@DiFazette I guess my SIL got us a double jogging stroller, which I haven't seen yet. I had a friend give me two infant car seats, and MIL bought us two convertible car seats. I'm guess DH and I will probably end up using wraps until they're big enough for a stroller? I actually really want a city mini double stroller. I've seen them on craigslist for $200. They fit through normal doors, fold up, and are lighter weight.
My BF and TW is my husband's job. Ugh. They're working him to death, and then not appreciating what he does. Crazy long hours, sometimes with no days off. His counterpart does nothing, yet still has the title and the pay...when really the title should just belong to DH, and he should be getting paid more. DH gets blamed for everything the other guy doesn't do. The stress of all this drives him to drink more. Which means we fight about how much he's drinking, how late he's out after already getting off really late, and how much money he spends. Oh and he's depressed, but refuses to see a doctor to get help. And I'm just trying to keep the peace, and be supportive...but I'm so worried he's going to have a nervous breakdown. And apparently any time I have tried to talk to him about it, I have really shitty timing...and am apparently horrible because I'm pregnant hormonal....ugh.
@brittnic86 I can relate. It is so incredibly frustrating to see someone you love be mistreated, especially with regard to work because you really can't do anything about it. I don't have much recent experience with the drinking side of things (my husband used to drink a lot as well, but quit not long after we were married) but I do know that - for him and our situation at least - there was nothing I could have said or done, and no right time to bring it up, in order to get him to change his behavior. He had to realize it was a problem on his own and decide for himself that he needed to stop. That was really hard for me, but he did get there. I hope he is able to see the impact of his actions and make changes, or at least be more open with you in the meantime.
@ea301 you're probably right. I feel like anytime I do bring it up, he seems to think I knew what I signed up for....he's a chef....they all drink...they all work late...they all pretty much give their lives to the kitchen....ugh.
@brittnic86 ah, chef culture! Is he looking for other jobs to get out of the stressful situation? I don't know much about that industry besides stories from some friends, but I would be curious to see how he might do in another kitchen with a bit more support... I've heard that being in the right environment makes all the difference!
@brittnic86 Ug, so sorry your going through all this. Maybe you could ask him if there is any particular time he may be more open to talking to you about everything? Like a certain time of day/week he knows his stress level is lower? Or at least having some time set aside for taking might help him get in a better mindset beforehand? I agree with @ea301 that ultimately he's going to want to have to make a change on his own. But I also understand the feeling of wanting to know you've done everything you can to help him. *hugs*
@LinziLoo09 that is SO frustrating!! I'm glad people are standing up- my hospital did something like that last year (regarding water births) but it was repealed within a few months- hopefully it's a similar case for you. I dont know who makes these decisions!!! Being told you can't have the birth you want before you even get to try is super disheartening
@DiFazette you could just go with a Snap N Go for while they're little? Then get what you really want for the later stages.....
I actually hardly used a stroller with DD1 when she was little, mostly baby wore or didn't need one. Not sure what will happen this time...
@ea301 he's talked about looking elsewhere...this is just the job he's made it up the highest in. The problem is, it's like a never ending cycle. He hates his work, he switches places, he likes it for awhile, then it's back to hating it. He's talked about switching careers...but the problem is I'm pretty sure he will die still working in the kitchen. As much as he hates it sometimes, it's like in his blood.
Thanks @tinattt23 It's not like I feel he has like a serious problem with it...its kinda something that comes and goes in phases.....it's just lately been an issue. Ugh.
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@DiFazette you could just go with a Snap N Go for while they're little? Then get what you really want for the later stages.....
I actually hardly used a stroller with DD1 when she was little, mostly baby wore or didn't need one. Not sure what will happen this time...
Thanks @tinattt23 It's not like I feel he has like a serious problem with it...its kinda something that comes and goes in phases.....it's just lately been an issue. Ugh.