Geez, the worst I've gotten is "oh, your belly is really small for how far along you are". Which I guess is sort of a compliment? I feel huge, so it sounds nice to me!
My mother didn't exactly tell me to hold the baby in, but I know she's praying we deliver after she has the repeat CT scan of her lungs. They found a growth and they're not sure what it is. It doesn't look like cancer, but they're concerned it might be infectious and don't want her around the baby even though she's not showing any symptoms.
The only person that told me to wait is my friend, she's throwing me a baby shower on the 18th of Sept (not due until the 10th of Oct, but you never know!) so I told her I'd cross my legs lol.
@LauraPCOS Nothing doing with me. My contractions petered out after 13 hours or so. Hugely disappointing, but I guess it's better for baby to cook for a bit more.
And I just realized you meant MY mom, not me as mom. LOL. My mom is fine. It could be anything, but the doctor isn't that concerned, so neither am I. If they were really concerned, they would have scheduled her immediately for a bronchoscopy or a biopsy instead of a repeat CT.
Agreed @von1976, happy that you can cook a bit longer! And I also don't like the comment about looking small, I feel like it's a veiled "what's wrong with your tiny baby?". But, people always think it's ok to say because it's a compliment!
@Schell2013 That's a productive hour! I'm on the shower and food train. And maybe just sit in the nursery and try to take it all in. (Well, as much as I can when DS would be climbing all over me).
@Schell2013 Ooo good question! I'd have to scoop the litter box and make sure they have extra food and water and the dog's bag is ready to go. Then I'd grab a shower, shave my legs, do a bit of maintenance if I could. I'd grab the car seat and any thing we felt couldn't get packed (like my pillow). If I had time and wasn't completely freaked out, I'd want to do the dishes, but who are we kidding I can't be bothered to do them now lol
Lol I think the main reason I would vacuum is cause 1. Dirty floor makes me crazy. 2. If I had a c section it would be a month before I could again. And nobody wants stinky dishes!
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This made me think of you @MRSCORKER eta- the funny thing about this is that I blocked all posts from the H of my friend that posted this bc I was tired of seeing his ignorant Trump posts clogging up my news feed hahaha
@schell2013 - with DS I showered & shaved. Now that I have DS to think about, it would be calling the in-laws & waiting the 1-2 hours for them to get here to watch him. However if I'm GBS+ again I would probably have to go in asap, so I would just pack a bag and go while my H waited with DS for his parents.
But if I did have a little time, I'd probably still shower/shave, run the dishwasher, take out the trash, and put new sheets on our bed for the in-laws (since our new room still isn't done yet).
ETA: due 10/1 and still don't have that carseat....oops
@NoraAurora I have mine, but it's been 2 years since I've installed it! I should really get on it since I have never carried a baby to my due date, the likely hood of me having my baby early again is quite high!
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@serenaxo84 Thanks for the reassurance! I know it will work out eventually, just dealing with that initial "don't want anyone to have what's supposed to be mine" feeling - super childish, but can't help it!! We spend so much time growing this little one and have such a unique one on one connection it's hard to think we have to share them soon! I very much want my mom to have such a special relationship with her grandchild, like I did with my grandmother...but I still want to be baby's #1! And, you're right, being that it's my mom we can more easily talk about things if/when they become an issue.
We did a L&D tour last night and saw so many tiny peanuts! Our hospital encourages rooming in but they still have a nursery and will take the baby for a few hours by request. Our tour was at the end of our child birth class so it was 9:30 at night so we lucked out and got to see 4 or 5 LOs in the nursery. There was a set of twin girls that were about 5 lbs each and they were so tiny and so sweet. It's crazy to think that this baby is about that size! H got all teary eyed, it was really cute. Part of me wishes I could fast forward a few weeks so I can hold my squishy and the other part is like SLOW DOWN TIME I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
Had a big group hangout with some friends last night, and there were two babies there. One born in July, the other in August, both girls. But daaaaaaaang they were so different looking! The 7-week old looked HUGE in comparison to the 3 week-old! Everyone was so shocked to see how much growth happens so soon! It was crazy!
Husband still didn't want to hold either of the babies though, poor guy. He kept going over to them and tickling their feet and getting them to grab his pinky with their tiny fingers, but was against holding them. He just kept saying "I'll wait until it's our baby." I think he's afraid they'll start crying the second he gets them and then he won't know what to do.
@serenaxo84 Thanks for the reassurance! I know it will work out eventually, just dealing with that initial "don't want anyone to have what's supposed to be mine" feeling - super childish, but can't help it!! We spend so much time growing this little one and have such a unique one on one connection it's hard to think we have to share them soon! I very much want my mom to have such a special relationship with her grandchild, like I did with my grandmother...but I still want to be baby's #1! And, you're right, being that it's my mom we can more easily talk about things if/when they become an issue.
100% get this. My LO has a real attachment to my MIL and it really bothered me at first- no real reason why I love my MIL- She is seriously amazing. But I just felt like second best whenever she was around! Total emotional response! Sometimes I still get bothered but I know I am always DS #1. I think it's great that you're already thinking about this and coming to terms with having those feelings- it won't be a shock!
Also Beetle Juicing @AllyTheKid - has anyone heard from her?
I'm really late to the game on catching up. But, I fortunately haven't had anything but nice comments from strangers. A few men have been like "you're getting close!" but I was fine with that. Others have just said how great I look. My annoyance is with women, I am acquainted with, who should know better to say anything other than a true compliment. My admin saw me for the first time in a couple of weeks and was like "are you sure there aren't twins in there?!" while a fellow co-worked had just said how good I looked. So like WTF?
Me: 31
DH: 32
Married: Sep 2012
TTC #1: Jan 2015 Baby A (via IUI due to MFI): Sep 2016 born at 35+6
Surprise but very welcome + on 5/16/2019, EDD 1/25/2020
Husband still didn't want to hold either of the babies though, poor guy. He kept going over to them and tickling their feet and getting them to grab his pinky with their tiny fingers, but was against holding them. He just kept saying "I'll wait until it's our baby." I think he's afraid they'll start crying the second he gets them and then he won't know what to do.
This is me. I don't like holding babies, at all! I'm afraid I'll hold them wrong, or drop them, that they'll spittle/pee/poop on me, and of them crying. I'm hoping it'll be different when it's my own baby
Husband still didn't want to hold either of the babies though, poor guy. He kept going over to them and tickling their feet and getting them to grab his pinky with their tiny fingers, but was against holding them. He just kept saying "I'll wait until it's our baby." I think he's afraid they'll start crying the second he gets them and then he won't know what to do.
This is me. I don't like holding babies, at all! I'm afraid I'll hold them wrong, or drop them, that they'll spittle/pee/poop on me, and of them crying. I'm hoping it'll be different when it's my own baby
+1 to this! I love other people's kids at the toddler age, but prior to that...have never really had any interest. And I find wherever I go now where there are babies, people feel the need to come hand them to me because they think I want to hold them to "practice". How do you say, "Nah I'd rather not?!"
@F47 I used to take work home, but then I asked if I could have VPN
access to our network so I didn't have to take everything home on a
flash drive (our field service engineers have access, and I know some
other employees do too) but I was denied, so I stopped taking work home.
If you want me to catch up, you can help me. Otherwise I'll do my best
to get it done between the hours of 8am and 4:45pm and they can deal
with it if it isn't done.
And I am totally on the
I-can't-concentrate train. My boss is on a sales trip out of the
country, has been most of this week and will be most of next week, and
I'm pretty sure my motivation left the country with him. I have a few
more things I HAVE to do before I leave (mostly just teaching the other
admins some of the things I do) and that's as far as I think I can get
lol. The rest of this can wait.
@CopperBoom86 Ha! What a
weirdo! Why do people feel the need to say this stuff? And why am I
continually surprised that they do? lol
@Schell2013 Shower and
eat!! I'm pretty sure the hospital won't let me eat "just in case" so
I'm going in with a full freaking stomach lol and as clean and smelling
good as I can be, because who knows when I'll be that clean and smelling
good again lol. And finish packing as much as I could, grab the car
seat, call the doula/DH/my mom/anybody else that needs told, and get DD
somewhere, preferably with my mom (the plan is to have her with my mom,
but who knows if my mom will be in a meeting or something...). I have a
very ambitious hour lol. I guess my priority would be eat and shower,
and DD. The rest, DH and my doula could handle if I needed them to.
Countdown to Baby H! Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
@bamacoop my husband is the same way, if I baby can't hold it's head he won't hold them cause he's afraid of breaking them. As soon as they can hold their head, then he's all for it, and the older the get the more involved he gets cause he loves chasing and playing with them. Funny me - gimme the baby that is tiny doesn't do anything, the kid that's running around like a crazy kid, I'm all meh!
+1 to this! I love other people's kids at the toddler age, but prior to that...have never really had any interest. And I find wherever I go now where there are babies, people feel the need to come hand them to me because they think I want to hold them to "practice". How do you say, "Nah I'd rather not?!"
YES! I've experienced this countless times! And I always tell them no lol. I ain't scurred!
@MorganL925 there is another thread that is poking @AllyTheKid but I can't remember which one. She mentioned feeling like her kid was coming and then disappeared so we think she is having (had) her baby and now we're just waiting on the announcement. I had a dream about her going home with her baby last night so when I was up at 5am for a pee I checked to see if there was an announcement lol
@CopperBoom86 LOL I was thinking "This is why TB should give notifications on mobile - we might not have her number but we can still blow up her phone!"
Ugh, DD just went home sick from school. She's had a sore throat for a week, went to the doc yesterday. Doc said just ibuprofen and salt water gargle. Today she has a fever. It was grandparents day so my mom was there and took her home to DH, who also is feeling under the weather. Good thing I have a few "new" movies stashed away for such a day of laying around feeling like crap... =(
Countdown to Baby H! Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Turns out it was a good thing no one took the baby last night (my friend said, "If anyone wants to volunteer to take her......" but no one did). About 10 minutes after that comment, Baby peed all over her mom's leg. So I looked at H and was like "Ah. Good call, sir."
I'm kind of the same way, and I mentioned that to the group to everyone's enjoyment because I couldn't get my words out and was all "It's scary to hold someone else's baby, because what if I drop it or something? At least if it's my own kid, then I've just dropped my own kid and not someone else's. But... but I mean... I don't want to drop my kid either. I mean, I'm not going to drop anyone's kid, just that... you know... at least I can only be mad at myself if I drop my own kid.... but you know.... I mean.... ugh, whatever."
I also don't like people assuming I want to see a baby/hold a baby/be alerted to the presence of a baby because I'm pregnant. Like, dude, I'm excited about my baby, but let's be honest... I don't really care about yours, work acquaintance. I know that sounds bad, but come on. Just because I'm pregnant doesn't automatically mean I love all babies everywhere and need to stop what I'm doing to go find them and play with them. I like my nephew and my kids' babies because I'm actually close with my family and my friends. But other babies are just meh. (I mean... if I see one that's cool and all.... but don't try to get me to hold it or literally call me to say "someone in the building brought their baby to work today! you should go see him!")
I'm not afraid to hold babies, like at all... but I just think they're kind of boring until they start doing things like laughing at you and sitting up. Once they do that... give me all the babies.
I love holding a baby but then I get awkward thinking the mom is judging me that I'm doing something the "wrong way". I can't wait Til I can just hold my own baby!
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
I want to hold ALL of the babies! I don't judge people for not wanting to hold my baby though. We had dinner with DH's boss and his boss told me that he would not be holding our baby because tiny babies make him uncomfortable. I told him that was just fine, if he's uncomfortable holding babies, I definitely don't want him to hold my newborn.
I'm not afraid to hold babies, like at all... but I just think they're kind of boring until they start doing things like laughing at you and sitting up. Once they do that... give me all the babies.
I don't have much experience with holding babies, so when my friend's fiance had theirs last year and handed her over to me I was terrified. Then she started doing things and make noises and I was in love. And then she farted on me and for some reason I thought it was the cutest thing ever. I'm going to be one of those moms... "OMG SHE FARTED! ISN'T THAT AMAZING?!"
If there is a baby around and the momma offers, I'm holding it! I won't generally ask though. I don't want a new momma to feel uncomfortable or pressured. If it's not offered to me I just admire from a distance.
Basically all of my neighbors have been having babies and its customary to go greet them a few days after and bring some kind of gift and they always immediately hand me their baby and talk about me practicing because mine is next...
All of them know I work with babies/toddlers and am constantly around them. Apparently not practice enough? hah
I am worried though about how many people I'll be expected to hand my baby to...
*American lady living in Tanzania, East Africa, since 2013
DH - Tanzanian
BFP #1 - MC Dec 2, 2015 (@ 9weeks) BFP #2 - Feb 2, 2016 --EDD 10/10/16 --Abigail- October 6, 2016. Heart warrior- OHS at 7 months old October 2017- Began fostering to adopt T, (DOB: November 19, 2013) March 2021 - Bonus daughter, N, moved in with us (DOB: June 6, 2014) BFP #3 - April 25, 2024 -- EDD January 2, 2025
I have another random. I think all pregnant mamas, 36 weeks or more, should get complimentary handicapped stickers for the final few weeks. I just went to the grocery store and was so disappointed they didn't have expectant mother parking (though not surprised they didn't; I get spoiled because BRU does and so does our mall, and doc's offices).
Countdown to Baby H! Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
I have another random. I think all pregnant mamas, 36 weeks or more, should get complimentary handicapped stickers for the final few weeks. I just went to the grocery store and was so disappointed they didn't have expectant mother parking (though not surprised they didn't; I get spoiled because BRU does and so does our mall, and doc's offices).
+1,000,000,000! NOWHERE down here has expectant mother parking except for BRU.
I have another random. I think all pregnant mamas, 36 weeks or more, should get complimentary handicapped stickers for the final few weeks. I just went to the grocery store and was so disappointed they didn't have expectant mother parking (though not surprised they didn't; I get spoiled because BRU does and so does our mall, and doc's offices).
Yes! Our grocery store has Mother with Children parking. I mean technically I have my child with me....does that count??
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Re: Weekly Randoms 09.05.16
My mother didn't exactly tell me to hold the baby in, but I know she's praying we deliver after she has the repeat CT scan of her lungs. They found a growth and they're not sure what it is. It doesn't look like cancer, but they're concerned it might be infectious and don't want her around the baby even though she's not showing any symptoms.
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
@von1976 FX all is well with mom!
@LauraPCOS Nothing doing with me. My contractions petered out after 13 hours or so. Hugely disappointing, but I guess it's better for baby to cook for a bit more.
And I just realized you meant MY mom, not me as mom. LOL. My mom is fine. It could be anything, but the doctor isn't that concerned, so neither am I. If they were really concerned, they would have scheduled her immediately for a bronchoscopy or a biopsy instead of a repeat CT.
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
If my water broke and I had one last hour at home what would you do?
Me- I would vacuum, install the car seat, clean the kitchen up, run the dishwasher and call my mom to get the kids and my husband home from work!
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
And nobody wants stinky dishes!
eta- the funny thing about this is that I blocked all posts from the H of my friend that posted this bc I was tired of seeing his ignorant Trump posts clogging up my news feed hahaha
But if I did have a little time, I'd probably still shower/shave, run the dishwasher, take out the trash, and put new sheets on our bed for the in-laws (since our new room still isn't done yet).
ETA: due 10/1 and still don't have that carseat....oops
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Had a big group hangout with some friends last night, and there were two babies there. One born in July, the other in August, both girls. But daaaaaaaang they were so different looking! The 7-week old looked HUGE in comparison to the 3 week-old! Everyone was so shocked to see how much growth happens so soon! It was crazy!
Husband still didn't want to hold either of the babies though, poor guy. He kept going over to them and tickling their feet and getting them to grab his pinky with their tiny fingers, but was against holding them. He just kept saying "I'll wait until it's our baby." I think he's afraid they'll start crying the second he gets them and then he won't know what to do.
I'm really late to the game on catching up. But, I fortunately haven't had anything but nice comments from strangers. A few men have been like "you're getting close!" but I was fine with that. Others have just said how great I look. My annoyance is with women, I am acquainted with, who should know better to say anything other than a true compliment. My admin saw me for the first time in a couple of weeks and was like "are you sure there aren't twins in there?!" while a fellow co-worked had just said how good I looked. So like WTF?
Baby A (via IUI due to MFI): Sep 2016 born at 35+6
And I am totally on the I-can't-concentrate train. My boss is on a sales trip out of the country, has been most of this week and will be most of next week, and I'm pretty sure my motivation left the country with him. I have a few more things I HAVE to do before I leave (mostly just teaching the other admins some of the things I do) and that's as far as I think I can get lol. The rest of this can wait.
@CopperBoom86 Ha! What a weirdo! Why do people feel the need to say this stuff? And why am I continually surprised that they do? lol
@Schell2013 Shower and eat!! I'm pretty sure the hospital won't let me eat "just in case" so I'm going in with a full freaking stomach lol and as clean and smelling good as I can be, because who knows when I'll be that clean and smelling good again lol. And finish packing as much as I could, grab the car seat, call the doula/DH/my mom/anybody else that needs told, and get DD somewhere, preferably with my mom (the plan is to have her with my mom, but who knows if my mom will be in a meeting or something...). I have a very ambitious hour lol. I guess my priority would be eat and shower, and DD. The rest, DH and my doula could handle if I needed them to.
Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Team Blue!
Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Team Blue!
Yes on the baby holding!
Turns out it was a good thing no one took the baby last night (my friend said, "If anyone wants to volunteer to take her......" but no one did). About 10 minutes after that comment, Baby peed all over her mom's leg. So I looked at H and was like "Ah. Good call, sir."
I'm kind of the same way, and I mentioned that to the group to everyone's enjoyment because I couldn't get my words out and was all "It's scary to hold someone else's baby, because what if I drop it or something? At least if it's my own kid, then I've just dropped my own kid and not someone else's. But... but I mean... I don't want to drop my kid either. I mean, I'm not going to drop anyone's kid, just that... you know... at least I can only be mad at myself if I drop my own kid.... but you know.... I mean.... ugh, whatever."
I also don't like people assuming I want to see a baby/hold a baby/be alerted to the presence of a baby because I'm pregnant. Like, dude, I'm excited about my baby, but let's be honest... I don't really care about yours, work acquaintance. I know that sounds bad, but come on. Just because I'm pregnant doesn't automatically mean I love all babies everywhere and need to stop what I'm doing to go find them and play with them. I like my nephew and my kids' babies because I'm actually close with my family and my friends. But other babies are just meh. (I mean... if I see one that's cool and all.... but don't try to get me to hold it or literally call me to say "someone in the building brought their baby to work today! you should go see him!")
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
All of them know I work with babies/toddlers and am constantly around them. Apparently not practice enough? hah
I am worried though about how many people I'll be expected to hand my baby to...
BFP #2 - Feb 2, 2016 --EDD 10/10/16 --Abigail- October 6, 2016. Heart warrior- OHS at 7 months old
October 2017- Began fostering to adopt T, (DOB: November 19, 2013)
March 2021 - Bonus daughter, N, moved in with us (DOB: June 6, 2014)
BFP #3 - April 25, 2024 -- EDD January 2, 2025
Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Team Blue!
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020