I was really bummed when DD got sent home from daycare yesterday with pink eye because it means she can't go today. I have my 3 hour glucose test this morning and planned to just hang out on the couch after...but now I'll be on toddler duty.
To summarize: I wasn't bummed DD was "sick", I'm bummed I'll not get my free time this afternoon.
I interviewed for an internal position at work yesterday and I didn't tell any of them I'm pregnant, let alone how far along I am. I know that legally I don't need to mention it, but I kind of feel guilty and if they offer me the position (I think it went well and I'm hopeful) I hope that it goes over well.
In my defense, I first expressed interest the last time there was a posting (pre-pregnancy) and I officially applied during first tri. Not my fault it takes them 5+ months to actually interview! Also the guy who I would report to sits less than 50 feet away from me, so if he hasn't directly heard me talk about being pregnant, he should certainly have noticed a few, ahem, physical changes.
@karmba Good luck!!! I think the fact that you applied so long ago and that you are already internal to the company are both points in your favor, so hopefully they agree!!
With regard to the pregnancy aspect I have a similar problem. I **finally** got an interview through a recruiter, and I didn't tell the recruiter I was pregnant. She's located across the country from me, so we never met in person - just over the phone. When I show up on Tuesday at her client site, they're most likely going to notice. I'm nervous about what they will report back about me, and that they will pass on me because of my "situation" even though it's a temp to perm job. I asked my sister, who is also a recruiter, and she recommended I not mention it to anyone. If they ask, answer honestly ("Yes, thank you for noticing! I am pregnant and very excited," or similar) but don't provide too much info like due date, expected amount of time off, etc...
I feel somehow superior to those with due dates later than mine. Also feel inferior to those ahead of me. Makes no sense but it's at least balanced because I'm right in the middle
I'm irrationally annoyed by one of my employees, who was my super star. She interviewed for my position (definitely a stretch, and she's only been with the company for a 6 months, and is also a career changer - this is her first role in our field. If I was returning to this client after my maternity leave, she would be a great temporary project manager, but I'm not returning to this client post-maternity leave), and was passed for an external candidate with more experience.
She has been incredibly professional up until this point, but immediately ran to HR asking to be moved to another project with additional responsibility, expecting it to happen within the next few weeks! I had to have a come-to-Jesus with her yesterday to set her expectations about transitioning to a new role. She was visibly butt-hurt that I was being negative, but like, seriously? You look like a petulant child right now. You're good at your job but you're definitely in a pond full of equally qualified people...you're really not that special a damn snowflake. And my bosses feel the same way right now...so you're not making friends in high places.
I'm barely not a millennial (born in 1982, I'm in that weird middle area), but the millennial "i show up and do my job, where's my gold star" attitude makes me want to throw things.
@mrsmerc2015 I'm a millenial (1988). However I've always worked with people born in the 40s-60s and "fit in" better with that range. Most millenials drive me NUTS!
I have a brother born in 93 and we are so different I don't even know how we are related! He's 100% a millenial. It kills me sometimes talking to him about work practices and attitudes.
Where did millenials come from? How much worse will the next generation be? Scary.
@sourlemon I think sometimes it has more to do with where/how we were raised than when we were born. One of my best friends is an early 90's baby and she is one of the hardest working people I know.
I'm most frustrated because my employee has never acted like a millennial until now. I really want to just say "girl, your millennial is showing. Time to tuck that back in and put your game face on." But she's my employee, not my friend.
I chronicled this in the Why My Family is Driving Me Crazy post, but basically I'm telling my SIL in 2 weeks (after my 30 week appointment) that the doctor has put me on travel restrictions and I can't travel for the Halloween party she wants to have at her place 45 minutes from us. No shame in lying to her (I'll be 34 weeks at the time of the party). Maybe then DH can guilt her to moving the party here.
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I want to burn down the McDonalds right now. Not really. I'm just irrationally angry that they charged me for mcmuffins with egg, like I ordered, and gave me ones without egg. The irrational anger probably comes for the 4 hours of sleep I've been getting each night for the last week....
Where did millenials come from? How much worse will the next generation be? Scary.
this is a great question!! It could be somewhat a parenting change... DH is the oldest of 5 (born '84). His parents made him do EVERYTHING himself- buy his own crappy car as a teen (and fix it), work since 15, once he turned 20 (but was in full time college) was told to "pay rent or get out". But when it came down to his youngest bros ('93 and '95) they get handed everything!! His dad bought them nice "reliable" cars, they never had to have jobs in high school because "they needed to study", live at home even though the one is graduated and has a full time good job (NO rent), etc....
@mrsmerc2015 6 months in the role and she already expects to be leading something? I'm sorry but that is hilarious. It took me 5 years just to be promoted from junior to senior level at my previous position, and I was doing senior-level work for 4.5 years. Was it annoying that I was doing the work without the title/salary? Yes. Did I ask for a promotion after 6 months? Hell no! That's not how businesses work.
I'm loving the confessions, and just want to say they seem super valid. My BIL is a millennial and he had everything handed to him on a silver platter from his 3 older brothers and parents. His frustrations in life are so minuscule as to make me want to yell. His biggest complaint? His brother that he lives with doesn't always do his own dishes right away and that really gets to him. (His brother has a child).
Here is mine...
I've been taking care of my friend's toddler while they got induced on Tuesday, and just had the baby last night. She normally cosleeps with her parents, so her and I have been sleeping in the guest bedroom. I really love the bed in there and sleep way better than in my giant bed with DH. I'm kind of disappointed to go back to my bed, where I don't sleep as well. I'm not sure if it's because DH snores half the night, or the bed, or what. Would I be a total jerk for sleeping in the guest bedroom for a while?
@yellingbanana do what you need to do to get some sleep! You're growing a human.
But I get it. I feel weird if DH and I don't share a bed at night. He's been sick and taking nyquil and being a total groggy mess in bed the past few nights, though, I may send him to the couch tonight...
@yellingbanana if you sleep better in there, go for it. My last pregnancy I ended up sleeping on the couch at the end because it was the only place that I didn't wake up in terrible pain. DH didn't mind having the king bed to himself and the doggies.
@yellingbanana I'll all for good sleep - no matter where you get it! At some point I might kick DH to the guest bed and just sleep with my dog and snoogle.
I think technically I'm a millennial...1986. I think it's the ones born mid 90's and later that tend to be the issue. I've worked since I was 15, and I've never had a single thing handed to me.
FI and I are both millenials, born in '92 and '95 respectively. But we don't have that millennial mindset at all. We had to work for everything we have, we both go to school, he works and I'll be working once we move. Our families love helping us out, both his dad and mine are of the mindset that they will help us if we are helping ourselves. But we still had to prove to them that we have a strong work ethic and that we aren't going to sit by and wait for an opportunity, we have to get off our asses and work for it. I can't stand it how other people our ages don't seem to have the work ethic their parents do. I think a lot of it does have to do with parenting styles. My parents are the same way with my 16, 15, and 11 yo siblings as they are with me. And I know FI and I will be the same way with Rhett.
@slartybartfast Haha I feel the exact same way in superiority based on due date. Last pregnancy I was so proud because I was one of the first Dec '14 moms in the month. That said, regardless of due date, I will always be superior to you and your pathetic birth plan <angry cat sounds>
My confession - I've been passing out on the couch this last week at like 8:30 and leaving DH to manage DD by himself because I'm tired of adulting and I can basically sleep on command at this point. He's sweet about it at least.
@linziloo09 oh time will tell! Expect some shade on your birth thread!!
another confession- did my glucose test thins morning. The drink wasn't nearly as bad as I remembered. In fact it wasn't even bad. Not preferable but no biggie. And I feel fine.
i must have been having an icky week last time. But now I feel like a goon because I've been so dramatic about it.
I was at Burlington, and when I was walking out, I saw this cute plaid shirt in the non-maternity section (the one I wore for HDBD this week). I tried it on and could button it, although I think it looks better unbuttoned. I was like SCORE! I didn't look at the size or anything--I just cared that it fit.
So last night I'm doing laundry and I set the shirt aside to be hung up. DH grabs it, studies it for a sec, and then says, "Wow! You are so small!" He was being sincere, but I said, "Huh? What do you mean?"
He pulled the shirt close to his face to read the label and was like, "1X! That's like, smaller than an XS, right?" He was being 100% sincere and nice. Inside I was freaking out, and I said, "YES. That's exactly what that means."
@slartybartfast - I'm due 12/1 and I feel like I'm winning at life, but I dread potentially going overdue and then being super disgruntled if/when people have babies before me.
@LinziLoo09 - you can heckle my birth announcement
@slartybartfast - I'm due 12/1 and I feel like I'm winning at life, but I dread potentially going overdue and then being super disgruntled if/when people have babies before me.
Stuck in the box!!!!
Guuurrrllll - us twin moms (and sadly - moms with complications) are going to ruffle your feathers!!!
I was born in '87 so I guess I'm in that millennial category. I didn't have a job in high school because my parents had high standards of education so school was my job. I guess I was in that mindset until I realized I could lose DH if I continued on that track. So I got a job at a battery store, where I was recruited for the job I'm in now. But I can seriously see that mindset with SIL, who was also born in '87. She's not doing anything to better her life, she's expecting us (meaning her siblings and their SOs) to help her pay for her wedding since she and her FI have been engaged for almost 4 years and are no where near financially ready to pay for a wedding, and lives rent/bill free in my ILs house. DH was born in '83 and has worked since he was 8, helping his aunt with her store and doing outdoor work. There's another sister who was born in '88 and she also stepped it up when she met her DH. I just don't know what is wrong with the one.
Married 4/12/13 TTC since 6/13 Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016 SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
My confession - I told work that I have a doctor appointment at noon and had to leave work early. I'm actually getting a manicure and pedicure right now. I'm all caught up with work so I really have no shame about it.
I confess that I am totally going to be that girl that goes to L&D positive that I'm in labor and they're going to be like, "uhh actually Mrs. Beff12 you are just full of poop." I seriously considered calling my OB on Wednesday because of the cramps. Yep. All crap.
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@phoenix870509 - she expects her SIBLINGS to pay for her wedding? I'm sorry, what?!?! That's beyond crazy. If you can't afford a wedding and no one is OFFERING to help, then you get married at the courthouse or you don't get married. Sorrynotsorry. That's absurd.
I guess since my due date 11/28 and I'll most likely be induced I'm winning this game!! SCOREEEE!!!!
Sooo my DHs cousins daughters christening is the day after my shower. It's 2 hours away. I have ZERO desire to go. I told DH I don't want to go. This past weekend we were with his family and they asked if we we're going. I lied and said I have a huge meeting early the next day. I even think DH believes I have a meeting but I don't care. I don't even feel bad not going. She rsvped no to my baby shower. Oh well.
Me: 29
DH: 30
Happily Ever After: 05-15-2015 TTC since June 2015
I'll admit that I registered for some high ticket items knowing that we may actually get them bought for us from some of DH's family members. Some of the stuff a few of them bought us for our wedding surprised us, which I suppose when money is no object for a few of them... why not? And they really like us, so I guess that counts too. C'mon Travel System, Video Monitor, Swing and Convertible Car Seat!
@kbduke I have done that too. A couple months ago, I could only get into my hair stylist one afternoon so I told my boss I had some appointment stuff going on (this was the day before my actual first appointment, and he already knew since I told him) and needed to work a half day. He was fine with it since it had to do with baby stuff. I didn't feel bad at all leaving work for it.
Me: 37 years old
DH: 39 years old
Married: October 17, 2014 TTC Since: November 2015 BFP: March 31, 2016 DS: November 21, 2016
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My confession - I told work that I have a doctor appointment at noon and had to leave work early. I'm actually getting a manicure and pedicure right now. I'm all caught up with work so I really have no shame about it.
Technically, that IS an appointment. You are justified.
@sammyl1221 seriously, your husband's cousin's daughter? It's not his immediate family, don't feel any guilt. I'd be effed if I had to go to each one of those, my DH has over 100 first cousins. Dead serious.
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To summarize: I wasn't bummed DD was "sick", I'm bummed I'll not get my free time this afternoon.
In my defense, I first expressed interest the last time there was a posting (pre-pregnancy) and I officially applied during first tri. Not my fault it takes them 5+ months to actually interview! Also the guy who I would report to sits less than 50 feet away from me, so if he hasn't directly heard me talk about being pregnant, he should certainly have noticed a few, ahem, physical changes.
With regard to the pregnancy aspect I have a similar problem. I **finally** got an interview through a recruiter, and I didn't tell the recruiter I was pregnant. She's located across the country from me, so we never met in person - just over the phone. When I show up on Tuesday at her client site, they're most likely going to notice. I'm nervous about what they will report back about me, and that they will pass on me because of my "situation" even though it's a temp to perm job. I asked my sister, who is also a recruiter, and she recommended I not mention it to anyone. If they ask, answer honestly ("Yes, thank you for noticing! I am pregnant and very excited," or similar) but don't provide too much info like due date, expected amount of time off, etc...
She has been incredibly professional up until this point, but immediately ran to HR asking to be moved to another project with additional responsibility, expecting it to happen within the next few weeks! I had to have a come-to-Jesus with her yesterday to set her expectations about transitioning to a new role. She was visibly butt-hurt that I was being negative, but like, seriously? You look like a petulant child right now. You're good at your job but you're definitely in a pond full of equally qualified people...you're really not that special a damn snowflake. And my bosses feel the same way right now...so you're not making friends in high places.
I'm barely not a millennial (born in 1982, I'm in that weird middle area), but the millennial "i show up and do my job, where's my gold star" attitude makes me want to throw things.
I have a brother born in 93 and we are so different I don't even know how we are related! He's 100% a millenial. It kills me sometimes talking to him about work practices and attitudes.
Where did millenials come from? How much worse will the next generation be? Scary.
I'm most frustrated because my employee has never acted like a millennial until now. I really want to just say "girl, your millennial is showing. Time to tuck that back in and put your game face on." But she's my employee, not my friend.
TTC since 6/13
Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change
BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016
SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
So yea- not sure what happened there....
want to yell. His biggest complaint? His brother that he lives with doesn't always do his own dishes right away and that really gets to him. (His brother has a child).
Here is mine...
I've been taking care of my friend's toddler while they got induced on Tuesday, and just had the baby last night. She normally cosleeps with her parents, so her and I have been sleeping in the guest bedroom. I really love the bed in there and sleep way better than in my giant bed with DH. I'm kind of disappointed to go back to my bed, where I don't sleep as well. I'm not sure if it's because DH snores half the night, or the bed, or what. Would I be a total jerk for sleeping in the guest bedroom for a while?
But I get it. I feel weird if DH and I don't share a bed at night. He's been sick and taking nyquil and being a total groggy mess in bed the past few nights, though, I may send him to the couch tonight...
@slartybartfast Haha I feel the exact same way in superiority based on due date. Last pregnancy I was so proud because I was one of the first Dec '14 moms in the month. That said, regardless of due date, I will always be superior to you and your pathetic birth plan <angry cat sounds>
My confession - I've been passing out on the couch this last week at like 8:30 and leaving DH to manage DD by himself because I'm tired of adulting and I can basically sleep on command at this point. He's sweet about it at least.
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another confession- did my glucose test thins morning. The drink wasn't nearly as bad as I remembered. In fact it wasn't even bad. Not preferable but no biggie. And I feel fine.
i must have been having an icky week last time. But now I feel like a goon because I've been so dramatic about it.
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So last night I'm doing laundry and I set the shirt aside to be hung up. DH grabs it, studies it for a sec, and then says, "Wow! You are so small!" He was being sincere, but I said, "Huh? What do you mean?"
He pulled the shirt close to his face to read the label and was like, "1X! That's like, smaller than an XS, right?" He was being 100% sincere and nice. Inside I was freaking out, and I said, "YES. That's exactly what that means."
FFFC #2: I didn't get up to pee for about 12 hrs. It was glorious, until I got out of bed.
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I was born in '87 so I guess I'm in that millennial category. I didn't have a job in high school because my parents had high standards of education so school was my job. I guess I was in that mindset until I realized I could lose DH if I continued on that track. So I got a job at a battery store, where I was recruited for the job I'm in now. But I can seriously see that mindset with SIL, who was also born in '87. She's not doing anything to better her life, she's expecting us (meaning her siblings and their SOs) to help her pay for her wedding since she and her FI have been engaged for almost 4 years and are no where near financially ready to pay for a wedding, and lives rent/bill free in my ILs house. DH was born in '83 and has worked since he was 8, helping his aunt with her store and doing outdoor work. There's another sister who was born in '88 and she also stepped it up when she met her DH. I just don't know what is wrong with the one.
TTC since 6/13
Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change
BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016
SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
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DD born 7.27.2014
BFP 09.2015 - m/c 10.21.2015
most likely be induced I'm winning this game!! SCOREEEE!!!!
Sooo my DHs cousins daughters christening is the day after my shower. It's 2 hours away. I have ZERO desire to go. I told DH I don't want to go. This past weekend we were with his family and they asked if we we're going. I lied and said I have a huge meeting early the next day. I even think DH believes I have a meeting but I don't care. I don't even feel bad not going. She rsvped no to my baby shower. Oh well.
TTC since June 2015
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I'll admit that I registered for some high ticket items knowing that we may actually get them bought for us from some of DH's family members. Some of the stuff a few of them bought us for our wedding surprised us, which I suppose when money is no object for a few of them... why not? And they really like us, so I guess that counts too. C'mon Travel System, Video Monitor, Swing and Convertible Car Seat!
@kbduke I have done that too. A couple months ago, I could only get into my hair stylist one afternoon so I told my boss I had some appointment stuff going on (this was the day before my actual first appointment, and he already knew since I told him) and needed to work a half day. He was fine with it since it had to do with baby stuff. I didn't feel bad at all leaving work for it.
TTC Since: November 2015
BFP: March 31, 2016
DS: November 21, 2016