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FFFC--Flame Free Friday Confessions 9.23

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Hey there! It's Friday (yeahhh!)...what would you like to confess?
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Re: FFFC--Flame Free Friday Confessions 9.23

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  • SquirtgunSquirtgun member
    Well... As much as I LOVE Harry Potter... I hate the new book/play. I think it's horrible. Everyone's all "oh, you're just not used to reading in that format, it's a good story!"  No. I love to read, and also love to read plays (Peter Pan as a play, actually way better than the book). I think 'Cursed Child' is just really badly written fan fic. (And, I actually like Harry Potter fan fic! :D ) 
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  • Jkp7749Jkp7749 member
    @Kipperoo I have also had the least productive week of my life! I have done ZERO chores. The same load of laundry has sat for about 4 days being rewashed over and over bc I'm too tired to move it to the dryer. I've taken my daughter to all the playdates we can so we can get out of the house. I NEVER do this. Since I'm a SAHM I take care of everything around here but I just can't/don't want to. I hope my husband will do some of it tonight... 
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  • SquirtgunSquirtgun member
      @Kipperoo yeah, we have two girls, and I get comments from complete strangers-"Oh, too bad they're both girls! It would have been nice for her to have a brother! But sisters can be fun too."  Um... We want to have a ton of kids, and don't care whether they are boys or girls. But, somehow strangers always think that they can comment on your life :#  
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  • doxiemoxie212doxiemoxie212 member
    @Squirtgun DH would super agree with you. I was just so excited, though, to have more HP that I just cruised through it and loved it.

    DH and I have been talking for a long time about me quitting my job for a variety of reasons, and I was really close to pulling the trigger, but now that I'm KU, DH thinks I should just wait it out until the baby is born. The thing is, if I wait to quit until the baby is born, then I'm quitting to be a SAHM. And that's fine, maybe I'll want that, but that isn't the reason I want to quit. I want to quit because this isn't the career I want anymore. If I quit now, I have time to start taking graphic design classes and move in a different direction from a freelancer perspective before the baby is born. Sigh. 
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  • starphish18starphish18 member
    @Kipperoo I didn't blame you. I'm dreading going back to work, because I feel like I won't get any work done. 

    @doxiemoxie212 That makes sense to me. Did you explain to DH your reasoning for getting a head start now?
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  • doxiemoxie212doxiemoxie212 member
    @starphish18 yeah, and he'd support anything I want to do, but in his mind it just makes more financial sense for me to stay. And I get that, but it is killllllling my soul, and I'm so desperately underpaid, and my company refuses to rectify that so it's like, what's the point? Hard to feel motivated. I think I just really want him to think it's a GOOD idea, not that it's an acceptable idea. 
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  • ShadeofGreen816ShadeofGreen816 member
    @doxiemoxie212 that's such a crappy place to be. Hopefully you can find an answer that satisfies both of you!
    @Jkp7749 and @kipperoo I feel you girls. I work part time and go to school part time and I have just been doing the bare minimum at everything. And absolutely NO housework. 

    My FFFC is that MH and I were both kind of cranky last night and I was feeling kind of AWish. I may have over exaggerated some of my pregnancy symptoms to make him baby me a bit. I hope karma doesn't come to bite me in the ass! 
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  • mrsrep123mrsrep123 member
    Jkp7749 said:
    @Kipperoo I have also had the least productive week of my life! I have done ZERO chores. The same load of laundry has sat for about 4 days being rewashed over and over bc I'm too tired to move it to the dryer. I've taken my daughter to all the playdates we can so we can get out of the house. I NEVER do this. Since I'm a SAHM I take care of everything around here but I just can't/don't want to. I hope my husband will do some of it tonight... 
    @jpk7749 lol I sometimes end up rewashing loads several times too! Ugh... Some days it's completely ok to be lazy! 

    DS1 7/24/15

    DS2 5/7/17

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  • MamaMillerMamaMiller member
     I have 2 DD- they are my world and best friends. Another girl would rock but were hoping for a boy....Prior to this BFP, I was going to try the "shettle's method" to see if we could increase the likelihood of conceiving a boy. I KNOW it is a theory and it is still 50/50 but I figured it was worth trying. We are so excited for this pregnancy but have given up all hope of having a boy and have only talked about girl names....
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  • mrsrep123mrsrep123 member
    My FFFC...

    I was at work Tuesday evening and we had some loooooooong Neuro cases still going in the operating room. I should've called in sick that day because my neck was still out-of-whack (sucky new pillow) which was leading to a headache which was aggravating my already present nausea, whew. But I didn't because I'm trying to save all of my sick time for when it comes time for maternity leave. So I'm miserable and trying to stick it out. I get back from my dinner break late because I had to leave and go pick up food (I can't plan ahead these days because of the nausea) and the restaurant DID NOT have it ready. So my break was over before I even ate! I said "f" that and ate anyways. 45 min later (only 30 min break) I returned and learned the two Neuro cases were still in but were closing and coming out soon. So I made a warm compress for my neck, sat around for a bit, then jetted off to the bathroom like I was going to puke (not really though). I came back and my manager was like, "just go home." Like @shadeofgreen816 said, I hope karma doesn't come to bite me in the ass. 

    DS1 7/24/15

    DS2 5/7/17

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  • KipperooKipperoo member
    doxiemoxie212 , I'm sorry...that sounds like a really tough situation. Is your current job at least fairly easy? Having a job that you can coast through to the birth definitely makes the pregnancy piece a little easier than trying to learn something new while growing a wee one. I switched jobs at 10 weeks pregnant with my last child and it was so hard to focus on learning new things with the pregnancy brain, random sick days, and just general mental excitement of growing our family/prepping for baby. I hope you find a career path you love very soon!! 
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  • MoshiMoshi7MoshiMoshi7 member
    @Squirtgun I felt the same way about Cursed Child. I adore everything Harry Potter and was so excited for something new, but all the characters felt so out of whack and the plot was rushed and full of ridiculous holes. It was so disappointing.

    My FFFC: I want to give DS a sibling so badly. But I've been so sick and exhausted that I don't feel like I've been the best version of myself with him and I am constantly wonder if we did the right thing. I'm hoping it's just mom guilt and it will pass.
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  • doxiemoxie212doxiemoxie212 member
    @Kipperoo It's fairly unpredictable, and a lot of long hours sometimes. A fair amount of travel. Lot's of client interaction. I actually want to switch into something more creative (graphic design), so I think pregnancy brain would be somewhat okay. IDK. I just picture everyone I work with and their judgey faces if I quit, and I panic. Sigh. 
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  • KipperooKipperoo member
    doxiemoxie212 , yeah that doesn't sound very pleasant. On the bright side, you can quit AFTER maternity leave BEFORE going back to work and then you have to see zero faces and will likely give zero f's. :-) 
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  • KipperooKipperoo member
    MoshiMoshi7 , I feel exactly how you do. I want to give my son a sibling and I want our family to have 2 children, I just literally want nothing to do with this growing an infant piece. I feel like crappy, I am cranky and irritable, and I don't feel like I'm good at anything I do. I've become a half version of myself. Also, I keep wondering if having a second child is going to screw up our otherwise fabulous little family dynamic. It's so good now and when I think back to the first 6 months of my son's life, I feel complete dread at what's to come. Which makes me feel like a terrible, terrible person. 
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  • Yiggle09Yiggle09 member
    @ShadeofGreen816 whats AW ish
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  • ShadeofGreen816ShadeofGreen816 member
    AW stands for attention wh0re. (I hope I don't get reported for using a curse word here) basically I wanted someone to baby me. Not my best wife moment!
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  • MoshiMoshi7MoshiMoshi7 member
    @Kipperoo if you're terrible, so am I because I have had all of the exact same thoughts! I am not a fan of being pregnant or of the newborn stage and thinking of all the work it takes just makes me feel so guilty about the attention that won't be going to DS anymore. Obviously, I think the positives will far outweigh the negatives, but my god, the guilt is so real.
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  • Yiggle09Yiggle09 member
    My husband refuses to acknowledge when I am trying to get attention. he doesn't want to "reward my behavior" lol we didn't have AW in Sept 15. thank you for the info @ShadeofGreen816 I was wondering what AW ultrasound meant
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  • Amybee5Amybee5 member
    @ShadeofGreen816 I may have done that a few times in the last few weeks too. They get to coast through the pregnancy so im making the most of it when it comes to getting extra attention.
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  • laurenann89laurenann89 member
    FFFC: haven't slept with my husband since I found out I was pregnant. Work has kept me too busy/tired and combined with my nerves, it ain't happening. I feel bad kind of, but not really haha
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  • doxiemoxie212doxiemoxie212 member
    @Luckyu317 oh no, no no no no no this was DH's idea. If DH wants a baby this badly, he can suck it up and not drink -- he knows how much I love wine. Obv I got on board with the idea and agreed to TTC, but part of the deal was that we are in this TOGETHER. To. Geth. Er.  If mama has to grow a spinal cord without her favorite thing, dada can do regular life without it. ;)

    That's the only thing, though, because we're both vegetarian, and he's lactose intolerant so even soft cheeses were already irrelevant to him. He's being a champ about it. I think he's actually sort of excited to feel part of the process more, and he still drinks at work events since it would be weird otherwise. I don't think I'll enforce it. I think I really just wanted him to agree to it conceptually, lol. Knowing me, I'll probably end up making him drink wine by himself at some point just so I can smell it. 
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  • blissfulberryblissfulberry member
    @Squirtgun Yes! That how my friends and I described HP&TCC - poorly written fanfic with inconsistent characterizations. How disappointing.
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  • amprince22amprince22 member
    @Kipperoo I'm right there with the lack of work this week. I have been coasting along. I have been applying to different departments because I have grown to hate my job. Something about adding pregnancy to the mix has made me lose any ability to care about my work. 
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  • luv2sailluv2sail member
    My confession: I ate fast food for the first time in a really long time today. When DH got back to the office (we work together...) he just pointed at my greasy bag and asked who ate it. Since I had a prenatal appointment this afternoon I told him that my Dr. mentioned that I needed more calcium in my diet and that I should eat more red meat for my anemia. 

    I totally tried to justify the milk shake, cheeseburger and poutine but I was really just starving and forgot my lunch today. I got a major eye roll. 
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  • cclaineDCcclaineDC member
    @laurenann89 you said it, sista. Same here. 
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  • RainyDays86RainyDays86 member
    @Kipperoo and @Jkp7749 I am such a waste of space at work.  I can't believe how unproductive I have been and I really can't afford to be right now.
    Also, @Kipperoo I too am so filled with dread for the first six months of this baby.  I do not like the infant stage, and as hard as it was with one I can't imagine going through it with a baby and a toddler.  I love my son, I am so excited he'll have a sibling, but I had a really hard time dealing with the "always on" aspect of stay-at-home parenting, not to mention the lack of sleep.
    @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot I completely agree.  I will take what you said a step further and say that level of controlling seems borderline abusive to me.
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