Thank you guys so much for your words of support and for letting me vent to you. You have no idea how much better it made me feel about the whole thing and I really needed that. I really never would have seen that one coming, that was the nail in the coffin for me with my family right now. When H and I talked about it he was beyond pissed as was expected, but I did try to remind him that the last thing we need right now is for him to go apeshit on my cousin. We need to stay far far away from this cousin and family in general right now though if not permanently. I forgot to tell you guys I actually had a few relatives even specifically ask me not to tell my H!
I'm really upset it's come down to this because it's already been almost 2 years since I've spoken to my dad and H's side of the family just sucks at life and we have pretty much nothing to do with them either. But I know nothing is worth risking our safety and well being over it. So I'm done. That was the last straw for me.
Other relatives said that cousin tried to play it off like he couldnt remember a damn thing from the night prior. Very possibly true but how conveinient. I do think he has a drinking problem as do many in my family. There's all kinds of alcoholism, addictions and substance abuse at play so they don't really try to make it seem like I should support him because of that (even though they do all love to lay on the guilt trips) it's more just like being that way is a way of a life, they really think it's normal. Then when someone does end up getting to the point where my cousin was, they're embarrassed and annoyed by it and just want to get rid of them ASAP so they can all carry on with their good time. Classic. That's essentially what happened, but that's it for me after that. I'm done. They all (especially that cousin) have stooped to a new low and I'm all set.
Thank you all again for being so kind to me about it. I just reread what all of you wrote over and over and let it really sink in and also to comfort me. I appreciate the time and effort you guys put in to responding to me. You have no idea the difference it made to my state of mind.
@Jab3 love the update! I'm so glad you and your H were able to talk it out and he didn't get too pissed. I understand cutting out family, I've been there.
@jab3 I'm so glad you told your husband and that he didn't kill anybody! I'm so sorry that you can't even be close to your husbands side of the family either. That's really tough. But you have to do what's best for you. Stay strong!
@Jab3 im so sorry you had to go through that! you definitely made the right decision to tell your husband & his reaction & support just proves that! Cutting out family is hard but ultimately you need to do whats right for your family & your cousin (& possibly other family members) are not people that you would want around your baby.
@Jab3 thanks for keeping us updated! it sounds like you and H are united and that is awesome. I hate when people use the excuse "I was drunk" or "I don't remember that (because I was drunk." it doesn't matter. you are responsible for your actions no matter how you feel or how inebriated you are. Cousin and your family owe you an apology immediately
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I'm really upset it's come down to this because it's already been almost 2 years since I've spoken to my dad and H's side of the family just sucks at life and we have pretty much nothing to do with them either. But I know nothing is worth risking our safety and well being over it. So I'm done. That was the last straw for me.
Other relatives said that cousin tried to play it off like he couldnt remember a damn thing from the night prior. Very possibly true but how conveinient. I do think he has a drinking problem as do many in my family. There's all kinds of alcoholism, addictions and substance abuse at play so they don't really try to make it seem like I should support him because of that (even though they do all love to lay on the guilt trips) it's more just like being that way is a way of a life, they really think it's normal. Then when someone does end up getting to the point where my cousin was, they're embarrassed and annoyed by it and just want to get rid of them ASAP so they can all carry on with their good time. Classic. That's essentially what happened, but that's it for me after that. I'm done. They all (especially that cousin) have stooped to a new low and I'm all set.
Thank you all again for being so kind to me about it. I just reread what all of you wrote over and over and let it really sink in and also to comfort me. I appreciate the time and effort you guys put in to responding to me. You have no idea the difference it made to my state of mind.
Cutting out family is hard but ultimately you need to do whats right for your family & your cousin (& possibly other family members) are not people that you would want around your baby.