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****October TWW*******

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  • 7 dpo for me. trying to keep the crazies at bay and the positivity up! 
    **** TW - kids and loss mentioned ****
    ~~ married 8.11.07
    ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
    ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
    ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
    ~~ BFP4 10.27.16  MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
  • Congratulations @chloe97 ! I hope you have a great 9 months.
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  • roxgibbonsroxgibbons member
    edited October 2016
    Congrats @chloe97  I am so happy for you! I'll be lurking to check on you!

     
     ****TW: Pregnancy, loss and children mentioned****
    Me (39) DH (40) 
    From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06 
    DH- no kids
    ******************
    TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
    IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN 
    IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
    1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!!  2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days,  D&C: 2/17/16
    TTCAL: May 2016
    IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
    IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
    IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
    IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
    **10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
    12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!! 
    Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
  • @chloe97 congratulations and best wishes, girl  :):):)
    Me: 39 DH: 39
    CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
  • @SoonToBeMommaHowe - I'm hanging... 7 - 10 dpo is the hardest for me. I just want to know one way or the other. No symptoms here either, but probably too early for them.. I don't get many that I can distinguish from PMS symptoms anyway (sore breasts is really the only one I get...)
    **** TW - kids and loss mentioned ****
    ~~ married 8.11.07
    ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
    ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
    ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
    ~~ BFP4 10.27.16  MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
  • MimoCaMimoCa member
    edited October 2016
    @chloe97  Congrats!
  • @jwg9101 - that sounds amazing! movies are such an amazing distraction.
    **** TW - kids and loss mentioned ****
    ~~ married 8.11.07
    ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
    ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
    ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
    ~~ BFP4 10.27.16  MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
  • The crazy is starting to set in.... 8 dpo tomorrow - someone hide my tests!
    **** TW - kids and loss mentioned ****
    ~~ married 8.11.07
    ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
    ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
    ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
    ~~ BFP4 10.27.16  MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
  • @ladipale I hear you 7-10 days DPO is rough- it's like you just want to know at that point and stop all the waiting around. Step away from the tests :)  

    I'm at a lame 2 or 3 DPO so I have some waiting to do. I think I'm going to start to temp next cycle. I used to temp before I started working with the RE and I had a good sense of my cycle but this cycle got  a positive OPK on Friday with FF putting my O date at Saturday but I had no symptoms of O at all and my CM had dried out so I wonder if Friday was O day. Anyway since I'm not being monitored I'm getting used to my natural cycle again.
     ****TW: Pregnancy, loss and children mentioned****
    Me (39) DH (40) 
    From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06 
    DH- no kids
    ******************
    TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
    IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN 
    IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
    1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!!  2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days,  D&C: 2/17/16
    TTCAL: May 2016
    IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
    IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
    IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
    IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
    **10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
    12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!! 
    Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
  • First official TWW after MC in July, just 1DPO today.  OPK gave me a smiley face yesterday...I was beginning to wonder at this point if I was even ovulating after failed OPKs and funky cycles since the MC. Knowing that O occurred on CD 19-20 is reassuring that my cycle is back on track at least. FX for lots of BFPs at the end of this long TWW!
  • @MK1013 FX that it is not residual! Keep us posted.
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

  • RiverSong15RiverSong15 member
    edited October 2016
    @MK1013 Congrats! If your last draw was on 9/6 and you got your period on 9/23, I'd say it's pretty unlikely that this is residual. Did you take any HPTs in September and get a negative?

    As for the doctor's office urine test, I've always heard that those aren't nearly as sensitive as home HPT urine tests. Their threshold for a positive can be 50 or greater (home tests can be as low as 10). Given your Tuesday bloodwork result of 75, it's entirely possible your HCG was too low Monday night to trigger a positive at the hospital. Unlike urine tests that are qualitative (yes/no) answers, your bloodwork is quantitative and suggests you are indeed pregnant. FX for good numbers from your next draw! 
  • @MK1013congrats!! FX it's a new pregnancy!
    TW*** Child and loss mentioned
    Married 10/12
    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
    FET- 6/17- BFP!
    Due Feb 15, 2017
  • @MK1013 - The wait is frustrating, I'm sure. Hoping its a new pregnancy!
    **** TW - kids and loss mentioned ****
    ~~ married 8.11.07
    ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
    ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
    ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
    ~~ BFP4 10.27.16  MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
  • @MK1013 Fx it's a new pregnancy and that those levels are rising and good at your retest! :smiley:
    Me: 35     DH: 37
    BFP: 1.6.16 | MC: 2.17.16
    BFP: 10.3.16 | CP: 10.11.16
    BFP: 12.14.16 | CP: 12.14.16
    BFP:  1.23.17 | EDD 10.6.17 -- DS born 10.7.17 <3
    BFP:  9.9.18 | EDD 5.23.19 -- DD born 5.24.19 <3
    BFP: 9.1.21 | MC 10.1.21
    BFP: 11.11.21 | EDD 7.24.22 

     

  • @mk1013 congrats! Fx for you!
  • @MK1013 - just replied to you in another post, but so glad to see the news over here!!! So excited for you and glad that you got the BW done! :)
    *TW*

    TTC#1 - 6.3.16
    BFP#1 - 7.1.16, (mo-di twins + singleton) due 3.15.17
    MC singleton - 7.13.16 - 5w
    MMC identical twins - 8.5.16 - 8w+2d
    Misoprostol 4x
    D&C - 9.12.16
    Hysteroscopy - 11.21.16 - Retained tissue filling half of uterus removed, blocked left tube, benched for 2 cycles, on estrogen/progesterone for 30 days
    HSG - 2.7.17 - Asherman's Syndrome. Both tubes open.
    Hysteroscopy 2.13.17 - Incomplete adhesiolysis for Asherman's, benched & on estrogen/progesterone for 30 days. At least two more surgeries needed...
    Hysteroscopy 3.21.17 - Adhesiolysis for Asherman's, benched & on estrogen/progesterone for 30 days.
    TTCAL #1: 4.24.17
    Hysteroscopy 5.23.17 - Scars reformed. Adhesiolysis. Unsure what to do next...
    Fertility acupuncture - started 6.13.17
  • 11 DPO, stark white BFN w/ FMU. Pretty sure it's time to start prepping for our RE appt. I really just never thought I'd be in this position after three years, IF is so tough. 
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

  • @SoonToBeMommaHowe- I'm so sorry I know how disappointing this journey can be. Hopefully it's just too early and that test turns for you and if not meeting with an RE could provide you with some answers.
     ****TW: Pregnancy, loss and children mentioned****
    Me (39) DH (40) 
    From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06 
    DH- no kids
    ******************
    TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
    IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN 
    IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
    1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!!  2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days,  D&C: 2/17/16
    TTCAL: May 2016
    IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
    IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
    IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
    IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
    **10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
    12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!! 
    Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
  • @SoonToBeMommaHowe i'm sorry for bfn :(
    TW*** Child and loss mentioned
    Married 10/12
    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
    FET- 6/17- BFP!
    Due Feb 15, 2017
  • @SoonToBeMommaHowe So sorry to hear about the BFN and hoping you find your RE appointment helpful. You're absolutely right that this process is hard and hope you are taking good care of yourself.  

  • @SoonToBeMommaHowe Sorry for the BFN; FX it is a little too early. 
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

  • Congrats @MK1013.

    Im sorry @soontobemommahowe - sending you a big hug. It never gets easier and it just sucks.
  • Thanks ladies. I'll try once more on Saturday before I officially call it quits for this cycle. 
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

  • @soontobemommahowe sorry for the bfn, it's so discouraging  :( 
  • I'm sorry @SoonToBeMommaHowe, hang in there. 
    Me: 39 DH: 39
    CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
  • Having a boo-hoo, woe is me day. 9 dpo and after 8 days of being positive and optimistic, I'm just over it... Haven't tested yet (miracle for me!) Days 9 - end are the hardest for me. And my emotions and chocolate craving make me think I'm days away from my period..... I'm quickly approaching one year since we conceived and I'm surrounded by pregnant people - so hard for me to not be jealous.
    **** TW - kids and loss mentioned ****
    ~~ married 8.11.07
    ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
    ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
    ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
    ~~ BFP4 10.27.16  MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
  • @ladipale I am so sorry you're having a bad TTCAL day. I know what you mean about the jealous part. I never thought I'd be like that, but it is hard not to be jealous when that is what you want so badly. Take care of yourself today. Sending internet hugs.
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

  • Thanks @NewMommyCoop - luckily I have a therapy appt today so that should help...
    **** TW - kids and loss mentioned ****
    ~~ married 8.11.07
    ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
    ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
    ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
    ~~ BFP4 10.27.16  MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
  • I totally get what your saying @ladipale. We just hit the 3 year mark andMy sister text me today to see if there was a weekend when her and her newly pregnant friend could come spend the night and I told her I just didn't know if I could have that right now. She got mad and told me they'd get a hotel and then stopped texting me back. But bottom line I know what I can and can't handle and that I don't feel like I can and I'm not gonna force myself to fake it.
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

  • I feel you @SoonToBeMommaHowe - my sister had a baby 1 week after my due date back in September and I haven't met the baby yet. She got really mad at me because I unfollowed her on Instagram for a while but i just couldn't handle it. I'm going up alone to meet the baby this weekend before a bday party the following weekend for her other son. I think the anticipation of that is making it hard as well. Maybe it would be easier if I'm pregnant? I don't know. I do know that I will always have a niece that is the exact age my mc baby would be and it stings.
    **** TW - kids and loss mentioned ****
    ~~ married 8.11.07
    ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
    ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
    ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
    ~~ BFP4 10.27.16  MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
  • @SoonToBeMommaHowe and @ladipale You have every right to protect your feelings.  I bet your sister will understand after a bit of time has passed.  Unfortunately I've realized through this process that others put a time frame on how long they think we "should" grieve.  But, only WE know when we are ready.  Good luck to both  of you.  I've been avoiding my best friend like the plague.  Her due date is one week after mine was.  She keeps texting me about her appointments and I don't respond with more than 2 or 3 words.  Unfortunately she owns a doggy daycare that my dog goes to and I see her everyday.  Ugh, I have to watch her growing belly for the next 7 months.  :(
  • @ladipale- Im sorry you are having a tough day. Being in the same position you were months or years later while others move on and have their babies is just so hard and unfair and something I struggle with as well.

    @soontobemommahowe -Im sorry you got that reaction from your sister. You are right to protect yourself though and obviously a newly pg woman coming to stay at your home!? would not be best for you right now.

    @justsuzie- I hate it when people think you should just be over it by now or its not that big of a deal. Until you are in someone's else shoes you really don't know what they are going through. I have had some insensitive comments from friends about it and just stings.
  • I am wishing I could tag you ladies, but mobile bumping is being difficult this am. I am sorry you ladies are having a hard time right now and I completely understand what you are going through. one of my coworkers, that I can't avoid, is due 2 weeks following my 2nd MC due date in February. And now I am stuck watching her bump grow knowing that mine need should be about the same.
     I am rooting for all of you and hoping we all get our rainbow babies soon.

    On a side note the BSC is setting in. I'm 6 dpo and am already starting to ss. the next week is going to be long...
    *** TW ***
    Me 31, DH 30
    Married: 07/2014, TTC since 12/2015
    BFP #1: 1/1/16, MC 1/14/16 (6 weeks), D&C 2/5/16 (9 weeks)
    BFP #2: 5/25/16, MC 6/23/16 (8 weeks), D&C 6/24/16, 2nd D&C for retained tissue and fibroid removal 9/1/16
    BFP #3: 12/24/16  EDD 09/04/2017
    Pregnancy Ticker
  • @ladipale - as far as I ever heard a line is a line! Fx that it gets darker and darker!!!! 
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  • laeberge3laeberge3 member
    edited October 2016
    Congrats @ladipale!  Fx the line darkens! :smile:
    Me: 35     DH: 37
    BFP: 1.6.16 | MC: 2.17.16
    BFP: 10.3.16 | CP: 10.11.16
    BFP: 12.14.16 | CP: 12.14.16
    BFP:  1.23.17 | EDD 10.6.17 -- DS born 10.7.17 <3
    BFP:  9.9.18 | EDD 5.23.19 -- DD born 5.24.19 <3
    BFP: 9.1.21 | MC 10.1.21
    BFP: 11.11.21 | EDD 7.24.22 

     

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