@RainyDays86 I'm in the exact same boat. We found out for DS because I had to know. I want to be Team Green this time I think for the exact same reason. I just hope I have the patience to hold out...I'm already dying to know. Everyone who I know who has waited to find out says it's an amazing surprise
I want to be team green and have always wanted to be. But H wants to find out. I don't know what we'll do. I above all don't want anyone else to know if we do find out. I just don't want a ton of blue stuff or a ton of pink stuff. My nursery will be the same no matter what. And even once the baby is here, I want reds, greens, blues, oranges and purples regardless of the sex. I know if others find out, we'll get a ton of one color or the other.
Can your DH keep a secret? Maybe even from you, but especially from others? I said we were team green both times but that was sort of a lie. I accidentally saw something on the anatomy scan with DS that was unmistakable (the tech had told us to look away and I didn't in time!) I kept the secret from everyone, including DH, for the next 20 weeks! I knew team green was important to him. If your DH is good at this maybe he can find out and not you. Then again, he's not allowed to "plan" with that knowledge, because it will become clear to you and everyone else of the baby's gender if he does.
@kat81 is totally right about if people know sex before the shower a large amount of the gifts will be clothes. I have been to both kinds. Last year I went to two showers two weekends in a row. The first we knew it was going to be a little girl. Despite the turnout being large and her registry being well appointed she received nearly all clothes. She didn't get any of the more useful items (car seat, stroller, bottles, carrier, etc). The second shower we did not know the sex and she received basically every single item she could possibly use along with some gender neutral clothes. They did end up having a reveal at the end of the shower (she and her husband did not know either) and she was having a girl. Had everyone known prior I am certain they would have also bought her clothes instead of the practical items.
@Louise_Belcher and @kat81 - Definitely true about gender specific clothes/everything at the shower. People aren't super excited about gender neutral clothes, which is fine by me! I hate most gender specific clothes- the baby boy things that say "Tough like Daddy" and all of the princess/glitter girly sh*t. My baby boy does not have to be tough. He's a baby. MIL bought him a onesie that said "Lock Up Your Daughters"...I found that disturbing. It definitely got returned.
I went to a baby shower when I was pregnant with my son, and was so happy to be on Team Green. My friend was expecting a girl, and literally everything was pink, glitter, flowers, and/or leopard print. I like pink just fine, but sprinkled into a wardrobe which includes all other colors. If I have a baby girl, she will be wearing 99.9% of my son's current clothes
One of the reasons I'm debating this time is that I won't be having a shower (I'd guess- my little guy is so young that we don't need anything). I do like the delaying of social gender-norms though. I'm so torn. Yesterday, I was all about finding out, but today I'm leaning the other way! Haha...
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
@kayemjay2 I hate, hate, HATE super gendered/vaguely sexual baby clothes. Why anyone would have their baby boy wear a shirt that says "lock up your daughters" is beyond me, but I find it super weird and trashy. They'll be teenagers soon enough, let's let them be babies now.
I'm finding this conversation fascinating. I never considered not finding out the sex. I was just talking about it with my husband after reading this, and he's in the same boat as me. I just don't really care for surprises. However! This has me thinking I might want to keep it a surprise to others. I hate the idea of getting a bunch of gender specific gifts.
@kat81 I'm more nervous about the naming issue if one knows and the other doesn't. Say he knows it's a boy, he may try to placate with our girl option to nudge the favors of a boy toward his choice. I don't think he would actually do that but I also imagine myself becoming a paranoid over-analyzing freak. Haha. I definitely think he can keep a secret.
TTC1: May 2015
Primary IF May 2016; Failed HSG; Scheduled Lap Sept. 2016
Re: Team Green or not Team Green?
Can your DH keep a secret? Maybe even from you, but especially from others?
I said we were team green both times but that was sort of a lie. I accidentally saw something on the anatomy scan with DS that was unmistakable (the tech had told us to look away and I didn't in time!) I kept the secret from everyone, including DH, for the next 20 weeks! I knew team green was important to him. If your DH is good at this maybe he can find out and not you. Then again, he's not allowed to "plan" with that knowledge, because it will become clear to you and everyone else of the baby's gender if he does.
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
I went to a baby shower when I was pregnant with my son, and was so happy to be on Team Green. My friend was expecting a girl, and literally everything was pink, glitter, flowers, and/or leopard print. I like pink just fine, but sprinkled into a wardrobe which includes all other colors. If I have a baby girl, she will be wearing 99.9% of my son's current clothes
One of the reasons I'm debating this time is that I won't be having a shower (I'd guess- my little guy is so young that we don't need anything). I do like the delaying of social gender-norms though. I'm so torn. Yesterday, I was all about finding out, but today I'm leaning the other way! Haha...
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*