Do you have any pregnancy or delivery fears? I thought it would be maybe helpful and sometimes funny to read some of those? Some are certainly very legit and scary, but some are maybe just "funny"?
I had a wonderful pregnancy with my DD. But I passed out while a nurse in training was trying to put in an IV in my forearm. Blood was just coming it fountain waves and I passed out LOL. So now I'm scared of that.
I'm also still scared of pooping all over the place. Didn't happen with DD so I feel like my chances have just increased by 150%. Another one is tearing. I had a very minor tear first time around but I pushed for over 3 hrs with plenty of time to stretch. They say second babies come quicker so....
As far as the current pregnancy goes, I'm having a lot of palpitations this time around whereas I had none with DD. (I have 3 different kinds of arrhythmia and had a surgery years ago, too.) But it can come back at any time and I'm a bit concerned that it will give me more serious trouble as I'm feeling faint quite often...
Re: Pregnancy / Delivery Fears
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Right now the biggest worry is m/c, always - but getting gradually better at trying to chill. For now I am not afraid of delivery - I can do that.. I dont care how difficult.. just let the baby be ok...!!
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
A perhaps less rational fear is that I'll deliver on the train (which I take to work).
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Also, your endless worries are totally normal, just try to keep yourself calm with facts and learning what to expect. You're meant to do this @smallanimal
My first labour was fast and intense. I went from 2 to 5 cm in about 3 hours and 5 to 10 cm in about 45 minutes. Only twenty minutes of pushing and then I had a baby in my arms. They didn't have time for an epi so I had almost no pain meds (I had been given a bit of morphine when I was at 2 cm because contractions were killing me, but I wasn't admitted because they figured I had hours upon hours before I would even be close to delivering).
@MrsBakes I had a partial third degree tear, and it wasn't so bad as far as being ripped in two goes. I had a little bit of shock right after delivery, and they gave me suppository pain killers for the 24 hours following. After that it was really just tylenol and voltaren, a few stool softeners and I was as good as new in 3-4 weeks. I know its scary to think about, but I didn't even feel it happen (I didn't actually know until I overheard the OB and nurses talking).
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
I agree @smallanimal, as long as the baby is ok, I can get through whatever.
That being said, I am a little nervous about delivery as I live about 40 min away from where I go to deliver and my first labor/delivery was FAST. Like less than 3 hours from checking into the hospital to baby in my arms (I worked through contractions for a couple hours at home before her office opened and I could call her). The doctor joked with me if I had a second I might want to move to the town she's in!
So I'm nervous that either A) what if it's even faster as they say second babies tend to be and I wait too long at home or what if it's not as easy as my first one was? Oh well, whatever happens will happen and I will get through it!
Aside from that, I had a very easy labor, delivery, and recovery so I am hoping for the same this time around. I really try not to worry about it too much. When I called my doctor to let her know I was in labor the first time around (we are supposed to call before going to the hospital) she told me that I didn't sound panicked enough to be in labor. Lol.
However, my main pregnancy related fear currently is Zika. I live in central florida and there have been confirmed cases of Zika that have not been travel related in Miami. That's about 4 hours south of me, but its till pretty scary. My fiance and my mom have basically banned me from going outside in the evening when you're most likely to get bit.
@BeachMommy2B
The Zika thing is scary
smallanimal I feel the EXACT same way. My biggest fear is having to have a C section or deliver in an OR because of the twin thing. But I guess as long as they are healthy that's all that matters.
TTC for the second time
7 IUIs, 1 cancelled due to too many follicles, 6 BFNs.
IVF #1 & 2 Failed
2 blasts transferred 7/17
Beta #2 7/28 271
9/29 - MMC
12/21 - Baby Boy born
12/10 - FET transfered 1 3BB blast
Beta #1 12/19 - 88
Beta #2 12/21 - 230
Beta #3 12/18 - 3066
I had all the horrors during my delivery - first, we thought my water had broken and I was just advancing very, very slowly. Finally after 17 (SEVENTEEN) hours of labor, they checked again after my epidural had gone in and MY WATER WAS STILL IN TACT, JUST LEAKING. They asked if I wanted it broken. WHAT DO YOU THINK. Labored for another 11 hours before pushing for four. Had to go to the OR after for stitches. DH was left in the room all alone with DD and he pretty much panicked. So I'm here to tell you NO MATTER WHAT, you will survive and it will be great and you'll have a squish!!! at the end!
Also; 4 births, 4 epidurals, and only 2 worked. So I've been through it without pain management and I don't want to do it again.
edit; missing words.
also worried/nervous about recovery...had an episiotomy and third degree tear with DD and the few days after weren't very enjoyable. Lesson learned: when they say use the sitz bath, use it! It's not as scary as it may seem
My other fear is baby bring born in the car. We arrived at the birth center at 2:52am and DD2 was born at 3:11am. I labored for 6 hours total! Including early labor.
Im also nervous about missing the epidural again. I was an 8 by the time I got to the hospital and there wasn't time for the epi. I survived but not sure I want to willingly go natural again.
My thoughts right now are mostly consumed with wondering if baby is okay in there. Symptoms come and go and that's all there really is to go on until the bump appears. For now, it's anxiously waiting for the first appointment next week and kicking myself for not writing down my symptoms (or lack thereof) my first go round with DD.
Baby #2 due April 2017
@MrsBakes, with my first I got a second degree tear. With my second, I didn't tear at all and he was a pound bigger!
Married: 12-04-06
Annabelle: 1-1-08
Patrick: 8-15-10
EDD: 4-20-17
That and having another 30 hour labour. They say the second one is supposed to come faster. I hope so!!!
I'm scared of something happening to the baby and of the epidural (not enough NOT to get the epidural though). Last time around I was scared of induction. Guess who got an induction?
I was also scared of induction. The night before I went into labour I made DH take me for a long, bumpy car ride. I seriously think it induced my labour lol
@pinkshades05 and @NESeattlite fingers crossed for you ladies with your childcare worries!
Baby #2 due April 2017
baby 1- 6 hours, 15 min of pushing, epidural in hospital, completely ripped inside, too many stitches to count. 8.5# baby. On due date
baby 2- 17 wks of contractions, labor was 6 hours, 1 1/2 pushes, 8.15# baby, epidural in hospital. 30 min after due date
baby 3- 3 hour labor, baby came out, Ned free at a birthing center, 8.7# baby. Day early
baby 4- 17 hour labor, 30-45 min hard pushing, baby was twisting as he was coming out, birthing center med free, 5 days early, 9.10# baby