WAYDTGKU: temping, charting, OPKs, trying for BD EOD
R/R: hoping this week goes by quick!! DH and I are going to vegas next week for 5 days for vacation!! We just sold our townhouse and bought a new house in April so we weren't gonna do a vacation this year but we are going with family too so we figured why not! Of course I'm already obsessing over the 3 hour time difference and when I should temp since that will likely be O week!
CS/Q: we are gonna start using preseed this cycle so I'm excited to try something new! Any pointers? Less is more?
GTKY: any time period that lets you wear cool corsets and dresses like in Titanic!
@oscuma Ahh, Hs are funny. Does he know that you actually want to start PNVs pretty early (like 3 mo if you can)? And that they're generally just a good multivitamin for any lady of childbearing age?
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@beachbunnyxo123 thank you! Enjoy Vegas! Sounds like a fun time A doctor that works in my clinic is there this week for 4 days.
@kiki75 we had a talk that night when he got home (the whole moving too fast happened via text) and I told him that (1) me taking PNVs does not make me get pregnant sooner (2) you want to take them early on to build up vitamins that I am going to struggle to have in me the first trimester (3) that they are only a little different than the women's daily I was taking anyways and (3) that yes any women my age should be on them, and many are. I used the fact that I have a TON of patients on them to help me.
@osucma I'm glad you were able to share some good info with him. Multiple doctors told me to start PNVs months before ceasing birth control which I thought seemed extreme until I realized how long folic acid needs to build up... Crazy. All that said -- is there a chance him saying and doing these things is a smokescreen for not wanting to have a child at all right now? I'd hate to see you in a situation where you aren't getting the support (emotional and otherwise) you need during TTC and pregnancy because he can't admit to you that he isn't ready period. May be worth talking more about. Good luck.
@adirat thank you for the input. The PNV fiasco happened back in August when my IUD was taken out. Since then we have had many, many talks because my initial concern was that he agreed to try but didn't really mean it. I thought he agreed just to make me happy.
It has become pretty clear that his initial responses were mostly an "oh crap this is real" moment and since then he has become very comfortable with the idea and has even talked to me about future nurseries and names. I believe him when he says he is ready now and that he wants a baby. He said he just needed reassurance in that moment. (IE: we will be good parents, he won't be like his dad, we are in a good place for kids, etc.)
WAYDTGKU: pnv, opk, cm, going in for my hsg procedure on friday!
R/R: Have a bachelorette party this weekend...looking forward to it, when I'm back, I'm hoping I O....
CS/Q: anyone have an HSG procedure?
GTKY: Hmmm...I'd go back to the time of the titanic - hopefully i can convince them to steer left
@GlitterFish i have a thyroid problem too. I'm hypo, my TSH was off the charts, I've been on levothyroxine for the last three months, and now i'm a little over 2 (docs want under 2). good luck!
@BertieMeetsGertie Sorry for CD 1. As far as telling people over Christmas, you would still be far enough to have had an initial US by then. But, if you tell them in January, it add excitement to one of the lamest months of the year.
I'm digging your positive outlook! We basically only see our families around the holidays because we live 16 hours away. I would love to be able to tell them in person, but it might not work out that way. My inlaws at least have smartphones and internet so we could skype with them, but my parents still live in the stone age.
Thanks everyone for your kind words today. I'm so glad I have you all during this crazy process.
Me: 31 DH: 32 Dating since: 11/17/2001 Married: 9/26/2009 TTC: June 2016
WAYDTGKU: BBT, some CM, working on vitamins, diet & exercise
R/R:
CS/Q: Q - Has anyone been asked to choose their location for L&D yet? I finally broke down and went to my PCP about fertility and she said we've waiting long enough and can be aggressive about it (which is awesome). She did a short in-office exam today and I'm scheduled for bloodwork next Monday and she wants to schedule a more thorough exam with my (future) OB/GYN so I have to select my OB/GYN and hospital I want for L&D ASAP so I can schedule that next exam and admittedly I am feeling a bit overwhelmed.
GTKY: If we're going on a field trip, I would want to be a seamstress or a weaver for a European court during the 16th century. I would love to learn about their embellishment techniques up close and personal. I might legit only finish 1 gown during my 3 months stay but that's okay
@WildMagelet I find it strange that you would be choosing your L&D location before even being KUd. With DD, we just had to tell the OBGYN where once the induction date was scheduled. I mean, we knew all along which network of hospitals we were selecting from based on who we chose for our OBGYN but even then, we could have changed our minds at any point up to L&D.
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
@WildMagelet@bumpybump Depending on where you are, it's not really strange to need to figure out 1. if it's important to you where you deliver and if applicable 2. which place that is so you can select a doctor with privileges at that hospital. Plus, I wanted to have an exit strategy in place before I was KU. But that's just me. Where I am, there are two options and they're not in the same family so doctors that have privileges at one don't at the other. I suppose from each network, there are other hospitals if I wanted to be another 25-30 minutes away.
So I actually selected a hospital before I started TTC. I did the tours and everything (on one I was the only preplanner and there was one other couple on the other). One has some benefits but the bottom line for me was that the other has the higher-level NICU so if we were to need that extra level, my baby wouldn't have to be transferred, and we could both be in the same hospital. So, once I knew that, I started looking at the OB/Gyns who had privileges there. If I hadn't liked any of the OB/Gyns from that group, I may have been swayed to the other hospital but I found one I liked. (Also, whomever you select will probably refer you to an RE so start researching them, too.)
Honestly, I'm really glad that I chose an OB/Gyn for my annual before we started TTC so that I could be building a relationship with her instead of dealing with new people when it all hit the fan. ***TW - loss*** Since my annual last January, I had been talking with her more to monitor the Zika thing due to H's job, and we had done some blood work to rule out initial things like thyroid problems. When I went in for my first US, the assistant had said that the Dr was really excited I was her next patient. My doctor was the one to do the US, and was the one who broke the news in the best way possible. She was the one to discuss options with us, to do the follow up US, and to let us ask every single one of our questions (even though probably five of them were variations on 'what did I do wrong?'). I was so glad that it was someone I already knew and was comfortable with rather than going in for the first appointment, getting horrible news, and finding out that the person had the bedside manner of a rabid hippo.
ETA: I do suppose that if I wanted to, for whatever reason, at the last minute say heck with it, the other hospital has better views, let's go there, I could. But I don't foresee that happening.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
R/R: I'm at placement today...on a stat holiday...not getting paid. My preceptor is making time and a half....so like 65 bucks an hour. And I'm doing all the work and making zilch #studentlife
Also, I've never turned a positive OPK. I'd love to see what that looks like!
CS/Q: none
GTKY: If you could go back in time and live as anyone at any place in any time (peasant in the 1800s, Queen Elizabeth the 1st, nobility in China in 400s- anything), what time would you go to and who would you be? *You will only go for 3 months, so you get to come back here eventually and you will not need medical care during that time*
id say 1930s Hollywood...I wouldn't want to live during the Great Depression but I love the old glamour!
Me: 27 // DH: 30 Married 05/21/2011 TTC Since Feb 2016 RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS 5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018 IT'S A BOY!
@kiwi2628 I compromise with DH and ours is set at 68 when we are here and no lower than 52 when we aren't. DH is home one day during the week when it goes down to that temp and he doesn't care. Our central air doesn't really work upstairs, so it gets really cold during most of the year and really hot in summer. @GlitterFish You have a lot of open temps and that makes it hard to come up with a cover line. What happens if you drop your second temp?
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
Sorry for such a late post - the ILs have taken over!! (The fight for the bathroom continued last night and this morning... NEED. THE. EXTENSION. YESTERDAY. Not sure how much more of this my bladder/kidneys can take.)
@kiwi2628 I agree with everyone else here, that's SO cold!! The lowest I'll set it during the day in the fall/winter is 68, 66 at night. I'm SO GLAD you're going to show DH and turn up the heat!!
@tripledaggerWed95976 Hope they can figure it out, but glad that at least in the meantime you're feeling a tiny bit better - keep us posted!
@GlitterFish that looks like a temp spike to me, especially combined with your OPK results. Can you overlay charts from previous months to confirm a pattern? Or try discarding some of the open circle temps, especially the early high ones to get CH? I'm new to charting so I'm not sure if this is helpful/would work, just what I would do if I were in your shoes! Good luck!
WAYDTGKU: charting - temping, CM (and CP, same as @leilac - assuming I can ever figure it out), will try to use OPKs for the first time this cycle
R/R: none today (but see above...)
CS/Q: none today
GTKY: I love this GTKY! There are so many time periods I'd love to "visit"! Like many others here, I'd probably say the time of Pride and Prejudice - the balls, the dresses, the hair. Just magical. As long as I was rich, of course, and could return to the present day with its modern amenities/women's rights after the 3 months!
Me: 28 I MH: 27 Married August 2016 TTC #1 September 2016 BFP 10/31/16 EDD 7/16/17
R/R:My supervisor keeps adding extra work to my area of the department while another area gets none. So frustrating to watch them on their phones.
CS/Q: What are the best OPKs?
GTKY: If you could go back in time and live as anyone at any place in any time (peasant in the 1800s, Queen Elizabeth the 1st, nobility in China in 400s- anything), what time would you go to and who would you be? *You will only go for 3 months, so you get to come back here eventually and you will not need medical care during that time*
I would love to be Buzz Aldrin and go to the moon. That would be so exciting.
Thanks for the reassurance @hupp0013 & @zwink1 ! The control line wasn't super light, but not as dark as I normally see it, either. I just got a new pack of wondfos, because I was out of the HPTs, and I just mixed them all together so I don't know what's old or new pack anymore.
@Kiki75 My brain can use the help anyway I'm sure! I take all gummy vitamins and the Fish Oil are actually like sour patch kids!
@adirat All the open circles are annoying! The earlier ones yes, I didn't get up until 7:15 on the weekend (gasp!), but the later ones are all between 5:45-6:20. To me, that's pretty close! And I wish I was watching dolphins at the beach, but instead I'm touring Amish country :-P
@beachbunnyxo123 No, it doesn't happen every time. I just took one here at about 6pm and the control line was darker again.
@jacksonbears My obgyn discovered in march that I was "subclinical" hypo but I took forever to follow up on it... in fact, until I started reading this board that it may be contributing to this TTC taking a long time! My initial TSH in March was I think 5.9ish, I had it redone 2 weeks ago and it was 3.9ish, and now I just had it done 1.5 weeks ago and it was 1.97!!!! I did test positive for Hashimoto's though, so my endo said that's likely why it's all over the place? Anyway, I'm on a tiny synthroid dose I guess just for thyroid support while my body continues destroying it...??
@NYTino24 Nothing happens if I drop either or both of the open circles from last weekend.
@Pepper16 Not sure if I did this right, but it sure looks like a pattern to me of a big drop, then a flatline, then a climb lol
@GlitterFish I'm glad the appointment went well and you have a plan! Sorry to hear you have Hashimoto's, though. Just an FYI, it may take you a little time to get your thyroid back to normal on medication, and you may need to try different doses. But it's also very possible your thyroid was 100% the TTC issue and you'll soon be PG What kind of doctor are you seeing for your thyroid? I strongly recommend seeing an endocrinologist (not a PCP and not an RE) so that you can get to the right dose of medication quickly and safely. It took me a long time to get my thyroid issues resolved and it would have been so much better if I'd just seen a good endocrinologist sooner.
See my above reply to @jacksonbears - my numbers are all over the place, which my Endo says can happen with Hashimoto's. I'm on a teeeeeeny dose of synthroid, and not getting tested again for 8 weeks, so I doubt that will have too much effect... Endo says that I shouldn't have had any "symptoms" so she doesn't think anything will change physically for me. She is a regular endo, not an RE, but not at all a genius, so I'm not sure about the little that she did say! She hardly asked me anything, except repeatedly about irregular periods (don't have them), and come to find out the other blood tests were for PCOS (don't have it)! Which she never mentioned until having the results!
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
@GlitterFish Thanks for the additional info. Yep, I stick my by original CS! If your high temps early on in the cycle are from waking up later, I suggest you just ignore them and create your own coverline. And, so glad to hear your TSH is coming down! It is very much true that thyroid issues can hinder one's ability to get pregnant so I hope this helps. That said... I think you should consider seeing a new doctor. It sounds like she isn't communicating well with you and I agree that it's weird the other tests were for PCOS without her asking you for a comprehensive history. I don't have Hashimoto's so I'm not an expert, but since it's an autoimmune disease, I'm sure there is something else to consider in addition to the synthroid. (While levothyroxine will treat the hypothyroid resulting from the Hashimoto's, you're completely right that it won't fix the real issue and your body could continue attacking your thyroid. I'm sure that can't be good.)
Re: WTO Monday 10/10
@osucma yay for the offer on the house!!! Good luck!!
@glitterfish that doesn't happen everytime youve taken the OPKs right?
@MommytoM13 sorry for the funk!!! Sending well wishes your way!
@mylove071407 that meme is great
@tripledaggerWed95976 glad you were able
to get a little more clarity but hoping for definitive answers and for you to feel better!!
@bumpybump woohoo for fantasy! I'm the 3 time champion in my money league so everyone's been trying to take me down but I'm fighting!!
@zwink1 enjoy your mini vacay!
@britters314 I love the excitement of a haircut!!!
@alysapuggles finally starting to feel like fall!
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@beachbunnyxo123 thank you! Enjoy Vegas! Sounds like a fun time
A doctor that works in my clinic is there this week for 4 days.
@kiki75 we had a talk that night when he got home (the whole moving too fast happened via text) and I told him that (1) me taking PNVs does not make me get pregnant sooner (2) you want to take them early on to build up vitamins that I am going to struggle to have in me the first trimester (3) that they are only a little different than the women's daily I was taking anyways and (3) that yes any women my age should be on them, and many are. I used the fact that I have a TON of patients on them to help me.
sorry for the long winded response.
@adirat thank you for the input. The PNV fiasco happened back in August when my IUD was taken out. Since then we have had many, many talks because my initial concern was that he agreed to try but didn't really mean it. I thought he agreed just to make me happy.
It has become pretty clear that his initial responses were mostly an "oh crap this is real" moment and since then he has become very comfortable with the idea and has even talked to me about future nurseries and names. I believe him when he says he is ready now and that he wants a baby. He said he just needed reassurance in that moment. (IE: we will be good parents, he won't be like his dad, we are in a good place for kids, etc.)
I appreciate the concern though! Thank you.
CD: 4
WAYDTGKU: pnv, opk, cm, going in for my hsg procedure on friday!
R/R: Have a bachelorette party this weekend...looking forward to it, when I'm back, I'm hoping I O....
CS/Q: anyone have an HSG procedure?
@GlitterFish i have a thyroid problem too. I'm hypo, my TSH was off the charts, I've been on levothyroxine for the last three months, and now i'm a little over 2 (docs want under 2). good luck!
Thanks everyone for your kind words today. I'm so glad I have you all during this crazy process.
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
Month/Cycle: 15/15
CD: 19
WAYDTGKU: BBT, some CM, working on vitamins, diet & exercise
R/R:
CS/Q: Q - Has anyone been asked to choose their location for L&D yet? I finally broke down and went to my PCP about fertility and she said we've waiting long enough and can be aggressive about it (which is awesome). She did a short in-office exam today and I'm scheduled for bloodwork next Monday and she wants to schedule a more thorough exam with my (future) OB/GYN so I have to select my OB/GYN and hospital I want for L&D ASAP so I can schedule that next exam and admittedly I am feeling a bit overwhelmed.
GTKY: If we're going on a field trip, I would want to be a seamstress or a weaver for a European court during the 16th century. I would love to learn about their embellishment techniques up close and personal. I might legit only finish 1 gown during my 3 months stay but that's okay
SD: 21 & SS: 17
BFP #2 6/3/2020
*Trigger Warning*
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
So I actually selected a hospital before I started TTC. I did the tours and everything (on one I was the only preplanner and there was one other couple on the other). One has some benefits but the bottom line for me was that the other has the higher-level NICU so if we were to need that extra level, my baby wouldn't have to be transferred, and we could both be in the same hospital. So, once I knew that, I started looking at the OB/Gyns who had privileges there. If I hadn't liked any of the OB/Gyns from that group, I may have been swayed to the other hospital but I found one I liked. (Also, whomever you select will probably refer you to an RE so start researching them, too.)
Honestly, I'm really glad that I chose an OB/Gyn for my annual before we started TTC so that I could be building a relationship with her instead of dealing with new people when it all hit the fan. ***TW - loss*** Since my annual last January, I had been talking with her more to monitor the Zika thing due to H's job, and we had done some blood work to rule out initial things like thyroid problems. When I went in for my first US, the assistant had said that the Dr was really excited I was her next patient. My doctor was the one to do the US, and was the one who broke the news in the best way possible. She was the one to discuss options with us, to do the follow up US, and to let us ask every single one of our questions (even though probably five of them were variations on 'what did I do wrong?'). I was so glad that it was someone I already knew and was comfortable with rather than going in for the first appointment, getting horrible news, and finding out that the person had the bedside manner of a rabid hippo.
ETA: I do suppose that if I wanted to, for whatever reason, at the last minute say heck with it, the other hospital has better views, let's go there, I could. But I don't foresee that happening.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
CD: 14
WAYDTGKU: BBT/OPKs//multivitamins
R/R: I'm at placement today...on a stat holiday...not getting paid. My preceptor is making time and a half....so like 65 bucks an hour. And I'm doing all the work and making zilch #studentlife
Also, I've never turned a positive OPK. I'd love to see what that looks like!
CS/Q: none
id say 1930s Hollywood...I wouldn't want to live during the Great Depression but I love the old glamour!
Married 05/21/2011
TTC Since Feb 2016
RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS
5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI
BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018
IT'S A BOY!
@GlitterFish You have a lot of open temps and that makes it hard to come up with a cover line. What happens if you drop your second temp?
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
@kiwi2628 I agree with everyone else here, that's SO cold!! The lowest I'll set it during the day in the fall/winter is 68, 66 at night. I'm SO GLAD you're going to show DH and turn up the heat!!
@tripledaggerWed95976 Hope they can figure it out, but glad that at least in the meantime you're feeling a tiny bit better - keep us posted!
@osucma FX for you!!
@GlitterFish that looks like a temp spike to me, especially combined with your OPK results. Can you overlay charts from previous months to confirm a pattern? Or try discarding some of the open circle temps, especially the early high ones to get CH? I'm new to charting so I'm not sure if this is helpful/would work, just what I would do if I were in your shoes! Good luck!
@adirat FX for O CD15!!
CD: 8
WAYDTGKU: charting - temping, CM (and CP, same as @leilac - assuming I can ever figure it out), will try to use OPKs for the first time this cycle
R/R: none today (but see above...)
CS/Q: none today
Married August 2016
TTC #1 September 2016
BFP 10/31/16
EDD 7/16/17
CD: 1
WAYDTGKU: CM charting PN Preseed
R/R:My supervisor keeps adding extra work to my area of the department while another area gets none. So frustrating to watch them on their phones.
CS/Q: What are the best OPKs?
I would love to be Buzz Aldrin and go to the moon. That would be so exciting.
Edit to add PNV and Preseed.
Thanks for the reassurance @hupp0013 & @zwink1 ! The control line wasn't super light, but not as dark as I normally see it, either. I just got a new pack of wondfos, because I was out of the HPTs, and I just mixed them all together so I don't know what's old or new pack anymore.
@Kiki75 My brain can use the help anyway I'm sure! I take all gummy vitamins and the Fish Oil are actually like sour patch kids!
@adirat All the open circles are annoying! The earlier ones yes, I didn't get up until 7:15 on the weekend (gasp!), but the later ones are all between 5:45-6:20. To me, that's pretty close!
And I wish I was watching dolphins at the beach, but instead I'm touring Amish country :-P
@beachbunnyxo123 No, it doesn't happen every time. I just took one here at about 6pm and the control line was darker again.
@jacksonbears My obgyn discovered in march that I was "subclinical" hypo but I took forever to follow up on it... in fact, until I started reading this board that it may be contributing to this TTC taking a long time! My initial TSH in March was I think 5.9ish, I had it redone 2 weeks ago and it was 3.9ish, and now I just had it done 1.5 weeks ago and it was 1.97!!!! I did test positive for Hashimoto's though, so my endo said that's likely why it's all over the place? Anyway, I'm on a tiny synthroid dose I guess just for thyroid support while my body continues destroying it...??
@NYTino24 Nothing happens if I drop either or both of the open circles from last weekend.
@Pepper16 Not sure if I did this right, but it sure looks like a pattern to me of a big drop, then a flatline, then a climb lol
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
@GlitterFish I'm glad the appointment went well and you have a plan! Sorry to hear you have Hashimoto's, though. Just an FYI, it may take you a little time to get your thyroid back to normal on medication, and you may need to try different doses. But it's also very possible your thyroid was 100% the TTC issue and you'll soon be PG
See my above reply to @jacksonbears - my numbers are all over the place, which my Endo says can happen with Hashimoto's. I'm on a teeeeeeny dose of synthroid, and not getting tested again for 8 weeks, so I doubt that will have too much effect... Endo says that I shouldn't have had any "symptoms" so she doesn't think anything will change physically for me.
She is a regular endo, not an RE, but not at all a genius, so I'm not sure about the little that she did say! She hardly asked me anything, except repeatedly about irregular periods (don't have them), and come to find out the other blood tests were for PCOS (don't have it)! Which she never mentioned until having the results!
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'