TWW Friday 10/14

GeorgiaWife6912 · October 2016

@adirat I. cant. stop. watching. your gif! haha. I am crossing everything SO hard that this is your cycle!

My question was completely just an honest question. I've seen a few "early" posts but most of them seem to be people that have been around for a while so I just wondered if there was an unspoken rule out there somewhere that I missed and I never ever want to unintentionally hurt someone! Thanks for all of the honest answers! They all make complete sense!

adirat · October 2016

@osucma and @Georgiawife6912 Hey no worries. I only know about this because I was lurking during the voting process. This is also when the new newbie guide was written. There were some helpful debates that informed my thinking of how this community's mores came.

Oh, and I really convinced myself I was KU during my third cycle when I had a 6dpo temp dip so I thought a lot about whether it was too soon to post (BSC all the way). The fact that you guys are kind enough to wonder means that you are the type of people we like to have around and I for one will be thrilled for both if you when you get your BFPs.

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lund · October 2016

adirat said:

CS/Q: Well the BSC has started early... last night (at 5dpo) I had a huge rush of EWCM and a tiny bit of bright red spotting. My first thought was "f--- my LP is getting even shorter" but then my second thought was "This must be implantation spotting!!!11!" I have seesawed between these two crazy thoughts constantly since then, even though today (6dpo) I have neither thing and surely last night was a weird fluke.

This exact thing happened to me at 5 or 6 DPO! Although not as much EWCM for me (but I'm not a very mucus-y person in general), and my spotting was pink. I had the short LP freak out too, but I've had nothing aside from typical sticky CM ever since the spotting. I'm even BSC enough to have stopped drinking after I saw it. FX so hard for you. I'm being irrational and holding out hope for myself even after two BFNs on CD 9 and 10.

GeorgiaWife6912 · October 2016

@lund 9 and 10 dpo is still early!!

... although I'm still holding out hope for my 10dpo bfn myself..

thatcma · October 2016

@adirate your gif game is so strong. I love it.

adirat · October 2016

@LuND lol um yeah I also didn't drink during last night's football game because of that ewcm and spotting. The bsc is real.

wabash15 · October 2016

@adirat DH and I have been discussing it a lot lately. I think we will do treatments again. The down side is this time it will be completely out of pocket. We just replaced all the windows in our house and I love them but I also think "that could have paid for treatments to make a baby". I think we just have to sit down with the budget and see if we can make it happen this year or if we have to wait till January.

adirat · October 2016

@wabash15 Hugs. It's a tough decision and made so hard if you don't have any coverage. If you have to wait 'til January I'll cross my fingers you get your surprise bfp before then

vflux33 · October 2016

@adirat FX for you!

@GeorgiaWife6912 I'm so glad you asked that because I wondered it myself when a poster who I chatted with in the Newbie thread and TWW my first month on here a few times disappeared --I tracked her down to a BMB and felt bad because I never congratulated her, but I guess she probably just didn't feel right posting in the grad thread after only being on here a few weeks.

@RunRestRepeat Me too! Lived alone for almost a year in college and never thought twice about it and living with a boy has completely skewed it all. Now when he leaves for work for a couple nights I'm checking the locks 5 times per night minimum.

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WillRunForWine21 · October 2016

Month/Cycle: 4/4

CD/DPO: 19/3

Timing: -2, -1 (darn you flu and strep throat....)

Testing: next friday/saturday (9/10dpo for drinking purposes

R/R: it was a crazy FW with DH so sick but this week I had some really nice work moments with kiddos reaching goals and tomorrow I have carved out for fall closet and life purge to prep for hosting our first ever Thanksgiving FRIDAYYYYYYYYYYY happy hour starts soon as well.

CS/Q: Yes please! ( @adirat I know you said you like to!)
sorry if the chart is huge I prefer to do it from my phone as opposed to work computer. The top chart is last month and the bottom is this month. I feel like an argument could be made for O on CD14 with a lower coverline? especially when compared to the September pattern. This is all purely educational- what is done is done obviously. I dont get EWCM really I tend to go creamy to wet so I dont even have that for help

GTKY: What is your biggest fear? Any irrational fears? I have dreams that I am in a war 1-2 times a week. I am a civilian, a soldier, etc etc. all different time periods. I never have experienced war time and this makes no sense

Eta: it is wise when asking g for a CS to attach the chart.

BigBadWolf12 · October 2016

Month/Cycle: 3ttcal 12 total

CD/DPO: 27/10

Timing: -4,-3,-2,-1

Testing: bfns so far. Will keep doing internet cheapie until red flow and a temp drop.

R/R: spotting started yesterday. Less today. I made it to 10dpo! I got scared yesterday. It would be nice if af must come if it could wait until a better length of LP.

CS/Q: nah.

GTKY: What is your biggest fear? Any irrational fears? Not being a mother. Honestly it's been on my mind more and more. I know I'm probably jumping the gun, but the fear is real.

adirat · October 2016

@WillRunForWine21 Given your past chart, I think a cd13 O is likelier than what FF gave you. Have you temped previous cycles? If your cover line is always that much lower than you got this month, I would say more strongly that you likely had cd13. I understand why you got a later O on here (CM) but you're right that your fertile cm continues after O on your previous chart. (I also get ewcm after O so it isn't as reliable for me either.)

kiki75 · October 2016

@GlitterFish It might move them. I wonder if it's wrong on O date? CD 13 seems to be a candidate. To me. But I suck at CS.
@oscuma I've wondered about thermometer maintenance when temping vaginally. I've heard that vaginally seems to be more stable and less prone to variation based on outside factors. But, it can vary significantly from oral temps so you don't want to switch mid-cycle.
@JuneRoseRuby If he's doing the stuff to get ready for his friends to come over, just let him do it his way. Bed made all wonky? They'll mock him for it and then he gets corrected without you having to do it!
@zwink1 I finally had to ban myself from watching Criminal Minds and stuff when H isn't home. I'd always get myself all worked up.
@hartmich Keep talking about it as much as you want. There's an ebb and flow with support. It's okay to not be the resident Pollyanna right now. It gets more manageable, though. I promise. I'm the same with FF. It's like if I just figure out this puzzle, I'll get my BFP prize!
@LuND *off to add really long straw to Amazon cart*
@wabash15 I'm with you. I admit that while I'm really happy for everyone, including a friend who has been here a long time, there are also some sad emotions. But, hooray for science. I think sometimes about how things were before there were other options.
@laurad75 Sorry for the BFN.

@GeorgiaWife6912 @oscuma I'm more of the 'if a fair number of people will recognize and be happy for you' mindset. I have been sad when I was lurking BMBs and saw someone I recognized who hadn't posted because the goal isn't to make people feel like they're not deserving of the celebration and a send-off. It's just that there are people who want to pop in at about 7DPO and then post a grad announcement. Also, did you genuinely interact with anyone or did you just spew your own stuff into the wind? Mostly, I think people know in their hearts if it's the appropriate, kind thing to do or if they're just being AWs, other people's feelings be damned. (So people like you two, yes, do post.

) As far as what @adirat said about a one-month unicorn who posted her BFP, I seem to recall that part of her problem was mentioning something along the lines of not knowing what she did to deserve this [the BFP], which implied that BFPs/BFNs are on a basis of deserving, and you could extrapolate that to mean that those who are having a hard time getting KU somehow deserve that. She had some other poorly considered wording in there, too. Mostly, it's a matter of being kind and thinking about others.
@RunRestRepeat Hope you have a great race!
@adirat That gif is mesmerizing.

thatcma · October 2016

@kiki75 Thank you! I was planning on changing my temping if this month doesn't pan out

Basherbaby · October 2016

@GeorgiaWife6912 @osucma For what it's worth, I would love to see you both post in the grad thread. I've been avoiding the WTO and TWW threads lately because of personal issues but I still like to look in here and see where everyone is at. I think it shows how much both of you care about this community by asking for opinions.

wabash15 · October 2016

@WillRunForWine21 I'm with @adirat you could make an argument for a CD 13O and that FF gave you your CH where they are because of the CM. I wonder if you take that out if it changes your O date... also your temps are hugging your coverline now, and if they continue to go up then your current O date may be accurate.

kiki75 · October 2016

@wabash15 @adirat @WillRunForWine21 I thought that CD 13 looked like a possibility, too but I'm so bad at CS I didn't say anything.

Sugargirl1019 · October 2016

Month/Cycle: 8 months, 1 TTCAL

CD/DPO: 27/5

Timing: 5, -2, -1, O

Testing: probably monday, 8 dpo, cuz I'm crazy

R/R: I am leaving after work to drive 5 hours for a trip! Gong to a football game and our favorite corn maze/pumpkin patch. It's our annual fall tradition!

CS/Q: nope, I'm in the boring stage of the tww

GTKY: What is your biggest fear? Any irrational fears? I have an irrational fear of not being able to work while pregnant. I work myself up about it and get anxiety attacks.

Sugargirl1019 · October 2016

osucma said:

GeorgiaWife6912 said:

Speaking of the TTGP Grad thread, when is it appropriate to post in it? Obviously this doesn't apply to me as I got a BFN haha, but just curious when you are considered "a regular" and it won't be frowned on to post your BFP?

I am curious about this. I asked before but never got an answer. The consensus I got when I asked was that no one really wanted to answer the question to not make anyone upset. Also just that if you are regularly posting and actually interacting with others that certainly helped.
No completely honest answer would have made me upset.

If you participate in the WTO and TWW then people will recognize you and feel happy for you. It was worded that way to prevent literal drive bys from posting "omg I don't know any of you but I wanted to say I'm totes KU on accident on birth control! Bye!"

haylsbayls-2 · October 2016

@adirat FX so hard for you!!

@GeorgiaWife6912 I would definitely search for your name if you disappeared even if it is your first month!!

juliebleu · October 2016

Month/Cycle: 1/1

CD/DPO: 20/1

Timing: -5, 0

Testing: planning to test on the 27th.

CS/Q: I actually don't chart... my little one still nurses at night so my sleep is broken. But I do pay attention to CM

GTKY: What is your biggest fear? Any irrational fears?

Like several posters above: that something bad will happen to my daughter.

Irrational fear: similar to a few of you guys- but I think being scared of burglars is probably a healthy fear. Mine is monsters in the dark- I hate going outside at night or walking in a dark room- I feel eyes on me, and it's probably the gaze of something super creepy...

@sugargirl1019 I had this fear last time I was ttc. I have a physical job (required to lift 100#) and can't just go to the bathroom whenever. I ended up working till 8 days overdue- it was a null issue in the end. But everything is different for everybody. I'd say it is a rational fear. But hopefully one that will prove to be unfounded or at least manageable when the time comes.

zwink1 · October 2016

@LuND Thanks! We're only a few hours in, but so far it's been great! I think we both really needed it. Btw, I fully support the bottle of wine and long straw, if necessary, that sounds like a fabulous idea!

@GeorgiaWife6912. Haha, I'll tell him! And you're right, it's a harder hit because I'm down enough on myself when AF rolls around month after month, I need him to be the optimist!

@osucma I'm sorry to hear that it seems like the house won't work out, I know how frustrating that can be and it's been such a roller coaster for you! To answer your question, I temp vaginally because I feel like it gives me more consistent temps. I wipe my thermometer off after every use and usually bring it into the bathroom with me to rinse off, but I'm sure there are mornings I've forgotten.

@JuneRoseRuby Haha, I've never tried to let H make a bed alone....probably because it would end exactly like that!

@CallaLily25 I'm glad to hear your mom's surgery went well! It must be such a relief to have it over with.

@hartmich I am so sorry for your loss, and I completely agree with what @wabash15 had to say. You are grieving and that is okay. Hugs.

@RunRestRepeat Good luck with your race this weekend!!

@kiki75 Yeah, I've recently had to self-enforce a ban on criminal minds and other associated shows when H isn't around as well. My imagination is bad enough, it doesn't need help creating scary situations!

manillabar · October 2016

@CallaLily25, I'm glad your mom's procedure went well!!
@zwink1 I know what you mean. I always get paranoid about locking the doors and walking alone at night after watching SVU or criminal minds. Even worse is when I'm showering while home alone because then I can't hear if anything is happening outside of the bathroom. Like @juneroseruby, I'm always afraid that I'm going to open my eyes from washing my face and find an attacker on the other side of the shower door!
@hartmich many hugs to you

you don't have to apologize for the way you're feeling, it's totally understandable

sorry for all the BFNs, ladies! I believe someone called for wine and a straw?

Month/Cycle: 4/4

CD/DPO: 20/4

Timing: -4, -2, -1

Testing: 13dpo if I can hold out, 11dpo if not

R/R: I originally planned to TTA after this cycle if we are not successful because I need to start a new job next summer and I didn't think it would make sense to start a new job the same month I would be set to deliver. However, now that H is working, we figured we could save up enough that I could start working a month or two later than originally planned and I was going to keep TTC. However, I just realized yesterday that even if we do that, we won't have insurance since our insurance is through my residency and H is working part-time. And since I don't actually have a job lined up, I don't yet know what the deal will be with insurance and benefits and FMLA. So if this is not our cycle, we really will have to TTA for a few months while we figure all this stuff out. And it's really killing me because I want a baby so badly!! I cried last night talking to H about it, and I'm still pretty sad. And the sadness poured over into me thinking this is probably not our month anyway. It's a hot mess of a pity party over here right now lol

CS/Q: Not much there, thinking about not temping for the rest of the TWW. I'm already sad and I hate the 5AM alarm. Also I'm not putting symptoms in FF either because I think it fueled the BSC last month (esp with FF telling me what percentage of people have my symptoms and got KU)

GTKY: What is your biggest fear? Any irrational fears?
I hate bugs, spiders, etc. anything little thing with legs. Those creepy house centipede things show up every summer around here and I obsessively spray the whole apartment weekly during the summer months.. I can't wait to move out of here! lol

adirat · October 2016

@manillabar Hugs! I am right there with you (last cycle before TTA) and it is THE WORST. It's OK to cry and it's OK to be angry. But you aren't out yet -- in fact today's BFP was from someone in her last cycle before TTA. It could still happen. FX so hard.

So many hugs to you.

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manillabar · October 2016

@adirat thanks! Am I lame if I admit that I kinda teared up a little reading your response? my fingers are crossed for you too!

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theweevee · October 2016

@LuND I do that too! Even in the heat with no air conditioning.

@GeorgiaWife6912 oh my gosh! I hope everything was ok. That would scare me so much!

adirat · October 2016

@manillabar If you are a mess we can be messes together!

Njtrimed · October 2016

Month/Cycle: 1/1

CD/DPO: 26/10 (or 11)

Timing: Excellent

Testing: Still waiting

R/R: Could go either way: running has been frustrating the past 2-3 days. This year I've been training hard for triathlons and ended up with a lot of PRs, and even qualified for nationals a few weeks ago. I've been struggling to maintain a pace that would normally be really easy. If that's because I'm pregnant, awesome- otherwise, it's a bummer.

CS/Q:

GTKY: What is your biggest fear? Any irrational fears? Heights. It's weird; I love flying and wasn't scared to go skydiving, but I become white-knuckled and clammy near ledges when hiking and rock climbing.

wabash15 · October 2016

@manillabar sorry there is so much pressure for this cycle. It sucks facing the decision to put your dreams on hold. Fix for you and @adirat this cycle

GeorgiaWife6912 · October 2016

I'm mobile bumping so it's hard to tag everyone, but thank you all for your sweet words! I do feel like I've connected to many of you so even though a bfp is disappointing, at least I get to hang out with y'all a little longer!

@manillabar I am so sorry! Fx so hard this is your cycle and all of the worry will be a non issue! I hate that you are having such a rough day. *creepy internet hugs*
@Njtrimed hopefully a bfp is the reason for your pace change! I'm sorry it's been so frustrating lately.
@theweevee we had a ton of damage and lost all of the electrinics, jewelry, and guns in the house, but me and MH and my dog were ok so in the end thats all that matters. We did lose a ton of sentimental stuff that we can never get back which really stinks, especially since some of it was jewelry from my mom who died last year.

manillabar · October 2016

@adirat @wabash15 @georgiawife6912 Thanks for the kind words and support! I'm so glad to have you all to talk to, knowing you understand how it feels. @wabash15 I know you mentioned that you and your H are going to also have to make some tough decisions moving forward, I hope things work out well for you guys

I'm on mobile but just pretend there's a group hug gif here

adirat · October 2016

@manillabar I got you! This is for all of you wonderful ladies:

hartmich · October 2016

Ah, you guys are all just the freakin best.

Also, pro tip: if you're having a rough day (read: emotional) do NOT watch Parenthood on Netflix. I'm crying like a baby over here.

zwink1 · October 2016

@manillabar we will also have toTTA after this cycle and I'm having so many mixed feelings about it. Can I cry/be angry/be a general mess with you and @adirat? My best friend is getting married next August and I cannot miss it, but she's halfway across the country. As much as it kills me to tta, I know that I would feel horrible if I missed her wedding.

adirat · October 2016

@zwink1 Yes, you are very much welcome. I know how hard a decision that must have been so your mixed feelings are completely valid. FWIW I would do what you are doing and TTA for the wedding, too. (My dad's 60th birthday/family reunion is in August 2016, so I'd be TTA for a month or two around that even if we weren't moving.) Even when you know you are making the "right" decision, it still stinks big time. Hugs.

I found this for us:

manillabar · October 2016

@adirat perfect gif!
@zwink1, join the group hug, there's always room for more!

JuneRoseRuby · October 2016

@hartmich if you like parenthood, you'd also like the new show 'this is us'. 3 episodes in and it's awesome.

@GeorgiaWife6912 I can't imagine losing all of those irreplaceable items. So sorry.

@manillabar it can be so hard to figure out what part of life to put on hold or have to put a dream on the back burner. Hugs!

theweevee · October 2016

@georgiawife6912 that's terrible! I'm so sorry for your losses.

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zwink1 · October 2016

@manillabar, @adirat. I don't know what I would do without you ladies. Thank goodness for TB and the support on these boards!

Njtrimed · October 2016

Thanks, @GeorgiaWife1296! You're so sweet! And @hartmich, I love Parenthood! If you think that's rough, don't start This is Us.

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