Babyshower talk

Teach123 · September 2016

@LilLynch2015 I agree with all of those things. I even have photographers in my area that will do portrait mini sessions which are great for people with kids or even grandkids. You could give a certificate for one of those. People always love new photos around holiday season.

hjmorgan-2 · October 2016

Great ideas, thanks!!

cabu14 · October 2016

My sister and MIL are planning my shower. I think it will be about 35ppl invited.

Now im at a risk of sounding bitchy by saying the following rant. Just know I'm so grateful and appreviative of my MIL and sister.

My MIL is a bit of drama and doesn't want to talk to my sister. And so MIL keeps asking me questions almost like she wants me to help plan. It's driving me nuts. She is so paranoid that I won't be happy and keeps trying to ask me things. But doesn't listen. She's hung up for some reason that I didn't like my bridal shower (I may have confided in her after my bridal shower that my sister really rushed me and made me feel like no one actually wanted to be there). I should not have confided in the MIL about this bc now she just is trying way to hard to make the shower into something really great. It's a baby shower.... I'm really not that concerned with it and will be happy with whatever and appreciate anything and everything. But she doesn't listen she is still so paranoid. This morning she called the h and said to ask me "what time is good for the shower bc the bridal shower was way to early so we should do it later right? " I'm sitting in the background like who the hell cares? And this doesn't seem that crazy but I'm talking this is an everyday call with a different question.

mrskimm09 · October 2016

Have 2. Its fine. More chances to see people and talk about baby!
My mom and one of my best friends is having a sprinkle for us on Nov 5. Im so excited!

laufisch · October 2016

So I actually just had my baby shower so I thought I'd check back in.

We ended up having 40 people come and out of that only 3 people did just cards with gift cards so there were a ton of gifts. We ended up opening the first round of gifts while everyone else was eating, and then broke up the rest of the gifts between games, which went over really well.

We had the shower at a restaurant and ended up needing 2 cars to get everything home, which I did not expect.

Also for some reason I wasn't prepared that everyone would want to talk to me before they left so there ended up being a line of people. I probably should have expected this and wish I knew a way to do it better than I did so that people weren't just standing there waiting to say goodbye.

Overall though I was really happy with how things went.

mommywesley · October 2016

I had like 22 on my invite, but this is #5 for us so it's strictly family and 1 or 2 close close friends. My first I had 3 showers, one with work, and one with my side of the fam and one with DH side of the fam. The rest have all just been smaller get togethers to celebrate baby and eat fruit pizza cookies!!!

Oh I do have to share a neat thing that I saw at my cousins baby shower a couple years ago, you know the typical game you play where you can't say 'baby'? Well they changed it to you can't say 'awwwww' LOL it was SO much harder! Especially during gift opening when all the stuff is just so cute you want to say awww!!

hjmorgan-2 · October 2016

For those of you skipping the gift opening, are you announcing that you wont be opening gifts? Or just letting it play out?

I know a couple people (grandparents) who would like for their gift to be opened publically, but I'm actually really liking this idea of not opening gifts during. (plus, that way my husband can open them with me later)

However, usually the gift opening is kind of the sign that the shower is coming to an end and it's what people expect. So I don't want people waiting for it to happen when it's not.

I may be way over thinking this.... lol

emy730 · October 2016

My "shower" is on Saturday. I'm super confused by it though because it was supposed to be family and close friends, but then my SIL told me that I couldn't invite anyone other than my parents and brothers and ILs. I have no idea what time it even starts or what this will even entail.

My parents and ILs don't exactly get along very well, so that is never a good combo. Most of that is on my ILs though. They make zero effort to see DD, and get so upset when she shows no interest in them when our families are together. My FIL said after DDs birthday, "Your mom just hogs her and we don't get to see her!" which isn't true. DD goes my parents because they see her all the time, and make an effort to be a part of her life.

It started the night she was born and has continued that way ever since. My ILs spent a total of 5 minutes (3 of which my FIL spent in the hallway asking where he could go to smoke) and then went home. They never called or came back to visit until she was a month old, and then only spent maybe 10 minutes at our house. And even now, they only come visit when we explicitly ask them to, or when we make the effort to go to them. It's infuriating!

Carly79 · October 2016

I personally enjoy watching the gift opening at showers. I will add though, I've never been to a shower with more than 20 people and usually some of those people have gone in on one of the bigger gifts so it's even less gifts. Not sure if I'd have the same opinion at a party with 40 people. I like the idea of spreading it out a little and of including a game with the gift opening to keep people involved.

BriannaE129129 · October 2016

@HJMorgan I'm doing the diaper raffle too! (got the idea from a friend's shower) Her raffle prize was a huge beach bag with beach themed items because her shower was in the summer.

For mine we got a really cute cloth basket type thing at marshalls and put a really nice blanket in it, candles, 5 bottles of wine, wine glasses and still working on some other things!
Thought i'd give you some ideas

I want to win the raffle haha

jsl82 · October 2016

@HJMorgan my mother just booked the venue for my shower- but let me know she will be putting in the invitation that all gifts should be unwrapped. That way they can still be on display, but I won't be sitting there for over an hour opening gifts. Typically when I am at a shower were the gifts are not opened the request to bring the gifts unopened it put on the invite.

ceclarlinetlo · October 2016

My mom and SILs are throwing me a shower November 13, and they asked me for my guest list today. I about broke out in hives trying to make it up. The balance between not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings by not inviting them but also not wanting to appear gift grabby or over burdening my hosts' finances with a large list was really stressing me out. I care less about the gifts than I do just spending time with people who will love my baby and be a part of his life - but you know how it is when you are close with one cousin so you feel obligated to invite the other 5 because they are all cousins - Or people who were really close to you growing up so they feel like aunts and your mom still has regular contact with them. I would rather not have a party than upset someone over it. But I talked to my mom about how I was feeling and I think we finally came up with the final list. It's 26 people not including me or the two hosts and I'm pretty sure atleast 2-3 won't be able to make it. Glad to have that part over. I almost wish baby showers we're surprise parties so I didn't have to worry about the guest list.

hjmorgan-2 · October 2016

BriannaE129129 said:

@HJMorgan I'm doing the diaper raffle too! (got the idea from a friend's shower) Her raffle prize was a huge beach bag with beach themed items because her shower was in the summer.

For mine we got a really cute cloth basket type thing at marshalls and put a really nice blanket in it, candles, 5 bottles of wine, wine glasses and still working on some other things!
Thought i'd give you some ideas I want to win the raffle haha

@briannaE129129
I LOVE this idea!!! Thanks!

christac1010 · October 2016

Am I the only one stalking her registry(s)? I'm kind of freaking out about what will be left for us to buy before he's here. With my wedding registries, I always checked them because it was exciting and fun. This time around I'm genuinely concerned about the important things being purchased and/or us having enough money set aside.

cjs260 · October 2016

@christac1010 only like 3x a day.

hjmorgan-2 · October 2016

@christac1010 Same here. I didn't care much about my wedding registry either.

But this one for sure, I requested a day off after my babyshower dedicated to go shopping for the things I will still need. Since it's in November, I know I wont have much time the following months to get anything done.
So I am really hoping some of the more important things are bought... lol *selfish*

sagoon · October 2016

I would be careful about not opening gifts at a shower. People like to see their gift opened, especially if it is a handmade item which is common at baby showers. Generally if there are a ton of gifts, people will watch for a while and then wander off to get a drink or chat or something. I wouldn't worry about the guests being bored by it - those that like watching will watch, the rest will amuse themselves elsewhere. If the gifts are too much for mom to be to open, definitely enlist husband's help. It makes it go twice as fast.

aishmc · October 2016

@christac1010 totally checking everyday. I added up how much everything on the registry costs so I'll feel better with whatever amount I have to spend, but I'm really hoping some of the bigger things do get purchased.

I'm trying to save as much as I can to be comfortable in my unpaid weeks of leave, so monitoring the registry gives me a false sense of control right now.

stumptownmama · October 2016

I'm excited for all of you having showers! I loved mine with my first. It was so much fun. I'd love to see pics of fun details!

andrawrmeda2 · October 2016

We had 2 with my son and my 3 coworkers gave me a small one at work. But with my family/friends, I threw the shower myself. My mom "cohosted" but she's a last minute person and I didn't want to be buying everything/renting a place out the week of. So I got everything together. The only person to throw a fit was my aunt, her sister, about it and I had no problem. I love party planning. My mom wanted to do green and yellow, even though I told her multiple time his colors were brown and blue with a Twinkle Twinkle Little Star theme. So I liked that I got to do it, I got what I wanted. With my fiances side, let's say it didn't go as his youngest sister wanted at all. Which made her mad. Which made his oldest sister mad, and in turn his mom. It was bad. They fought about where to do it, what to have. All of his family like whipped frosting and I like buttercream, so they got a buttercream for me which made some people mad. I did get excluded a little. But we had that shower after Declan was born. The only thing I really got to do was open gofts, everyone talked to Eli more than me. I spent it sitting in a lawn chair til I had to feed the baby. So with this baby, the ONLY reason I think we'll have a shower is cause it's girl and I have a small pile of girl clothes....that's all. Everything is boy. But if we do have one, it will be one big deal, and I will most likely throw it again. I never heard anything from anyone, my best friend doesn't even have the first clue about throwing parties and she wasn't super involved/around while I was pregnant the 1st time. We also did cogender/kid friendly parties. With my son, it was more my birthday/baby shower/college graduation all in one. It was easier to do it that way. With this baby if we have one, we have 2 November bdays, thanksgiving, 4 xmases to plan around

so I'm not sure.

andrawrmeda2 · October 2016

mommywesley said:

I had like 22 on my invite, but this is #5 for us so it's strictly family and 1 or 2 close close friends. My first I had 3 showers, one with work, and one with my side of the fam and one with DH side of the fam. The rest have all just been smaller get togethers to celebrate baby and eat fruit pizza cookies!!!

Oh I do have to share a neat thing that I saw at my cousins baby shower a couple years ago, you know the typical game you play where you can't say 'baby'? Well they changed it to you can't say 'awwwww' LOL it was SO much harder! Especially during gift opening when all the stuff is just so cute you want to say awww!!

I wish I had thought of this! We played the clothespin game and the 2 words were "baby" and "Dickey" (fiances last name) my best friend ended up winning lol I put together prizes from stuff I bought at our local dollar store. We played I think 4 games. I did a guessing game with gumballs in bottles, word scramble, clothespin game and baby bingo during gift opening. At fiances family one, we didn't play any games at all.

sweetyjenj · October 2016

DH and I recently moved back home after living in Los Angeles for 3 years, and I haven't gotten around to seeing many of my old friends yet. My mother offered to throw my shower, with the help of my sister, SIL, and MIL. I asked if I could invite some friends and my mother was confused. She said "well isn't that what your friend shower is for? A friend should do that one for you." But so far no one has mentioned it, and I feel like I can't ask someone to throw one. I'm not sure what to do now! I could ask them again if I could invite close friends, but I don't want to overstep.

jsl82 · October 2016

My mother is the queen of procrastination- the absolute queen. She booked a banquet hall for my shower for the 23rd, and just sent out the invitations. The only people that even know about the shower are the people that I have told to talk to my mom to confirm the date (she was going back and forth between the 23rd at one place and the 28th some where else). I asked her to at least send out a facebook message or invite since the notice is so short, but of course she didn't. I know it is in bad taste to throw your own shower- but how much can I help out with planning the shower. I'm worried that she is already dropping the ball and no one will show up and nothing will be done for the ones who do come for the shower.

Carly79 · October 2016

@sweetyjenj I had one main shower that included friends and family. My family traditionally has done where my sisters/mom will host the shower for that side of the family but my inlaws have such a huge family that they don't do showers where they invite aunts and cousins and such so it was just my MIL and SIL so we added them to my shower. I also only had a handful of close friends that I wanted to be included in a shower so they included them as well. 3-4 extra people wasn't a big burden by the time everything is said and done. If I were you and you want them included ask again and just let them know you aren't having a "friend" shower.

The other thing you could do, if they aren't up for it, is just see if those close friends want to go out to dinner to celebrate you and the baby before the baby arrives. Then it's not really a shower but time you can hang out with your close friends so you don't have to feel bad about arranging it.

BumpasaurusRex · October 2016

andromedacorrine said:

We had 2 with my son and my 3 coworkers gave me a small one at work. But with my family/friends, I threw the shower myself. My mom "cohosted" but she's a last minute person and I didn't want to be buying everything/renting a place out the week of. So I got everything together. The only person to throw a fit was my aunt, her sister, about it and I had no problem. I love party planning. My mom wanted to do green and yellow, even though I told her multiple time his colors were brown and blue with a Twinkle Twinkle Little Star theme. So I liked that I got to do it, I got what I wanted. With my fiances side, let's say it didn't go as his youngest sister wanted at all. Which made her mad. Which made his oldest sister mad, and in turn his mom. It was bad. They fought about where to do it, what to have. All of his family like whipped frosting and I like buttercream, so they got a buttercream for me which made some people mad. I did get excluded a little. But we had that shower after Declan was born. The only thing I really got to do was open gofts, everyone talked to Eli more than me. I spent it sitting in a lawn chair til I had to feed the baby. So with this baby, the ONLY reason I think we'll have a shower is cause it's girl and I have a small pile of girl clothes....that's all. Everything is boy. But if we do have one, it will be one big deal, and I will most likely throw it again. I never heard anything from anyone, my best friend doesn't even have the first clue about throwing parties and she wasn't super involved/around while I was pregnant the 1st time. We also did cogender/kid friendly parties. With my son, it was more my birthday/baby shower/college graduation all in one. It was easier to do it that way. With this baby if we have one, we have 2 November bdays, thanksgiving, 4 xmases to plan around so I'm not sure.

Yikes.

Emma61210 · October 2016

I had my first baby shower yesterday!!! It was absolutely beautiful. My hostesses did an incredible job!! This was a big shower (we combined my mom's family, DH family, friends, and church).

We did a diaper raffle and got so many diapers! Yay!!! Someone was asking about a prize for that, I sell plunder so we did a piece of plunder and then another prize was a candle and a cute travel mug.

I also hate opening gifts at showers but yesterday was fun and everyone seemed to love watching. We did a pass the box game where every time I opened something pink a box was passed and it had a prize in it.

Anyway it was was such a wonderful day

shlecks · October 2016

@Emma61210 Your shower looks beautiful! Love the decor and cake!!

hjmorgan-2 · October 2016

@emma61210 oh that is so cute!!

I am doing a diaper raffle also and I was considering the 'pass the box' game with gifts as well.

Glad it worked out good!

andrawrmeda2 · October 2016

BumpasaurusRex said:

andromedacorrine said:

We had 2 with my son and my 3 coworkers gave me a small one at work. But with my family/friends, I threw the shower myself. My mom "cohosted" but she's a last minute person and I didn't want to be buying everything/renting a place out the week of. So I got everything together. The only person to throw a fit was my aunt, her sister, about it and I had no problem. I love party planning. My mom wanted to do green and yellow, even though I told her multiple time his colors were brown and blue with a Twinkle Twinkle Little Star theme. So I liked that I got to do it, I got what I wanted. With my fiances side, let's say it didn't go as his youngest sister wanted at all. Which made her mad. Which made his oldest sister mad, and in turn his mom. It was bad. They fought about where to do it, what to have. All of his family like whipped frosting and I like buttercream, so they got a buttercream for me which made some people mad. I did get excluded a little. But we had that shower after Declan was born. The only thing I really got to do was open gofts, everyone talked to Eli more than me. I spent it sitting in a lawn chair til I had to feed the baby. So with this baby, the ONLY reason I think we'll have a shower is cause it's girl and I have a small pile of girl clothes....that's all. Everything is boy. But if we do have one, it will be one big deal, and I will most likely throw it again. I never heard anything from anyone, my best friend doesn't even have the first clue about throwing parties and she wasn't super involved/around while I was pregnant the 1st time. We also did cogender/kid friendly parties. With my son, it was more my birthday/baby shower/college graduation all in one. It was easier to do it that way. With this baby if we have one, we have 2 November bdays, thanksgiving, 4 xmases to plan around so I'm not sure.

Yikes.

Yeah. My family does alot together, which was hard for my fiance ce at first cause they only see like aunts and uncles at weddings or in our case our sons shower/bday party. Their holidays are just his sisters/parents/nieces /nephews whereas my family, we have my aunts house to go to, maternal grandparents, paternal grandparents, my parents, his family's and then we do Xmas also with some family friends every couple years. He was like....that's too many things. Lol

Emma61210 · October 2016

@HJMorgan @shlecka thank y'all!!!

Carly79 · October 2016

@Emma61210 Where did you get your dress, it's gorgeous?

Wholesome · October 2016

@Carly79 it looks like the ones from Pink Blush I have been coveting. They make the bottom with different colors too. I was thinking about getting the red one for Our family Christmas party.

Carly79 · October 2016

@Wholesome That's what I was thinking when I saw it. I've looked at it a few times but can't decide if I'd wear it often enough to justify and our family goes pretty casual for Christmas. I actually just bought a burgundy tunic from PinkBlush that will work well with leggings for some Christmas festivities

azwildcat62 · October 2016

Does anyone plan to have their hubby stop by at the end of the shower? If so, how do you coordinate the timing?

aishmc · October 2016

@mommywesley I love the idea of having "awww" be one of the words people can't say. My mom vetoed not opening presents at the party as she believes it's offensive so this would be fun. We're doing a coed shower with both families and close friends. I figure the guys will head inside during gift opening though.

aishmc · October 2016

@kelseyh62 I've been to showers where the dad showed up to open presents towards the end of the shower. The older ladies in attendance got a kick out of explaining some of the breastfeeding gifts.

christac1010 · October 2016

@kelseyh62 DH will be making a guest apparence for the last part of the baby shower. Just like my bridal shower, he'll go hang out with the rest of the husbands during this time (I think they went to a driving range). I told him to be there about two hours into the shower and I had my best friend text her husband just to make sure they were heading over. I tried to make sure multiple people were reminding him (as well as him knowing the general time) but it was off my plate. I've also seen men come at the beginning of the shower, but I would rather have the men at the end to clean up/pack the car.

Emma61210 · October 2016

@carly79 yes ma'am it's from pink blush

I love love love it! It's so comfy!!

Emma61210 · October 2016

@kelseyh62 my husband came for the last 30 minutes. I made him open one gift and it was so funny he didn't know what in the world to do (I was opening and holding it up for everyone to see). But I was nice that he got to hug everyone's neck and see friends and family we don't see all the time. Plus I of course needed his help loading gifts!

MaryNog · October 2016

@Emma61210 both you and your shower looked gorgeous!

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