UO Thursday 9/29

dubcompanion · September 2016

What unpopular opinions do you feel like sharing this week?

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chrlyr · September 2016

Pottery Barn's shipping charges are criminal. I need some sheets for my son's bed. Their shipping costs are determined by the total purchase price. So a sheet set that is $109 costs $17 to ship. They run free shipping frequently, but come the eff on. That's crazy.

dubcompanion · September 2016

UO: I didn't like the one episode of Parenthood I watched and have no interest in watching This is Us.

peony2418 · September 2016

same @chrlyr. I get so annoyed at websites where you've got an "account" with them, but they don't offer free shipping all the time. I get your spam 80 millions times a week, Company. You can't give me free shipping? Grr!

Spartanrd4 · September 2016

@dubcompanion I never watched Parenthood but I did watch the first episode of This is Us and thought it was pretty good...maybe give it a shot? I have no idea how it compares to Parenthood because I never saw it.

kjd291 · September 2016

dubcompanion said:

UO: I didn't like the one episode of Parenthood I watched and have no interest in watching This is Us.

Oooh. You poor thing

I think parenthood is definitely worth a second or third episode attempt. I get that perhaps it may not be your thing--but I think it's quality tv

kiyamurph · September 2016

UO: I think Starbucks is way overrated. Their coffee tastes burnt and my stomach hates me after drinking it. I've been drinking the good stuff from this local coffee shop that's totally pretentious but damn good. They make their caramel and vanilla fresh at the shop every week and they weigh the espresso to make sure there's a correct ratio of espresso to milk. The people that work there are your stereotypical hipsters with beanies and tight jeans and they're total coffee snobs, but by god is it worth it to put up with their bullshit. I'm never drinking Starbucks again.

dubcompanion · September 2016

@kjd291 I could tell Parenthood is quality TV!

I tend to not get into family-centered shows unless they're comedy (e.g. Modern Family). The drama I do like on TV is either suspense or sci-fi. I have watched the first few seasons of Desperate Housewives. That was uncharacteristic of me! I wouldn't say I like that show though - more like it suckered me in with its storylines - which got more and more ridiculous. I keep also getting told to watch Gilmore Girls. But every time I see it on Netflix, I go, "Meh."

I think this is why I don't make many girlfriends IRL.

kjd291 · September 2016

dubcompanion said:

I think this is why I don't make many girlfriends IRL.

Haha

nothing at all wrong with some good suspense and sci-fi!!! I'm usually not a drama fan at all either, but parenthood is one that I actually was able to get into. One of my degrees is in acting --and I absolutely can not watch most drama. All I see is bad plot lines, cheesy actors, and unnecessary camera angles

haha.

Gilmore girls has some really good first seasons, fun quirky characters people
get attatched to, but Alexis Bledel and her acting drives me nutty, and after the first couple seasons it definitely goes down hill.

disneybaby84 · September 2016

UO: I dislike The Voice, America's Got Talent, So you think you can dance and all similar shows.

datalover13 · September 2016

@kiyamurph same! I still drink Sbux because it unfortunately is the most available, but my favorite coffee shops are the locally owned, run by hipster, places. They know what they're doing for sure.

Gators&BoSox · September 2016

IDK if this us unpopular or not but I wish Disney would do more hand drawn animated movies. I feel like you lose a little with all of these computer generated ones

CanadianintheSouth · September 2016

Along the lines of tv shows - I dislike reality tv shows of any kind. So fake and they do not interest me.

Ivorytower2 · September 2016

I have a baby girl and another on the way and I HATE pink. Every time my daughter has a birthday I'm reminded of what a rancid of a color it is.

Ivorytower2 · September 2016

CanadianintheSouth said:

Along the lines of tv shows - I dislike reality tv shows of any kind. So fake and they do not interest me.

I wish this was me. I have such an unhealthy guilty pleasure obsession with real housewives. So embarrassing.

peony2418 · September 2016

LOL this is exactly me @Ivorytower2! My husband just calls them "the yelling shows". I try to get caught up on them when he's not around!

Ivorytower2 · September 2016

@peony2418 I try to hide my viewing, but I occasionally get caught red handed and scorned.

C25 · September 2016

@Ivorytower2 I do too!!!! I am pregnant with our first girl and I'm having a hard time with all the pink blankets and dreading a shower full of pink and purple crap haha

@dubcompanion you totally struck a chord with the "not many girlfriends in real life".. That's so me too.

C25 · September 2016

I love all holidays (but not all the time with extended family) but I am one of those people who could skip thanksgiving and go straight to Christmas. I like Halloween and autumn but as soon as it's over I'm ready to put up the tree and listen to Christmas music.

mecoats · September 2016

My UO today is I don't like Lady Gaga. I'm sad she is the halftime show this year. I keep saying I would love to see a country half time show.

mecoats · September 2016

@C25 I love Thanksgiving but I could definitely go from Halloween to Christmas! Sometimes at work I'll listen to Christmas music starting November 1st

pandalily · September 2016

@ivorytower2 I also hate pink. If i end up with a girl I may not tell anyone before my shower because I just cannot with the pink stuff lol. I like the cute headbands and tutus and all that but nooooo pink. Baby will probably end up with teal/turquoise stuff boy or girl because that's my favorite color haha

Ivorytower2 · September 2016

@c25 @pandalily I really told everyone that I hate pink when I was pregnant with our first and I have never purchased one pink item and you should see her closet. It's an inevitable constant struggle- especially when they are babies. I bought a blue diaper bag in protest.

wintersong · September 2016

C25 said:

I love all holidays (but not all the time with extended family) but I am one of those people who could skip thanksgiving and go straight to Christmas. I like Halloween and autumn but as soon as it's over I'm ready to put up the tree and listen to Christmas music.

I just consider from november 1st to Epiphany one giant holiday season. Thanksgiving to me is part of that season. So I'm right there with you!!

julievdm12 · September 2016

mecoats said:

@C25 I love Thanksgiving but I could definitely go from Halloween to Christmas! Sometimes at work I'll listen to Christmas music starting November 1st

Being Canadian and having thanksgiving in October, I could totally have thanksgiving and then skip Halloween and go straight to Christmas. I shamelessly start Christmas prep the day after Halloween and my tree is usually up on or just before American Thanksgiving.

chrlyr · September 2016

I stepped away from TTGP due to being very busy at work for 5 months or so before I got my BFP. I was lurking over there the other day and discovered that now you have to post BFPs in a separate thread and not in the TWW post? I get the need for TWs in certain situations, but that seems ridiculous to me. This might be (a) old news and (b)very unpopular, but if you're posting on a general TTGP (not infertility or after a loss), you have to be prepared to see BFPs. If you struggle with that, maybe a broad group like that isn't for you.

AverageAsh · September 2016

chrlyr said:

I stepped away from TTGP due to being very busy at work for 5 months or so before I got my BFP. I was lurking over there the other day and discovered that now you have to post BFPs in a separate thread and not in the TWW post? I get the need for TWs in certain situations, but that seems ridiculous to me. This might be (a) old news and (b)very unpopular, but if you're posting on a general TTGP (not infertility or after a loss), you have to be prepared to see BFPs. If you struggle with that, maybe a broad group like that isn't for you.

TB has become oddly anti pregnancy for being a pregnancy site.

Cbeanz · September 2016

AverageAsh said:

chrlyr said:

I stepped away from TTGP due to being very busy at work for 5 months or so before I got my BFP. I was lurking over there the other day and discovered that now you have to post BFPs in a separate thread and not in the TWW post? I get the need for TWs in certain situations, but that seems ridiculous to me. This might be (a) old news and (b)very unpopular, but if you're posting on a general TTGP (not infertility or after a loss), you have to be prepared to see BFPs. If you struggle with that, maybe a broad group like that isn't for you.

TB has become oddly anti pregnancy for being a pregnancy site.

These "rules" are made up by overbearing internet bullies. Why people actually follow these made up "rules" boggles my mind.

Or are these rules actually being held up by mods? Because if that's the case... wtf...

chrlyr · September 2016

Cbeanz said:

AverageAsh said:

chrlyr said:

I stepped away from TTGP due to being very busy at work for 5 months or so before I got my BFP. I was lurking over there the other day and discovered that now you have to post BFPs in a separate thread and not in the TWW post? I get the need for TWs in certain situations, but that seems ridiculous to me. This might be (a) old news and (b)very unpopular, but if you're posting on a general TTGP (not infertility or after a loss), you have to be prepared to see BFPs. If you struggle with that, maybe a broad group like that isn't for you.

TB has become oddly anti pregnancy for being a pregnancy site.

These "rules" are made up by overbearing internet bullies. Why people actually follow these made up "rules" boggles my mind.

Or are these rules actually being held up by mods? Because if that's the case... wtf...

From the official board rules:

Big Fat Positives (BFPs)
Once you get your Big Fat Positive test (BFP), the appropriate place to post is in the weekly Graduation Thread. Please do not post your BFP in the TWW thread. Please do not include your HPTs – those can be shared in the previously mentioned positive test thread.

I'm pretty sure this one is enforced by mods. WTF. That board boarded the bullet train to Crazy Town. I don't remember posting BFPs in TWW ever being a problem. Sure, you would get drive-by posts, but then you can also get those in the "Graduation Thread."

hisqueen78 · September 2016

@Ivorytower2 I hate pink ask also. It also doesn't help that my sorority colors are blue and white. When I had my daughter I went lot of my way to find little girly stuff that was blue cause the pink is all bad.

mtmama2 · October 2016

chrlyr said:

Cbeanz said:

AverageAsh said:

chrlyr said:

I stepped away from TTGP due to being very busy at work for 5 months or so before I got my BFP. I was lurking over there the other day and discovered that now you have to post BFPs in a separate thread and not in the TWW post? I get the need for TWs in certain situations, but that seems ridiculous to me. This might be (a) old news and (b)very unpopular, but if you're posting on a general TTGP (not infertility or after a loss), you have to be prepared to see BFPs. If you struggle with that, maybe a broad group like that isn't for you.

TB has become oddly anti pregnancy for being a pregnancy site.

These "rules" are made up by overbearing internet bullies. Why people actually follow these made up "rules" boggles my mind.

Or are these rules actually being held up by mods? Because if that's the case... wtf...

From the official board rules:

Big Fat Positives (BFPs)
Once you get your Big Fat Positive test (BFP), the appropriate place to post is in the weekly Graduation Thread. Please do not post your BFP in the TWW thread. Please do not include your HPTs – those can be shared in the previously mentioned positive test thread.

I'm pretty sure this one is enforced by mods. WTF. That board boarded the bullet train to Crazy Town. I don't remember posting BFPs in TWW ever being a problem. Sure, you would get drive-by posts, but then you can also get those in the "Graduation Thread."

There was a long group conversation and a poll in TTGP to make decisions about the board organization earlier this year. There was a pretty strong consensus that having BFPs in the TWW thread was sometimes hard for those that had been struggling with TTGP for awhile to see. It also clogged up the thread a lot with the numerous "congratulations" posts. Having a separate thread for BFPs shined a spotlight on them and also allowed ladies to go look at them when they were prepared to see BFPs instead of being surprised when they opened the TWW thread.
Anyways! That long rant was all just to say that the changes in board organization were made as a group consensus, not by internet bullies.

Wishilivedinflorida · October 2016

--snipped--
There was a long group conversation and a poll in TTGP to make decisions about the board organization earlier this year. There was a pretty strong consensus that having BFPs in the TWW thread was sometimes hard for those that had been struggling with TTGP for awhile to see. It also clogged up the thread a lot with the numerous "congratulations" posts. Having a separate thread for BFPs shined a spotlight on them and also allowed ladies to go look at them when they were prepared to see BFPs instead of being surprised when they opened the TWW thread.
Anyways! That long rant was all just to say that the changes in board organization were made as a group consensus, not by internet bullies.

*TW for vague loss references**
This. So much this. I'm a TTCAL grad myself, but was a strong lurker in TTGP because many of our ladies cross-posted there, and I learned a lot from them about TTC. They are the furthest thing from Internet bullies. When you have hundreds of people posting every day, you need board organization. Also, that means there is a huge TTCAL/IF/TTTC population there by default. I think a BFP thread is the kindest thing to do so that those struggling can scroll on by. I was a struggling lady myself.

My UO is that it irks me when boards have no organization. It is why my participation on this board is almost nil. Even at TTCAL we had some structure (granted we only have 20-25 regs at a given time). The speshul snowflake posts every day and lack of structure kills me here. But that's the board "culture," and I respect that. I participate where and when I feel comfortable.

Just remember that not everyone gets KU easily and gets a baby at the end. So what may seem like "anti-pregnancy" vibes to someone are probably the result of a long struggle for others.

nursemama-2 · October 2016

Umm what kind of structure do you want to see on this board? This board is more structured than any BMB I've ever been on. I rarely see special snowflake posts. I feel like we must be participating on two separate boards...

chrlyr · October 2016

Perhaps I'm just old and crusty, but the trend in the culture toward requiring people to change their behavior to protect others from their feelings just doesn't fly with me. The world just doesn't work that way. It took us 16 months to get pregnant with this baby after it taking 2 to get pregnant with DS. My struggle is my own. I don't feel it's right to put that on other people and require them to tiptoe around me because their situations might make me upset. I see that as my problem.

Gators&BoSox · October 2016

I don't find this board to be unstructured but then again I haven't belonged to many. I don't mind some random "snowflake" posts because otherwise everything becomes regimented and feels more like school work than a social interaction.. To each their own though

nursemama-2 · October 2016

2/3 of the posts on the first page are categorized when I quickly looked and not one special snowflake post. The other posts are for topics that don't fit into categories. I think there is a lot of organization to our board and even if there are special snowflake posts then it keeps it interesting.

julievdm12 · October 2016

Honestly, I love our board! i find it a comfortable and easy place to hang out. I don't feel worried about being judged and attacked for my opinions and love how we, in general, can agree to disagree quite easily.
@Wishilivedinflorida what do you think would improve the board's organization? I'm not following what your not happy with...

kjd291 · October 2016

I like that our board is organized enough to function but not overly structured. Its not so regimented and filled with rules that people feel intimidated about interacting. If anyone thinks there's an organizational part or threads that are missing--you should step up and get it started! I think some of the looseness here sadly comes from loosing some of our foundational board starters to losses

mtmama2 · October 2016

chrlyr said:

Perhaps I'm just old and crusty, but the trend in the culture toward requiring people to change their behavior to protect others from their feelings just doesn't fly with me. The world just doesn't work that way. It took us 16 months to get pregnant with this baby after it taking 2 to get pregnant with DS. My struggle is my own. I don't feel it's right to put that on other people and require them to tiptoe around me because their situations might make me upset. I see that as my problem.

In general I tend to agree with you but in this particular instance I don't. I was only on the TTGP thread for about 6 months but I really liked having a separate thread for BFPs because it put them all in the same place and they had separate "thread questions" (not sure that's the right term) that were unique to their BFP journey instead of the TWW questions. When they were in the TWW thread I also tended to miss them if I wasn't participating or lurking that thread on a particular day! But I religiously lurked the BFP thread even after I graduated to March '17 so I got to see all the ladies graduating! It was my favorite thread because it was always so positive and full of information

I guess to me it was more about celebrating the BFPs than trying to protect others feelings, although that was also an added bonus for the ladies having tough TTC days.

nursemama-2 · October 2016

It's interesting to see the changes because back when I was on TTGP before my first pregnancy you had to post on the TWW and anything else was taboo unless you were a regular.

I can't really give an opinion on this because I haven't had a loss. I just don't see an overall issue with posting that you got a positive in a thread that is literally waiting for a positive or negative test.

kiyamurph · October 2016

I feel like this board is pretty organized and I don't get how it's somehow not. Yes, every now and then someone might create their own thread, but honestly, in the grand scheme of things it's really not that big of a deal. Those posts tend to get moved to the second page pretty quickly and life goes on. I just don't understand the mentality of people getting upset that someone created their own "special snowflake" thread. From my point of view, for the ones that have on this board in particular it's been people that have some sort of struggle or they need to vent about something. Hell, even I created a thread a while ago after getting a call saying baby tested positive for Down Syndrome and it scared the life out of me. This group has been a wonderful place for those of us to talk about our feelings without judgement and if someone had said something along the lines of, "hey, I'm sorry you feel that way but this should be posted on the Randoms thread", I would've been really hurt and pissed off. I get the need for some type of structure, but sometimes a separate thread is necessary since some threads get super long and clogged with posts. If it makes me and others "special snowflakes" then it is what it is, but I don't get why it's so upsetting. I have the mentality of if you don't want to read it, scroll on. And if you don't want to participate on this board then obviously that's your prerogative.

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