Haha well it is UNpopular opinions. Love Fall decor, hate Halloween. Pumpkins, corn, scarecrows, hay bales, gourds...all great. Witches, spiderwebs, dead things, headstones....yuck.
hmm....mine would be Ben Affleck. I don't like him as Batman, I don't like him as "The Accountant". He's not a badass...he's not Matt Damon. Just retire already!
I will not be allowing my MIL to babysit alone until my children can speak clearly. She will be the only grandparent that won't and I have no shame. I don't trust her judgement and her husband gives me the creeps. Not a chance I can take with daughters.
New Ben Affleck=nope. I do love the older stuff like Good Will Hunting.
@herewegrow I felt the same about my FIL. I didn't think I would ever be comfortable with him watching my kid solo. As she got older, I saw how great he was with her. With my Father being so ill, it is now hard for my mom (a gold star Grandma) to get time with my daughter. It works great having my FIL in our trusted babysitter rotation. You may change you mind. I agree in trusting your gut or "vibes" you get from certain people. Always better safe than sorry.
I don't get over the top birthday parties for little kids. It just seems like a lot of work and sets them up for high expectations (and possibly being "spoiled"). I like decorating and making things special, but it can be simple too. This year, DD was so thrilled that everyone (me, DH, my parents) wore dollar store party hats and that she got a balloon. We had a fun day to celebrate her but I didn't need to stress about it.
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
@cafedisco yes! And to that I add my unpopular opinion that large, themed first birthday parties are useless. Have cake with the grandparents, take some cute pictures, done. The kid won't remember anyway.
So, a friend of mine invited me to her gender (sex) reveal party...she rented a room at a fancy hotel and is having a catered luncheon, and invited (according to another friend) over 100 people. To see how her kid will pee. OH and she asked for gifts. AND she's having a shower in a couple of months.
I can't handle the tackiness. Don't do these things, ladies.
ETA that I put this on the UO thread because, according to all of my friends, this is a most excellent thing to do, so I have the unpopular opinion in real life. Is everyone on crazy pills?!
@SnarkasaurusRex are you going? I can't even imagine having the gall to AW myself so much. I do sort of want you to go so you can tell us about it though
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
@KirstinH88 Right? I could never. My gender reveal was just family (because DH's family does them, so I played along) over for a BBQ at our house. So low key. And my mom DID bring a gift and I was slightly mortified over it, haha.
@cafedisco I ain't messing with that nonsense! (I actually have another engagement that day anyway.) I think if I went my eyes would roll straight out of my head. And my "gift" would be something super inappropriate...
@SnarkasaurusRex the way she is doing it would leave a bad taste in my mouth too.
We are doing a gender (sex) reveal too, but its with our close friends and family. This is because for once all of our family will be in Florida that weekend, so its a special occasion to have all sets of grandparents together. We are not expecting gifts or anything like that. I think that's where it gets tacky... oh and the renting a ballroom...
We're basically having a Superbowl/BBQ type party with a blue or pink cake. lol Who doesn't like meatballs and cocktail wieners
My UO will go along with some of the other ladies in terms of things being over the top:
Why do people feel the need to go nuts with the Elf on a Shelf? I get the concept, we introduced it last year with DS, but he was a little young to fully understand, but I do not have time to make a full scene with the elf every day (or even once a week).
I think Pinterest has made things like the Elf, birthday parties, reveals,...a bit out of control. Don't get me wrong, I love Pinterest, but come on...
The reason I do fun birthday parties is because I think they are fun. I mean, we don't spend $1,000 or anything on DD's parties. More like $300, but for us that is a lot. I have to budget for a few months to afford that. I totally get the 1st birthday party is not for the baby, it is for the parents. We had a big 1st birthday party for DD, but it wasn't a kid theme or anything. Just a celebration that we kept our kid alive for a year. I am someone that celebrates every occasion I possibly can. We did a gender reveal party with DD too. Just a picnic in the park with our families.
I will agree that I don't get elf on the shelf. I think that one is really stupid and we won't be doing that in our family.
Me: 28 year old SAHM/Birth Doula DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
Married: October 8, 2011
DD1: September 24, 2013 BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016 DD2: April 16, 2017 BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
FTM so I've never experienced it firsthand, but most parents I know who have are doing so because their kids had friends who did it and they were upset they didn't have their own elf. Hoping maybe this goes out of style in the next few years? Hahaha
I will not be allowing my MIL to babysit alone until my children can speak clearly. She will be the only grandparent that won't and I have no shame. I don't trust her judgement and her husband gives me the creeps. Not a chance I can take with daughters.
same with my dad--he never listened to my sister when he watched my niece because he says he's knows better and he's "the father" (bc he treats us like we're not adults still), so he's the only grandparent who hasn't had DS overnight yet. We just use the reason that he lives a few states away--he does have a house here to visit my little brother but he's never here for very long anyway. Also, I can't stand his wife, she's a really horrible person and I don't even talk to her.
I can't stand people that put up a crazy facade and constantly humble brag on social media. I get that it's a platform to share things and that most people don't share the unglamorous parts of their lives. But there's no reason to go out of your way to make other moms and your friends jealous of your seemingly perfect life. It's like, girl, I just saw you at Walmart in Minnie Mouse pajamas at noon...I'm not buying the glamour shot of you in full makeup and hair captioned "having a solo lunch and glass of wine"
thats probably more of an annoyance than an unpopular opinion...but dang, people like that bug me!
I thought I went all out on DS birthday party until I went to one of his buddy's parties. She had seriously fancy decorations, fancy food, a mountain of presents, everything. We just cooked a whole lot of taco fixings and did cake, one of which was a special smash cake some by me. I like decorating cake, is the root of why I like throwing parties, but we'll never spend tons on them.
Heck no to super posh gender reveals and Elf on a shelf. We'll be buying a box of balloons and maybe pink or blue cupcakes for whoever helps us film our reveal.
@mrsstuessy I totally get throwing a party for the adult friends that's more like a "we made it through a year! drink with us!" And I don't begrudge anyone celebrating their kiddo and making them feel special. I guess I just think it can be done...more simply sometimes. I'm thinking of stuff like professional invites, catered food, etc. I suppose I should just say good for you if you've got the money, spend it! It just seems like overkill to me!
Also think Elf on the Shelf is a bit weird. But, I knew a teacher who used it in her classroom last year and it was SUPER cute how much the kids got into it. They wrote such adorable letters to the elf all the time. That seemed fun.
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
We totally do elf on the shelf! Our elf just moves around the house, we don't do anything crazy. We've done it the last 3 years and my kids love it, they're 6,4,3,11m. We love doing fun things for Christmas. We read the book and so the boys know that if they're naughty elf goes and reports back to Santa. I totally use it towards my advantage while I can!!
Yeah. I think moving the elf around the house and having the elf watch over behavior is one thing. But having the elf roasibgb marshmallows over a candle one day, fishing out of the toilet the next,... I just don't know who had time for that stuff!
I do too big parties but I wouldn't say over the top. I used to be a professional party planner and I really enjoy the planning and crafting and decorating. I probably spent $500 on DS's birthday party but we have a big family and that was mostly food.
For our gender reveal with DS we just had our parents over for dinner and had a cake made. I posted a picture of the cut cake on Facebook and called it a day. I'm not sure I'll even do that much this time around.
I guess my UO is that I really don't care how much someone spends on a first birthday party, etc. Food is probably the majority of the cost, but if someone wants to spend thousands of dollars on ther baby's first birthday, who cares? It obviously means very much to them and it doesn't mean they care more about their kid--just maybe their love language is different.
The posts here are hilarious and I agree with almost all. I can't believe the gender reveal party! Seriously??
Here's my top 5 this week:-
1.) (don't hate me please but this is my unpopular opinion) - Donald Trump is awful, horrid and deplorable. But Hillary is worse for the country and for the world. (please dont ban me,. please dont ban me.. I am pregnant.. it's the hormones...)
2.) I don't like peanut butter. Which is horrible, because I used to like it before I got pregnant. So correction, my baby doesn't like peanut butter, I mean, what is wrong with him??? How can he not like peanut butter?
3.) I do not eat meat, but (here comes the unpopular), I think humans ARE omnivores and should eat meat. I just don't fancy.
4.) I don't think Caitlin Jenner was the right choice for woman of the year award.
5.) I also don't think Bob Dylan should have gotten a Nobel price for LITERATURE. What he does is not literature.
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier. My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever. Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!! Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
I agree with you on all the above except the meat and peanut butter, @smallanimal. Haha. Hopefully your aversion will go away. But I agree epecially on politics. I haven't said a word to anyone how I feel about the election but I did vote in the primaries and feel I have the right to complain about the candidates. They suck. I didn't vote for either in the primaries and I don't know what to do still. But I don't know how political we want to get when we're so hormonal anyway.
@smallanimal I'm right there with you on 1. This is the first election I've been terrified of the results. Our health insurance is bad enough as it is, pro-abortion policies make me sick, and I do not think restricting law-abiding citizens' access to guns will make us safer... Quite the opposite. Also, whoever gets this presidency will be appointing 4-7 justices and we will be looking at a largely liberal generation, if not longer, if she has her way. I honestly fear for my children's future in this country if HRC gets control.
@pinkshades05 I'm with ya. I'm kind of feel like if someone wants to do it up big, go for it. Small parties are fine too (to each his own!), but some people just like the party planning part (at least I did!). I went a little overboard for our daughter's first birthday, but I loved it! I went into it knowing that she likely wouldn't remember it, but the point was to have a fun celebration for me & DH making it a year (lol) and we have a whole bunch of adorable pictures from the day that we'll get to show baby girl as she gets older. Me & DH don't really have big birthday parties for ourselves anymore (we usually prefer to go on a trip or something), so this was fun and out-of-the-ordinary for us. I got to get my pinterest-groove on, and the party was all pink and gold and just adorable. Lot of family came into town, and a bunch of friends came over (people we don't get to see as often as we'd like) - it was a really fun time for everyone to hang out (+mimosas lol!!). Plus, I figure that as the kiddos get older, they'll have more and more say in their parties and DD's 1st birthday was exactly how I wanted it
Look, I know 40 weeks is "best" for my baby.. but I am high risk and my doctors aren't going to let me go beyond 37 weeks... Stop telling me to push the doctors to let me get to 40 weeks when I have a history of pre-term labor and a uterine rupture due to pre-term labor with my second child that nearly killed myself and my unborn child....
Super...super... tired of having to explain myself. Moms, leave other moms the hell alone and let them make medical decisions with their doctors...
@LyssaChap I'm so sorry people are giving you a rough time. Honestly, if you didn't have the high risk diagnosis doctors would be doing everything in their power to keep baby inside until as close to 40 weeks as possible. 40 weeks is for healthy, low-risk pregnancies. I started going into labor at 34 weeks due to something that was completely treatable. Doctors treated it, and told me to keep baby in for as long as possible. But this was not putting me or baby at risk. Hoping for a continued safe pregnancy, and as long as everyone involved is healthy, how exciting that you get to meet baby earlier!
Thanks, it's just ultra irritating. I'm a well-educated third time mom. I do not need any other pregnant person telling me what to do or providing ANY level of "advice".
Re: Thursday Unpopular Opinions
I love Halloween and all the decorations that go with it!!!
@herewegrow I felt the same about my FIL. I didn't think I would ever be comfortable with him watching my kid solo. As she got older, I saw how great he was with her. With my Father being so ill, it is now hard for my mom (a gold star Grandma) to get time with my daughter. It works great having my FIL in our trusted babysitter rotation. You may change you mind. I agree in trusting your gut or "vibes" you get from certain people. Always better safe than sorry.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
I can't handle the tackiness. Don't do these things, ladies.
ETA that I put this on the UO thread because, according to all of my friends, this is a most excellent thing to do, so I have the unpopular opinion in real life. Is everyone on crazy pills?!
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
@cafedisco I ain't messing with that nonsense! (I actually have another engagement that day anyway.) I think if I went my eyes would roll straight out of my head. And my "gift" would be something super inappropriate...
We are doing a gender (sex) reveal too, but its with our close friends and family. This is because for once all of our family will be in Florida that weekend, so its a special occasion to have all sets of grandparents together. We are not expecting gifts or anything like that. I think that's where it gets tacky... oh and the renting a ballroom...
We're basically having a Superbowl/BBQ type party with a blue or pink cake. lol Who doesn't like meatballs and cocktail wieners
Why do people feel the need to go nuts with the Elf on a Shelf? I get the concept, we introduced it last year with DS, but he was a little young to fully understand, but I do not have time to make a full scene with the elf every day (or even once a week).
I think Pinterest has made things like the Elf, birthday parties, reveals,...a bit out of control. Don't get me wrong, I love Pinterest, but come on...
I will agree that I don't get elf on the shelf. I think that one is really stupid and we won't be doing that in our family.
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
FTM so I've never experienced it firsthand, but most parents I know who have are doing so because their kids had friends who did it and they were upset they didn't have their own elf. Hoping maybe this goes out of style in the next few years? Hahaha
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
thats probably more of an annoyance than an unpopular opinion...but dang, people like that bug me!
Heck no to super posh gender reveals and Elf on a shelf. We'll be buying a box of balloons and maybe pink or blue cupcakes for whoever helps us film our reveal.
Also think Elf on the Shelf is a bit weird. But, I knew a teacher who used it in her classroom last year and it was SUPER cute how much the kids got into it. They wrote such adorable letters to the elf all the time. That seemed fun.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
For our gender reveal with DS we just had our parents over for dinner and had a cake made. I posted a picture of the cut cake on Facebook and called it a day. I'm not sure I'll even do that much this time around.
Here's my top 5 this week:-
1.) (don't hate me please but this is my unpopular opinion) - Donald Trump is awful, horrid and deplorable. But Hillary is worse for the country and for the world.
(please dont ban me,. please dont ban me.. I am pregnant.. it's the hormones...)
2.) I don't like peanut butter. Which is horrible, because I used to like it before I got pregnant. So correction, my baby doesn't like peanut butter, I mean, what is wrong with him??? How can he not like peanut butter?
3.) I do not eat meat, but (here comes the unpopular), I think humans ARE omnivores and should eat meat. I just don't fancy.
4.) I don't think Caitlin Jenner was the right choice for woman of the year award.
5.) I also don't think Bob Dylan should have gotten a Nobel price for LITERATURE. What he does is not literature.
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
Super...super... tired of having to explain myself. Moms, leave other moms the hell alone and let them make medical decisions with their doctors...
DD (12), DS (8).
Baby Boy EDD 4/6/17.
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
DD (12), DS (8).
Baby Boy EDD 4/6/17.