Babyshower talk

NinaLCC · October 2016

So it looks like everyone was expecting us to host our own shower, so we decided to do it (it will be co-ed). We booked a space and suddenly everyone wants to pitch in on decorations, food and ordering invites! It will be November 19th and we invited the mandatory relatives and close friends, which came up to 64 people. We will be serving finger foods and some beer/wine. Decided to go with a heart theme due to our little boys heart defect. Anyone have suggestions on what favors to give guests?

cabu14 · October 2016

@kelseyh62 For my bridal shower, I had my husband come around the time I started opening gifts and he sat with me and opened some of them. I hard started but then he came. I will probably do the same thing for the baby shower. I don't like being the focus of attention and since half of the shower will be his family it seems only fair that he has to endure that too!!

BriannaE129129 · October 2016

christac1010 I just noticed your post... glad to know I'm not the only one! I'll even look at my friend's registries because I get curious! (or bored)

NinaLCC Favors for a co-ed leaves a lot of girl themed things out. We're doing mini succulents with a tag that says watch me grow standing out from the plant sort of like below, maybe that's an idea? You can cut the paper in hearts?
mint succulents adorable favors httpnashvillewedding101net

mint succulents adorable favors httpnashvillewedding101net

jsl82 · October 2016

@NinaLCC edible favors are usually a hit. Maybe heart- shaped cookies or mini pies with hearts cut out in the crust.

aishmc · October 2016

@NinaLCC we're doing decorated shortbread cookies from a bakery and just throwing each one in a treat bag with a "thank you" tag. I told my hostesses to make things easy for themselves.

Also, if there are leftovers, I get cookies!

momof2girls+? · October 2016

So yesterday I had a surprise babyshower. My husband and youngest sister threw it for me. It was coed, had a diaper raffle, some games with prizes, and gifts. My sister had everyone fill out envelopes for thank you cards. My aunt wrote down all the gifts and who gave them. I was so shocked and pleased. They did a great job!

hjmorgan-2 · October 2016

andromedacorrine said:

mommywesley said:

I had like 22 on my invite, but this is #5 for us so it's strictly family and 1 or 2 close close friends. My first I had 3 showers, one with work, and one with my side of the fam and one with DH side of the fam. The rest have all just been smaller get togethers to celebrate baby and eat fruit pizza cookies!!!

Oh I do have to share a neat thing that I saw at my cousins baby shower a couple years ago, you know the typical game you play where you can't say 'baby'? Well they changed it to you can't say 'awwwww' LOL it was SO much harder! Especially during gift opening when all the stuff is just so cute you want to say awww!!

I wish I had thought of this! We played the clothespin game and the 2 words were "baby" and "Dickey" (fiances last name) my best friend ended up winning lol I put together prizes from stuff I bought at our local dollar store. We played I think 4 games. I did a guessing game with gumballs in bottles, word scramble, clothespin game and baby bingo during gift opening. At fiances family one, we didn't play any games at all.

@andromedacorrine

How do you play baby bingo?

We want to do a gift opening game to keep people interested, and that sounds interesting. lol

momof2girls+?

How cute!!

hjmorgan-2 · October 2016

How is everyone planning their shower agenda?

My shower starts at 1pm and we're going to plan it out like this:

1:00pm - greetings & start eating
1:30pm - games(3 games)
After games - gift opening/"pass the box" game
raffle pull (From our diaper raffle)
End/final thoughts

Hoping to end around 4PM.

christac1010 · October 2016

@HJMorgan I played gift bingo at my bridal shower which may be similar. You can either pre-print boards or hand out blank templates for people to fill in with various gift ideas. We did the blank templates so everyone filled in their own spots. For my bridal shower, popular squares were luggage, fine China, and wine glasses. Then we played during gift opening until 3 people finally had five in a row. It was a fun, easy, low key game. It didn't have a lot of the awkward moments like other games and no one felt obligated to play. It's one of the only games I was willing to tolerate at my shower.

Also I think my shower agenda will be similar, but I probably won't plan to really get started until the first half hour has passed. We have a lot of people coming and his family is notoriously late.

hjmorgan-2 · October 2016

christac1010 said:

@HJMorgan I played gift bingo at my bridal shower which may be similar. You can either pre-print boards or hand out blank templates for people to fill in with various gift ideas. We did the blank templates so everyone filled in their own spots. For my bridal shower, popular squares were luggage, fine China, and wine glasses. Then we played during gift opening until 3 people finally had five in a row. It was a fun, easy, low key game. It didn't have a lot of the awkward moments like other games and no one felt obligated to play. It's one of the only games I was willing to tolerate at my shower.

Also I think my shower agenda will be similar, but I probably won't plan to really get started until the first half hour has passed. We have a lot of people coming and his family is notoriously late.

@christac1010
HA, my family is aaaaalways late to things. I told my Mom we probably shouldn't start games until 2PM. Her response?

"That's what they get if they're late, they don't get to play games!"

She's the hostess, soooo what can I say? lol

BAJDesigns · October 2016

Okay gals. Opinions. A coworker and I are both due in January. Another coworker wants to throw us a joint work shower, but I am really worried that inviting all our coworkers to a joint shower is asking a lot. I don't want people to feel obligated to have to buy two gifts. I hate for people to do things out of obligation. Should I just thank her and turn down the shower? Or let it be?

hjmorgan-2 · October 2016

@BAJDesigns
How close are your co-workers? If you've worked with most of them for like 10 years and you see them outside of work regularly. It might be fine.

If not, you can do a joint 'celebration,' not call it a shower. And just spread the word that gifts aren't necessary (usually at work it's not hard to spread something around, lol)

Buuut, this also depends on the other mom to be. How does she feel about it?

aishmc · October 2016

@BAJDesigns I agree with @HJMorgan that it depends on the dynamic of the group. In my unit, we typically just throw in money together for a big gift card so no one has to worry about running out to the store, dealing with registries, and wrapping gifts. If it's not too forward or pushy, maybe you can see if they'd do something like that?

BAJDesigns · October 2016

The other mom to be is on baby #3 and just had a shower last year, so I would think she would be uncomfortable with it too, but she hasn't said anything. I like calling it a baby celebration and just making it clear no gifts are necessary.

andrawrmeda2 · October 2016

My mom wants to do another shower and my sils all were like "no, cause you had one already for your son". I told my mom as long as she actually plans it and gets everything she can throw one, but I'm not buying anything ro doing anything this time. The only reason I want one is cause this is a girl and 90% of what we have is for a boy and we found out super late we were having a baby, so diapers would be nice. But I've managed to get alot of clothes and blankets already, and started buying diapers when they're on sale. So I don't know about the whole shower idea. It's gonna be cold and there's already too many bdays and holidays between now and her due date. Seems like a hassle.

hjmorgan-2 · October 2016

@andromedacorrine I think if your mom wants to throw you a shower that's fine! It's usually acceptable if the gender is different. Mother's love doing this for their daughters, I kinda think it's selfish of your SILs to say she can't throw one. It's for her granddaughter! let her celebrate!

hjmorgan-2 · October 2016

So what are you ladies serving at your baby shower?

My Mom got excited about a 'layered' theme. Lol. So we're filling clear individual plastic cups with layered bean dip, big glass bowl with 7-layer salad(the best things in the WORLD), and cut up little sandwiches so you can see the different colored veggies layered on the inside. lol.

Then we're having blueberry/mint infused water and blue Kool-Aid/sprite mix. Then my sister is going to do something with cupcake, I'm not sure what kind but she's very creative with dessert. So I know it'll be cute, and probably something green. (My color theme is blue with green accents)

lindsladle15 · October 2016

@BAJDesigns What if you requested that the invite say something like what has been previously mentioned, or, "in lieu of a traditional gift, if you feel led to give a gift, please bring a small package of baby wipes or diapers for the mom's-to-be."
At my old work they did a diaper shower like that.

LeahNicole · October 2016

I'm wishing I would've had my baby shower sooner, it's planned and booked for December 3rd but I have such an nesting bug and I just wanna buy stuff...I just don't want to buy anything until I know what we are going to get at the baby shower!

aishmc · October 2016

@HJMorgan we're having tacos! We figured hiring someone to come and do the main dish would be easiest so my mom could enjoy herself. For dessert we're having cupcakes and a caramel apple station where people can dip their own apples. I'm so excited for the food!

urbanorchidgirl · October 2016

Mine is on Saturday! Can't believe it is here already. I was really excited for the food until my diagnosis of GD this week (which I still think is wrong). But damn it. I'm having a piece of cake.

Carly79 · October 2016

@urbanorchidgirl Enjoy that cake

I've had a couple birthday parties to go to and I will usually eat the meal following the idea of 3 carbs so limiting my portions of some things. Then I wait an hour, test and have the cake. A 2 inch piece typically is about 2 carb choices.

KarliQ88 · October 2016

urbanorchidgirl said:

Mine is on Saturday! Can't believe it is here already. I was really excited for the food until my diagnosis of GD this week (which I still think is wrong). But damn it. I'm having a piece of cake.

Enjoy it! dietician even told me it was ok to do that "once in a while" basically said we realize your sugars won't be perfect all the time. If you do have something going on and have cake put a star next to that post sugar to let us know you "cheated" that one time. Since we are having a boy my mother in law is making blue velvet cupcakes with cream cheese frosting. And i plan on eating one...i too have GD

LeahNicole · October 2016

Question for you ladies

So I started in an ICU as a nurse in August. I am trying to decide what to do about my baby shower, it's a post surgical cardiac icu so it's pretty small-14 beds. Well I'm trying to decide if I invite all the girls from my unit to the baby shower or if I just invite the few I've gotten to know better than others. It's hard being such a small unit, I don't dislike anyone, I've just had the chance to get to know others better. What are your thoughts?

AlicjaB · October 2016

@LeahNicole I would say include them, get a chance to end up knowing them better, plus more gifts! That way they don't feel excluded that only a certain few were invited.

gapeachrn · October 2016

@LeahNicole I would invite them. You don't want to ruffle feathers by not inviting some. You never know, they may throw you a shower at work.

MaryNog · October 2016

@LeahNicole agree with previous posters, this might be a great opportunity for you to meet your other coworkers. If they're not interested in attending, they won't come and you won't feel guilty about it.

@aishmc I'm drooling at the thought of the food you're having at the shower, sounds amazing!

Hope everyone has a great weekend! To those having showers this weekend, hope it's fun and delicious!

LeahNicole · October 2016

Thanks ladies that's what I was thinking too... I talked to one of the girls that I've gotten to know and she suggested doing just like a post in the breakroom about the shower and RSVP but I think I'm going to give actual invitations with an RSVP by date so that I know because we're paying by plate.

aishmc · October 2016

@LeahNicole good idea! I've done the break room list with parties and my bridal shower and it's hit or miss. I've had people sign up and not go, or just decide day of to attend. If you need a concrete number, formal invites all the way!

Also not sure about the dynamic of your unit, but I agree it's best to invite everyone. No one will feel left out and be able to talk shit with nurses eating their young and all that.

andrawrmeda2 · October 2016

@HJMorgan I kinda thought the same, the only thing is my mom procrastinates so i would end up helping plan it anyway and I don't know if I have the energy to do another one lol I'm thinking maybe we'll throw a small one after she is here, that way people can meet her and then maybe I can help her plan it better! We have too many November birthdays and too many holidays in between now and her due date lol

hjmorgan-2 · October 2016

Shower is next Saturday, I put together the prizes for the three games! (Not including the big door prize for the diaper raffle .)

aishmc · October 2016

@HJMorgan those are super cute! Our shower was yesterday and I realized last minute we had no prizes so the winners just got Starbucks cards.

urbanorchidgirl · October 2016

Here are a few pics from mine last week! My mom made the cakes.

urbanorchidgirl · October 2016

One more

BAJDesigns · October 2016

Any one else getting super nervous as their shower approaches? I have been watching my registries like a hawk and only 2 things have been purchased, and the shower is next weekend! Have the rest of you FTM been more prepared at setting aside $ to buy all the stuff you need? My mom kept telling me not to buy anything other than nursery furniture before the showers, but now I'm worried we'll have to spend a big chunk all at once!

amaren-2 · October 2016

I'm a little annoyed. My sister is planning the shower when I visit for Thanksgiving, the weekend before Thanksgiving, what is that less than three weeks? She still hasn't sent out the invites. I told her the weekend that worked best and gave her addresses a month ago.

@BAJDesigns I would try to not worry too much, most of the time people don't shop that far in advance.

christac1010 · October 2016

@BAJDesigns I feel the same way! My shower is Saturday and almost nothing is fulfilled on the registry and I'm starting to panic, especially with having to go out of work early and only making disability pay. Thankfully the car seat and bases are fulfilled, as well as the Rock n Play sleeper and pack and play.

I keep reminding myself that almost everything else is extra for the baby or things he won't need right away, so I can space it out over time. My mom said a lot of people talked to her about gift cards too so I'm counting on being able to use them with my completion discount. Although I'm worried people might have went rogue and I'll have to send DH to the store to return all the unnecessary outfits and toys. Ugh. I'm so anxious!

mommy2ane · October 2016

A lot of people won't go shopping until a day or two before the shower so don't panic too much. I've even gone the morning of. And sometimes you get things you didn't even know about and end up liking.

shlecks · October 2016

Yep I'm in the same boat. Shower is two weeks away- granted I think my sister just sent the invites out last week. But still not much has been purchased yet.

Teach123 · October 2016

@BAJDesigns lots of people wait to shop for showers until the day before or even day of. Some people who aren't able to attend will usually send gifts afterwards too. I know lots of people don't turn in that they've bought something, so it doesn't show up on the registry.

As far as buying a lot yourself afterwards, it really doesn't take that much in the beginning. I could have probably gotten by with a few onsies, diapers and a car seat. Oh, and a rock-n-play was a must at my house. Lol. Other than that. There are lots of things you can wait on because you won't be using them for awhile.

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