DH and I are both 25 and want at least 2 kids if not 3. We also want them to be close-ish in age. We will probably start trying again around 18 months.
I don't necessarily want any of us to be pregnant again by May, but it's biologically possible! And that blows my mind.
I'm about to be 31 and H is 38. We want more kids, but haven't talked about when. I do NFP/FAM though, so it's less of a "plan to start trying at X time" thing and more of a "if it happens it happens" thing for me as far as timing goes.
But with the way my body is handling this pregnancy (not badly, really, but man... I feel like I definitely could've handled the feet swelling/always being hot/not a lot of sleep stuff better 10 years ago) I'm not sure how long I'll want to wait. I don't know if I could handle all of this again years from now! I applaud all the "older" moms out there! You ladies are troopers!
@maf9866 We were on the fence about whether or not we would try for one more after this one, but we've actually formally decided that our family is officially complete once Johnny arrives.
@nlane0723 I would call them and ask that they give you something else if those contractions don't ease up soon, sorry your OB is being so stubborn
My DS just turned 3 and I am pretty happy with this 3 age year gap I am going to get. DS is pretty independent, he loves to play and doesn't need to be constantly entertained. He is definitely a huge love bug and loves to cuddle and be held though still. He understands what is going on and is excited to have a brother...we will see if that changes once he gets here though.
A few of my friends were pregnant right before their LO's turned 1 and while they are loving the close age difference now, it was hard at the beginning because at 1, their kids were still very dependent and didn't quite understand what was going on. The pregnancies were also harder- running around after a 1 year old pregnant is A LOT of work and some babes still aren't sleeping well at 1.
With that said, different strokes for different folks! I am 32 and DH is 38- this is our last baby for sure because of my complications with this pregnancy but if I had the option and wanted more kids, I would prob shoot for another 2 years before I started to try.
I think her reasoning was that I see my MFM tomorrow and she will decide what to do. She also wants to know how big they are and that growth scan in tomorrow as well.
We are 28 and 29. We plan on getting married when this one is about 18 months because my fiancé wants to go on a honeymoon and I'm not willing to leave the baby before then. I figure we will probably stop "not trying" after that.
If I were to get pregnant again, hypothetically of course, I don't think I'd want a new BMB. I think I'd just join FB and still only talk to you ladies. I seriously love this board, it's so hard to find a good one like ours. I did not enjoy my Aug 15 BMB much at all, thank goodness I like the few ladies who are still actually active on there now.
@chriscasey33 Oh man, I am missing trains left and right recently. In Germany, if the train is scheduled to leave at 8:02 they don't mean 8:02 and 15 seconds, oh no. Either your butt is inside of the door by 8:02.00 or you are waiting for the next one. I have had a couple times where I'm run-waddling and holding up my belly where they've given me an extra few seconds, but usually they leave without me. I am also still waiting for an (ethnic) German to offer me their seat. They have to move by law if I ask, but I am a stubborn brat and I am going to wait until they OFFER.
I had DD when I was 26 and got KU again right before her 2nd birthday. I felt it was close enough that the age gap wasn't significant and I wouldn't feel overwhelmed with three under three. We also were on a time crunch and had to do IVF while it was still at least partially covered by insurance. I'll be 29 when these little guys are born and based on how this pregnancy has gone, it'll be an effing miracle if I decide to get KU again. Haha.
Catching up. I had to drive up to Orange County with my boss for a meeting. I ate a bagel with cream cheese at 8:30AM, and then nothing after that. Didn't get back to the office till 2pm. Have you guys ever been so hungry you were shaking? I shoved down thai food in like 5 minutes flat. Waiting for the heartburn to commence.
@LGW2015 , safeties? @JaJuanY, tight ends? high draft picks? Please speak english. I seriously know ZILCH about football. Lol. I know nothing. @chriscasey33 , I don't even watch it. hahaha. Maybe I'll have @UFJen just pick out my players. or maybe you guys can point me to a website that'll just tell me who to pick???
@chriscasey33 , i'm sorry about the bus driver. that's awful!
@nlane0723 , were almost there mama. hang tight. stay strong.
I think were all feeling large and tired and just getting to the point where it's miserable. We are almost there girls! Literally weeks away.
On the subject of more kids, we are one and done. Done done done.
@nlane0723 I can't believe your on didn't admit you! I would be livid.
Our two will be 6 years apart. I didn't really plan on that, but that's just what it ended up being. I'm totally fine with it. This little guy is our last. My pregnancies are too rough to have more babies. I'm ready for this guy to be here!
I'm really impressed with all of you already thinking about your next. I always thought I'd want kids close-ish in age but the thought of forking out the money for more than one has me stressing just thinking about it lol... Mostly bc of the daycare. That sh!t is ridiculous!
Jumping in on the more kid train, I am almost 33 Husband is 38. He already had three girls before I came along their ages are 22, 11, and 10. So this will be my one and only, I only ever really wanted one child so it doesn't disappoint me at all. But I am tired of my family telling me it will change once this little guy comes.
@bnsmith85 I am with you on daycare x 2. That is actually what drove our decision to wait this long, and will drive the decision for #2. I'd like them to be 2 years apart, but H will not be done with his degree yet. We absolutely cannot afford another before he changes jobs, and that won't happen until he graduates. So it will be 3-4 years before another for us. I'll be 33 and he will be 34 by then. We also need to buy a new house before #2 arrives. We won't all fit in here! lol
The current plan is 2 for us, but I could be convinced into 3. We will see how things go past graduation.
Did anyone else get an insane bill for their Rhogam shot? I got a bill for $166. My insurance covered $23. Is this not a prenatal service? Also, I got a huge bill for my pap smear they did back in April. They coded it as a pap smear during pregnancy (I was due for my annual) so my insurance will not cover it 100% (I get 1 pap a year free) because they added the pregnancy thing.. I've asked them to rebill it but for now I just keep getting annoying bills til they get a decision back from insurance co.
@ashleyp625... Yes! The house! I wasn't even thinking about that. We have a 3BR so we could technically not move before #2 but we really like having a guest room (for my parents to visit at a minimum). Plus we've basically decided that our next house needs a pool. So there's that... But we'll see if that actually ever happens lol
We're really honestly going to see how this goes before we make a decision, but I've personally been thinking about the second. It would be good to have another soon because I'll be 35 in October and because my mom is watching the first, at least for a while, and having them closer together would consolidate the time she provide childcare, make it more likely she could watch the second as well, and before *she* gets any older either. It would be bad because of financials, because I'd have to annoy everyone at work by taking more time off again, and because I wouldn't have built up so much time off at that point. Also, we don't have a room to put a second child. (Yep, in our four bedroom house, we're using 'em all.) Although the closer in age they are, the easier it would be to make the kids share, at least for a while.
@bnsmith85 we use my mom's pool...all the benefits with none of the work of cost we have a 3BR as well. our guest room just turned into a nursery (no one really stayed in it anyway), but the 3rd is an office and we don't have anywhere else to put that stuff. I'm not opposed to 2 boys sharing but they wouldn't both fit into the current room, and my luck #2 would be a girl (which is what I want anyway).
We are one and done! I'll be 37 in March and I want to enjoy our son, if we were to have another we'd have to go for it right away and I don't want that. We have a big family with lots of little kids so I'm not worried about him ever being alone.
I absolutely love this board!! Everyone is so amazing on here!!
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
This is our last. We agreed on 2 kids before we got married and DH keeps going on and on about how he's 100% DONE after this one arrives. I'm really sad about it, TBH. I mean, this is the LAST time I'll be 31 weeks pregnant, last time I'll get to feel baby kicks, etc.
If our second is born one week early, our boys will be exactly two and 1/2 years apart. We always said we were going to stop at two, but my husband would really like a girl. i'm 34 and my husband will be 34 in November so I feel like we still have a little time. If we could guarantee a girl, I'd have another in a heartbeat.
sometimes I want a second and then when I see kids antagonizing each other at the store and parents looking flustered I want one. space is tight right now but I wouldn't be rushing...I've been blessed with a great pregnancy and I don't want to push it lol
This baby is our last. We wanted our kids to be closer in age (DD is 5), but the universe had other plans. I'll be 36 in December, but we only want 2 kids anyway. I'm glad I don't have to worry about any other BMBs, because you ladies are the best!
It's true, my first two were 17 months apart and yup it's either one of these or the other. There is no happy medium with them! But generally speaking it's been nice the last 6-7 months cause it's gotten easy and I don't have any diapers or stuff like that. I'm really enjoying it while it lasts. We're done after this baby. H is scheduled for a vasectomy the end of November.
So if I take off work by end of September, I was thinking I can manage a day at Harry Potter World at Universal in LA. Wondering if I can qualify to be wheeled around in a wheelchair.
@annabenanna my sweet hubs really didn't want to go clothes shopping without me so he called ahead to see if they had wheelchairs. And I also used the motorized cart at Home Depot. My RLP is seriously immobilizing me
We've talked about our next baby. We're thinking when this one turns one to start trying again. How cool if some of us end up in another BMB together! We'll see though, my friend wanted to do the same and then when the time came she changed her mind and wanted to wait.
@annabenanna they aren't required to ask you for a Dr's note or anything (actually, I've heard they aren't ALLOWED to even ask for one) so I'd say go for it! I went for a pre opening preview back in March and it was really cute! Smaller than I expected, but super cute and I loved seeing all the little kids dressed up in hogwarts gear!
I've actually offered to be a surrogate to my best friend before we have another kid. I of course want to see how my own labor goes before giving up my body, but I gave her a timeline of a year. Let me be a year free of pregnancy, get all the paper work started, and implantation can start next October. So we will see!
Re: Weekly Randoms 08.29.16
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
I don't necessarily want any of us to be pregnant again by May, but it's biologically possible! And that blows my mind.
I'm about to be 31 and H is 38. We want more kids, but haven't talked about when. I do NFP/FAM though, so it's less of a "plan to start trying at X time" thing and more of a "if it happens it happens" thing for me as far as timing goes.
But with the way my body is handling this pregnancy (not badly, really, but man... I feel like I definitely could've handled the feet swelling/always being hot/not a lot of sleep stuff better 10 years ago) I'm not sure how long I'll want to wait. I don't know if I could handle all of this again years from now! I applaud all the "older" moms out there! You ladies are troopers!
@nlane0723 I would call them and ask that they give you something else if those contractions don't ease up soon, sorry your OB is being so stubborn
My DS just turned 3 and I am pretty happy with this 3 age year gap I am going to get. DS is pretty independent, he loves to play and doesn't need to be constantly entertained. He is definitely a huge love bug and loves to cuddle and be held though still. He understands what is going on and is excited to have a brother...we will see if that changes once he gets here though.
A few of my friends were pregnant right before their LO's turned 1 and while they are loving the close age difference now, it was hard at the beginning because at 1, their kids were still very dependent and didn't quite understand what was going on. The pregnancies were also harder- running around after a 1 year old pregnant is A LOT of work and some babes still aren't sleeping well at 1.
With that said, different strokes for different folks! I am 32 and DH is 38- this is our last baby for sure because of my complications with this pregnancy but if I had the option and wanted more kids, I would prob shoot for another 2 years before I started to try.
@chriscasey33 I'm sorry about your bus incident! What a jerk! Absolutely no reason he couldn't open the door.
But I am glad that your faith in humanity is restored!
Me: 28 DH: 27
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
DS#2 due 25 April 2019
Me: 28 DH: 27
@LGW2015 , safeties? @JaJuanY, tight ends? high draft picks? Please speak english. I seriously know ZILCH about football. Lol. I know nothing. @chriscasey33 , I don't even watch it. hahaha. Maybe I'll have @UFJen just pick out my players. or maybe you guys can point me to a website that'll just tell me who to pick???
@chriscasey33 , i'm sorry about the bus driver.
@nlane0723 , were almost there mama. hang tight. stay strong.
I think were all feeling large and tired and just getting to the point where it's miserable. We are almost there girls! Literally weeks away.
On the subject of more kids, we are one and done. Done done done.
Our two will be 6 years apart. I didn't really plan on that, but that's just what it ended up being. I'm totally fine with it. This little guy is our last. My pregnancies are too rough to have more babies. I'm ready for this guy to be here!
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
The current plan is 2 for us, but I could be convinced into 3. We will see how things go past graduation.
I absolutely love this board!! Everyone is so amazing on here!!
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
I'm glad I don't have to worry about any other BMBs, because you ladies are the best!
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
We've talked about our next baby. We're thinking when this one turns one to start trying again. How cool if some of us end up in another BMB together! We'll see though, my friend wanted to do the same and then when the time came she changed her mind and wanted to wait.
@annabenanna they aren't required to ask you for a Dr's note or anything (actually, I've heard they aren't ALLOWED to even ask for one) so I'd say go for it! I went for a pre opening preview back in March and it was really cute! Smaller than I expected, but super cute and I loved seeing all the little kids dressed up in hogwarts gear!
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18