Hello ladies-I am expecting baby #3 and have been blessed with two perfectly healthy boys and no miscarriages. I am showing not just bloated actually showing. I want to go ahead and tell the fam at 8 weeks and husband is hesitant but becoming super obvious.
I've been feeling the same way... I now look like I did at 4-5 months pregnant the last time around. I'm waiting until Monday (8 weeks) and then I'm telling my coworkers... I'm all baby belly and it's becoming to obvious- I'm even back into maternity clothes already. I say to do what makes you comfortable- the way I see it, if anything bad is going to happen at this point, I'll probably want support from the people I see each day.
Thanks for some support. I know all the statistics and facts about pregnancy. I am barely eating and puking all the time my stomach is large and hard. I wish it was just a burrito. Thanks all!
Thanks for some support. I know all the statistics and facts about pregnancy. I am barely eating and puking all the time my stomach is large and hard. I wish it was just a burrito. Thanks all!
Wow. Now I realize why I do not use these as a professional and mom this is silly. Thanks for reminding me. Sometimes we just have a hard day and need some support not mean comments. I know my baby is supposed to be the size of a raspberry bean etc.
Now we all ralize that our babies are itty bitty right now...But I would not consider mine bloat either at this point. I am obviously pregnant. And yes the average person's uterus is not out of the pelvis until around 12 weeks....but my Dr confirmed a week ago that she could already feel my uterus out of my pelvis...so I guess some of us are just speshial!! @MomOf2AmazingBoys you enjoy your early pregnancy bump...and rock it!!
<img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/qd/a0ewyc724036.gif" alt=""> Is that better? You do you, as far as announcing at 8 weeks. Totally your call. Not one I would make personally, but to each her own, different circumstances etc. By all means.
You do realize that many women on this board do not have any children yet, or children with health problems, or have suffered a loss or several losses. And how freaking psycho-insensitive your OP comes across to anyone with a less-than perfect TTC record/life?
Gimme a break. QFP <blockquote class="Quote"> <div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/MomOf2AmazingBoys">MomOf2AmazingBoys</a> said:</div> <div class="QuoteText">Hello ladies-I am expecting baby #3 and have been blessed with two perfectly healthy boys and no miscarriages. I am showing not just bloated actually showing. I want to go ahead and tell the fam at 8 weeks and husband is hesitant but becoming super obvious. </div> </blockquote> Your post in no way hinted that you were having a bad day or needed support. It sounded way more like gloating to me, but I don't even know you so, that's just mho.
Wow. Now I realize why I do not use these as a professional and mom this is silly. Thanks for reminding me. Sometimes we just have a hard day and need some support not mean comments. I know my baby is supposed to be the size of a raspberry bean etc.
Ahh, the "way too professional and grown up as a real MOM" and it's only for silly B's flounce. Nice one. Like @BusinessWife said, you wrote something that was a) kinda silly and b) pretty hurtful and you got called out on it.
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@kiki75. Thanks for the clarification on that. I was really having trouble with the punctuation. <img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/p3/uqwwzhbmw6vu.gif" alt="">
Wow. Now I realize why I do not use these as a professional and mom this is silly. Thanks for reminding me. Sometimes we just have a hard day and need some support not mean comments. I know my baby is supposed to be the size of a raspberry bean etc.
Do you know how rude it was to come out of nowhere and say you've been blessed with two healthy boys and no miscarriages? Dude ... READ THE ROOM.
@MomOf2AmazingBoys I am on my 3rd and feel like i am also starting to show. My doctor said with your 2nd and especially 3rd your body already knows what to do. Your muscles have already stretched and your body is preparing. So you are showing! To everyone else....... Seriously? Love each other and stop being so rude. We all came here for support and not judgemently hateful replies.
@Delanie The rude part was when she said "healthy boys and no miscarriages". Some of our kids may have autism, or like I have, experienced miscarriages. If she's going to come in here and act like she's little Ms. Perfect prepare to get hated on. Because the way she started out her thread, was not cool.
Even if your muscles are stretching out/relaxing earlier, you're still not showing at 6 weeks, unless you've got some crazy, medical mystery, super speedy growing uterus. That just not how biology works.
I could pass for 3 months pregnant right now (at 8 weeks), but it's bloat. Wonderful, delightful, stupid bloat, with the added bonus that my abs never came back together right after DS was born.
I definitely did not read her post as gloating about healthy pregnancies... but I did immediately (in my head) go "Bloat... bloat... bloaty mcbloat..." I had an abdominal ultrasound just the other day at 8 weeks and she could just barely get the top of my uterus above my pelvic bone. (Angled downward on my previous cesarean scar). Still...
I have not had any miscarriages, so I felt comfortable announcing earlier than most... but I, also, don't worry about stigma or having to "tell people"... those same people are how I would draw on my support group. Its a personal decision. Everyone in my life knows. However, if I had a history of miscarriage, I would probably be a little more cautious. Again, a very personal decision that nobody else should influence except you and your partner. I did, however, struggle with two years of gut wrenching infertility with my second child, and it stung when everyone around me was getting pregnant, that it 'felt' like gloating.... but I had to separate and recognize that not everyone has the same struggles as myself and that I needed to remove my personal feelings from their life choices and be happy for them.
Again, truly do not feel like the OP was being insensitive to those of us who have faced horrible losses or struggles... I do, however, think she was excited and wanted to share something she thought would spark a conversation of others who share in her excitement - whether sciences say otherwise, ya know?
Hey hey hey... shouldn't we all be here to help each other, and share in the fact that we're all going through this at the same time? I know we're all hormonal, but jeez. I haven't had a great TTC record, but that doesn't make me upset at people who have. If I were @MomOf2AmazingBoys I wouldn't want to come back to this thread... and that would suck, because as a mom of 2 she probably has a crap load (no pun intended) of knowledge. I know we're all thinking "bloat..bloat... it's bloat", but can't we just say that, or share a funny picture and be done with it? We don't need to fight.
@shaunessa my 8 year old son has autism and my 2nd son died at 2 days old. I didnt take offense to it. But I understand everyone is different. I do not think she meant to offend anybody. Lets just support and love eachother. We are all coming here for that right?
@BusinessWife The comments obviously made her feel like she never wants to post again. I find that sad. We should be lifting eachother up not tearing eachother down. Its better to not say anything at all. The fact that people had to point out the size of her child and that what she felt wasn't validated was wrong. I find that mean and rude. Thats why I said that. I hope you all have a great rest of your day!
I agree with @LyssaChap and others. I don't think there was malicious intent.
While it may or may not be too early to show, I think we'll see a lot of posts about it in the coming weeks. Just remember that pregnancy is exciting and showing is one of those fun things. I laugh at myself because I sent a pic to a friend last time of me "showing" and it was all bloat. She knew it but just sent me a smiley face back. You may "know" the biology behind it but it's ok to let people have their little bit of joy too.
@Delanie With all due respect, I personally feel that "validating" BS is categorically about the most un-loving, hurtful stuff someone can do to a person they claim to "support."
Are we not pointing people in the direction of the appropriate threads anymore? Admittedly I haven't been around in a few days, so maybe we've given up?
I saw this thread when it had like zero views and I just closed it and moved on. I saw it as an AW post. If someone is gonna AW, they won't post in appropriate threads (Symptoms Thread) even if we point them in the right direction.
But yes, if it doesn't encourage community conversation (this one clearly doesn't), then it should not have been its own thread. We will certainly commiserate with you about growing bellies (bloat or otherwise) on the symptoms thread.
@BusinessWife Who cares if she feels like shes showing? Who cares if it is bloat? Not me. Just glad she could come here and share with other expexting moms with no judgement. I mean thats why I'm here, for support. I can see we arent going to agree. So I agree to disagree. Have a wonderful evening. ☺
4th kid I showed super early, it never fluctuated. I swear I got flipin huge, we told family at 14 weeks, I couldn't hide it anymore, I swear I looked 6 month pregnant after I told them to.
@Delanie The rude part was when she said "healthy boys and no miscarriages". Some of our kids may have autism, or like I have, experienced miscarriages. If she's going to come in here and act like she's little Ms. Perfect prepare to get hated on. Because the way she started out her thread, was not cool.
Do people get offended this easily? I thought that was just adding more info into the "should we tell?" question. Her track record gives her no reason to doubt the viability is all.
Speaking as someone who has lost 4 babies... Get thicker skin, y'all.
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@Delanie The rude part was when she said "healthy boys and no miscarriages". Some of our kids may have autism, or like I have, experienced miscarriages. If she's going to come in here and act like she's little Ms. Perfect prepare to get hated on. Because the way she started out her thread, was not cool.
Do people get offended this easily? I thought that was just adding more info into the "should we tell?" question. Her track record gives her no reason to doubt the viability is all.
Speaking as someone who has lost 4 babies... Get thicker skin, y'all.
Congratulations! You've (presumably) had time to grieve for your babies and reached the acceptance stage. Not necessarily the case for everyone else, and "get thicker skin" is a pretty crass comment to make. You don't know how fresh the wound is for other people.
(I will note, that I agree that she only said that to add more information to her "should we tell?" question and that OP wasn't intending to be rude.)
Dear god this board is so snarky sometimes. So because she was blessed with two healthy babies and no miscarriages we hate on her for it. Everyone is different. This board is supposed to be for support, no matter the situation. You don't have to love everything everyone posts. Why can't we all just get along.
The problem is that she hasn't made any other posts, has not made any attempt to understand what this board is about and then makes a "look at me" post. I personally dont like conflict and I like everyone to get along but Ive been around on these boards long enough to know that any post like this would get the same response. The board really does have organization for a reason. And I also think calling out no miscarriages is insensitive. Saying three healthy pregnancies would have been sufficient.
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Congrats, you're having a burrito. It's bloat honey.
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Is that better? You do you, as far as announcing at 8 weeks. Totally your call. Not one I would make personally, but to each her own, different circumstances etc. By all means.
You do realize that many women on this board do not have any children yet, or children with health problems, or have suffered a loss or several losses. And how freaking psycho-insensitive your OP comes across to anyone with a less-than perfect TTC record/life?
Gimme a break. QFP
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<div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/MomOf2AmazingBoys">MomOf2AmazingBoys</a> said:</div>
<div class="QuoteText">Hello ladies-I am expecting baby #3 and have been blessed with two perfectly healthy boys and no miscarriages. I am showing not just bloated actually showing. I want to go ahead and tell the fam at 8 weeks and husband is hesitant but becoming super obvious.
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Your post in no way hinted that you were having a bad day or needed support. It sounded way more like gloating to me, but I don't even know you so, that's just mho.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
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The rude part was when she said "healthy boys and no miscarriages". Some of our kids may have autism, or like I have, experienced miscarriages. If she's going to come in here and act like she's little Ms. Perfect prepare to get hated on. Because the way she started out her thread, was not cool.
I could pass for 3 months pregnant right now (at 8 weeks), but it's bloat. Wonderful, delightful, stupid bloat, with the added bonus that my abs never came back together right after DS was born.
I have not had any miscarriages, so I felt comfortable announcing earlier than most... but I, also, don't worry about stigma or having to "tell people"... those same people are how I would draw on my support group. Its a personal decision. Everyone in my life knows. However, if I had a history of miscarriage, I would probably be a little more cautious. Again, a very personal decision that nobody else should influence except you and your partner. I did, however, struggle with two years of gut wrenching infertility with my second child, and it stung when everyone around me was getting pregnant, that it 'felt' like gloating.... but I had to separate and recognize that not everyone has the same struggles as myself and that I needed to remove my personal feelings from their life choices and be happy for them.
Again, truly do not feel like the OP was being insensitive to those of us who have faced horrible losses or struggles... I do, however, think she was excited and wanted to share something she thought would spark a conversation of others who share in her excitement - whether sciences say otherwise, ya know?
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While it may or may not be too early to show, I think we'll see a lot of posts about it in the coming weeks. Just remember that pregnancy is exciting and showing is one of those fun things. I laugh at myself because I sent a pic to a friend last time of me "showing" and it was all bloat. She knew it but just sent me a smiley face back. You may "know" the biology behind it but it's ok to let people have their little bit of joy too.
But yes, if it doesn't encourage community conversation (this one clearly doesn't), then it should not have been its own thread. We will certainly commiserate with you about growing bellies (bloat or otherwise) on the symptoms thread.
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Speaking as someone who has lost 4 babies... Get thicker skin, y'all.
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(I will note, that I agree that she only said that to add more information to her "should we tell?" question and that OP wasn't intending to be rude.)
Edited for spelling.