing to make some big (good) changes in our lives, I look back at all the things I had planned. I think about what I would be like if Hope made it and we were a family of 4 instead of 3. It is hard. I find myself still missing her.
I also find that everyone (even my therapist) feels like I should have moved on 100% by now! I mean are they kidding. What am I supposed to do, forget?
So instead we are adopting a dog and hopefully will be able to save up enough money to start the adoption process for a baby. But who knows. right now moving into our own Home will be a good first step to changing and getting my life back.
Quitting my job might be another step I am going to make. They do not understand what I have gone through and how my depression and pre-exisiting anxiety issues are effecting my day.
So How is everyone else holding up? Are you making any big changes to help you move on from your grief?
As we are preparing to make some big (good) changes in our lives, I look back at all the things I had planned. I think about what I would be like if Hope made it and we were a family of 4 instead of 3. It is hard. I find myself still missing her.
I also find that everyone (even my therapist) feels like I should have moved on 100% by now! I mean are they kidding. What am I supposed to do, forget?
So instead we are adopting a dog and hopefully will be able to save up enough money to start the adoption process for a baby. But who knows. right now moving into our own Home will be a good first step to changing and getting my life back.
Quitting my job might be another step I am going to make. They do not understand what I have gone through and how my depression and pre-exisiting anxiety issues are effecting my day.
So How is everyone else holding up? Are you making any big changes to help you move on from your grief?
Re: Time Flies
@Deepoet don't let anyone make you feel like you are grieving incorrectly! You should not be "over it." I don't think this is something people just get over. It's something that becomes a part of you and you just learn to deal with it a bit more every day. I'm definitely not over my loss, and I never will be, because I will always think of her and who she might have been.
I'm a different person now, and I'm trying to figure out who that is. I know it's been hard for DH to figure out who I am now as well. We will keep working on it.