I love reading these but not quite snarky enough to ever come up with anything original but today...I hate sonogram photos on FB. They look creepy and its not cute or beautiful to anyone but the parents so why is it in my newsfeed? Ew!
It's a lima bean. I don't get what I'm supposed to be looking at. And if I'm every lucky enough to get to an ultrasound myself, this will be me:
Don't even get me started on the AW ultrasound posts on BMBs of "guess the gender sex from my 8 week scan!" Wut? Stop. It's a tadpole, congratulations.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
I love reading these but not quite snarky enough to ever come up with anything original but today...I hate sonogram photos on FB. They look creepy and its not cute or beautiful to anyone but the parents so why is it in my newsfeed? Ew!
I think the 3D ones are extra creepy! I'm pretty sure I literally shudder from the creepiness factor every time I see one.
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Me: 38 DH: 38 Married 6/11/16 TTC Since 6/2016 12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal 3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve 8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC 7/2018 Clomid+IUI 11/2018 Letrozole+TI 12/2018 Letrozole+IUI 2/2019 NTNP 5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
I love reading these but not quite snarky enough to ever come up with anything original but today...I hate sonogram photos on FB. They look creepy and its not cute or beautiful to anyone but the parents so why is it in my newsfeed? Ew!
I think the 3D ones are extra creepy! I'm pretty sure I literally shudder from the creepiness factor every time I see one.
I also go crazy when I hear grammatical errors. My MIL kept saying "supposebly" the other night and I felt my husband go rigid.. Silently pleading with me not to correct her. She also uses double negatives and racial slurs which don't sit well with me.
I also cannot stand ignorance. If you can back up what you're saying, more power to you. I respect you for making an educated decision and forming your own opinion. But if you are trying to support your decision with nonsense.. Well, you look like an asshole.
I hate the shirts that have the shoulders cut out.
@Redpuma119 I HATE those shirts as well. I just dont understand some of the new fashion. I feel like half the stuff that is popular now was popular when I was in elementary school in the 90's
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@littlebug2010 I agree with you... Last night I was watching Nick at Nite and an episode of full house was on... They were wearing clothes that looked like they would fit right in to todays fashion! I looked at the air date: 1991.
Me: 33 DH: 36 Together since 2007 Happily Ever After 4.30.2015 ~~One Beautiful Daughter~~ Born: 11.6.2017 Trying for #2!!
I love reading these but not quite snarky enough to ever come up with anything original but today...I hate sonogram photos on FB. They look creepy and its not cute or beautiful to anyone but the parents so why is it in my newsfeed? Ew!
Ugh I super hate this and did not do it with DD. THAT IS A PICTURE OF ONE OF YOUR INTERNAL ORGANS AND YOU ARE BLASTING IT ON THE INTERNET RIGHT NOW. Would you post a picture of your kidney? Probably not. So.......??????????
The only people that even saw our physical sonogram pics (I didn't even have them electronically) were our parents, our siblings, and my best friend, and it's because they all asked to see them so I figured that was fine. But I don't think if my husband got a penis x-ray he'd show that to everyone, and I'm not sure why this is so different just because there's a baby in there.
I actually like the idea of posting on FB. Personally, going through all the RE garbage that we are, if the time ever comes where we get KU, once it's safe I want to let everyone know the struggle we went through to get there. I read an article from a woman who went through IVF, when she finally got KU she took a picture of her sonogram surrounded by all of her pill bottles/needles/etc. It was so touching and moving! So many people think getting KU is easy, but it can be such a struggle. If I'm ever lucky enough to get KU, I hope that by sharing my experience on social media, someone (who doesn't have what we have on TB) who might be going through something similar, will be given a shred of hope and the peace of mind to know that they aren't the only ones.
@lmc929 Girl that made me LOL! We were on a BREAK! Love that show!
My biggest pet peeve is when people say, I could care less. The term is I couldn't careless. Because if you could care less, you would care less. But if you couldn't care less, then you can't care any less than you already do......#grammar snob.
@lulu1180 I've heard that often those are because there's a reason for distrust so...that makes it double-awkward when you see one. A girl I went to HS with friended me with one of those couples accounts. It was one of those where I was surprised she friended me. Then I realized it was to peddle her fitness BS. She was the main one using the account and it was all "I'm so fit. I'm so great. My hubby is the BEST! We're so in LOVE!" complete with all sorts of 'inspirational' crap with random words written in all caps. Then one day, it totally imploded when the husband changed the relationship status to "it's complicated" then made a post about how it wasn't his page anymore and then the whole thing disappeared. When you've been so openly superior to others and then have a public meltdown...
@eggplantface Ditto. But I will admit that I call whatever score it is that FF does on your chart my "Preggy Points" and I'm pretty Gollum about them. I usually keep that crazy pretty quiet, though.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@mrsdaddario That is an excellent way to look at it. I totally get that, and very much want to share my experiences with others who may be struggling. I was thinking more along the lines of the generic pregnancy announcement that would seem very "hey, look at me and my reproduction" to me. Also, I'm pretty careful and kind of private about what I put out there...I guess I'm very different in real life...and in anonymous internet forums, LOL.
Me: 45 OH: 42 Beloved SS: born 12/2011 TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016 **TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW** August 2016 - dx with DOR Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T May 2017 - began freezing sperm June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
I am lukewarm about gender reveal parties because I do think it's fun to share in the moment as the couple finds out, but for me I think that's the only fun part about it- because I obviously couldn't care less if your child is a male or female, I mean I don't even care if my own hypothetical children are male or female.
I currently know 2 women who are pregnant and found out the sex but are keeping it to themselves & their husbands... which weirdly annoys me more despite the fact that I really do not care about the sex of their baby. I think it just rubs me the wrong way because it's not a surprise to them and literally nobody else cares about whether it's a boy or a girl so whats the point of "surprising" everyone else after the child's birth?
But the "reveals" where the parents already know take the cake for sure.
*edit* adding
Me (28) & DH (35) Met 4/2010+Married 8/2014 TTC #1 August 2016. BFP 10/2016= DD Born 6.23.17
NTNP April 2018. BFP 5/2018 EDD 1.29.19 *Team Green*
@MotherofDragons I think you're probably right. So I guess my UO is that if I ever manage to stay pregnant long enough to do all the cliche pregnancy things I'm going to enjoy every last cheesy thing. My husband and I have talked about it and while we originally wanted 2 children TTC#1 has been such an ordeal that we're not sure we have it in us to do this again for #2, ya know, assuming we ever get a take-home baby at all. So it's very possible that I'll only have one shot at making sure I do everything I think I may want to do.
My husband and I didn't do all the cliche wedding things. We eloped and didn't even have a photographer so we don't even have wedding pictures except a couple of photos the lady who ran the bed and breakfast took and gave us. And sometimes I see these beautiful wedding photos other couples have and regret not having at least had wedding photos taken. I don't want to ever feel like I "missed out" on my one and only chance to "fully enjoy" my pregnancy with cheesy bump photos and a "is it a boy or girl?!" party for a couple of family members if people are interested in that type thing.
And like @mrsdaddario said, I think it's beautiful when people who struggled share that. It helps move infertility and loss away from being a taboo subject and makes it less isolating. So I'd really want to share some of my "journey" with people and discuss the struggles with infertility and loss.
Me: 28 Husband: 31 TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016 Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
@mrsdaddario@NamelessAria I always appreciate when people include their struggles on Facebook. Social media is so full of "highlights" that its just so awesome when people get real about things. A girl I knew from college posted an announcement and then discussed a loss they had earlier that year and I sobbed. I never see her anymore and yet somehow, I felt like I knew her again or something.
@NamelessAria I hope you (and everyone here) get to do all the cliche baby things your heart desires. I didn't do a reveal with my son and I so wish I had. I know that my close friends and family would have really enjoyed it.
I currently know 2 women who are pregnant and found out the sex but are keeping it to themselves & their husbands... which weirdly annoys me more despite the fact that I really do not care about the sex of their baby. I think it just rubs me the wrong way because it's not a surprise to them and literally nobody else cares about whether it's a boy or a girl so whats the point of "surprising" everyone else after the child's birth?
I agree!! I think because it implies thatyou should really care but, hehe, you don't get to find out. When, like you said, you don't actually care about the sex. It's the assumption that the information is important to other people that annoys me. I totally get why people don't share names, though. And, now that I think about it, I could get the rationale behind not sharing the sex to in order to avoid gender biased gifts, but then the parents should just pretend that they don't know either!
@mrsdaddario I love that idea for a facebook pregnancy announcement. I've seen a couple people do similar things and it makes me feel so happy (rather than like I just got punched like I do when I see other announcements). I think it is great to share that publicly because hopefully it will help more people be more sensitive to infertility.
@NamelessAria I hope you get to do everything and anything that you want to do to celebrate. I know the fear of maybe never getting to do it, and I'm so sorry you're having to feel that.
We don't plan to do any of the wedding stuff, either. Maybe because I'm such a late bloomer, I'm just a big old life event grinch. That might have to be my FFFC tomorrow!! I do love other people's weddings and, like I mentioned before, I like seeing baby announcements. I think I'm past the place in my life where I'm as into sharing stuff like that, and it's probably because I'm afraid of calling attention to my late-bloomer-ness.
I still am not into gender reveal parties, but then again, most of the people I know who have had them are honestly attention whores. It's a totally skewed sample...
I think I would have regrets if we didn't take pictures of our wedding and any baby bump, so I totally plan on doing that.
Me: 45 OH: 42 Beloved SS: born 12/2011 TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016 **TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW** August 2016 - dx with DOR Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T May 2017 - began freezing sperm June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
I have a huge extended family and so many couples keep their names secret and friends or other family members have landed on the same names and it's caused issues. One couple was team green and ended up using their baby boy name .. And then lost it on another couple when they used the name they liked for a girl. I've told everyone that we have names that we like and if it happens to be the same name they've chosen, tough. They don't own the name. I don't want to regret not using a name for the sake of hurting someone's feelings. I had 15 Brittany's in my graduating class. What bitches those moms were to do that to them
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
Speaking of "gender" reveal (cause really... You can't reveal a gender), my very UO is just flat out finding out the sex of the baby. I know most people do, but honestly I don't get it. A) I just want a healthy baby and don't care what is between the legs. There are so few surprises in this world and I don't get the impatience/ "immediate gratification" thing. C) I secretly enjoying pissing off my ILs when I stand firm on Team Green
Re: UO Thursday
Don't even get me started on the AW ultrasound posts on BMBs of "guess the gender sex from my 8 week scan!" Wut? Stop. It's a tadpole, congratulations.
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
This. I will never get one of those.
I also cannot stand ignorance. If you can back up what you're saying, more power to you. I respect you for making an educated decision and forming your own opinion. But if you are trying to support your decision with nonsense.. Well, you look like an asshole.
I hate the shirts that have the shoulders cut out.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
DH: 36
Together since 2007
Happily Ever After 4.30.2015
~~One Beautiful Daughter~~ Born: 11.6.2017
Trying for #2!!
Me: 29 DH: 35
Married: 9/29/12
DS #1: 3/8/15Ugh I super hate this and did not do it with DD. THAT IS A PICTURE OF ONE OF YOUR INTERNAL ORGANS AND YOU ARE BLASTING IT ON THE INTERNET RIGHT NOW. Would you post a picture of your kidney? Probably not. So.......??????????
The only people that even saw our physical sonogram pics (I didn't even have them electronically) were our parents, our siblings, and my best friend, and it's because they all asked to see them so I figured that was fine. But I don't think if my husband got a penis x-ray he'd show that to everyone, and I'm not sure why this is so different just because there's a baby in there.
@lmc929 Girl that made me LOL! We were on a BREAK! Love that show!
Uh oh.. I need to fix my post. Thanks @mrsdaddario
TTC again since 8/2016
Me:35 Dh:31
1 German sheperd puppy
BFP August 24 2018!
@eggplantface Ditto. But I will admit that I call whatever score it is that FF does on your chart my "Preggy Points" and I'm pretty Gollum about them. I usually keep that crazy pretty quiet, though.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Beloved SS: born 12/2011
TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016
**TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW**
August 2016 - dx with DOR
Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T
May 2017 - began freezing sperm
June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T
July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba
July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
I currently know 2 women who are pregnant and found out the sex but are keeping it to themselves & their husbands... which weirdly annoys me more despite the fact that I really do not care about the sex of their baby. I think it just rubs me the wrong way because it's not a surprise to them and literally nobody else cares about whether it's a boy or a girl so whats the point of "surprising" everyone else after the child's birth?
But the "reveals" where the parents already know take the cake for sure.
*edit* adding
Met 4/2010+Married 8/2014
TTC #1 August 2016. BFP 10/2016= DD Born 6.23.17
My husband and I didn't do all the cliche wedding things. We eloped and didn't even have a photographer so we don't even have wedding pictures except a couple of photos the lady who ran the bed and breakfast took and gave us. And sometimes I see these beautiful wedding photos other couples have and regret not having at least had wedding photos taken. I don't want to ever feel like I "missed out" on my one and only chance to "fully enjoy" my pregnancy with cheesy bump photos and a "is it a boy or girl?!" party for a couple of family members if people are interested in that type thing.
And like @mrsdaddario said, I think it's beautiful when people who struggled share that. It helps move infertility and loss away from being a taboo subject and makes it less isolating. So I'd really want to share some of my "journey" with people and discuss the struggles with infertility and loss.
TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016
Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
Baby #2 due June 12, 2018
@mrsdaddario I love that idea for a facebook pregnancy announcement. I've seen a couple people do similar things and it makes me feel so happy (rather than like I just got punched like I do when I see other announcements). I think it is great to share that publicly because hopefully it will help more people be more sensitive to infertility.
We don't plan to do any of the wedding stuff, either. Maybe because I'm such a late bloomer, I'm just a big old life event grinch. That might have to be my FFFC tomorrow!! I do love other people's weddings and, like I mentioned before, I like seeing baby announcements. I think I'm past the place in my life where I'm as into sharing stuff like that, and it's probably because I'm afraid of calling attention to my late-bloomer-ness.
I still am not into gender reveal parties, but then again, most of the people I know who have had them are honestly attention whores. It's a totally skewed sample...
I think I would have regrets if we didn't take pictures of our wedding and any baby bump, so I totally plan on doing that.
Beloved SS: born 12/2011
TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016
**TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW**
August 2016 - dx with DOR
Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T
May 2017 - began freezing sperm
June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T
July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba
July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017