UO- 9/29

sammyl1221

share your UO's! 

slartybartfast

I like facebook and I really like Mark Zuckerburg. I totally get why some people aren't into facebook and think that's totally legit but it really works for me. And Mark Zuckerburg really seems like a GOOD GUY. I love that he bought up a bunch of land on Kuaii. It's a gorgeous resource and I feel like he'll be a better steward of it than just about anyone. I think he truly does have community and humanitarianism in mind.

cjt121413

@slartybartfast I like Facebook and Zuckerburg too.

My UO is that Dear Diary posts from randoms who never post here annoy the ever living crud out of me, and so do randoms posting on HDBD just so we can all tell them how pretty and cute they are. You all are so nice to all of them, which is great, but it makes me ragey. If I'm being honest, I don't hang out here as much lately because it bothers me so much that there seem to be so many randoms around here that get support without giving anything in return. Sorry, but I may be the resident bitch.

slartybartfast

@cjt21413 damn you should hang out more. Especially if you're gonna bring gifs as magnificent as that one...
consider my eyes dazzled!

For some reason the randos don't bother me at all...

oh also, though I like facebook, I actually joined and then left the D16 facebook group. It felt too impersonal somehow. Also I don't like the format. I'm just a bumper I guess.

princesslockness

+1 to @cjt121413 on the randos. My issue is, I'm typically in mobile and can't see if they are 'new' contributors or not. So I just get grouchy IRL because I can.

I dumped this in the Thursday Ticker Change, but it might fit here, def fits in FFFC:

I'm so done with this pregnancy. I want this kid out. I can't take it, and her NICU will be able to handle everything a hell of a lot better than me- at this point.

slartybartfast

@kate08young - I got nothing for you but sympathy. Hang in there mama. You're being put through the ringer there is no doubt about that. I totally understand being at the end of your rope. I was there so often last pregnancy with the HG and hated the advice to "take it one day at a time" or "it sucks but it IS temporary." When every moment is miserable, those things just made me mad. So I got nothing to say other than... pregnancy demands more selflessness than my mind can comprehend some times.

cjt121413

@Kate08Young I feel for you. Hugs.

@slartybartfast You're far nicer than me. You are a unicorn to my rhino.

allicat89

@Kate08Young - I'm so sorry. I'll be thinking about you.

@cjt121413  You are definitely winning the gif competition today!

My UO is that I just can't get into The Walking Dead. DH just started binge watching the series, and I have to leave the room because it stresses me out too much. It seems like a show that I should be into since I usually love sci-fi, but I can't handle it. Maybe it's my pregnancy hormones, but these days, I will only watch something if I know in advance that it has a happy ending. I think I'm officially becoming a boring mom! 

sammyl1221

@Kate08Young I'm sorry mama- but you're doing a great job!!!!!! I know you've got a lot going on, but you're almost at the finish line! 

@cjt121413 I hear ya- I honestly don't post in HDBD for that reason or check that thread out. 

My UO is that I have a love/hate relationship with eggs. Scrambled gross me out and hard boiled eggs make me want to throw up but I loveeee poached or fried eggs. There's no in between. 

brittnic86

@Kate08Young I'm over being pregnant too. Ugh. And I really hate it when people, I mean, my MOTHER, continually tells me how it'll all be worth it in the end.

My UO is I think you should be able to throw your own baby shower. Because seriously, this having other people doing it...and them not communicating, and doing things I'm not aware of, is stressing me the F out. Like I had someone I know I didn't tell our names to, tell me how gorgeous our names are. I was so confused. Turns out my mom put them on all the invites. It's not like it was a secret exactly...but we hadn't really announced either. She could've asked. And she also apparently put that it's a potluck? Which I wish she would've discussed with me, because while our family and their mormon ways think this is normal, DH's family thinks it's tacky. Then her and my friend trying to figure out where to have it, and my mom saying she couldn't pay for things, and my friend offering, but then my mom like overtaking all planning, so my friend felt like she was just paying for stuff. And I'm in the middle like, you two talk to each other! I would rather have done it all myself, and not dealt with this stress.

penelope4612

@slartybartfast - I also like Facebook, but I want it to be rainbows and puppies.  I like to look at vacation pics and baby pics.  I cannot tolerate the politics, arguments, and general attitude that it is a forum where everyone posts about how they are right and everyone else is stupid.

@cjt121413 - most of the time I can't even tell who the randos are unless they make a thread that doesn't fit or is redundant, which I haven't noticed much.  I guess I am oblivious.

@allicat89 TWD gets less suspenseful as the seasons go on.

@sammyl1221 - I hate all eggs, no matter how they are prepared.

acreight13

@sammyl1221 and @penelope4612 Eggs are terrible, terrible things. I say that when we have about 15 chickens and get half a dozen a day - good thing other people in the house like them. We also sell them. My egg aversion started two years ago with my first pregnancy and it hasn't gone away. 

karmba

I'm on board with all of these UOs - except about eggs.  I love love hard boiled eggs.  I especially agree with the opinion on randoms - but technically it might be unpopular for me to have that opinion because I just changed my picture and I really only post a few times every other day haha.

slartybartfast

if you are what you eat, then, with this pregnancy, I am an egg.
And actually, I am becoming egg-shaped so perhaps it is true.

jandd2014

I dont even really want to have a baby shower at this point.
My friend is hosting a small shower for me with my side of the family and a few friends, and MIL is hosting a co-ed shower for DH's side. While I'm grateful to both of them for doing this for us, its been a lot more drama than its probably worth, especially considering I dont like all the attention and I would prefer to go shopping and pick everything out by myself or with DH.
Your comment about potlucks made me laugh, @brittnic86. The shower with DH's family will most certainly be a pot luck and that's totally normal for his family but would be considered a little weird by mine

brittnic86

@jandd2014 I dunno, I mean, his family is full of cooks, so it's not totally weird....but they would think it is for a baby shower. Like, family dinner, sure. But functions involving non family....not so much.

Lisa3379

I can't even begin to guess how many omelets I've made for myself this pregnancy. Yum. 

And regarding baby showers, I'm kinda stressed about mine too. I feel weird that people are buying us gifts. I also feel like people really don't want to go to these things, and because they were invited, they feel obligated. And then they feel obligated to get a gift. It's weird, because if I was invited to someone's baby shower, I would love getting them a gift, so I don't know where my feelings are coming from. 

jandd2014

Yea, my family does pot luck for major holiday get togethers but not for things like birthdays or other parties that tend to be specifically for a certain person. But DH's family does them for every family party (which they have a lot of!). It doesn't bother me at all, they're all good cooks too!

Austenista

@brittnic86 omg yaaaas. 

princesslockness

@brittnic86 Our family reception was a potluck, that the non Mormon side hosted.

Thanks ladies. I am so grateful that I have you to vent and bitch to. H and my family don't care because they don't understand.

temmetime

I want a shower so I can get all the things, but I wish I could not have an actual party.  I'm not necessarily socially awkward, but there's a little anxiety about having a party that's just for you that you need to go talk to everyone and be stared at and touched/rubbed the whole time. Tooooo much attention. I suppose this is more FFFC.. but I'll probably forget by tomorrow

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Christinaruth74

I LURVE EGGS!!!!

@Kate08Young ugh. I totally get it. Sometimes you just reach a threshold where enough is enough. I've been struggling with this pregnancy a ton and the puking and the trying of new medication/combos/doses etc.. on top of taking care of a 2 year old and having my H working all day and then side jobs at night. I'm just over it. I try really hard to not complain (unless it's to my husband) because I know I could have it so much worse, but some days are just REALLY exhausting. 
Last night I went to crawl into bed and tell my H how excited I was that today would mark 1 week since the last time I threw up. He farted and I threw up 7+ times. All I could do was laugh because the alternative would have been depressing. 
Anyway, hang in there love... and know that it's ok to feel like you're ready to wave the white flag. ❤️

@slartybartfast I was wondering if you had left the group.. I haven't been very active there for the same reasons as you.. it's just been harder to connect. 

I don't think I have a UO this week... oh wait, ya I do. 

Facebook related... I hate those random statuses people post and if you like or comment on them you get a PM saying "choose one of these statuses for ______ awareness!" 
How is that helpful? I don't get it. And then I'm always the Debbie downer who doesn't participate. 

ashleaf2018

My family is super etiquette-obsessed about this shower and they won't let me do anything. I've mentioned several times that I think zoo animals and having things all blue for a boy is just super tacky IMO. I don't care if anyone else does it but I don't like it at all. Then I see our invitations... and they are blue and white with zoo animals on them??? I realize it's one of those things where I'm supposed to shut up and be grateful but seriously, the two things I hate the most and they are our shower theme??? If I was throwing a shower for someone I would at least get their input on what they wanted. *le sigh*

My own UO is also to do with showers: stop asking for specific things!!! My friend is throwing herself a second baby shower, which is a big faux pas in my family but I don't really care since she's my friend and she can do it if she wants. That being said, she wants everyone to bring a bow tie for her baby (it's a boy). My complaint is, we live in a small town and where the hell do I find an infant sized bow tie??? And why does it need to be a bow tie, can I not just get her a gift that I think she'll appreciate? I realize I don't have to get the damn bow tie but since she put it on her invites now I feel obligated to find one because what if everyone else finds these mysterious little bow ties and I'm the only one who doesn't bring one? Then as her friend, I feel like crap that I didn't get her what she asked for.

brittnic86

@Kate08Young do you have Mormon family too? Lol. My family hasn't gone in decades. But the mentality is still there lol. 

Mamax2

I can't stand Harry Potter, Game of Thrones, Walking Dead, Pie of any kind, and ketchup.

brittnic86

@Mamax2. Well then. Just coming in with the heavy issues huh?   

slartybartfast

@Mamax2 ... i just... fine. but really, HP?

mysteryship

@Mamax2 Pie!?!?

Mamax2

@slartybartfast I've tried the movies and always fall asleep within 30 mins of starting them, and the books just don't draw me in either. I'm weird, I know.

@mysteryship it's a huge texture issue with me. I can't stand the texture of any of the fillings. 

jandd2014

@Mamax2 I don't like pie either! I agree, its something about the texture of the filling. I'll eat quiche in the same pie crust as my mom uses for pies but I wont eat it when she uses it for fruit pies.

fauxpa-2

Pshhh.... more pie for me!

tinattt23

Ok, I just thought of one. I don't get the whole fasting/avoiding sugars/basically trying to game the system for the glucose test. I mean, obviously follow the instructions given by your doctor. But passing when you've basically been on GD diet anyways doesn't really seem like an accurate test anymore. If my regular diet is going to fail me, I want to know that so I know I need to make changes the rest of the pregnancy.

LinziLoo09

@ashleaf2018 I am dying over baby bowties! How truly weird. I feel sorry for her poor, overdressed baby.


Personally I'm super happy that we don't have a shower for the second kid. I'm so awkward being the center of attention. Some close friends and family are giving us a few gifts, but we don't have a ton of people going rogue off a registry this time. Not to sound ungrateful but only like two friends bought off of our registry last time. EVERYBODY else bought clothes because it's apparently more fun to shop for girl clothes. We already had a ton of hand me downs and that was the one thing we didn't need. So we had to go return all of those gifts to get things we needed off the registry. ...I guess that does sound pretty ungrateful. Let's just say that I greatly appreciate their love and enthusiasm, but respect the registry peeps. Anyways, I'm happy I don't have to deal with that mess this time. Is that an UO? I'm sure I said a few UO things in there...so yea.

dmontgo

@tinattt23 I don't think avoiding sugars for one day is gaming the system lol. My doctor said that if I eat a bunch of sugary foods the day before, I would likely fail. I would think if you have GD, it will show up even with avoiding sugars one day. Some of our ladies suffering from HG have GD or failed the first test and they haven't been chowing down on foods because they feel sick. 

tinattt23

@dmontgo I would imagine changing your diet would only really effect the more borderline results, but of course, I'm no doctor. If your doctor requires/encourages a certain procedure, then by all means follow it. I just think of it kind of like meditating before getting your blood pressure taken. Unless you spend all day every day meditating, than that reading isn't really a useful tool for knowing what your blood pressure typically is like. And maybe your diet before has no effect on your results. But in that case, I'm going to enjoy my ice cream 

dmontgo

@tinattt23 I know in my case for high BP, even deep breathing exercises didn't make a difference in between two readings on the same day. It just kept getting worse despite no previous issues. 

But enjoy that ice cream--hopefully tomorrow I can enjoy some too!

phoenix870509

@Mamax2 I'm with you with Harry Potter, GOT and Walking Dead! Can't stand them. Solidarity, sista! And it's ok, I will eat all the pie (as long as it's not cherry, blech). DH is the same way with pudding, a texture thing. And corn. He's weird.

Gimme scrambled and hard boiled eggs all day. Noms!

My shower is co-ed, which is weird in my family but normal for DH's family. I had to convince my mom the shower was not just for me but him too, and since he's a guy he'll want guys there. She agreed and now we're fighting about allowing kids. DH says yes because they're family and it's a culture thing for him. I'm winning so far.

My U/O - since we've discussed Facebook I will say I can't stand Twitter. I will never have a Twitter. I dunno, maybe it's the idea of tweeting that just sounds ridiculous but I can't stand Twitter. Facebook, I'm addicted. 

@sourlemon you said you had one last week and I've been patiently waiting all week for it, so SPILL!!!

tinattt23

@dmontgo I questioned using the BP analogy because I know you're has been giving you trouble.  I was thinking like full on monk meditating skills. Pretty sure none of us are that talented.  

sheshae

@brittnic86
Same thing is happening to me! Not that I want to throw my own shower fully but I wish I was able to help some. My mother won't tell me anything at all. Which is sweet and it'll be a nice surprise but I wish I could do something.

Edited because words are hard

temmetime

@linziloo09 I agree with you and am also probably ungrateful. People keep buying us clothes and we've been handed down more than he'll ever be able to wear, so I'm crossing my fingers that we at least get gift receipts from those people. The awkward part about buying so many clothes for other people's kids is that you don't even know what style they want to dress them in. GIMME MORE DIAPERS

brittnic86

@phoenix870509 our shower is co-ed too. I think it's more common now.