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dsecada · October 2016

hi. I'm 42. I don't have any children... yet. At this time 2 years ago I had 2 miscarriages within three months. 10 days ago while at work I had a horrible pain in my abdomen. I went to the rest room and my body "locked up". I work at an elementary school and shouted for the nurse. She came running and I collapsed into her. My bf was called and 911. I could hear her say I was going into shock. Off to the hospital and things happened fast and are very blurry. But I do remember the dr coming in saying I was pregnant, it was ectopic, I was bleeding into my belly and I was rushed off to surgery. I hadn't missed a period (I'm like clockwork). I lost a lot of blood and needed 4 transfusions. I'm home now healing but this is a lot to take in. Part of my left tube was removed. And I have no idea if I even want to try again. I'm just terrified.

artemis618 · October 2016

Yikes! I'm so sorry to hear about your experience! How scary indeed. I just lost my first pregnancy (I'll be 39 on Monday) last Saturday - and while I get that they can't really do anything for a "normal" miscarriage so tend not to want to see you till later (8-10 weeks?), I found it a little baffling exactly because of ectopic risk and it being higher in AMA. But your case is even scarier as you hadn't even missed a period. I'm so sorry that you went through that and totally understand why you'd be scared to try again. Did they say that there was any way that they could have caught something like that?

dsecada · October 2016

Well the Monday before this I had made an appointment with my GP because I had been feeling terrible for a few weeks. We didn't even think to do a pregnancy test because I hadn't missed a period. So for me no way to catch it.
I'm sorry for your loss. It's just awful. My first pregnancy I was told the same thing 8-10 weeks, I didn't make it to the 10 week mark. But because I had just miscarried when I got pregnant a couple months later they saw me right away. But it was to no avail. This is all so depressing and I feel like it's just too late for me now.

artemis618 · October 2016

@dsecada It saddens me that you're feeling so down. I miscarried at 11w5d, so she must have passed some time between when we heard her healthy heartbeat at at 8w2d and then. What was super deceiving was that we learned she was a girl from her "normal" NIPT results just two days prior to losing her

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While obviously sad and crushing, I guess it's not shocking given DH's and my ages - we are still optimistic and grateful that we were able to get pregnant at all (we just got married in June and started trying after the wedding), but your story is super scary. And it wouldn't take too many of these (especially if they take 16 weeks each - counting hopefully just one cycle to get back to normal physically each time) to make anyone feel beaten down.

Hang in there!