Ok, I just thought of one. I don't get the whole fasting/avoiding sugars/basically trying to game the system for the glucose test. I mean, obviously follow the instructions given by your doctor. But passing when you've basically been on GD diet anyways doesn't really seem like an accurate test anymore. If my regular diet is going to fail me, I want to know that so I know I need to make changes the rest of the pregnancy.
I told myself this as I was eating a large peanut butter cookie after lunch today. My three hour glucose test is tomorrow....in my defense, doc did not give any instructions for how to eat today.
@temmetime Check out the brand of clothes and find out what retailer sells them. Carters are at Babies R'Us, and Target has a few choice brands as well. We had a lot of luck trading things in even without gift receipts (because of course people who don't use the registry also don't like using gift receipts) for store credit, and we were able to get the items we really needed on the list.
My main issue with so many baby clothes is that the kid grows out of them RIDICULOUSLY fast. Even with hand me downs and just a couple of new outfits, DD didn't wear everything she had, and several precious outfits were only worn once. Plus for the first month of her life we mainly just had her wrapped in blankets for more skin to skin contact.
@tinattt23 No worries. Although I do wish I was as chill as a monk haha.
Oh, I think I have a UO:
I think baby showers should be co-ed. I feel like a lot of times there is so much attention on the mom and baby that the dad is left out. Obviously we do the heavy lifting--but we didn't create this baby alone. I think by encouraging men to join in, it helps break down a lot of stereotypes that babies are simply "women's work." I have found that by including our male friends, they are more than happy to contribute and are excited to be included--even to where they talk about all the "cool" things they can show Ashton. DH also really appreciates being included too, which makes me smile.
@tinattt23@dmontgo if you have GD you have it unquestionably, and it has everything to do with how your body reacts to pregnancy. My motivation is doing nothing to sway that first test so I have to do the 3hr one only to find I don't have it. I just don't want to escalate if I don't have it. I'm pretty confident that even if I eat strict today and tomorrow morning that if I have it, they'll find it. I just don't want to sway in the opposite direction because I ate something wonky today/tomorrow morning. I asked my doctor and she said, really, there's nothing you can do that would hide it if you have it.
@dmontgo I agree about co-ed showers. DH is so excited about ours. I also like it because we have good friends who are same-sex couples and I want them to feel comfortable coming to the shower too.
@tinattt23 In theory I don't think you can really game the system with the glucose test. Eating healthy before isn't going to really help you process the huge rush of sugar that the test gives you. Your body can either handle the sugar or not. My doc told me to eat a normal breakfast (which for me is pretty high protein or I can't make it to lunch) and to not have anything super sugary because it can throw off the accuracy of the test.
I agree with you, @dmontgo, on the co-ed baby shower. My DH shocked me when he told me he was excited for it. I honestly just assumed he wouldn't want to come, so I figured I'd just leave DD with him. He's counting down the days, it's so cute to see him excited.
I agree with the co-ed showers but more because I don't like having to do EVERYTHING with the pregnancy all by myself. I'm already making a kid, why do I have to open gifts in front of people too?! I'm so super awkward at parties about me. So yea, we had a co-ed shower last time, and it went great. I highly recommend them.
@cjt121413@mamax2 In August I was invited to a baby shower, and DH was actually excited to go and talk to other dads and learn! But then she told me it was for ladies only, and DH was very bummed. I think a lot more men want to be involved in their children's lives than we give credit for. Too many stereotypes of men being the bumbling idiot dad while the mom is infalliable. That's not in any way to discount the discrimination women experience, but I do think that there are also many stereotypes of men that are downright harmful.
I take it back @cjt121413 - I found the threads you were referring to.
I wish we were having a coed shower. I did invite a few guy friends but they couldn't make it. My mom very much is opposed to the idea of men being there though. Like, you know, because guys hate eating and presents?!??
I get no maternity leave at work. I work with all old men. Last week I got into a little argument with them and DH about this because they feel differently.
I don't think men should get the same amount of post baby leave as women. Yeah bonding is nice and all...but to me, the reading women should have maternity leave is because of what we just did. Often times women are still bleeding when going back to work, or in my case still having problems with my c section site. It honestly had/has little to do with the actual baby in my (probably extremely unpopular) opinion.
Of course the men i work with and DH think if a woman is given 6 weeks, men should to. "Fairness" and all. Equality. But until a man walks around after giving birth, bleeding for weeks, leaking milk, and/or having major surgery, I don't wanna hear it.
@dmontgo I know people get sassy and say to husbands "you're not pregnant, I'm pregnant." I can't disagree with that more. We are definitely pregnant, he and I. He's taken me to every appointment, he has helped me pick out everything for the nursery/registry, and he has picked up the slack and babied me from day 1. He's definitely having a baby too. I told everyone that he'll be at the showers with me and didn't really care what they thought of it. We are a unit and a team. This definitely isn't all about me, his life is significantly changed too.
@sourlemon that's I think what pisses me off so much about my work's maternity/paternity leave....it's the same either way. There are three women who work here including me, and one of them has only been here a year. They both have children my age....and while the new lady doesn't have much input, the other lady likes feels vindicated or something that I've having to use all of my PTO from this year AND next year, just because she had to do the same 30 years ago. And the guys are all yay we get leave too! Um excuse me, why do you think I only deserve two weeks for growing a birthing a human? In my case, TWO HUMANS?! Yes there should be paternal leave...but seriously?
I also just get to use my saved PTO. Which is why my kids are spaced 2.5 years apart...it takes that long to save 10-14 weeks of PTO if I combine sick and vacation time. DH is in the same boat and will take off 2 weeks (then the week between xmas and new years). We are lucky we can save pto like we do.
As a side note: everyone thinks the benefits are just sooooooooo great working for the govt. HA! maybe they were 20 years ago when that reputation started but it's just not the case now.
@sourlemon - I totally agree but also add to the reasoning that there is just an undeniable difference in role of mom and role of dad with a newborn simply based on evolutionary biology. There are exceptions to that now a days and I would hope a workplace could accommodate those (fmla does). But when it comes to newborns... It's typically all about mama!
@brittnic86 Moms side is die hard LDS, dads side is a mess of Baptist/Catholic/Church of Christ. H's family is not spiritual or religious. So I found it terribly weird that they threw a potluck.
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On the shower topic - I'm sick of talking about showers. Not on here but in my life. I didn't want a shower for a few reasons but mainly because I hate being the center of attention, it makes me incredibly anxious. Also I feel like your mom is supposed to host your shower (I live in the south) and my mom passed a few years ago. Just thinking about a shower makes me really said because she's not here. So instead DH's family has just thrown me three "mini" showers, which I've been against. It's honestly the exact opposite of what I'm comfortable with but I can't decline because I seem ungrateful or something. So we had one of these last weekend. We received one thing off our registry (I registered more as a checklist for myself but everyone asked for the info) and like 10 sets of infant socks. One down and two to go.
I also say that "we" are pregnant, FI and I. To this day he has cleaned every puke bucket. He has been more involved than is probably normal, probably due to how sick I've been. And he never complains about it. I know I couldn't have gotten through this pregnancy without him. Both our showers are co-ed too, I couldn't imagine not having him there. And I found that after changing the shower to being co-ed people were more interested in going since they can bring their husbands and kids.
More rant on my bow tie friend: she is complaining about not being able to buy anything until after her shower. She is due the week of Christmas and her shower is next weekend. My C section is scheduled for December 1 and we have one shower the weekend of Halloween and another on November 5. She has essentially 9 weeks or so between shower and due date and I only have 4 weeks at most. And he could still come earlier than that. Granted I know she could have her baby earlier too, but she's also planning her own shower and chose the date herself. I didn't get to do that with either of mine. Like they literally didn't ask for my input. Which is fine, I'm grateful to be getting even one shower, let alone two. Just irritated because it's one thing to ask for things on your registry and another thing entirely to ask everyone to bring something that I don't even think I can find where we live, and on top of that she's complaining about having to wait til after her shower to buy things, a shower that she set the date for and has 9 weeks afterward to get what she needs???
So my UO: complaining about your shower that you are throwing yourself is NOT COOL. Probably not a UO but I haven't kept any food down so I'm ranty today.
@LinziLoo09@temmetime I agree 100%. I feel that makes me sound so ungrateful but seriously I'll take things I registered for over clothes any day!!! My MIL made a comment the other day that we have a lot of expensive things on our registry...... Really we have one expensive item and that's the convertible car seat at $300. Everything else is really in the $25-$100 range and it's at buy buy baby where you can use coupons!! And she's like well since you're having a girl everyone is going to buy you clothes. Greatttttttttttt. So I just checked my registry and my shower is next Saturday and out of the 70 items we registered for only 20 items were bought. Well I hope no one is offended when I'm trading in their gifts for shit we need like bottles.
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I want a shower so I can get all the things, but I wish I could not have an actual party. I'm not necessarily socially awkward, but there's a little anxiety about having a party that's just for you that you need to go talk to everyone and be stared at and touched/rubbed the whole time. Tooooo much attention...
Plus one to this! My big family shower is this Saturday.
Been really busy lately to post much substance, but I must throw my UO that I'm jealous of y'all who get co-ed showers! My mom didn't want to throw one, but my MIL and SMIL have both graciously offered to throw one, one Oct 28 and one Nov 5. I secretly wish H would be there too.. I'm not big on attention while I'm feeling huge and I'm kinda put off by the fact that I have to have everyone ooh and aah over my belly when I'm already self conscious, and he assumes he gets "guys time" to go out and drink. I wanna have fun too! I know guys typically have no interest in showers, but it would be nice to have him there. It's a little late to bring that up to the hosts... I've told H and basically guilted him into saying he would come, but of course now I'm worried that it would be weird for him to be the only guy... Sigh. Maybe this should have gone under BF..
Oh it wasn't even a question. I told my mom from the beginning coed shower, and when my friend offered I told her I wanted a coed shower from the beginning.
I've been hesitating complaining about this because I didn't feel like defending myself if someone wanted to come at me for saying this, but since it's been brought up: Unless it's just not reporting online no one has even touched either of our registries and I have my first shower on Saturday. Not one item. Kind of frustrating. I guess we will probably just be getting tons of clothes too. Fortunately I've done the math and between tax returns and DH's Christmas bonus we can probably get everything ourselves, but...nothing from the registry? Really? Bummer.
@Austenista Before my first shower, I was kind of bummed that not as many items from my registry were purchased as I was hoping...but then it turned out they DID get things from my registry, but they bought them in a store so my registry didn't update (Amazon). Don't get too down yet!
@dmontgo you're right, I'm sure. We bought something from our BRU registry a couple of weeks ago and it never reported. So I actually texted my dad and DH texted my SIL because we were talking about it as I was writing my post. Both of them have confirmed that they've bought stuff off the registries and they're not reporting. Sounds like it's just a fluke...here's hoping.
@Austenista with DD1, no one bought anything off the registry until the day of the shower. There's time! Well, my family had bought stuff but no one else. Then about half the items I got at the shower were registry items and the other half were clothes/blankets/cute things. Even though we hadn't "wanted" those items, we sure used them!
@Austenista don't sweat it just yet! It could be a system glitch, but I think a good chunk of people wait until the last minute. I was so bummed stalking my registries before my shower. I desperately wanted the highchair we registered for and no one had touched it.... I wound up with 3 of them at my shower! Moral of the story? .... step away from the registries....
@Austenista don't sweat it just yet! It could be a system glitch, but I think a good chunk of people wait until the last minute. I was so bummed stalking my registries before my shower. I desperately wanted the highchair we registered for and no one had touched it.... I wound up with 3 of them at my shower! Moral of the story? .... step away from the registries....
And there's a really important step most people miss at checkout, you have to give the barcode on the paper to the cashier for it to count towards your registry. I don't know why huge baby registry places like BRU don't ask at checkout if the purchase should go towards a registry.
@Austenista I am in the same boat - my shower is on Sunday and only 8 items have been purchased from my registry (Amazon) - all things I already have because they were purchased by my mom or friends that can't make it to the shower. So I know I'm not getting any of those items. I'm hoping everyone bought me diapers or gift cards! Hopefully people include gift receipts/I can easily tell where things came from. Sigh.
@difazette we bought something off of our own registry and scanned it, did it all right, and it still didn't show up. Something might be wrong with their system. The other thing that's annoying about their system we found was that when we search by co-registrant (DH) it doesn't come up at all. Womp.
@Austenista that sucks! We made one that we're buying off (second and third children so no shower) and I have to be diligent about remembering to tell them it's a registry purchase. I will say though that BRU despite some minor issues was way better than target for our first registry. They just sent whatever they felt like then argued with me about returns.
Is it super awkward when people buy you the same thing and you have to open the same gift multiple times at the shower? My mom told me she bought something from my registry at another store and then couldn't figure out how to mark it off the BRU registry.
I don't know why I'm anxious about this, obviously I'll just smile and say thank you, but it seems awkward.
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My main issue with so many baby clothes is that the kid grows out of them RIDICULOUSLY fast. Even with hand me downs and just a couple of new outfits, DD didn't wear everything she had, and several precious outfits were only worn once. Plus for the first month of her life we mainly just had her wrapped in blankets for more skin to skin contact.
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Oh, I think I have a UO:
I think baby showers should be co-ed. I feel like a lot of times there is so much attention on the mom and baby that the dad is left out. Obviously we do the heavy lifting--but we didn't create this baby alone. I think by encouraging men to join in, it helps break down a lot of stereotypes that babies are simply "women's work." I have found that by including our male friends, they are more than happy to contribute and are excited to be included--even to where they talk about all the "cool" things they can show Ashton. DH also really appreciates being included too, which makes me smile.
Of course this doesn't apply to all situations.
i agree about eggs... Can't do scrambled!
bow ties on a baby is about as necessary as pockets in baby jeans... Like what are they going to put in them? Keys?
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I wish we were having a coed shower. I did invite a few guy friends but they couldn't make it. My mom very much is opposed to the idea of men being there though. Like, you know, because guys hate eating and presents?!??
I get no maternity leave at work. I work with all old men. Last week I got into a little argument with them and DH about this because they feel differently.
I don't think men should get the same amount of post baby leave as women. Yeah bonding is nice and all...but to me, the reading women should have maternity leave is because of what we just did. Often times women are still bleeding when going back to work, or in my case still having problems with my c section site. It honestly had/has little to do with the actual baby in my (probably extremely unpopular) opinion.
Of course the men i work with and DH think if a woman is given 6 weeks, men should to. "Fairness" and all. Equality. But until a man walks around after giving birth, bleeding for weeks, leaking milk, and/or having major surgery, I don't wanna hear it.
Okay hate away!
As a side note: everyone thinks the benefits are just sooooooooo great working for the govt. HA! maybe they were 20 years ago when that reputation started but it's just not the case now.
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More rant on my bow tie friend: she is complaining about not being able to buy anything until after her shower. She is due the week of Christmas and her shower is next weekend. My C section is scheduled for December 1 and we have one shower the weekend of Halloween and another on November 5. She has essentially 9 weeks or so between shower and due date and I only have 4 weeks at most. And he could still come earlier than that. Granted I know she could have her baby earlier too, but she's also planning her own shower and chose the date herself. I didn't get to do that with either of mine. Like they literally didn't ask for my input. Which is fine, I'm grateful to be getting even one shower, let alone two. Just irritated because it's one thing to ask for things on your registry and another thing entirely to ask everyone to bring something that I don't even think I can find where we live, and on top of that she's complaining about having to wait til after her shower to buy things, a shower that she set the date for and has 9 weeks afterward to get what she needs???
So my UO: complaining about your shower that you are throwing yourself is NOT COOL. Probably not a UO but I haven't kept any food down so I'm ranty today.
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I secretly wish H would be there too.. I'm not big on attention while I'm feeling huge and I'm kinda put off by the fact that I have to have everyone ooh and aah over my belly when I'm already self conscious, and he assumes he gets "guys time" to go out and drink.
I wanna have fun too! I know guys typically have no interest in showers, but it would be nice to have him there. It's a little late to bring that up to the hosts... I've told H and basically guilted him into saying he would come, but of course now I'm worried that it would be weird for him to be the only guy...
Sigh. Maybe this should have gone under BF..
Edited: words r hard
Moral of the story? .... step away from the registries....
I don't know why I'm anxious about this, obviously I'll just smile and say thank you, but it seems awkward.