Ok so I normally don't bother with other boards because we post so much that I try to keep up with, but I legitamately don't understand how people can't figure out the organization of these boards! I came in very late to the game, but they make you wait before you can post anything, so in those 3 (?) days of reading the intro and read this first and opening other threads, I pretty much understood the rules. Benefit of playing by the rules: I never once felt I wasn't welcome because I came in late and I very much enjoy checking into our threads everyday.
So as some said during the next baby discussion we just had, idk if I'll be back to the bump when I'm pregnant again. I don't think it will be the same!!
@ashleyp625 hahaha and you can talk about it here because you know they'll never look! Heck, you could even talk about it in the PLEASE READ FIRST thread, and they still wouldn't see it
@ashleyp625 hahaha and you can talk about it here because you know they'll never look! Heck, you could even talk about it in the PLEASE READ FIRST thread, and they still wouldn't see it
I know, right?! because that's totally who I will want to share the deepest, darkest details of labor with in those uncomfortable moments- someone who has literally never said two words to me, or literally anyone else here! Weird.
Since we have several mamas delivering in the next few weeks (!), I was wondering- how do labor updates work? Do we put them in randoms? Make one really huge thread? Start a new thread for each person (that would get crazy, fast)? Just wondering... (Can't believe we're at that point now!)
Since we have several mamas delivering in the next few weeks (!), I was wondering- how do labor updates work? Do we put them in randoms? Make one really huge thread? Start a new thread for each person (that would get crazy, fast)? Just wondering... (Can't believe we're at that point now!)
People talking about new BMBs with subsequent pregnancies: this is my second BMB (August 13 being DS's). Honestly, 4-6 months after babes were born the board really thinned out and a lot of people left. By that point, many of us had made strong friendships outside of the board and the board itself lost it's appeal. I logged back in to TB after finding out I was pregnant with this one because everyone from my previous board is now in different stages in their life and I wanted to connect with people who are in the same stage as me right now. That is what my need is and this board right now fulfills it.
This is our first, DH jokes about wanting 6 or 7 kids (large families are the norm here) but I think we have settled on our little guy we are working to adopt, plus three (this one and later 2). We don't want them super spaced out but I think we've decided to wait to try again til this one is 18 months. Though our goal is to make a trip to the States sometime in the next 2 years as well so I don't really want to be uncomfortably pregnant for that. We'll have to see how things work out.
@bnsmith85 that made me laugh out loud. A tarp? hahaha Cuddling, you remember that? ha@bnsmith06
@Schell2013 my best friend here has two girls who are just like 15 months apart and it worked out for them that they are the best of friends.(they're currently 6 and 8) She feels super lucky because they don't have many friends here in TZ (and/or people are always leaving) so the fact that the girls get along so well is really a lifesaver. haha.
I get a good maternity leave from work but in order to qualify for it again I need to work exactly two years from my return to work date (likely early March 2017) before I can go out again. So if I had my way, I'd like to have another baby April 2019. Since I dealt with infertility I'm hesitant to wait too long to try again but I'm also glad for a break from pregnancy for 2.5 years haha. We'll see what the future holds!
Also @mizzkbrat you are amazing for volunteering to do that for your friend! Surrogacy is an amazing gift to someone else and idk that I'd be selfless enough to do it.
I'm lucky enough to have had an "easy" pregnancy (knock on wood). I've watched her struggle through two failed IVFs and countless other fertility treatments and methods. They have since adopted and that little guy has stolen all of our hearts, but I know she wants nothing more than a baby of her own. I wish i could have done it for them 5 years ago, but I knew I couldn't do it with my first pregnancy. It's a no brainier for me to want and be able to do this for them.
This is our first (we're both 29), I really want three kids but DH only wants two. It's not so much that he doesn't want three, he's just an accountant who is very financially conservative and worries about how we'd pay for three. But I'm not giving up on my dream yet! Who knows how we'll both feel after one and then two. I'd love to have kids who are about two years apart in age, I think that's about right. Both DH and I were about three years apart from our siblings and felt like we had nothing in common. We haven't really talked about birth control after baby yet, I'd love to just stick with NFP (and condoms when necessary). I have no desire to be one hormonal BCP again.
No more for us! Trying for the twins was taxing emotionally, physically and financially. I basically haven't been myself since last July when we first started trying and to top it off, this pregnancy resulted in two babies so it's been pretty unpleasant *most* of the time. I absolutely could not do it again. If I knew we would only get pregnant with one baby, and we could get a boy, I may would - but that's not feasible so I'll say we are two and through!
@AllyTheKid I've never really been that into pizza rolls, but a couple years ago they had them one night for the youth group I helped with, and I was all "Where have you been all my life?!?!"
I got H to try them a few months ago. He was not "too keen" (as he likes to say) about them, so every time we go to the store and I ask if we can get some he says he wouldn't want them if I made them for dinner. So then what's the point. Ugh. Men.
But that picture reeeeeeeally has me craving some now!
On that same note, I think a lot about what we're going to eat as a family when Baby gets here and can start eating. Part of me is all "I want a kid who will love fruits and veggies, so we're going to make sure to eat better as a family!" and then the other part of me is like "yeah, but pizza and cheese puffs and Coke and Almond Joys and chicken fingers and onion rings and milkshakes and Oreos and, and, and!!!!!"
@bamacoop I am not a pizza fan, but there is just SOMETHING about pizza rolls that is a complete game changer for me! And Pfft, get them for yourself, those are anytime foodz!
@bamacoop We have one weekend night that is a free-for-all. Either Friday or Saturday night. Cereal for dinner? Go for it. Pizza and Dorito sandwich? Coming right up. Ramen Noodles and cheese slices? You got it. I run a tight ship meal wise throughout the week, but I DO make room for junk. Let's face it, we all want it sometimes. I think letting them have it once a week helps keep them from wanting it all the time.
@AllyTheKid Wait,wait,wait.....you're "not a pizza fan"?????
My late-coming to pizza rolls was probably because I grew up eating Bagel Bites. We also saw these at the store one day and H has never had them, or heard of them. Sometimes I love that he's British and is basically an alien who has missed out on so many things, because since he never heard of them I could go, "Really? You've never heard of Bagel Bites? Wow, they're great! You can have pizza in the morning, and pizza in the evening, and pizza at suppertime. Because when pizza's on a bagel, you can have pizza anytime!" And he had no clue. No. Clue.
This is *probably* going to be our only child. I would ideally like one more, but not sure if it's in the cards. I am 35, almost 36, and we will barely be able to afford daycare now, which means we would need to wait until this LO is school age before trying again. We had trouble TTC and I just don't think trying again at 40 is the smartest idea. However, I'm really saddened to think that our little girl won't have a sibling. I have one older sister, and I don't know what I would do without her, especially since we lost our mom when we were both pretty young. My sister doesn't have kids and my H is an only child, so our daughter won't even have cousins to grow up with. I'm so worried about her being lonely
I woke up to like 90 new posts on this thread. Lol. Man, I have not been able to keep up this weekend. But I do have to say
@AllyTheKid Pizza rolls were the only thing I could eat for like 6 weeks of this pregnancy. Soooooo good.
@sjo_thetwins I know what you mean about how taxing it is and how you haven't been yourself.
The last several years of my life have revolved around trying to have a baby. I became obsessed with it. I need to start living for other things again, which is why I've told everyone this is the only child I will have. Between this one and my husbands son, I have two and that's plenty. But people will not let up and I'm about to rip my hair out. They know about my losses and the fertility treatments, yet don't realize how painful it is when they say "Oh, just try for one more" or "You'll change your mind when you're holding your baby."
Plus my DH is a twin, triplets run in my family, and we have to do fertility treatments, so we have high chances of multiples too. So "one more" could equal 5 kids. Lol. And the financial strain of the fertility treatments is just too much for us.
@AllyTheKid and @bamacoop my brother, sister and I used to play a game where one of us would sing a jingle and the other two had to guess the product. We may have watched a little too much television as kids.
@Kaessi food for thought - if you decide to try again for #2 for your LO to have a sibling, 40 isn't so bad. My SO is 41 and will turn 42 in March, we will have two 6 month old babies, lol.
@krzyriver yes, TTC completely can consume you and make you forget who you are. I'm re-learning that about myself as well as trying to find a balance between baby and me.
And @ everyone else - pizza rolls, bagel bites, party pizzas, anything pizza, sold. Also, ramen noodles have my ❤️.
This is our first and we want 3-4. Since we had to have help getting pregnant, we're just not going to prevent. We would be thrilled to get KOd naturally. Although after the "cervix check" I had last night and no sex for the past several weeks, I'm not thinking sex is in our future...
@bnsmith85 - we have a three bedroom and have been here about 5 years, but are already planning to move in the Spring if we can swing it. We need a bigger place, but really, we're moving because we have to have a pool. My parents and MIL have pools, but both are about 25 minutes from us. So really, that doesn't help when I want to just lounge. And our dogs love swimming.
Me: 31
DH: 32
Married: Sep 2012
TTC #1: Jan 2015 Baby A (via IUI due to MFI): Sep 2016 born at 35+6
Surprise but very welcome + on 5/16/2019, EDD 1/25/2020
@kaessi I shared your same concerns about DD being lonely as an only child. My brother and I are 15 years apart and not close at all, so I always wanted to have 2 kids that were relatively close in age. But after DD was born, we had 3 losses and I was starting to give up hope that we would ever be able to have another child. So, I started to focus on all of the positive things about having an only child. She will be the beneficiary of ALL of your resources (time, money, attention, etc.) and she will be the center of everyone's world, especially since she won't even have cousins to compete for attention! My DD has been the only child for 5 years now and she has an amazing vocabulary that is incredibly advanced for her age, because she was around adults all the time when she was learning to talk. There are lots more, and I certainly don't mean to belittle your disappointment about her potential status as an only child, but I hope that you can find a way to see the benefits of the situation as well.
This is our first and we want 3-4. Since we had to have help getting pregnant, we're just not going to prevent. We would be thrilled to get KOd naturally. Although after the "cervix check" I had last night and no sex for the past several weeks, I'm not thinking sex is in our future...
@bnsmith85 - we have a three bedroom and have been here about 5 years, but are already planning to move in the Spring if we can swing it. We need a bigger place, but really, we're moving because we have to have a pool. My parents and MIL have pools, but both are about 25 minutes from us. So really, that doesn't help when I want to just lounge. And our dogs love swimming.
DH really wants to buy this house just up the road from us (in our same neighborhood) that's up as a foreclosure. It's 5 BR and has a pool. He wants to buy that and rent out ours. If I weren't KU, I think we'd be making a purchase.
I too now want pizza rolls, despite the inevitable 3rd degree mouth burns, mmm.
Just want to thank Hurricane Hermine for the 4 day weekend cause I was so over working this week! Luckily the storm wasn't bad either, so it's all good.
@annabenanna Just beware the super hot cheese coming out of the other end when you bite into one. My friend gave himself like a 2nd degree burn on his leg from dropping the cheese out of a pizza roll! He may or may not have been intoxicated buttttttt figured I'd warn you! And any of the other Pizza Roll newbies.
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Re: Weekly Randoms 08.29.16
So as some said during the next baby discussion we just had, idk if I'll be back to the bump when I'm pregnant again. I don't think it will be the same!!
because that's totally who I will want to share the deepest, darkest details of labor with in those uncomfortable moments- someone who has literally never said two words to me, or literally anyone else here! Weird.
(Can't believe we're at that point now!)
Me: 28 DH: 27
This is our first, DH jokes about wanting 6 or 7 kids (large families are the norm here) but I think we have settled on our little guy we are working to adopt, plus three (this one and later 2). We don't want them super spaced out but I think we've decided to wait to try again til this one is 18 months. Though our goal is to make a trip to the States sometime in the next 2 years as well so I don't really want to be uncomfortably pregnant for that. We'll have to see how things work out.
@bnsmith85 that made me laugh out loud. A tarp? hahaha Cuddling, you remember that? ha@bnsmith06
@Schell2013 my best friend here has two girls who are just like 15 months apart and it worked out for them that they are the best of friends.(they're currently 6 and 8) She feels super lucky because they don't have many friends here in TZ (and/or people are always leaving) so the fact that the girls get along so well is really a lifesaver. haha.
Also @mizzkbrat you are amazing for volunteering to do that for your friend! Surrogacy is an amazing gift to someone else and idk that I'd be selfless enough to do it.
It's a boy!
#truth
@AllyTheKid I've never really been that into pizza rolls, but a couple years ago they had them one night for the youth group I helped with, and I was all "Where have you been all my life?!?!"
I got H to try them a few months ago. He was not "too keen" (as he likes to say) about them, so every time we go to the store and I ask if we can get some he says he wouldn't want them if I made them for dinner. So then what's the point. Ugh. Men.
But that picture reeeeeeeally has me craving some now!
On that same note, I think a lot about what we're going to eat as a family when Baby gets here and can start eating. Part of me is all "I want a kid who will love fruits and veggies, so we're going to make sure to eat better as a family!" and then the other part of me is like "yeah, but pizza and cheese puffs and Coke and Almond Joys and chicken fingers and onion rings and milkshakes and Oreos and, and, and!!!!!"
And Pfft, get them for yourself, those are anytime foodz!
I run a tight ship meal wise throughout the week, but I DO make room for junk. Let's face it, we all want it sometimes. I think letting them have it once a week helps keep them from wanting it all the time.
@AllyTheKid Wait,wait,wait.....you're "not a pizza fan"?????
My late-coming to pizza rolls was probably because I grew up eating Bagel Bites. We also saw these at the store one day and H has never had them, or heard of them. Sometimes I love that he's British and is basically an alien who has missed out on so many things, because since he never heard of them I could go, "Really? You've never heard of Bagel Bites? Wow, they're great! You can have pizza in the morning, and pizza in the evening, and pizza at suppertime. Because when pizza's on a bagel, you can have pizza anytime!" And he had no clue. No. Clue.
@AllyTheKid Pizza rolls were the only thing I could eat for like 6 weeks of this pregnancy. Soooooo good.
@sjo_thetwins I know what you mean about how taxing it is and how you haven't been yourself.
The last several years of my life have revolved around trying to have a baby. I became obsessed with it. I need to start living for other things again, which is why I've told everyone this is the only child I will have. Between this one and my husbands son, I have two and that's plenty. But people will not let up and I'm about to rip my hair out. They know about my losses and the fertility treatments, yet don't realize how painful it is when they say "Oh, just try for one more" or "You'll change your mind when you're holding your baby."
Plus my DH is a twin, triplets run in my family, and we have to do fertility treatments, so we have high chances of multiples too. So "one more" could equal 5 kids. Lol. And the financial strain of the fertility treatments is just too much for us.
@krzyriver yes, TTC completely can consume you and make you forget who you are. I'm re-learning that about myself as well as trying to find a balance between baby and me.
And @ everyone else - pizza rolls, bagel bites, party pizzas, anything pizza, sold. Also, ramen noodles have my ❤️.
This is our first and we want 3-4. Since we had to have help getting pregnant, we're just not going to prevent. We would be thrilled to get KOd naturally. Although after the "cervix check" I had last night and no sex for the past several weeks, I'm not thinking sex is in our future...
@bnsmith85 - we have a three bedroom and have been here about 5 years, but are already planning to move in the Spring if we can swing it. We need a bigger place, but really, we're moving because we have to have a pool. My parents and MIL have pools, but both are about 25 minutes from us. So really, that doesn't help when I want to just lounge. And our dogs love swimming.
Baby A (via IUI due to MFI): Sep 2016 born at 35+6
Ramen: what kind are we talking about? The packaged kind or the restaurant kind?
Also, need to make my way to F17 to see the drama
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Just want to thank Hurricane Hermine for the 4 day weekend cause I was so over working this week! Luckily the storm wasn't bad either, so it's all good.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020