DH is highly allergic to dogs, but he has allowed me to have one scruffy terrier on the condition that it never gets on any of the furniture. When DH is gone on business, that dog is on the couch with me ALL WEEKEND. I wipe down the leather sofa before DH gets home, and he hasn't gotten sick in all the years I've been doing it. I still feel a little bit guilty but not enough to resist the doggy eyes.
Picture of my adorable co-conspirator:
Edit and Second FFC: Yes, I totally used this thread as an excuse to post a picture of my dog.
@slartybartfast geez, thanks for that...I already feel super like a baby on here every time I'm like, "I'm 26 weeks woo!" and there are people nearly a month ahead of me. I'm afraid no one will even care when I post my birth announcement in what's likely to be the middle of January!
@yellingbanana H and I routinely sleep in separate beds and it's NBD. He's a pilot and needs quality sleep to be on top of his game. The best part are the weekend sleepovers!
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@phoenix870509 - she expects her SIBLINGS to pay for her wedding? I'm sorry, what?!?! That's beyond crazy. If you can't afford a wedding and no one is OFFERING to help, then you get married at the courthouse or you don't get married. Sorrynotsorry. That's absurd.
Agree. And it's MIL's fault. She put it in SIL's head that the siblings would help, then proceeds to call them asking us to help her pay for the wedding. They all said no, but would help some other way. Not long after that DH and I got the BFP. Oh, and when we were down 2 weeks ago SIL jokingly asks us if we'd like to contribute to the wedding fund, holding up a bucket with loose change. I looked at it, at her, and pointed to my belly and said "No money" and that was that.
Married 4/12/13 TTC since 6/13 Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016 SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
My confession is that I locked myself in my living room and I can't get out. Luckily there is a powder room attached and I have my vacuuming robot to keep me company because DH won't be home until 7:30-8:00. And already hungry
Me: 38, DH: 36 Married Jan 2008 DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18" so in love Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
This isn't FFFC... But, I think theres a bunch of us due post Christmas. I think there should be a prize for the 1st baby of the new year!!!
Mine is that I totally stood there after I drop a pen waiting for one of our male staff (whose a millennial) to pick it up for me... He was like, "oh... Uh... Should I pick that up for you?" Me... "Yep." No shame.
@maamawaabangi ON IT! But actually I kind of want the baby to come this year for the tax money. So maybe that's my FFFC I've got an eggplant parm recipe that's supposed to work like a dream.
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
OH WAIT I have another one! Every time I get an email from Babylist telling me someone's bought something, I can't resist checking. Today I got super excited because one of my childhood friends bought me a Promptly Journal. It's all I ever wanted.
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
I have a few: 1) My MIL came over and while she noticed me napping on the couch she proceeded to stay and talk loudly to DH and woke me up I pretended to stay asleep until she finally left so I didn't have to talk to her
2) I've been stalking my registry twice a day the last week because my shower is coming up on October 2...out of the 20 thing bought off it...16 of those have been our parents or me
@PensiveCrayon I would look too! And I get the tax benefit too! It's such a big deal to have to wait an entire year more!
But... Since we already have plenty of tax "deductions"... I am TOTALLY holding out for the position of 1st baby of the new year! That prize is MINE!!!
I just lol-ed several times while reading this thread and my dogs keep looking at me like I'm bothering them.
My confession: I ate a whole box of mac n cheese for lunch. Straight from the pot. I've regretted it since about two minutes after it was gone, but at the time it was all I wanted.
I just had a legitimate moment of mourning for my old boobs. I realized that there was a chance that they would NEVER go back to the way they were.
Also, I have to confess that half the time, I don't know or remember what the acronyms used here are. And I'm too lazy to look them up so I just smile and nod until it clicks. For example, "DH" means something totally different to me - my husband's senior boss has the initials D.H. and he's a supermassive jerk, so.... I'm sure you can figure out what it means to us in this house haha
There is this girl in my newsfeed on fb basically ranting about how much pregnancy sucks. She misses her toned body, how she cries all the time, etc (and she's only halfway done)
I want to comment a picture of my $20,000 insurance claim, sharps container filled with months worth of injectables, & remind her that yes, pregnancy is rough... But let's not rant about it on fb where there are females who would kill to be able to conceive and trade places with you in an instant.
At the same time, I understand that if you don't struggle with infertility, you probably don't think of those who do during the heat of the moment. Regardless, it's my FFFC.
****Siggy TW**** natural pregnancy: 2008 Me: 28 (Hypothyroid), DH: 35 Together since: 2010 Married: 2013 TTC: 2013 Infertility: severe MFI, low AMH (0.5) Met RE: January 2016 ER: 3/14 (4 follies, 6 eggs retrieved, 2 fertilized) fresh 3dt of 2 embryos= BFP (1 implanted) EDD w/ baby boy= 12/6/16
I'm really good about not posting stuff about pregnancy on my Facebook. I'll do pictures of the nursery and such but I don't and won't say anything about the multiple small (ish) complications I am having. Same as my last pregnancy.
Fffc: the ONLY reason I don't post some complaints or info is because I don't want mil knowing. If it wasn't for her, I'd totally have complained about stuff by now. But I don't want her checking in all the time. We didn't tell her last pregnancy almost resulted in death and she just assumes everything went well aside from needing a c section. My parents know everything. Random Co workers know some. Friends know some. But I just can't handle having mil know.
We we have a mouse in our house. Again. We live in a rural area, everyone we know gets a mouse at least once a year. I saw it this morning, and have told no one in our house. You ladies are my secret keepers. My daughters will get all weird and freak out (even though the mouse is freakishly adorable and small), and the hubs will not rest until it is caught. I'm so not up for a mouse hunt. I'll clean the non-killing mousetrap on Monday and set it up then, but I need to find it, and clean it, and I'm beyond exhausted right now.
@penelope4612 - I figured I should change up my UO for one week at least. I'll get fussy about it again next week when we get more randos Awing In all seriousness, I feel like there were fewer this week. But I could also be delusional...or I probably am.
I don't have a FB but I have definitely posted direct or passive aggressive posts on my Instagram. Not many (I try to be classy), but yesterday I totally posted my UO (edited from the Bump version, of course). Some people's insensitivity to pregnant ladies is atrocious, and I felt so angry yesterday. The Army told DH he is going to have TRAINING on the day I am induced (assuming I make it to that day). He explained to them what's going on, and the Commander speaking with DH said, "Sounds like your wife's problem, not yours." WHATTHEFUCK.
In addition to my SIL (who follows me on Insta and texts me too much) trying to be up my ass and acting like she deserves a front-row seat to my son despite not giving a shit about me before I was pregnant. She never texted me, she's had arguments with me over me not being the way she wants me to be, etc....then I get pregnant and suddenly I am the bees knees, always asking when she can be here immediately because Ash is her nephew. Despite explaining to her what's going on, it's either "I don't understand what any of those complications have to do with me visiting before everyone else!" or she's kissing my ass and saying how "supportive" she is. Not even one "I'm sorry, is there anything I can do?" Because she threw a baby shower, she assumes she gets special privileges.
So yeah...totally posted my UO because I felt so angry and pissed and hurt. Fortunately once people read it, I got a lot of supportive texts that made me feel a lot better. But I'm hoping my SIL read it and felt shitty. DH said to go radio-silent with people until Ashton gets here and let him deal with everyone. Immature, probably, but damn...if you can't get it when I tell you directly I'm going to be as passive aggressive as hell.
Sorry this got so long. Just can't wrap my head around how selfish and awful some people can be. Damn.
@dmontgo WTH? I can't believe your DH's commander was so unsympathetic. Pretty terrible of him when the Army went through the whole PR boost earlier this year with giving women 12 weeks paid maternity. Is there any way to appeal? Or at least start his parental leave on the day of your induction?
@karmba The military (ahem, Army) loves to say how they are so supportive of families, they love the family unit, etc...but unfortunately most of the time they don't give a shit (just like they do SHARP and have the ACE cards, etc). DH isn't active (he was for almost a decade) and is Reserves now while in school, but when he was active there were countless men he knew that missed the birth of their children. DH even asked him to take a longer training course that is early next year to make up for it, and the guy was just being an asshole. DH said he is not leaving me, and the most cooperative thing he was told was "If it's convenient for me we will play it by ear."
Pfft whatever, douche. It doesn't help that the Reserves are way behind in training and policies compared to AD. What a joke.
Ughhhhhh @dmontgo I'm so freaking sorry. That really really sucks.
For a flip side story, we actually had to avoid getting pregnant until the new year because they would have pulled H from his deployment if I'd been due while he was gone. So I guess it really does depend on the unit. (ETA He is AD.)
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@PensiveCrayon Wow, you guys are lucky--I've never seen that! Is he enlisted or an officer? I do think a lot has to depend on the unit and their leadership. Unfortunately where we are...it seems like no one cares? Sad day.
Popular saying in the military is "if they wanted you to have a family, they would have issued you one". Even with all the "changes" in recent times, I do think that old saying still holds true in most cases.
@dmontgo Yes, he's an officer in the AF. I do have one friend from our pilot training days whose husband was actually still deployed when she gave birth! But he's on a different airframe, so yeah...it really just depends.
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@PensiveCrayon Girlfriend you are a lucky ducky! Officers really do have it good compared to enlisted--different treatment standards. And AF...best branch to be in, hands down. Enjoy it!
Re: FFFC 9/23
Picture of my adorable co-conspirator:
Edit and Second FFC: Yes, I totally used this thread as an excuse to post a picture of my dog.
@yellingbanana H and I routinely sleep in separate beds and it's NBD. He's a pilot and needs quality sleep to be on top of his game. The best part are the weekend sleepovers!
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
TTC since 6/13
Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change
BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016
SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
@leksiL that is something that I would do. I think we are secretly related.
Mine is that I totally stood there after I drop a pen waiting for one of our male staff (whose a millennial) to pick it up for me... He was like, "oh... Uh... Should I pick that up for you?" Me... "Yep."
No shame.
Due December 27th with baby #7
Yes, I know it's Friday and yes, I just now opened it.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
I have a few:
1) My MIL came over and while she noticed me napping on the couch she proceeded to stay and talk loudly to DH and woke me up
2) I've been stalking my registry twice a day the last week because my shower is coming up on October 2...out of the 20 thing bought off it...16 of those have been our parents or me
BFP#1 & MC:August 2015 BFP: #2 10/01/2015 MC: 10/09/2015 BFP #3: 12/22/2015 @ 5 weeks MC/CP: 12-23-2015
Fertility Appointment: Feb 23/16, Hysteroscopy 03/02/2016,
BFP #4: 03/31/16 EDD 12/01/2016
But... Since we already have plenty of tax "deductions"... I am TOTALLY holding out for the position of 1st baby of the new year! That prize is MINE!!!
Due December 27th with baby #7
My confession: I ate a whole box of mac n cheese for lunch. Straight from the pot. I've regretted it since about two minutes after it was gone, but at the time it was all I wanted.
DD- 11/2016
Also, I have to confess that half the time, I don't know or remember what the acronyms used here are. And I'm too lazy to look them up so I just smile and nod until it clicks. For example, "DH" means something totally different to me - my husband's senior boss has the initials D.H. and he's a supermassive jerk, so.... I'm sure you can figure out what it means to us in this house haha
I want to comment a picture of my $20,000 insurance claim, sharps container filled with months worth of injectables, & remind her that yes, pregnancy is rough... But let's not rant about it on fb where there are females who would kill to be able to conceive and trade places with you in an instant.
At the same time, I understand that if you don't struggle with infertility, you probably don't think of those who do during the heat of the moment. Regardless, it's my FFFC.
natural pregnancy: 2008
Me: 28 (Hypothyroid), DH: 35
Together since: 2010
Married: 2013
TTC: 2013
Infertility: severe MFI, low AMH (0.5)
Met RE: January 2016
ER: 3/14 (4 follies, 6 eggs retrieved, 2 fertilized)
fresh 3dt of 2 embryos= BFP (1 implanted)
EDD w/ baby boy= 12/6/16
Fffc: the ONLY reason I don't post some complaints or info is because I don't want mil knowing. If it wasn't for her, I'd totally have complained about stuff by now. But I don't want her checking in all the time. We didn't tell her last pregnancy almost resulted in death and she just assumes everything went well aside from needing a c section. My parents know everything. Random Co workers know some. Friends know some. But I just can't handle having mil know.
We we have a mouse in our house. Again. We live in a rural area, everyone we know gets a mouse at least once a year.
I saw it this morning, and have told no one in our house. You ladies are my secret keepers. My daughters will get all weird and freak out (even though the mouse is freakishly adorable and small), and the hubs will not rest until it is caught. I'm so not up for a mouse hunt. I'll clean the non-killing mousetrap on Monday and set it up then, but I need to find it, and clean it, and I'm beyond exhausted right now.
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In addition to my SIL (who follows me on Insta and texts me too much) trying to be up my ass and acting like she deserves a front-row seat to my son despite not giving a shit about me before I was pregnant. She never texted me, she's had arguments with me over me not being the way she wants me to be, etc....then I get pregnant and suddenly I am the bees knees, always asking when she can be here immediately because Ash is her nephew. Despite explaining to her what's going on, it's either "I don't understand what any of those complications have to do with me visiting before everyone else!" or she's kissing my ass and saying how "supportive" she is. Not even one "I'm sorry, is there anything I can do?" Because she threw a baby shower, she assumes she gets special privileges.
So yeah...totally posted my UO because I felt so angry and pissed and hurt. Fortunately once people read it, I got a lot of supportive texts that made me feel a lot better. But I'm hoping my SIL read it and felt shitty. DH said to go radio-silent with people until Ashton gets here and let him deal with everyone. Immature, probably, but damn...if you can't get it when I tell you directly I'm going to be as passive aggressive as hell.
Sorry this got so long. Just can't wrap my head around how selfish and awful some people can be. Damn.
Pfft whatever, douche. It doesn't help that the Reserves are way behind in training and policies compared to AD. What a joke.
For a flip side story, we actually had to avoid getting pregnant until the new year because they would have pulled H from his deployment if I'd been due while he was gone. So I guess it really does depend on the unit. (ETA He is AD.)
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
ETA: Is he AF, since he's a pilot?
Also, thanks all of you who mentioned the delight of lurking the announcement threads... It did my heart good tonight!
Due December 27th with baby #7
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018