My MIL just informed me that she'll be off the week of EDD for spring break--so she plans to be here ALL week to help with the baby now I want baby to come after my due date because the thought of my MIL being here all week sounds worse than going a week or more past due with this babe.
My mother thinks she will be taking off 2 weeks around the birth of our child to come live with us and "help us out". This will not be happening. I haven't found a non-insulting way to make this clear to her yet though... "I would rather cross my legs and hold the baby in until you leave" seems a little harsh. Her heart is totally in the right place and it's a very sweet gesture, but hell no!
@SienaC it's gonna be so great to rant here together when the time comes! Hopefully we can find ways to be honest about our desires without causing mama drama
@Gators&BoSox Sadly, I doubt we'll be seeing her for one second of her break if baby isn't here ...huge pet peeve! Offering a newborns mama "help" does not mean holding her new child while she goes and does all the chores!
Ugh. People don't just get to invite themselves to your house. That's not how this works.
My parents just moved away and I already know that my mom is going to take like a month to come out here (she doesn't work, so she has no reason to be home). She hasn't brought it up to me yet, but I know its coming.
On a different note, getting dressed in the morning is getting harder. I have belly bands and do the hair elastic trick, but my shirts are getting too tight or too short. I guess I need to go shopping, but I think I'm going to sort through my fall/winter clothes first.
On a different note, getting dressed in the morning is getting harder. I have belly bands and do the hair elastic trick, but my shirts are getting too tight or too short. I guess I need to go shopping, but I think I'm going to sort through my fall/winter clothes first.
Yes! I went through my fall/winter bin this week to start swapping out my summer clothes, and got sad with several of my favorite things I have to put straight back because I can't fit in them or just look silly in trying to wear all the non maternity things in my fall wardrobe that do fit before I loose the chance!!
On a different note, getting dressed in the morning is getting harder. I have belly bands and do the hair elastic trick, but my shirts are getting too tight or too short. I guess I need to go shopping, but I think I'm going to sort through my fall/winter clothes first.
Yes! I went through my fall/winter bin this week to start swapping out my summer clothes, and got sad with several of my favorite things I have to put straight back because I can't fit in them or just look silly in trying to wear all the non maternity things in my fall wardrobe that do fit before I loose the chance!!
I have some fall/winter things that are longer and looser, so I definitely need to start breaking them out. I know some things will go right back in the bin, but I'm sick of not being able to wear most of the stuff that's in my closet. I need to start packing things up so that I'm not just staring wistfully at them AND so that DH can legit see that I'm running out of clothes. He's not really giving me a hard time about wanting to buy things, I just don't think he quite gets how dire that need is.
On a different note, getting dressed in the morning is getting harder. I have belly bands and do the hair elastic trick, but my shirts are getting too tight or too short. I guess I need to go shopping, but I think I'm going to sort through my fall/winter clothes first.
Yes! I went through my fall/winter bin this week to start swapping out my summer clothes, and got sad with several of my favorite things I have to put straight back because I can't fit in them or just look silly in trying to wear all the non maternity things in my fall wardrobe that do fit before I loose the chance!!
I have some fall/winter things that are longer and looser, so I definitely need to start breaking them out. I know some things will go right back in the bin, but I'm sick of not being able to wear most of the stuff that's in my closet. I need to start packing things up so that I'm not just staring wistfully at them AND so that DH can legit see that I'm running out of clothes. He's not really giving me a hard time about wanting to buy things, I just don't think he quite gets how dire that need is.
That makes sense!! It definitely helps 100% to put the clothes away that don't fit as well and only keep the ones out that you feel good in and fit well. Once I did that with DD my mornings got so much better! No more feeling "fat and frumpy" or awkward about having to try on outfit after outfit. and yes! A good way to take stock of what you need too
today was the first day i wore pants to work since i started "expanding". i have been doing leggings/tunics and elastic waist skirts with swingy tops. today i decided to wear my "loose fit boyfriend jeans" and they are TIGHT! i had to do the elastic band trick and it just feels weird walking around the office with my pants unbuttoned. i'm keeping my light jacked on all day because i feel like people can tell.
@Gators&BoSox Sadly, I doubt we'll be seeing her for one second of her break if baby isn't here ...huge pet peeve! Offering a newborns mama "help" does not mean holding her new child while she goes and does all the chores!
Yes! This exactly. My MIL sat on her ass the whole time after my son was born. She literally said to me, "do you want me to hold the baby while you cook?" No, I don't! This is not how this is supposed to work! I was beyond annoyed.
@Gators&BoSox Sadly, I doubt we'll be seeing her for one second of her break if baby isn't here ...huge pet peeve! Offering a newborns mama "help" does not mean holding her new child while she goes and does all the chores!
Yes! This exactly. My MIL sat on her ass the whole time after my son was born. She literally said to me, "do you want me to hold the baby while you cook?" No, I don't! This is not how this is supposed to work! I was beyond annoyed.
My grandma came when baby was 3 weeks old and wanted to sight see every day. She was a grand total of zero helps and infinity frustrations.
Married DH 12/31/13 BFP#1 1/21/14 ended in loss DNC 3/5/14 BFP#2 7/2014 Baby Girl born 4/15/15 BFP#3 2/10/2016 natural mc 2/27/2016 BFP#4 6/25/2016 Due 3/2/2017
@Gators&BoSox Sadly, I doubt we'll be seeing her for one second of her break if baby isn't here ...huge pet peeve! Offering a newborns mama "help" does not mean holding her new child while she goes and does all the chores!
Yes! This exactly. My MIL sat on her ass the whole time after my son was born. She literally said to me, "do you want me to hold the baby while you cook?" No, I don't! This is not how this is supposed to work! I was beyond annoyed.
My grandma came when baby was 3 weeks old and wanted to sight see every day. She was a grand total of zero helps and infinity frustrations.
I don't see a weird dream thread this week, but I just had a dream that I was in a GOT type battle with Chris Hemsworth by my side & then after having a glorious victory (although he got injured & I had to take care of his wounded leg) we celebrated by eating Chinese food. I've never dreamt of a celebrity before or of engaging in war, but apparently I know how to shoot a bow & arrow really well lol also - I just downloaded that name app @kjd291 thanks for mentioning it!
@Gators&BoSox Sadly, I doubt we'll be seeing her for one second of her break if baby isn't here ...huge pet peeve! Offering a newborns mama "help" does not mean holding her new child while she goes and does all the chores!
Oh my goodness this!!!! My mil... and a family friend (who was kinda my mom role for a couple years) flew all the way out here. And both acted like they were doing something special but INSISTING they hold thr baby while I cook or something. WTH!?!?! I SO badly wanted to send them one of those - you're supposed to be catering to the new mom articles but instead I counted down the minutes until they left. More streSS than help big time!
After reading your guys's replies about moms and MILs, I will never complain about mine again! My mom stayed with me after DS was born and basically offered to do anything and everything. Cook, clean... we mostly watched TV. She's usually a baby hog but she only offered to hold if I needed to do something. Many hugs to you guys, hope you can find someone useful to help!
Alex married to M since 6.13.09 T - 3.3.14 A - 2.24.17
I just told H that I want him to hide my Doppler. I can always find the HB really fast, but panicked when I couldn't find it this morning. I wound up finding it several hours later (after not being able to focus on anything else). I'm relieved, but it made me realize why doctors frown on those things so hard-core. No more home doppling for me, for a while!
I ordered one, @minger86, and within 10 minutes cancelled my order because I knew I would be the exact same way. If I couldn't find it because of operator error, I knew I'd be freaking out.
@peony2418 good call on cancelling! H remembers how crazy it made me when I was pregnant with DD, so he hates the doppler. I'm starting to agree. It causes unnecessary stress... Not good for mama or baby.
So like... How worried should I be about not sleeping on my back during second/third trimester? I go to bed with full intentions of not lying on my back, but almost always end up waking up to find that at some point in the night I have flipped into my back which is funny because I NEVER slept that way before all of this pregnancy craziness.
So like... How worried should I be about not sleeping on my back during second/third trimester? I go to bed with full intentions of not lying on my back, but almost always end up waking up to find that at some point in the night I have flipped into my back which is funny because I NEVER slept that way before all of this pregnancy craziness.
I'm sort of in the camp that says if it's doing you harm it will feel uncomfortable. I'm 16+ weeks and sleep on my back and I slept on my back in third tri with DS at times (slightly propped with pillows at that point though).
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@JustanotherUserName16 My OB said if you could put pillows behind you to keep you from rolling on your back or something like a snoogle that will give you support. He also suggested your DH helping to put you back in position if he wakes up and finds you laying on your back.
So like... How worried should I be about not sleeping on my back during second/third trimester? I go to bed with full intentions of not lying on my back, but almost always end up waking up to find that at some point in the night I have flipped into my back which is funny because I NEVER slept that way before all of this pregnancy craziness.
When I was pregnant with DD, I would lay on my back until it got uncomfortable, or my sciatic nerve started hurting. You'll know. Same with laying on my belly - I'll do it until it feels uncomfortable or just not right.
I was just going to ask about sleeping on my belly. To me, that's always been my preferred position. I've noticed I've started propping up my leg more to relieve some of the pressure on my stomach. Side-sleeping is fine with me too. I'd be in trouble though if pregnant women had to sleep on their backs. I hate sleeping on my back, so it won't be a problem to avoid that!
I feel like our bodies will naturally adjust no? Like right now in our late first/second tri it is probably still comfortable enough for some of us to stay on your back (and maybe your stomach for a short period of time or depending on your bump size) but if it gets to be uncomfortable in the middle of the night I'm sure you will move on your own haha
married 10.10.14 @ Turks & Caicos yorkie mama to Oscar FTM EDD 3.12.17
@JustanotherUserName16 with DS I was told women can't sleep on their back because it causes problems with breathing (depending on positioning on baby) so she told me if I can breathe and I'm comfortable it's fine to sleep on back - which I did the whole pregnancy
Also @dubcompanion I slept on my belly for a LONG time for DS. I'd prop up a leg for belly room when needed as you mentioned - even brought a pillow into the mix for a while. I rolled from front to back around all night lol. I just remember getting to a point on night where I was like - newp. Belly was no longer comfortable.
"They" say side is best for blood flow but I had a hard time with side lying due to loosing feeling in my arms.
@vino831 I'll be looking into a Snoogle in the coming months. That seems like the only thing that'll prevent me from rolling on my belly - even after I know it's no longer comfortable!
I got my blood drawn on Tuesday and I swear it must have been the girl's first day. She picked a weird vein...I could have told her it was not a good choice, but whatever. Turns out I'm so glad she went with my left arm after all. I couldn't pick up my son all afternoon because my arm was so sore. I thought I had a blood clot or something. (don't worry, no pain or swell8my mow) I still have a nasty looking bruise!
I introduced my friend to the lion king... I immediately regretted choosing to do this-but what 28year old hasn't seen the lion king? Sad. Sooo: she spent the ENTIRE movie saying "oh wow, they stole that from StarWars", "he reminds me of that character from Star Wars" "that's just like StarWars" NO. NO JTS NOT. it's the friggin LION KING!!
I introduced my friend to the lion king... I immediately regretted choosing to do this-but what 28year old hasn't seen the lion king? Sad. Sooo: she spent the ENTIRE movie saying "oh wow, they stole that from StarWars", "he reminds me of that character from Star Wars" "that's just like StarWars" NO. NO JTS NOT. it's the friggin LION KING!!
The Lion King stole everything from Hamlet! Seriously though, as a 28 year old, I gasp. The Lion King (along with Star Wars, funny enough) is one of my top 3 most nostalgic/all-time favorites. Scar was perhaps the first in my very long (and continuing) line of love affairs with villains. I actually was listening to Be Prepared on Spotify just the other day!
March 2017 September Siggy Challenge: Favorite Fall Things
Anyone else do this ? I got the wrong pizza (I ordered beef taco pizza, salsa, sour cream, beef, lettuce, onion, tomato and cheddar cheese) they sent me just a regular pizza with beef and onions. Normally I'd just be OK with it. But tonight I cried. Like a child. My best friend called and explained that it was wrong, they apologized and are sending a new one. I've never felt this emotional about food before but the sadness was real lol. So please tell me I am not the only one who gets emotional about this stuff.
@pinnerk this happened to me last week at work. I put in an order for Mexican food via postmates for a wet burrito combo and when I opened it up to start eating it all there was was chips. I was so hungry and mad because I realized it like 10 minutes after they delivered it and completely defeated the purpose of me ordering food because I still had to leave to get food or put in another order and wait an hour for my food to be delivered.
@pinnerk this past Friday I really really wanted buffalo wild wings, so we all hopped in the car and started driving there. The alternator on my H's car went out during the drive, and I told him please just try to make it to BWW, then at least I'll be able to eat even if the car doesn't start. We didn't make it, and I cried because I couldn't get my food, I couldn't have cared less about the $700 car repair.
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Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
@Gators&BoSox Sadly, I doubt we'll be seeing her for one second of her break if baby isn't here ...huge pet peeve! Offering a newborns mama "help" does not mean holding her new child while she goes and does all the chores!
My parents just moved away and I already know that my mom is going to take like a month to come out here (she doesn't work, so she has no reason to be home). She hasn't brought it up to me yet, but I know its coming.
On a different note, getting dressed in the morning is getting harder. I have belly bands and do the hair elastic trick, but my shirts are getting too tight or too short. I guess I need to go shopping, but I think I'm going to sort through my fall/winter clothes first.
Samantha - 4/5/2017
Samantha - 4/5/2017
BFP#1 1/21/14 ended in loss DNC 3/5/14
BFP#2 7/2014 Baby Girl born 4/15/15
BFP#3 2/10/2016 natural mc 2/27/2016
BFP#4 6/25/2016 Due 3/2/2017
Married: 8/2005.
BFP: 6/22/2016 EDD: 3/4/2017.
married to M since 6.13.09
T - 3.3.14
A - 2.24.17
also - I just downloaded that name app @kjd291 thanks for mentioning it!
married to M since 6.13.09
T - 3.3.14
A - 2.24.17
Married: 8/2005.
BFP: 6/22/2016 EDD: 3/4/2017.
yorkie mama to Oscar
FTM EDD 3.12.17
Also @dubcompanion I slept on my belly for a LONG time for DS. I'd prop up a leg for belly room when needed as you mentioned - even brought a pillow into the mix for a while. I rolled from front to back around all night lol. I just remember getting to a point on night where I was like - newp. Belly was no longer comfortable.
"They" say side is best for blood flow but I had a hard time with side lying due to loosing feeling in my arms.
I introduced my friend to the lion king... I immediately regretted choosing to do this-but what 28year old hasn't seen the lion king? Sad. Sooo: she spent the ENTIRE movie saying "oh wow, they stole that from StarWars", "he reminds me of that character from Star Wars" "that's just like StarWars" NO. NO JTS NOT. it's the friggin LION KING!!
@nicklesb those are some sexy pillow legs!!!!!
Married: 8/2005.
BFP: 6/22/2016 EDD: 3/4/2017.
I got the wrong pizza (I ordered beef taco pizza, salsa, sour cream, beef, lettuce, onion, tomato and cheddar cheese) they sent me just a regular pizza with beef and onions.
Normally I'd just be OK with it.
But tonight I cried. Like a child. My best friend called and explained that it was wrong, they apologized and are sending a new one.
I've never felt this emotional about food before but the sadness was real lol.
So please tell me I am not the only one who gets emotional about this stuff.
I almost got tears in my eyes reading that !
Its honestly the little things.
I'm sorry you had a bad lunch.