omg @LauraPCOS do not speak of such unspeakable things!!!! LOL. Today at my check-up I"m going to ask my OB about getting my tubes tied! (Is it possible to do this same time as delivery even if vaginal? or do I have to wait?) Or else, DH is getting snipped.
What is a SURE bet though, is that those 3 nights sans baby, I shall be consuming all the wine during the day, afternoon, evening and night.
Don't be too impressed, everyone. I'm now back home and my back and feet are killing me. I was planning to let DH handle heating up DS's dinner when he got home. But, of course we walked in and DS said, "I want dinner NOW!" So...more standing and more work. Finally just sat at the table to Bump while he eats and guess what, his water isn't sufficient. He'd like juice. JUST LET ME SIT, KID!
Here's what the FTMs have to look forward to! Good thing he's the best thing to ever happen to me and stuff.
@annabenanna The ages won't be the same, but we traveled to the UK when DS was 5 months old and it was so pleasant! No, I'm not being sarcastic. lol. He actually slept 4.5 of the 8 hour flight, and he wasn't a good sleeper AT ALL. When he was hungry, I could just pop him on the boob, so that was super easy.
They did have a cot we reserved and it attached to the bulk head. That's where he slept. The one thing about it that could have been (but wasn't) SO annoying, is that if the fasten seatbelt light came on, we'd have to get him out and buckle him in with me (they had a seatbelt that attached to mine). I was all, "So, you're telling me if my infant is sound asleep on this transatlantic flight, I have to wake him and sit him up in my lap?!"
Shockingly (and beyond luckily) that never happened while he was asleep. But, man I would've been pissed. I would ask your airline if they have the infant cots. You can also google your airline and "infant travel" or something. I found a lot of info online, including tips to make the flight easier.
It was so much easier than the flight to the UK we did with him when he was 18 months.
@F47, yes!!!! We inquired with Japan Airlines and they do have infant cots.... BUT they won't let me reserve it until he's born!!! They're like "we have to have a birthdate and name please" and DH is like "we can invent the due date and give them the name we decided on. right?" we've tried to plead, lol. but they are making us wait.... so i just hope there aren't that many other infants on the flight so we can have our cot!
@annabenanna whoops, forgot she's british, so it's travelmadmum. haha
Side note: Our tenant got his email hacked this morning, and it was the most ridiculous email EVER. I was chuckling so hard because it must be pretty embarrassing. Looks like it went out to nearly his entire address book. Stuff like, "Want to see my luscious apple bottom?" I had to send him a heads up, but it was awkward.
@annabenanna I am already looking forward to all of those pictures to come! Totes jelly... and +1 for young babies being easy travel buddies. They mostly just sleep, which is awesome
@F47 I just LOVE it at dinner time when the table is set, we're all sitting down finally, I'm ready to eat, and then "Hey mom, can I have some ice?" "Hey mom, you forgot the napkins" "Hey mom, where is the salt?"
@SpaceBurger OMG that happened to my MySpace once back in the day- "Big Busted Blonde DTF" or something along those lines posted to the bulletins. It was obviously spam, afterall, anybody who knew me knew I didn't have any boobs... haha
We have tickets to a concert in Vegas for my H's birthday in February that I bought over a year ago & I'm trying to figure out what to do. Even if it works out with breastfeeding & a sitter & such, I'm not sure I will be mentally prepared to leave my LO for 4 days. My H totally doesn't get it & thinks I'm being ridiculous. I know guys don't get as attached as we do when baby is still in utero, but at what point does their paternal instinct kick in? Or does it just not for some guys I wonder? I'm kind of worried about this. He's already talking about plans for next year when we can "just leave her at grandma's". I'm just letting him talk for now because it's easier than trying g to argue at this point.
On a side note, I just went to the store to get ice cream & couldn't decide what I wanted so I got two different kinds. (Salted caramel & thin mints & cream!) Got home, scooped a hefty portion of one in a bowl & devoured it. Decided I needed to at least "try" the other one...and I stood at the kitchen counter with a spoon directly in the container & ate approximately a fourth of the carton while catching up on TB. Oops.
@annabenanna I feel like you could become some instagram fame person with that trip and your LO. Take lots of pics!
We will be planning to fly to the capital probably in feb/mar to go to the embassy (and the beach) to register LOs birth abroad/deal with passport stuff/hopefully get DH's passport but the flight is only just over an hour so I'm not too worried. NEVER doing that trip by bus again (13 hours!)
@Kaessi I'm with you on not wanting to leave the baby. I feel like everyone is always saying "oh you can leave him with me" "so and so will watch him" "we can keep an extra set for when he is at our house"... Um no! He is my baby and he will be at home with me where he belongs! My fiancé is a huge Star Wars fan so I've agreed to leave the baby for a few hours when the new movie comes out in December but I'm really not thrilled about that. And everyone tells me I will feel differently when the baby comes but I hardly ever leave our dog so I really don't think so.
@Kaessi@NicholeL16 I appreciate that people want to help, but I'm also tired of the constant offers/demands to keep the baby. It's my baby and maybe I want to stay home with him! I have a friend who is very insistent she's going to babysit in the first couple of weeks so we can go to eat dinner by ourselves. Uhh I'll let you know if that's what we want to do?!
Also, I have lost every bit of motivation I had left for working. I look at my inbox and sigh. And then continue to do other things like this. Four. More. Weeks.
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
@Kaessi@NicholeL16 Some people are totally cool with leaving their babies, but I never was. And I never really felt like I "needed a break" from them either. Some do, and that's fine, but it's not for everyone.
Argh, after thirteen hours of pretty regular contractions yesterday, labor just stalled. I've had a few inconsistent contractions every few hours, but nothing as regular as they were. So frustrating! I wasn't really ready for baby, but now I feel like I'm afraid to do anything because I could go into labor at any time.
My brother and SIL are the "we need a break" parents and consistently leave my niece with my mom for the weekend (drop her off Friday pick her up Sunday early evening). It boggles my mind because they started doing this when she was about 3 weeks old and hasn't stopped - with at least once a month weekend off. AND I heard she wants to start trying for a second.
But because my bro & SIL are like this, my mom is saying that she's going to have my son for the weekend and blah blah blah. There is only one night I can think of as a maybe and that's our baseball banquet, but even then I'm not sure (and it'll be one night not the whole weekend). The only thing I tell my mom is all bets are off if my little guy is colicky because then that's not helping anyone.
@von1976 I'm having the opposite problem, I feel like things are starting to pick up and I'm freaking out over here FI is at work, I'm home alone with LO speed-nesting, but my sister is going to come over in case I end up needing backup.
Re leaving the baby: Both my mom and MIL have gotten cribs and carseats and such for "when the baby is with them." I have tried to explain that considering the fact that I work full time and my commute to work is over 1 hour one way, I'm not going to have much time with her at all during the week so the weekend will be my time with the baby.
If I need and want help, then I will let you know and will ask. And while I appreciate them wanting to be so involved, I want to strangle them when they suggest that they'll be over all the time to help out. Uhm no, I'll lock my damn door.
So happy that @mkc3888 had a good delivery and posted in the announcements! It's fun to look at other BMB birth announcements but ours is soooo much more exciting.
@serenaxo84 I'm exactly the same way. I'm a working mom, so I'm extremely protective of my time with my kid. I will say that breastfeeding provided a convenient excuse for a while. We finally let DD have a sleepover with my parents when she was 3 and then I kind of wished that we had done it sooner. So there's that. . .
@AllyTheKid, omg keep us posted please! How are you feeling mama?
@kmolleltz, I would love to make money just traveling and instagramming. hahaha.
I feel like I could only leave baby with a few people I trust (my mom and sis being one of the few)---but on the other hand, I'm also all for having adult time sans baby and I know that means I have to be okay with leaving the baby with friends since our family is so far away.
I feel like I could only leave baby with a few people I trust (my mom and sis being one of the few)---but on the other hand, I'm also all for having adult time sans baby and I know that means I have to be okay with leaving the baby with friends since our family is so far away.
This is exactly how I feel. Thankfully, my parents live 10 minutes from us. Once she gets here, I might not need time away from her, but we plan on making it a priority. I know that having a baby will inevitably change our marriage, but we're going to do everything possible to not neglect it!
I just told my bosses that my last day of work is going to be October 7th unless I have to stop working before that. Due date is that following Monday and I don't see myself being more comfortable the closer I get. Still gets my maternity leave through the end of the year!
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
One month and counting for you @ibabyloveb87!! Wahooo!!
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
@kmolleltz - I feel the need to do that after exercising. There's so much pressure; it feels like she's just going to fall out! I told my doctor about it and she said it was normal
Reading all your posts, I feel like mine is an UO in that I'm okay letting people take care of the baby for a few hours so my DH and I can have date night or whatever. It may take me a few months for being comfortable with having him stay overnight with someone, but it would most likely be my mom or dad. That being said, he's not actually here yet, so I don't know how I will actually feel.
Good vibes to the ladies feeling contractions. FX babies stay put a little longer...unless you're ready for them!
When I was sent to L&D last week for monitoring the first thing that I thought about was if I have a September baby I'd have to back to work in December. Which absolutely cannot happen. So now I'm trying to figure out what I'd do, but really, I just hope we make it until October 2nd, so it gets up past our showers and my sister's wedding on the 1st.
Me: 31
DH: 32
Married: Sep 2012
TTC #1: Jan 2015 Baby A (via IUI due to MFI): Sep 2016 born at 35+6
Surprise but very welcome + on 5/16/2019, EDD 1/25/2020
Playing catch up here cause I slept in this morning. Stupid cramps kept me up all night.
I don't see myself as the type that would need breaks, but I'm also spoiled in that if I want a night out with DH, I can leave my baby with my son. My mom will have the baby while I work, so it's not like she'll be begging to get her time in, and DH will want him home so he can see him since he works so much. So I don't think I'll be the type to hand baby over to anyone, but I probably won't be that type that can't do that either. Idk if that makes sense. Lol
Re: leaving the baby. I'm a FTM, so I can't predict the future, but I see myself being okay with leaving the baby for date nights and things like that. My biggest question is not of readiness but more about logistics. For example, my dad is getting married about a month after my due date. I'm planning on leaving the baby with my aunt if possible to avoid the germ fest of people who will be trying to hold him but I'm also planning to breast feed. So I guess by around 3 weeks I'll need to be introducing a bottle/pumped breast milk so that at 4 weeks I can leave him for around 5-6 hours without worrying that he'll starve? And I imagine I'll still need to pump during that time to avoid leaking through my dress at this wedding. The theory of leaving him with a babysitter I'm fine with, the logistics are stressing me out.
I just was able to catch up after my dd was sick all weekend and then yesterday my SIL had her baby so my mom, sister and I drove to md to visit. A little on that; my mom has a truck (4 door) and it is a 2.5 hr drive to the hospital by my brother's. My older sister didn't offer to let me sit in the front so I was crammed in the back for the whole trip and then they decided to go shopping for 3 hours. Between the walking and cramped conditions, I was basically in tears by the time I got home. I really wanted to see my new nephew but ouch!
So onto catching up: fx for everyone feeling contractions
@annabenanna you have such a glamorous life over there! My dh and I are such homebodies, I couldn't even imagine trying to manage your life, but it sounds amazing!
On the topic of baby watching; I really do think it's personal- my sister went back to work quickly and she works 2 jobs so she is so 'used to' leaving her son, that she doesn't think twice about asking someone to watch him. I am the opposite- I'm a SAHM but I really only leave my dd on rare occasions and have only spent the night away from her twice (both on my and dh's wedding anniversary). But like I said above, my dh and I love being at home so we never felt the need and my sister can't be home for 20 mintutes without going stir crazy. My problem is the ASSUMPTION everyone has- which is what I gather from everyone's post, rubs them the wrong way too. Yes, you may have had kids and wanted the time away but that doesn't mean we (the collective) will feel that way.
I just don't know when people will get that every pregnancy, kid, baby, person is different!!!
I just ate 2 Milky Way bars... yes I said 2. Guess they cancel out the nice, healthy salad I had for lunch. The scale should be a good time tomorrow at my Dr appointment. I have no self control lately with sweets.
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
Re: Weekly Randoms 09.05.16
What is a SURE bet though, is that those 3 nights sans baby, I shall be consuming all the wine during the day, afternoon, evening and night.
Here's what the FTMs have to look forward to! Good thing he's the best thing to ever happen to me and stuff.
They did have a cot we reserved and it attached to the bulk head. That's where he slept. The one thing about it that could have been (but wasn't) SO annoying, is that if the fasten seatbelt light came on, we'd have to get him out and buckle him in with me (they had a seatbelt that attached to mine). I was all, "So, you're telling me if my infant is sound asleep on this transatlantic flight, I have to wake him and sit him up in my lap?!"
Shockingly (and beyond luckily) that never happened while he was asleep. But, man I would've been pissed. I would ask your airline if they have the infant cots. You can also google your airline and "infant travel" or something. I found a lot of info online, including tips to make the flight easier.
It was so much easier than the flight to the UK we did with him when he was 18 months.
Side note: Our tenant got his email hacked this morning, and it was the most ridiculous email EVER. I was chuckling so hard because it must be pretty embarrassing. Looks like it went out to nearly his entire address book. Stuff like, "Want to see my luscious apple bottom?" I had to send him a heads up, but it was awkward.
@F47 I just LOVE it at dinner time when the table is set, we're all sitting down finally, I'm ready to eat, and then "Hey mom, can I have some ice?" "Hey mom, you forgot the napkins" "Hey mom, where is the salt?"
@SpaceBurger OMG that happened to my MySpace once back in the day- "Big Busted Blonde DTF" or something along those lines posted to the bulletins. It was obviously spam, afterall, anybody who knew me knew I didn't have any boobs... haha
@annabenanna your trip sounds amazinggggg
On a side note, I just went to the store to get ice cream & couldn't decide what I wanted so I got two different kinds. (Salted caramel & thin mints & cream!) Got home, scooped a hefty portion of one in a bowl & devoured it. Decided I needed to at least "try" the other one...and I stood at the kitchen counter with a spoon directly in the container & ate approximately a fourth of the carton while catching up on TB. Oops.
@annabenanna I feel like you could become some instagram fame person with that trip and your LO. Take lots of pics!
We will be planning to fly to the capital probably in feb/mar to go to the embassy (and the beach) to register LOs birth abroad/deal with passport stuff/hopefully get DH's passport but the flight is only just over an hour so I'm not too worried. NEVER doing that trip by bus again (13 hours!)
Also, I have lost every bit of motivation I had left for working. I look at my inbox and sigh. And then continue to do other things like this. Four. More. Weeks.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
But because my bro & SIL are like this, my mom is saying that she's going to have my son for the weekend and blah blah blah. There is only one night I can think of as a maybe and that's our baseball banquet, but even then I'm not sure (and it'll be one night not the whole weekend). The only thing I tell my mom is all bets are off if my little guy is colicky because then that's not helping anyone.
If I need and want help, then I will let you know and will ask. And while I appreciate them wanting to be so involved, I want to strangle them when they suggest that they'll be over all the time to help out. Uhm no, I'll lock my damn door.
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
@AllyTheKid Good luck to you, however it works out! Just take care of yourself and try to relax as much as possible.
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
@kmolleltz, I would love to make money just traveling and instagramming. hahaha.
I feel like I could only leave baby with a few people I trust (my mom and sis being one of the few)---but on the other hand, I'm also all for having adult time sans baby and I know that means I have to be okay with leaving the baby with friends since our family is so far away.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
Not sure how much longer I can keep taking a motorcycle, hahaha.
Good vibes to the ladies feeling contractions. FX babies stay put a little longer...unless you're ready for them!
When I was sent to L&D last week for monitoring the first thing that I thought about was if I have a September baby I'd have to back to work in December. Which absolutely cannot happen. So now I'm trying to figure out what I'd do, but really, I just hope we make it until October 2nd, so it gets up past our showers and my sister's wedding on the 1st.
Baby A (via IUI due to MFI): Sep 2016 born at 35+6
I don't see myself as the type that would need breaks, but I'm also spoiled in that if I want a night out with DH, I can leave my baby with my son. My mom will have the baby while I work, so it's not like she'll be begging to get her time in, and DH will want him home so he can see him since he works so much. So I don't think I'll be the type to hand baby over to anyone, but I probably won't be that type that can't do that either. Idk if that makes sense. Lol
So onto catching up:
fx for everyone feeling contractions
@annabenanna you have such a glamorous life over there! My dh and I are such homebodies, I couldn't even imagine trying to manage your life, but it sounds amazing!
On the topic of baby watching; I really do think it's personal- my sister went back to work quickly and she works 2 jobs so she is so 'used to' leaving her son, that she doesn't think twice about asking someone to watch him. I am the opposite- I'm a SAHM but I really only leave my dd on rare occasions and have only spent the night away from her twice (both on my and dh's wedding anniversary). But like I said above, my dh and I love being at home so we never felt the need and my sister can't be home for 20 mintutes without going stir crazy. My problem is the ASSUMPTION everyone has- which is what I gather from everyone's post, rubs them the wrong way too. Yes, you may have had kids and wanted the time away but that doesn't mean we (the collective) will feel that way.
I just don't know when people will get that every pregnancy, kid, baby, person is different!!!
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
@sportiegrl1213 I'm in line at Wendy's for a frosty. Don't feel bad ha
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!